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October 17, 2010 4:21 pm at 4:21 pm in reply to: Some basic Halacha that is ignored in 100% of shuls by 99% of the Kahal #708596
There’s a very easy solution to navigating around people in a “packed house” during davening. It’s called: show up to davening on time, before anybody is anywhere near a shemona esra.
Cliff Lee means 2 wins for the Rangers. There’s not a better pitcher in the game today (except maybe Roy Halloday). Rangers just have to come up with 2 other wins somehow, and Yankee fans will certainly be scratching their heads.
I’m surprised nobody has mentioned Lysine, which is an amino acid the body normally synthesizes on its own. I used to get canker sores as a kid, and my dentist told me about Lysine. I took a 500 miligram pill every morning for a year. My weekly sores turned into monthly sores at about the 2-month mark. By a year, they were gone entirely. I continued the Lysine pills for about 3 or 4 years and then quit them entirely, and I now get the sores once every two or three years. You can buy Lysine at any vitamin store.
I do live in Dallas (don’t hold my poor spelling in my above post against Dallas yidden).
By my shul, the rich guys buy the chashuv psichas and aliyos, then give them to the deserving minyon-ers. This way, everybody gets their reward.
What tefillos besides shema do you say? We do these:
1. Ribono shel olom harayni mochayl…
2. Hamapil (without using Hashem’s name)
3. Shema (full 1st verse only)
4. Vi-hi no-am
5. Y’vorech’cho Hashem (3 times)
6. B’shaym Hashem (3 times)
7. Adon Olom
When I write it, it looks like a bunch. But it only takes 6-7 minutes. And the whole times I massage the kids, unless the baby is in my lap.
For a child, learning how to daven properly is the easy part. Teaching them proper derek eretz is the more challenging piece, and therefore is the item that should be focused on.
So bringing them to shul to learn when to say “amen” is simply unnecessary. If they can sit quietly and respectfully, by all means bring them. If they cannot, bu all meand DO NOT bring them. There’s plenty of time for them to learn.
We use kosher gummy bear fish and cut off the heads. It’s a sure winner with the kids, too.August 18, 2010 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm in reply to: Who knows how much 20,000 united miles is worth in cash. #693047
I would think not much, since it normally takes a minimum of 25K miles to get a free ticket. So figure 25k miles is worth about $400. But if you sell the miles to somebody dollar for dollar, they might as well just buy a ticket (with less restrictions). So figure even 25k miles is worth only 50-75% of that $400 amount. Did that make any sense?
My rav calls it “the total abdication of parenting” when he sees children running up and down the halls at shul, or outside the building. Perhaps you can add the phrase Chilul Hashem if they’re doing it at a public concert?
Have your wife bring the children on Shabbos after the Musaf Shemona Esra has been completed, and they can daven the final 15 minutes by your side (assuming they can handle even this). Over time, you can build on it if they show they are up for it.
Bring your sons to daven with you for Mincha/Maariv during the week. Perhaps they can handle that, too. Shachris may be too long.
Bottom line, don’t put a stumbling block in front of a blind man. Don’t put you kids in behavior situations (at shul) where they cannot succeed. There’s too much at stake.
Greater than my ability (or inability) to daven in a minyan every day, is my wife’s strength to stay home with our kids until they are old enough to daven in shul with proper derech. I have unending admiration and respect for my wife – for what is essentially a sacrifice she makes (not davening in shul when I know she would like to) for the greater benefit of the family.
My wife regularly shops at places like the Goodwill Store, the Salvation Army (yes, i know it’s a church), second-hand re-sell stores and the like. The other day there was a “sample sale” in town, where she got about 10 skirts, several tops and paid less than $75 for the whole bundle. And she always finds beautiful clothes. I live in a top-10 size city in the US, so there must be similar in other towns where frum Jews live, no?
There’s a shul down the street from me where talking during davening is tolerated. I’m the president of my shul, so I always have my “financial cap” on. I hate seeing good families chose to go down the street to daven for this reason, but then I keep reminding myself they are just not a “fit” for my shul if their hashgofa allows them to talk during davening and think that’s ok.
I always find it amazing when families tell me they daven down the street because the other shul is more “kid friendly.” Maybe that’s just where the family is holding. I would think you pick a shul by where the family can learn and grow the most – every single day of the week, not where the mothers and children feel most comfortable “chatting it up” the 1 hour a week they are in shul. Is that an appropriate way to think?
There are 2 eruvs in Dallas – one in the North of town, one South. The South eruv has the bigger shuls (one MO, and a 350 family Chaim Berlin style shul as well). The North eruv has a Chfetz Chaim shul with about 50 families with a yeshiva associated with it (about 70 students). The North eruv also has Congregation Toras Chaim, with the excellent Rabbi Yaakov Rich. It’s about 65 families, and is the fastest growing Orthodox shul in town. Very serious place for davening and learning. There are also 2 big Chabad shuls, a kollel run by world renowned Torah scoloar Rabbi Yerachmiel Fried, and LOT of kiruv goin on in town. If you want shabbos hospitality, just google “Dallas Orthodox shil.” VERY friendly community.
Am I the only one here who finds this thread quite disturbing? On Tish B’Av, the original poster writes a thread that quickly decends into Jew-bashing? Seriously? His only agenda was to critisize beards vs. non-beards, and that beards somehow have an ability to tell a chashuvah learner from another.
I would be thrilled to see my post be the last one on this thread.