Mishloach Manos – An Overview With Additional Psakim of Rav Shlomo Miller Shlita


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(By Rabbi Yair Hoffman for the Five Towns Jewish Times)

There are four types of people in the world: Those that prepare their Mishloach Manos many days before Purim. Those that prepare the day before Purim. Those that recycle Mishloach Manos that they have received on Purim itself. And those that do not fulfill the Mitzvah at all. This article is written for all four types.


The Michtav M’Eliyahu writes that the best way to form a relationship is to give.  When you give, you develop your Ahavas Yisroel to that other person, and eventually to others.  Mordechai and his Beis Din enacted that on the day of Purim each person must send a gift of at least two portions of food to a friend. This is seen from the verse in Megilas Esther, “Umishloach manos ish l’reyehu.”

The Mitzvah is to send two different foods.  The two foods may certainly have the same bracha.  There is no requirement to have two separate brachos.


Once again, there is no need for the two different food items to have two separate berachos. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in Hilchos Purim.  There is an issue, however, of taking one food item and cutting it in half into two slices.  The Aruch haShulchan (OC 695:14) writes that just because one cut it in half it should be considered two foods?  Perhaps it is this statement of the Aruch HaShulchan that has caused the two blessing myth to exist.  If someone sends another two pieces of meat from two different limbs that tastes slightly different this is considered two foods (Mikraie Kodesh Siman 38).


The parameters of what constitutes two different foods have been delineated by the Poskim.  Rav Shlomo Miller Shlita (cited in Rav Moshe Friedman’s Emailim baTorah) has ruled that one piece of roasted chicken and one piece of boiled chicken are considered two minim, but two different pieces of chicken prepared the same way, such as one top piece and one bottom piece are considered one min – one type of food (See Sefer SHoshanas Yisroel cited by Rabbi Moshe Friedman).

Similarly, a mixed vegetable salad is considered one type of food only, while cut-up vegetables to be mixed into a salad are considered two minim.

A sandwich or hamburger in a bun is one min.  This is even if has two all beef patties, special sauce lettuce pareve cheese, pickles, onions on a sesame seed bun.  The same would be true with a hotdog in a bun.  What about the thousand dollar Doma sandwich discussed in a previous article?  This would be one min.


What is the reason behind the mitzvah of shalach manos? Two reasons are brought down. The Terumas HaDeshen (Siman 111) writes that it is to ensure that the recipients not run out of food items to serve for their meals.

The Manos HaLevi on Megillas Esther (9:19), written by Rav Shlomo Alkabetz and cited by the Chasam Sofer, writes an altogether different reason: to increase peace and brotherly love.  This is the opposite of the characterization of the Jewish people by Haman as a nation “Mefuzar umefurad” spread and standing apart on account of internal arguments.


Rav Alexander Ziskind of Grodno was one of the only two individuals who ever received an approbation on a sefer from the Vilna Gaon himself.  In his Sefer, “Yesod v’Shoresh HaAvodah,” he writes that one should recite the following preamble before fulfilling the Mitzvah of Mishloach Manos:

לשם יחוד קודשא בריך הוא הריני מוכן ומזומן לקיים מצות עשה של דברי קבלה “ומשלוח מנות איש לרעהו.”

In brief, this translates as follows:  For the unification of the Name of the Holy One Blessed be He, I am hereby prepared and ready to fulfill the positive Mitzvah of the sages of “uMishloah Manos one to the other.”

When performing the Mitzvah one should not just perform it perfunctorily, but should focus on the qualities of the recipient and place within his heart a strong love for his fellow man.  He should intend to honor him and to strengthen his inner joy with this package of Shalach Manos.


Men and women are both included in this mitzvah. The halachah is that men send to men, and women send to women. Women are obligated in the mitzvah because, according to the Mishnah Berurah, “they too were involved in the miracle.”  A child should be instructed to fulfill the Mitzvah just as one instructs a child to fulfill all the other Mitzvos.  The child may send to another child, as the other child is considered his or her peer.

Even a poor person is required to fulfill the mitzvah of mishloach manos. The mitzvah of mishloach manos may not be fulfilled with money, clothing, or other non-food or non-drink items. The mitzvah may only be fulfilled with kosher items.


Another little-known halachah about shalach manos is found in an esoteric Biur Halachah (written by the Chofetz Chaim) in Orach Chaim 695. He writes that the Chayei Adam has proved from a passage in the Talmud Yerushalmi that if one sends a Purim package to a wealthy individual, the package must be a respectable one.

Thus, one should not send something below the kavod of the recipient. The poskim have ruled that a lollipop is not considered chashuv for an adult, nor is a bottle of Poland Spring water or seltzer.  To fulfill the Mitzvah, the portions must convey sufficient regard for the recipient. 

Rav Shlomo Miller Shlita ruled that one does fulfill the Mitzvah with flavored seltzer water, even though regular water and regular seltzer are not sufficient to fulfill the Mitzvah.


Getting back to the “respectable package” for the wealthy, the Biur Halachah writes that the Ritva’s comment on his version of the Talmud Bavli agrees with the Chayei Adam. A careful reading of the Ritva, however, reveals that the Ritva and Chayei Adam are not exactly the same. Both of them require an upgraded Purim package on account of wealth; of that there is no question. However, the Ritva’s requirement is of the wealth of the giver—not the recipient. In other words, according to the Ritva, if the giver is very wealthy, his package must reflect that as well and he cannot fulfill the mitzvah with a meager package. Since the Biur Halachah does quote both the Chayei Adam and the Ritva, both would seem to be authoritative.

Therefore, one should not send something below the kavod of the giver or the recipient. 


The mitzvah must be fulfilled only with foods that are immediately edible or drinkable. The Magen Avraham, Vilna Gaon, and Chayei Adam hold this way. The Pri Chadash is lenient. We rule in accordance with the former view.

An item that requires further cooking or preparation may be added, but two immediately usable foods must be included, too. It is praiseworthy to send portions to as many friends as possible. It is better, however, to give more matanos la’evyonim than to give more mishloach manos to friends.


Ideally, mishloach manos should be sent through a messenger, rather than be delivered personally. Generally speaking, we say, “Mitzvah bo yoser mi’b’shlucho” — it is a bigger mitzvah to do it oneself rather than through a messenger. Regarding the search for chametz before Pesach, it is better to do it oneself. Here, though, it is different. The Chsam Sopher writes  in his commentary to the Talmud (Gittin 22b), that the pasuk says, “and the sending of gifts – mishloach manos” which indicates that it should be done through a messenger. A gift sent through a messenger is fancier and nicer. If one did deliver the mishloach manos oneself, the obligation is still fulfilled.

Virtually all the poskim rule that a goy or a child may be a shaliach for mishloach manos. Rabbi Akiva Eiger, zt”l, was unsure of this, however.


Must the two foods be sent together? Rav Elyashiv zt”l  is of the position that they must. May one of the foods be a liquid? Most authorities hold that one of the foods may certainly be a liquid (except for water), and this is the authoritative view. There is a reading of Rabbeinu Chananel that holds a liquid may not be one of the two food items. This view is apparently not l’halachah.


Does sending money to buy food or sending a gift certificate at a restaurant work? Some Acharonim hold that it does, but many hold not. The language of the Rambam (Hilchos Megillah, Chapter 2) seems to indicate that it must be real food and not a gift certificate or money.


What if a package is prepared and the recipient responds with a “No, thank you?” Has the sender fulfilled the mitzvah in such a case? According to the Terumas HaDeshen it would seem not; according to the second opinion he very well might. It is interesting to note that the Rema in O.C. 695 writes that one has fulfilled the mitzvah. The Pri Chadash questions this position and does not understand it. Our aforementioned Chasam Sofer answers the dilemma by suggesting that the Rema holds like the Manos HaLevi. Perhaps one can point out, however, that even according to the Manos HaLevi, the full effect of the shalach manos has not been achieved. Peace and brotherly love is a two-way street, and the giver doesn’t necessarily feel so good if his gift is refused. So how can the Rema be understood? It is only if the recipient responds gently, “Don’t worry about it; you don’t need to actually give it to me.” Rav Ovadiah Yoseph, however, holds that Sephardim should not rely on this Rema and send the shalach manos to someone else.


Does the recipient have to know who sent it, or does anonymity work? The Ksav Sofer (responsa O.C. #141) relates the issue to the two reasons mentioned above. He recommends that one be stringent and avoid anonymity.  Rav Elyashiv zt”l ruled that one does not fulfill the Mitzvah with anonymity.


What happens if the shalach manos that you had sent got lost or stolen? The Birchei Yoseph writes that one must send it again.


May one fulfill the mitzvah by sending to a child? The verse in the Megillah uses the term “Umishloach manos ish l’rei’eihu—and the sending of portions each man to his peer.” The Aruch HaShulchan permits it and considers a child a “peer.” Other poskim disagree with the Aruch HaShulchan. It is, therefore, better to send it to an adult.


What about sending shalach manos to a mourner? The Rema states that one should not send during the entire twelve months of mourning. This halachah is true for Ashkenazim. Sephardim, however, can receive shalach manos during mourning.  The mourner, however, should send to one person, but should avoid sending items that arouse great joy.  One may send to the spouse of a mourner.  The Divrei Malkiel (Vol. V) writes that one may send to one’s teacher even if he is a mourner because this is considered similar to a payment of an obligation.


Should at least two of the food items be wrapped separately or in two different containers? Some authorities (the Ben Ish Chai) hold that if they are sent together then the container itself may make it as if it is one food. Thus, Raisin Bran would only be considered one food item unless one separated the raisins from the cereal into two plastic baggies. Others (Sheim M’Shimshon, O.C. #31) write that the container does not make it into one food.


When should the shalach manos package be given? It must be given in the daytime and not at night. The mitzvah should also be fulfilled, ideally, before one begins the Purim seudah.


What about the school and shul? Schools and shuls often send out a flyer and request you to participate in their shalach manos program when they send out a list of who sent to you. While this idea is fantastic in terms of reducing the waste and excess in shalach manos giving, the givers should be aware that one cannot and does not fulfill the actual mitzvah with this form of giving. Many people are unaware of this fact.


Rav Moshe Friedman cites a number of other rulings of Rav Shlomo Miller shlita.

One still fulfills the Mitzvah of Mishloach manos if one did not have in mind to fulfill the Mitzvah and just gave over the package to the recipient, without thinking.

If the recipient of the package was not aware that he or she has received it until after Purim, the sender has still fulfilled the Mitzvah.

One may send a package to a non-religious Jew, even though a bracha will not be recited on it.  [This author, however, recommends that actual hamotzi – not be sent – see this author’s sefer entitled Misguiding the Perplexed: the Halachos of Lifnei Iver].

A groom may be lenient and send Mishloach Manos to his Kallah.  It does not violate the halachos of creating a possible pre-marriage.

If a shliach had delivered it before Purim and it was not eaten until Purim – the person has fulfilled the Mitzvah. (The author recommends that a sign be affixed to the package that states “Do not eat before Purim.)

If someone baked a shiur of Challah – even though she meant to send smaller cakes to a number of individuals – a bracha on taking off Challah is still recited.

Rav Miller further ruled that a sender may Tovel a dish with a bracha on a dish when he or she sends a food that requires a dish, such as apple sauce.  However, when sending a candy dish where the candies are wrapped – a bracha is not recited on the Tevilah.


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