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Wow. You truly do believe you are permitted to lie to obtain government benefits you otherwise are not entitled to.
How far do you extend your chiddush? Is it permitted to lie so that you can get a good shidduch (if the shver is rich, does the parnassah heter apply)? If I damage your property and I don’t have the funds to pay you back, can I lie to you and deny it under the parnassah heter? If my wife wants be at home, but I want to hang out and eat chulent and sushi with the chevra, can I lie to her and tell her the car broke down to maintain shalom?
Surely you heard the line about jewish men. Breaking the glass under the chupah is the last time they will ever put their foot down.
From the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch…..
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This is the relevant portion of sif kattan Aleph.
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Midvar sheker tirchak.
The first as well, should be discussed with ones Rav/Rebbe. He may encourage it, he may not. Thats why you have a Rav/Rebbe.
Health. This svara of yours that extends stretching the truth for sholom to parnassa. Is this svara advanced by any rabbonim or poskim or is this your own chiddush. Also, is it permitted to outright lie for sholom? Is taking a government benefit considered parnassa or a form of tzedaka? Based on your lomdus one may lie to a gabbai tzedaka in order so that he should have a “parnassa”? Am I misunderstanding something? Please clarify your position. If this position has the backing of a posek, can you name him?
Perhaps people are not comfortable with 2nd hand, because they are uncomfortable thinking of all the places the first hand may have been.
No.
Newhere. I’m not agreeing or disagreeing with you. I wasn’t commenting on anything you wrote.
Depends on what your playing. Some cheesy jewish boy band, I would call the tznius police to bleach you and your car.
I have no idea what type of corn is used to make ethanol, but it is driving up the price of animal feed, resulting in higher costs for meat and poultry. what you save on the gas to the grocery store, you pay in the form of higher meat and poultry prices. 🙁
Farmers grow three types of corn (I learned this on a trip to a pick your own farm a few summers ago). Flint, sweet and dent, also called field. As Avram said, sweet corn is what you buy at the local grocery to eat off the cob. Flint corn is quite hard and is sold as popping corn and is used as animal feed. Field corn is used to make masa dough (think tortillas) and is also animal feed.
Bochrim at risk? College bochrim? Older bochrim in the workforce? I’m just trying to get used to the new usage of the word Bochrim.
Health. Leaving aside Dina dimalchusa and when it applies or the pros and cons of paying taxes. You seem to be advancing an argument that it is permissible to lie. What happened to midvar sheker tirchak? Did I misunderstand?
http://www.star-k.org/cons-vegdetail.php?ID=21
Corn on the Cob is kosher. The insects that may be infesting the cob are not. This hashgacha does not want to take the time to properly check (which is certainly their choice) the ears of corn for insects, or the store does not want to pay for someone to properly check. To state that the corn is not kosher is foolish, and false. They should have told you, we dont want to check for bugs (or, we’d rather not pay the mashgiach to do this because it isnt worth it) , so are not serving it at this time.
I just deleted firefox and am now an apple safari user. google chrome isnt bad either. I found FF to be very slow. Chrome seems to be the fastest.
newhere. yes, the milk has a hechsher, but as charliehall pointed out it covers vitamins and other supplements they put into the milk, not the milk itself. they are relying on the governmental controls that all milk being sold as cows milk is in fact cows milk.
not sure when the ou published this
http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/common/article/cholov_stam_an_update_from_the_farm_and_lab/
Perhaps you see them. I don’t. I’m certainly not cognizant of the fact that a woman is “dressed to kill”. We each have our nisyonos, I guess this is one area where I don’t have the same level nisayon as you and perhaps I’m better off sitting this one out.
Men. Keep your eyes on the mens side of the mechitza.
It is obvious to my wife and I when a Rebbe puts some thought into his comment and when he pulls a tired, well worn cliche out of the closet.
Why has this become a discussion on chalav yisrael/stam?
Rabbaim. In the US the OU places their symbol on milk. Ask them why and what they are certifying and upon whom they are relying when they allow their symbol to be printed on a carton of milk. The same could be true in London (I have no idea, never been there).
If your Rav permits something, that is a psak halacha, not a kula. It is an action that is permitted by halacha based on your ravs learned opinion, even if another Rav disagrees. One must be careful not to label others “maikilim” if they follow the opinion of their Rav who permits something others do not. Unfortunately, that happens all to often.
I am not defending anything. In fact, I have repeatedly stated that men should NOT look at women, or how they are dressed. They should certainly not be looking into other peoples cars. You stick your head where it doesnt belong, you run the risk of seeing things you might not want to see.
I am not defending women who dress in a way that violates halacha, perhaps you choose to see it that way. I have repeatedly commented about what I see as the foolish perpetuation of the almost obligatory browbeating of women, mostly by men. It accomplishes nothing and any attempt at tochacha (which I doubt is uppermost on most peoples minds but that is another story) is lost with the negativity.
Seriously want to make an impact? Explain to those who sell the objectionable clothing, why they should not. Your friend in shul has a wife or daughter who contributes to this so called crisis, speak to him, or the Rav, or the Rebbetzin, let them deal with it.
Note: To the moderator that did not allow an earlier post through, thank you. I regretted writing it 30 minutes after I did.
I leave my blackberry in a drawer and dont think about the office. I trust that I left capable people to mind the store (so to speak) while I am gone.
Slabodka mussar repeatedly stresses that low self esteem is the root of gaava (gadlus ha’adam is at the core of slabodka mussar).
Is it any worse than a mustang?
Men. Worry about the clothing purchased and worn by your own wife and daughters. Don’t worry about plonis wife and daughters. If their dress “deeply disturbs you”, speak to ploni, stop berating his wife and daughters.
Ooohhhhh you used bold font.
It is easy to point out peoples shortcomings. That is not tochacha. It is not even logical and it is definitely worthy of being shouted down, perhaps not outright leitzanus.
All I can say to those who are “deeply disturbed” with the car/tznius “crisis”, don’t be a peeping tom, stop looking into other peoples cars.
Epidermis shows all the time. Not all Epidermis must be covered, unless you are referring to a problem (or a very similar one anyway) that seems to plague plumbers.
“When does a kalla have to cover her hair?”
When the family Rav says that she must.
So there is non tochacha and leitzanus in this thread.
Nothing I see that can be classified as tochacha. Some whining, preaching and a few snide remarks yes, tochacha, none. Leitzanus, plenty of it, mostly directed mostly towards the whining and snide remarks.
Again. Anyone see or hear from our terribly disturbed sandrac? That is leitzanus of the highest order.
I admit their have been many times when I wanted nothing more than to give a good “potch” to parents who berate, and totally emsculate,their in public.
If I had wheels, would I be a camaro?
I wouldn’t classify anything written in this thread as tochacha.
Agreed.
For the OP. I once stayed in
Montgomery Alabama for 5 days. Closest chabad was Mobile, several hours away. For davening, most days, was able to drive to the air force base outside town (in 1997 they had a minyan with orthodox chaplain, not sure the situation today- the business trip revolved around a technology show hosted in part by the base but was not on the base, but at the convention center in downtown) and for food, I was able to bring along vacuum packed food and I stayed at an Extended Stay where all rooms/suites comes with a mini kitchen including a fridge, oven and microwave. I kashered the microwave and if necessary would have kashered the oven, but never needed it. It took several days of planning (the food, and how to warm it/where to stay) and a number of phone calls to make arrangements for davening (finding out if minyanim existed, when and where – chabad of mobile pointed me to the base, and getting the appropriate permission to get onto the base every morning – pre 9/11 it wasn’t easy, I can only imagine what it is like now).
Is maris ayin for jews or non jews? If you go for a business lunch with your collegues to a non kosher restaurant in say jackson hole wyoming (the only state with no chabad btw) where the only ones who will see are some non jewish cowboys, is it maris ayin?
Bimchilas Kvod HaRav Hagoon Pac-Man shlita, my rav disagrees and has told me it is permissible to go to a business lunch in a non kosher restuarant in midtown manhattan. He permitted me to eat breakfast in a IHOP with collegues in Montgomery Alabama, they ordered pancakes, I ate cornflakes. He allowed me to meet my collegues in a restaurant in downtown pittsburgh and sit with them as they sucked on clams and lobster (one of the more forgetable moments of that business trip I’ll admit).
Please note the following obvious disclaimer, one that should not have to be mentioned, but will given the nature of this forum and peoples tendency to assume, read halfway or read without thinking. I am in no way advising, paskening or dictating what one could, should or must do, everything stated is for informational purposes only and is purely for your (mine?) entertainment. Any and all practical halachic shaylos should be asked of your local orthodox rabbi (however you define the term orthodox) or to the most eminent poskim of the coffee room, not apushitayid like me.
The number of screen names used by Joseph is rising to crisis level.
“I see parents yelling/potching their kids because they are acting up”
That was me until I started taking a parenting class….sometimes the parent with the yelling causes a greater commotion than the kids (and they usually don’t accomplish anything either).
“I see parents yelling/potching their kids because they are acting up”
That was me until I started taking a parenting class….sometimes the parent with the yelling causes a greater commotion than the kids (and they usually don’t accomplish anything either).
Why has this become a discussion on hitting? Chinuch involves a lot more than hitting your kids.
A parent is obligated to be michanech their child, even in public.
Speaking of chinuch in public…..
A woman once apologized to me for “ruining the chinuch I was giving my children” (her words). I was waiting at a red light and explaining to my kids that we should wait until the light turns green. This woman saw no cars coming and crossed on the red. My kids said nothing about it to me (although I was thinking of an answer). When we got to the other side on the green, the woman waited for us an apologized.
Betzalel. Let’s assume he was truthful about the minhag hamakom, who said we adopted the minhag of naharam naharaim?
I’m not sure they can charge you $110 for hooking up your car to a tow truck and threatening to tow it away.
This comes from the website of the NYC Department of Consumer Affairs. (at nyc.gov use the pull down menu on left for consumer affairs – or search for “towing fees”)
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Towing rates from private parking lot
– Towing and three days of storage: $100
– Fourth day of storage and after: $10 per day
– “Drop fee” (for unhooking a car that is about to be towed): $50
If your car is towed for blocking a driveway, the maximum fee is $100 plus tax and $10 per day storage fee after three days.
WHO TO CALL WHEN YOUR CAR IS…
They must remove the boot within 30 minutes, must accept payment by credit card, and may charge no more than $25.
If your car is booted and towed from a private parking lot, the maximum fee is $25. If the car is towed from a private lot without booting, the maximum fee is $100.
There is no maximum rate for booting on private streets. The booting fee for private streets must be on file with Consumer Affairs. The fee must be conspicuously posted on signs at all entry access streets that intersect with public streets.
Perhaps he means Chol Hamoed. Wednesdays are free, and the zoo is in fact, packed. As a member of the WCS I take my kids any other day of the week, but never on Wednesday.
The torah doesn’t grant anyone any rights to anything.
There is a walkway along the water. People park and use the ballfields nearby.
Looks like towing is effective deterent.. I’m going to start calling tow trucks every time people block my driveway.
Who said life must be “fair”?
I dobt know what Rabbanim say about younger sisters marrying before older, but, is Lavan a legitimate source for anything?
7 “clean days”
If we adopted a specific chineese practice we could do away with this problem too.