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February 22, 2011 2:43 am at 2:43 am in reply to: taking your kids to see a sporting event #742956
Most people are decent enough not to behave badly in front of children
Even if you throw the dice and hope no one will behave badly in front of your children’s neshomos, how certain are you it wont happen elsewhere in the stands — but within hearing or seeing distance.February 22, 2011 1:55 am at 1:55 am in reply to: taking your kids to see a sporting event #742954
The fans don’t curse in the stands?February 21, 2011 9:11 pm at 9:11 pm in reply to: nail polish #743720
No.February 21, 2011 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm in reply to: Colored shirts and different kippas #742779
Resident College “Shaigetz”
chassidim because they simply switched back to the European styles.
Chasidim never changed away from how they did it in Europe, so you’re incorrect about them “switched back”.
As far as the Yeshivish, I don’t see the comparison between changing brim size or feathers to dropping a hat altogether.February 21, 2011 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm in reply to: story of shaya #742882
Feif – All stories are embellished with time. It is the nature of how stories play telephone.February 21, 2011 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm in reply to: ?????? ????? #742838
I gave my children breakfast. Then I drove my wife for an errand.February 21, 2011 1:37 pm at 1:37 pm in reply to: Guys-things that a girl does or says on a date that makes you lose interest #743574
Guys have humility and are judicious in their public commentary. Hence the lack of public discussion of intensely private thoughts.February 21, 2011 5:10 am at 5:10 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839546
I’ll again repeat, though, that most producers allow one copy to be made.
What is the precise basis in halacha that a purchased (not rented) CD cannot be copied (for a friend)?February 21, 2011 5:06 am at 5:06 am in reply to: Girls- things that a guy does or says on a date that makes you lose interest #742666
Girls- things that a guy does or says on a date that makes you lose interest
Huh? Is dating a game? You say the right things and you advance to Go and collect $200; say something uninteresting and you lose.
And I thought it was about marriage.February 21, 2011 4:34 am at 4:34 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839541
That’s an interesting point. If the second buyer (on eBay in the above example) was unaware of the fact it is a rental, and assumed he was purchasing a CD like 99.9% of CD’s are sold, and is still unaware of the fact it was originally a rental, is it like…
…he purchased stolen merchandise? (Same idea as if someone stole something and sold it to another person who has no idea it was stolen.) If so, what are the rights of the new buyer?
…is still under the rental, just he has no idea that its a rental and has no idea what the rental terms are.February 21, 2011 4:06 am at 4:06 am in reply to: Divorce Stories #743356
always here: When you get married you will have a better idea of what real life is all about. What I can tell you from experience, is that it is NOT a bed of roses. Once you start dating, hopefully someone will help you navigate what you can expect.
To be forewarned is to be forearmed. Always remember divorce is a dirty word never to be used — even jokingly — in a Jewish home.February 21, 2011 3:36 am at 3:36 am in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863612
Anyone else here remember driving the Model T?February 21, 2011 3:35 am at 3:35 am in reply to: Divorce Stories #743352
90 out of 100 times a divorcee who remarries will marry someone else who was divorced. And more times than not that person will have their own issues that lead to their own divorce. And chances are good whatever issues they have will be no better than the spouse he/she divorced.
Moral? The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Divorce may not lead to a better marriage. (And it may very well be worse.)February 21, 2011 2:34 am at 2:34 am in reply to: Divorce Stories #743348
See the other threads from the past few days with the dismal statistics indicating the failure rate for second marriages being significantly higher than that of first ones.February 21, 2011 12:00 am at 12:00 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839536
Also, on the Mostly Music website (Aderet), there are two options: Buy CD, and Buy Download.
IOW, you are saying a download is impossible to rent. Or that the website is missing any disclaimer declaring it a rental? It seems to me that it would be impossible to “rent” an intangible asset, like a download — even with the proper terminology on the website.February 20, 2011 11:54 pm at 11:54 pm in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863603
I remember when we replaced our outhouse.February 20, 2011 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm in reply to: Have I done The Right Thing? #742782
You did the right thing. Responding would have made matters worse.February 20, 2011 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm in reply to: Girls dressing up for Purim #742593
How (and how fast) did you extricate yourself from that?February 20, 2011 11:00 pm at 11:00 pm in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863597
we also would play with our neighbors kids even if they werent jewish
we also would eat with our neighbors kids even if it wasnt kosherFebruary 20, 2011 10:58 pm at 10:58 pm in reply to: Parnassa in Mishpacha #742700
Maybe when they were looking to hire, no yehudim applied or were looking at the time for a $12/hr job.February 20, 2011 10:37 pm at 10:37 pm in reply to: Copying CDs #839532
So if after I rent the CD I lose or break it, I am liable to replace it for the owner (Aderet)?
Does the rental allow me to loan my CD to my friend to play on his CD player (when I am away and don’t need it)? Can I use the CD in my friends car when driving it (or being given a ride), or on his CD player when I am at his house? Can my father, brother, or son take the CD from the living room shelf and play it (since I always let them borrow my stuff without asking)?
If so, if my relative/friend — on his own initiative and without my knowledge or permission — makes a copy, he seemingly violated nothing as he has no contractual relationship or agreement with the producer.February 20, 2011 10:29 pm at 10:29 pm in reply to: ?????? ????? #742822
Goq, what were you doing the ezras nashim?February 20, 2011 7:55 pm at 7:55 pm in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863567
Surely you jest. You hit 40 Goq?February 20, 2011 7:51 pm at 7:51 pm in reply to: Copying CDs #839524
First of all, in most cases copying for your own ipod does not violate the agreement. Secondly, although that’s the producer’s only recourse, the renter, by violating the agreement, was oiver on g’neiva (using the producer’s property in a way which he never allowed).
Breach of contract is g’neiva? If I sign a contract with you to rent an office for business purposes only, but instead I move in with the gantze mishpacha, is that g’neiva? (Just asking.)
Your point is one of the things gained by rental vs t’nai: in a t’nai, some poskim (not all) maintained that the producer would have to refund the money (and since he has no intention to, the whole t’nai is invalid). Others hold that since the purchaser broke the t’nai, the money need not be returned.
You’re saying that the halacha for a rental is different than that for a t’nai, in that all poskim agree there is no need to refund the money for the remaining term of the rental, if the renter broke the terms of rental?
(Side point: It would be easier to read your comments, if you put a blank line between your paragraphs as well as your quotations.)February 20, 2011 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm in reply to: Copying CDs #839520
There are some possible arguments to question the validity of the rental, but I haven’t yet seen them brought up here.
Which arguments, that you know of, haven’t been brought up yet?February 20, 2011 7:23 pm at 7:23 pm in reply to: Copying CDs #839519
Do you disagree with what I maintain is the maximum recourse available to the producer under halacha if the “renter” violates the terms of the agreement? (If so, specifically on what halachic basis?)
Yes. A rental has a return involved, the agreement is that it must be returned if copied.
IOW, you agree with me that the only recourse the producer has (if the renter makes a copy for his iPod or for his friend thus violating the terms of the rental) is to demand the CD be returned, but disagree with me that the producer must issue the customer a refund (i.e. a pro-rated refund based on the remaining portion of the rental term — originally 20 years in Aderet’s case).February 20, 2011 4:16 pm at 4:16 pm in reply to: Walking Down the Aisle at a Chasunah #743224
aries: If the other side had a strong minhug the other way, you would have broken your daughter’s shidduch over it?February 20, 2011 3:50 pm at 3:50 pm in reply to: cousins marrying each other #742655
My Cousin and i made a deal that we aren’t ever getting married when we were younger.
Why would either of you want to never get married?February 20, 2011 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm in reply to: Picking on Chayav #742602
Don’t worry, he changed screen names today.February 20, 2011 3:29 pm at 3:29 pm in reply to: fantasy amount of kids/ boy/girl ratio etc. #742480
Girls cost a loooot more to marry off.February 20, 2011 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm in reply to: Copying CDs #839514
Do you disagree with what I maintain is the maximum recourse available to the producer under halacha if the “renter” violates the terms of the agreement? (If so, specifically on what halachic basis?)February 20, 2011 7:32 am at 7:32 am in reply to: Walking Down the Aisle at a Chasunah #743212
popa, unfortunately some avoda zora crept into certain quarters. That doesn’t make it any more Jewish.February 20, 2011 7:30 am at 7:30 am in reply to: Walking Down the Aisle at a Chasunah #743211
tbt, I think they are accurate. They didn’t just both blame the chu_ch out of thin air, you don’t think.February 20, 2011 7:29 am at 7:29 am in reply to: cousins marrying each other #742646
Go for it yossi. She may be your bashert!February 20, 2011 7:19 am at 7:19 am in reply to: What gender is Chayav?? #743129
I’d say a boy between 12 and 14.February 20, 2011 7:18 am at 7:18 am in reply to: cousins marrying each other #742642
smartcookie: You never start or base a marriage on what if it doesn’t work out.February 20, 2011 7:13 am at 7:13 am in reply to: Walking Down the Aisle at a Chasunah #743205
popa: I think its standard in the sense it is the more traditional mingug followed by most of Klal Yisroel throughout all the previous doros. Do you think both methods were equally done over the centuries?February 20, 2011 7:02 am at 7:02 am in reply to: cousins marrying each other #742639
smartcookie: How old were they?February 20, 2011 6:05 am at 6:05 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839506
b. Anyone who is reasonable
Let them ask a shaila
You missed the point. Many, if not most, people are unaware of the terms inside the sealed package (if not being entirely unaware that it is a “rental” in the first place.)
They are not asking for a reversal of the contract; the contract stipulated that under certain conditions, the CD must be returned.
Who cares what they are asking for. The only remedy Halacha entitles them, if there was a breach in the terms of the original contract, is to void the original contract. (The contract stipulation about being returned under certain conditions is not relevant to this breach of contract issue.)February 20, 2011 5:45 am at 5:45 am in reply to: cousins marrying each other #742634
So you go have your marriage ceremony in a state that allows it. We never allow secular law to interfere with who we marry. Especially since it is so easy to get around.February 20, 2011 5:29 am at 5:29 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839502
If they demand your first born, you can say that it wasn’t reasonable to expect that condition. If they demand that you not give someone else a free copy, you can’t honestly say that you didn’t expect that condition.
1) a. Where in halacha is there a difference between reasonable and unreasonable? b. IF there is, who is to say asking for your real estate in return is unreasonable?
And by now, you know what it says inside.
2) I may know. Many many people do not. Many people bought the CD and still never realized it said anything about a rental agreement inside.
Regarding your other point, which, I believe, was canine’s point, if you violated the agreement, why should they have to give you your money back.
3) I’m not asking how either of us feel about it. I am asking what strict halacha has to say about it. In halacha, the aggrieved parties remedy for breach of contract, is to demand to reverse the original contract — return the item, get back your money.February 20, 2011 4:36 am at 4:36 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839499
Daas, expound on the halachic difference, per Shulchan Aruch. Not your personal feelings of what is “a ridiculous argument.” Your argument was based on the fact “those are the conditions, you agreed to it. Simple as that.” What halachic difference is there if the clauses “agreed” to include something external or only internal?February 20, 2011 4:34 am at 4:34 am in reply to: Kavod for a Kohen #898102
I believe you do have to stand up for a Kohen just like you have to stand up for a Talmid Chochom and your parents.February 20, 2011 4:18 am at 4:18 am in reply to: changing screennames #742273
I only get it when reading the CR.February 20, 2011 4:14 am at 4:14 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839497
And the second pertinent point is if the renter/buyer violates the conditions of the lease (whether it is a CD or a car – i.e. he agreed to be the only driver but allowed a relative to drive the vehicle in violation of the rental agreement), what halachic recourse is the owner entitled to from the renter?
The point was made above that the only halachic recourse is to reverse the original transaction. If it is something more than that, is there a source for that?February 20, 2011 3:35 am at 3:35 am in reply to: changing screennames #742271
HeartburnFebruary 20, 2011 3:29 am at 3:29 am in reply to: Kavod for a Kohen #898097
And what about a 65 year old man for a 13 year old Kohen?February 20, 2011 3:26 am at 3:26 am in reply to: Copying CDs #839494
Daas, so if after you open the package it states that you just agreed to turn over any real estate you own to the producers, its binding? If not, on what halachic basis are any of the terms binding?February 20, 2011 3:23 am at 3:23 am in reply to: Should Gila accept a divorce? #749944
Divorce is a dirty word. This serial sounds treif.February 20, 2011 3:18 am at 3:18 am in reply to: Kavod for a Kohen #898096
ItcheSrulik: So a father-in-law must stand up for his Kohen son-in-law?