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  • in reply to: Ding Dong, The Wicked Witch Is Dead! #1800208

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    “Many”, of course, is a relative term.

    Of all the possible candidates to put up against Trump, why would they choose the only one who has proven she can lose to him, and who will not be able to make his corruption the major issue of the campaign?

    Either she’s just looking for attention, or she is delusional (I know, they’re not mutually exclusive).

    in reply to: Jewish music with english words=Goyish. #1799223

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    LOTR92

    Thanks for this thread, it’s really entertaining.

    in reply to: Is playing a musical instrument a negative??? #1798610

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    Randomex,

    True. The point I was trying to make is that frustrated talents (and interests) often force themselves to be expressed in a way which could be more detrimental than any supposed danger of cultivating and channeling them properly.
    This is not to say that a person who does not have an inborn talent should not pursue a skill in which he is interested.

    in reply to: Keeping the Siyum Hashas Sacred. #1796767

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    Haimy,
    With all due respect
    Please do not denigrate Va’ad Hashemitta
    They are working to preserve קדושת הארץ in a very real way
    And advertising works

    in reply to: Geneivat Daat #1796746

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    Well…
    If it’s the same people who return their air conditioner to Walmart at the end of the season,
    If it’s the same people who pretend that their children are young enough to get the cheaper rate at attractions,
    If it’s the same people who perpetrate any number of other types of geneivas da’as and/or geneiva,
    Why are you surprised?

    in reply to: Is playing a musical instrument a negative??? #1796495

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    I think we need look no further than Dovid HaMelech, נעים זמירות ישראל, to answer this question.
    I have no musical talent to speak of, but one of my children does, and we are trying to help her cultivate her talent as much as we can.
    On a basic level, it’s always best to “go with the grain” of a person’s individual nature for so many reasons.
    On a higher level, if Hashem gave someone a talent, it is obviously meant to be utilized למען השם.
    On the other hand, if it is not channeled properly there is a danger that it will force itself to be expressed in a negative way.

    in reply to: Following Halacha #1794553

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    Of course, there is a Mitzva of Hochei’ach Tochi’ach. However, the Torah cautions, Lo SIsa Alav Cheit. Correcting your friend must be done in a way which does not offend him, and which will cause him to do the right thing.

    The first step is to determine whether in fact the “Halacha” in question is a bona fide Halacha. For this, do not rely on “what you were always told,” or even what your Rebbe said in High School. Go ask a competent, practicing Rav. Proceed only if a true Halachic issue is present.

    The second step is to determine whether there is some extraneous factor which will prevent the other person from listening to you. (For example, is there some existing relationship between you and him in context of which he will automatically feel defensive when you approach him?) If so, get someone else to approach him.

    The third step, once the first two have been satisfied, is to prepare a nonthreatening, friendly, SINCERE, way of presenting the problem to him. (It is important, for example, that this is done in a dispassionate manner, without condescension.)

    My experience (repeated many dozens of times without fail) is that if this procedure is followed, people are grateful for the assistance and happy to change.

    in reply to: Parking in two spots #1791471

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    Honestly, as much as I find it highly inconsiderate to park in multiple spots, it has never occurred to me to “do anything to their car.” If I could, I would move it over so that I (or someone else) could park in one of the spots.

    As far as the point that was made that “you never know what’s going on with the other guy,” this logic works for an extraordinary situation. Unfortunately, I see the same cars parked in an inconsiderate manner very often. I do not believe that these people have “emergencies” or the like every time I see their car taking up two spots when I’m trying to get to night Seder.

    דן לכף זכות does not mean that we should assume that the owner of the vehicle is secretly also a field medic performing emergency surgery in some undisclosed location. It just means that we should assume he doesn’t do it deliberately to bother other people, he perhaps doesn’t even realize that he did it, and if someone would tell him about it he would be more careful in the future.

    in reply to: Which One is Outrageous?! 🖱️💰🖱️💰 #1790166

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    “Also, lets reiterate the main point, infortunately (sic), the secularists in israel (sic) are so hateful of the orthodox…”

    This gets to precisely the point I wanted to make in the op. If they get treated anything like the soldier who went to Selichos, it is hard to blame them for that attitude. Not to downplay the wrongdoings of others, but let’s clean our own house.

    in reply to: Should Wedding gowns for the extended family be discontinued? #1781802

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    Ubiquitin,

    The issue here (for me) is not about “farginning”. I am very happy for people who have the means and who enjoy a higher standard of living than I can afford. This includes the well-known “mega-gevirim”, as well as the wealthier members of my own community and family. I do not feel resentful or bitter in the slightest towards them, or about my own (rather difficult) financial position.

    The issue (for me) is that, as a society, we have adopted norms which are beyond the reach of a huge portion of our people. Now, one might say, “You’re a big boy; if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it.” To me this sounds as contemptuous as “Let them eat cake.”

    If I lived alone on a desert island, I would not spend that money. However, I am fortunate enough to live in a wonderful community. Part of the cost of this is a certain degree of conformity to societal norms. I do not think it is fair to tell my daughter, “Listen, sweetie, I know all of your friends and classmates are getting married in beautiful halls with gowns, etc, but we can’t afford it, so your wedding will be in the school gym with regular Shabbos clothing.” How do you think the typical 18-24 year old girl would feel about that?

    The fact is that the joy of the wedding would not be any less if done in a cheaper venue, with Shabbos clothing, without makeup artists and hairstylists, and with a more economical menu and guest list. However, the switch to such weddings can only be done on a broad scale.

    Think about this: The cost of a cheap Orthodox Jewish wedding today is at least $20,000. The average annual household income in the United States is just about $60,000. Does this make sense?

    in reply to: R” Yoel Roths free chasunas #1743164

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    יהי רצון שירבו כמותו בישראל
    The amount of money that is spent on weddings and related expenditures is obscene.
    There is absolutely no reason for it. It does not make the married couple any more likely to have a happy marriage (I wonder if the opposite is true).
    The person who successfully implements a change such as this one on a large scale will have innumerable zchusim to his credit.
    If רבן גמליאל were alive today, he would make a point of marrying off his own children in such a way.

    in reply to: Unacceptable Grammar #1737975

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    Shtusim.

    in reply to: Switched At Birth #1737521

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    GH,
    Well, then, we would have finally put the question of nature vs. nurture to bed.

    in reply to: Switched At Birth #1737303

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    Joseph, I don’t remember the exact details; his father was a Ba’al Teshuva, and I think his mother was a Giyores. Presumably, his father subsequently found out that he was a Kohen.

    Laskern, yes, they would be. I don’t believe there is any question about this. (There was a debate among the Poskim about fifty years ago regarding the status a child from artificial insemination using donor sperm. Rav Moshe Feinstein ruled that he is not a Mamzer because the Mamzeirus status depends on a מעשה ביאה).

    in reply to: Switched At Birth #1737161

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    It is Assur for them to remain together. They must divorce. Any children they had together are Challalim (their sons are not Kohanim, and their daughters may not marry Kohanim).
    A good friend of mine is a Challal for exactly this reason (no DNA test involved, but it was a case of accidentally violating the Halacha).


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    YO,
    R’ Elazar Ben Azarya was chosen because he had Zechus Avos (which, it was hoped, would protect him from whatever K’peida Rabban Gamliel might have), but not because he had “rights” to the position. It should be noted that he was approximately four hundred years removed from Ezra.

    in reply to: Is Star Wars Kosher? #1733907

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    If you listen to many of the Chassidishe Maiselach, the Ba’al Shem Tov sounds like a Jedi, complete with force projection.
    So maybe Yoda was the Frierdik’e Rebbe?

    in reply to: Shidduchim between FFB and BT’s #1724975

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    @Neville:
    “So, you’d be fine marrying a Reform Jew, I assume? They are all Jews, no?”
    At best, that’s a straw man argument. At worst, you are equating all Torah-observant Jews who are different from yourself with Reform Jews.
    The point Jewish1 was making was that the differences between Jews of all these varying streams are actually much less important than the similarities. Therefore, the general question, “Would you marry X type of Jew?” is much less important than the specific question, “Would you marry this particular Jew?”
    Of course, in the case of a Torah-observant Jew marring a Reform Jew, the similarities are, unfortunately, decidedly less important than the differences.
    To be sure, this in no way undermines the love, care, and concern we ought to have for our irreligious brethren; it simply renders us incompatible with them for building a home together.

    in reply to: How Shidduchim became a beauty pageant contest. #1708732

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    I’m so confused. Are we now making the argument that the increasing commonality of divorce is a good thing?

    I must attach myself to those who rejected the outright libel of the Modern Orthodox community. The premise that people marry in the same way they try a new flavor of soda is not only absurd, it would be rightly perceived by members of that community as hurtful and condescending, to say the least.

    Most boys, being human, do prefer to marry someone they find attractive. It has been this way since the beginning of time. The Gemara states clearly that a man is required to see the woman before marrying her to avoid problems stemming from a lack of attraction.

    It is true that our society has become obscenely obsessed with materialism and pleasure, and this certainly expresses itself in Shiduchim. Nevertheless, most Bochurim seek and receive guidance from levelheaded, objective, experienced Rebbeim, and are able to make appropriate decisions about whether or not to marry a specific girl, considering her physical appearance as well as a host of other factors.

    It is easy to assert that others are practicing “fake religiosity,” but this is no more than slander. The fact that many people purchase homes, cars, and many other things which are unnecessarily ostentatious is not, in today’s world, irreconcilable with sincerity in Limud HaTorah, Avodas Hashem, or Gemilus Chasadim.

    It’s worthwhile to make the effort to see the positive side of people; it makes your own world a much brighter place.

    in reply to: No blackface this Purim #1680281

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    RebYidd23

    “Rather than “playing nice” how about being nice?”

    One of the best comments I ever read on the CR.

    יישר כחך

    in reply to: Dramatize stories & facts/twisting facts etc #1675041

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    Joseph, excellent example of the dramatization that Shopping613 was talking about.

    It’s easier to believe that there were “a bi-yon” people at Trump’s inauguration than to think of him and a Lamed-Vuvnik in the same sentence.

    in reply to: Pointless conversations #1653129

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    ubiquitin

    The reason people do this is that we are not careful enough about צניעות.

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1653116

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    Uri22,

    “However i am mature enough to understand that this is a result of growing up in a very sensitive culture that doesn’t reflect the Torah’s view on these issues.”

    Was this meant as a thinly veiled insult? If so, it is self-contradictory. If not, it is very poor writing.
    Either way, it is illustrative of the attitude that you know better than everyone else in the room, including many Gedolim. Rav Wolbe and all the others did not bemoan our unwillingness to practice this Halacha properly.

    You may well “be aware of the Maharal’s understanding…,” but it does not seem to me that you understood it well. There is a profound difference between a value statement and a deterrent (or, what you would call a “scare tactic”).

    It would hardly be the effective scare tactic which can be circumvented by simply ignoring the Hasraah (instead of responding with a positive affirmation, or קבלת התראה), and which Beis Din is invested in avoiding, to the point of deliberately tripping up the witnesses.

    Rav Hirsch goes to great lengths to show that, in all but three cases, the punishments which the Torah prescribes are NOT intended as deterrents, but as statements of values. [The exceptional cases of זקן ממרא, בן סורר ומורה, and מסית ומדיח requiring deterrent punishment precisely because the offense is more dangerous than is superficially apparent].

    As a “value”, I think it is quite obvious that the Torah approves of corporal punishment by both parents and Rebbeim. However, this approval is not in a vacuum. The Torah presumes a certain contextual relationship within which such punishment would be meted out. Gedolim of recent decades as well as our contemporary leaders have made it clear (and, honestly, anyone who works with kids for a few days should know this on their own) that we are not able to establish such resonant relationships with our students in today’s society, and that therefore corporal punishment is impracticable.

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652971

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    Uri22,

    “Every time someone transgressed a lo saaseh with hasraah”? How often does this happen? I doubt that it occurred more than a handful of times since the Mekosheish Eitzim.

    The Rambam, Maharal, and many other of the greatest Jewish thinkers have written that the Torah’s intention was not the practical implementation of these punishments, but the value system their prescription teaches. In truth, this is very nearly explicit in the Mishna which derides the Beis Din Katlonis.

    The broader implication of your post is that you believe you have a better understand the values of the Torah than Gedolim such as Rav Wolbe and Rav Shteinman [who was quite emphatic in his rejection of corporal punishment], along with רוב מנין ובנין of contemporary Mechanchim and Poskim.

    Sure, you’re entitled to an opinion…

    in reply to: Corporal punishment must remain an option for teachers #1652813

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    This is stupid.

    I can’t speak for all teachers, but I and all the educators I know do not want to hit children. But that is like a police officer saying he doesn’t want to shoot black people. What would you think of a doctor who is forced to declare that he does not want to commit malpractice?

    I regard the premise of this thread as an assault on teachers, and its proponents as the assailants. It maligns us, and compromises our ability to do our job. Ultimately, it hurts our students.

    What the OP may have intended as a ‘harmless’ troll is in fact הוצאת שם רע which borders on יורד עמו לחייו and has real victims – both teachers and students.

    in reply to: How Do I Unvaccinate My Kids? #1644290

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    DY, unfortunately, it’s too late for your kids. They are doomed to a lifetime of health and well-being. The best you can do is educate them so that they do not pass on the mistakes you made.

    in reply to: There Is No Eruv In Flatbush / Marine Park! #1592574

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    I don’t use it on יום כיפור, and Kal Vachomer not on שבת.

    in reply to: Cracking knuckles during davening – The New Mishugas!! #1592576

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    If someone near you cracking their knuckles during davening even registers as something that bothers you, I think you should thank Hashem for such a wonderful life.

    in reply to: Why are Children from divorced homes treated as second class citizens? #1588154

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    Syag,

    Excellent point about the distortion of what “many posters” have written.

    Otherwise, I think we have reached the point where Yitzchok/Joseph does not deserve the dignity of a response on this topic. His positions are so demonstrably absurd that the only result of responding to them would be to lend them credence.

    in reply to: Why are Children from divorced homes treated as second class citizens? #1587792

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    Mentsch1,

    Did you read my posts in this thread? I think I made it abundantly clear that children of divorced parents (among whose number I count myself) should NEVER suffer because of their domestic situation.
    I also did not argue that divorce must be avoided at all costs; I simply pointed out that it is true that too many people divorce for insufficient reasons, and that Rabbanim are trying to stem the tide of this problem.
    I certainly am happy that my parents did not stay together, and I know a number of cases where divorce was the best possible outcome. I noted the point about the מזבח in response to the citation of שיטת בית הלל. My point was simply that the Halachic possibility of divorce does not necessarily equal a Halachic recommendation of divorce.
    My primary point in this conversation is this: Sometimes, preserving the marriage is child abuse. Sometimes, divorce is child abuse. At all times, treating children of divorce as second class is child abuse.

    in reply to: Why are Children from divorced homes treated as second class citizens? #1587384

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    Yet, everybody agrees that מזבח מוריד עליו דמעות.

    The issue that people who are apparently adults get divorced for petty reasons is due to the influence of our surroundings, and it is something that Rabbanim should and are trying to deal with.

    That said, it is shocking to me that someone would suggest treating children as second class as a divorce deterrent. Why not just take the kids out behind the shed and put them out of their misery?

    The issues raised by CTL are real, although the degree varies from place to place and from school to school (even from teacher to teacher). I can say that the vast majority of educators with whom I am acquainted endeavor to overcome the natural biases endemic to the human condition to the greatest extent possible. Most of us actually overcompensate, as we try to give each student according to their need.

    One concrete thing I can say is that the one Yasom and the few children of divorced or separated parents who have been in my class over the years were treated as the most equal among their peers by their *** Grade Rebbe.

    in reply to: Why are Children from divorced homes treated as second class citizens? #1586125

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    I certainly can empathize with your struggle. I know how hard it was for my mother to raise us, before, during and after the divorce. I can understand how overwhelming your situation can seem.

    Of course, no two cases are the same, and I do not presume to speak to your particular experience. I do feel a responsibility, however, both as the product of a divorced home, and as a Rebbe with many contacts in numerous schools, to protest the blanket allegation that “children from divorced homes are treated as second class citizens.” My experience has been the opposite. School administrations and Rebbeim/Teachers go out of their way to accommodate the specific needs of every student, especially those with challenging domestic environments.

    Unfortunately, it is often the case that the divorced parents’ enmity causes them to sabotage their children’s experience in school in many ways. Perhaps this is the real cause of your troubles.

    in reply to: Parnassa from Hashem? #1569260

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    Avi K, that’s a red herring.

    The key word is “average”.

    I don’t think there can be any question which of those professions has a higher average net income, after taxes and all job-related expenses, outliers notwithstanding.

    in reply to: Parnassa from Hashem? #1569104

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    The elephant in the room in this conversation is the fact that in general, people whose Hishtadlus lies in certain fields generally make more money.

    A doctor, for example, doesn’t necessarily work harder or more hours than a trucker, but the average income for doctors is significantly higher than it is for truckers.

    The question, then, is this:

    How do we reconcile this reality with the well known positions of the Torah referred to above?

    This is a very complex issue, and much time, thought and research must be devoted to it in order to have, if not a comprehensive explanation, at least a coherent approach.

    Two points that I think are very important to contemplate are:

    1. Not all people are equally governed by Hashgacha Pratis. To some degree, all people are governed by Teva. [That is to say, the Ratzon Hashem is that the general system He created, to which we refer as Teva, should govern those who do not merit or who, by dint of their own shortcomings, would not benefit from His direct governance.] This naturally results in generalities such as doctors earning more money.

    2. Depending on the specific nature of a person’s mission in this world, the way he exercises his Bechira could entail Hashem granting him more money. For example, person whose purpose in life is to be Marbitz Torah, but who chooses to become a lawyer, may be very successful so that he is able to fulfill his purpose by supporting institutions which are Marbitz Torah (Rav Dessler’s example, not mine).

    in reply to: Getting bothered by silly childish things #1559244

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    If you prefer sippy cups to straws, you are presumably happy that Starbucks is discontinuing the use of straws.

    I, for one, prefer hot coffee anyway.

    in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1549470

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    DaMoshe,

    It is true that “these people” have a terrible Nisayon. It is true that they require sensitive guidance. It is true that the individual should not be chased away from our community, provided that he has committed to maintaining the standards of Torah. It is true that everybody has difficulty living up to the Torah’s demands, one way or another (more often, it’s actually one way and another). These truths were recognized and discussed by no less “Chareidi” a Rabbi than Rav Elya Svei, approximately twenty years ago.

    It is not true that a group of people wishing to whitewash their inability to overcome a terrible test have license to usurp the institutions of the Torah in order to gut the Torah itself of any meaning. It is not true that an apparently observant man can assume the title of Rabbi in order to sanction the systematic disposal of Torah values.

    The assertion that, “Since I – who am admittedly prone to doing Aveiros – received an Aliya in Shul last week, it is acceptable to support an anti-Shul whose mission statement is the emasculation of the Torah,” is an outrageous perversion of the Torah.

    These distinctions are voiced most cogently by Rav Shamshon Raphael Hirsch ZT”L in his essay “Outrage in Hamburg” (Collected Writings volume IX).

    The notion that it would be acceptable for purposes of Kiruv to take this position would be laughable if it wasn’t so appallingly contrary to the Halacha. Normative Halacha prohibits even inviting irreligious Jews to a Shabbos meal if their attendance would require Chillul Shabbos; how, then, can we condone taking this position, whose raison d’etre is לטהר את השרץ?

    in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1549422

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    It is wrong to be דן לכף זכות in this case. He has said and done things that are plainly אסור. Our fixation with דן לכף זכות has led to a situation where, like שאול המלך, we are מרחם במקום שצריך להתאכזר all too often, at the expense of כבוד שמים.

    This is a repulsive call-to-arms against the Torah, and we should not allow ourselves to be lured into complacency by specious arguments. Of course, nobody is perfect. Even the most egregious Ba’alei Aveira should be encouraged to do Teshuva. This, however, is no mere individual sinner. It is a communal statement of ideology in conflict with the Torah, and must be condemned in the strongest terms.

    ע’ משך חכמה על הפסוק לא אוכל עון ועצרה (כמדומני בהפטרת חזון) משכתב בענין זה

    in reply to: Can following a Chumra become a Chilul Hashem #1547773

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    Rav Yosef’s Psak is not binding on me as an Ashkenazic Jew. I will follow the Psak of the Ashkenazi Gedolim referenced earlier, namely, that Ethiopians should undergo Geirus L’chumrah. The fact that if they are really Jewish they would therefore be Sefaradim would have no bearing on the Psak which I should follow.

    Beis Shamai’s Psak that the child is not a Mamzer would have no relevance for members of Beis Hillel, despite the fact that the child’s family were members of Beis Shamai.

    in reply to: Amudim: Abuse often occurs within your home . #1546490

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    What’s with all the vitriol in the CR recently? I thought this was a place for thoughtful, dispassionate debate, not violent rhetoric.

    [By the way, Yitzchokm, I would ask that you end the moratorium and respond to my posts on the “smoking hurts others” thread, which bring up an angle to that issue not previously touched upon in that discussion, as far as I saw.]

    Amudim is a very highly regarded organization, which is strongly endorsed by many leading Rabbanim. They have a lot of experience dealing with terrible things that have actually occurred. It is possible that the policies they are advocating are slightly over-vigilant, but I don’t think they are extravagantly so, and we are discussing a potential catastrophe, so I think it makes sense to be a little bit extra cautious.

    Quoting the Gemara which says that the Yetzer Hara for Arayos doesn’t apply to close relatives certainly doesn’t change the facts for those people who were actually abused. The reality is that in current times, the Yetzer Hara for Arayos is not necessarily limited in the ways described by Chazal, and this does not refer exclusively to relatives. We can stick our heads in the sand, but that’s the situation.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1544935

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    Now I see that YitzchokM said that he is done with the topic. I sincerely hope this is just rhetoric, since we are supposedly having a rational, dispassionate debate, and, as shown in my previous post, he is absolutely wrong to assume that the question of whether it is permitted to smoke in public depends solely on the issue of whether it is permitted to smoke at all.

    In any case, I’m not sure I agree that “you can’t be a Rodef if it’s Halachicly okay.” After all, the Gemara says clearly that Pinchas was a Rodef, and Zimri would have been within his rights to kill Pinchas, whose actions were most certainly Halachicly okay. A fetus in utero can also be considered a Rodef, despite not having done anything that is not Halachicly okay.

    in reply to: Smoking affects others. #1544932

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    YitzchokM, Although I oppose your position on this topic, I agree that in order for a discussion to be intelligent it must be dispassionate.

    It is true that Rav Moshe stopped just short of outright prohibiting smoking, however…

    This conversation is incomplete without mention of Rav Moshe’s Psak [the same Rav Moshe – this Teshuva is in Choshen Mishpat 2:18] that even if smoking is permitted, the fact that it is damaging, or even bothersome, or simply annoying, to others can not be discounted. He therefore rules that you may not even smoke in your own home if the secondhand smoke will damage, or bother, or even simply annoy, your neighbor.

    in reply to: Clip-on tzitzis #1542153

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    There is such a product, marketed by and for people who have no knowledge of the Halacha. Such ציצית are absolutely פסול because of the rule of תעשה ולא מן העשוי. Suppose you have a garment has three corners, and you attach ציצית to them, and then modify the garment so that it has a fourth corner. שלחן ערוך says clearly that you will need to untie the three ציצית which you had attached prior to the garment having had four corners, and put them on again (משנה ברורה points out that this means they must be completely untied).

    in reply to: Divorce, Regret and Marriage Counselors #1532076

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    MDG, I think you’re referring to a case where the original marriage was without קידושין. If the original marriage was with קידושין, however, she would be אסורה עולמית to the original husband once she was נבעלת לרצון [or even באונס if the first husband was a כהן] whether or not the second union was considered a Halachic marriage.

    in reply to: Divorce, Regret and Marriage Counselors #1532077

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    I wonder if this would be considered מסייע, since they have plenty of opportunity to pursue their chosen course even without CTL’s help.

    in reply to: Selah #1521044

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    Rav Hirsch explains it to mean that the foregoing thought should be held constantly in one’s mind. (Commentary to Tehilim 3, if I’m not mistaken).

    in reply to: Jewish Jobs – Shouldnt Say Female Only Very Many Times #1508944

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    “It is HARD ENOUGH for Frum people to get a job when others may very likely NOT WANT people that need to leave early Every Friday and Erev Yom Tov”

    This is certainly discriminatory (on the basis of religion), and if it can be proven that an applicant was rejected for that reason, that employer will have a big problem on his (or her) hands.

    I would appreciate if one of the Lawyers in Residence here in the CR would inform us laypeople whether the ads to which the OP refers are illegal. Is there anything wrong with wanting to hire, say, only females to preserve the religious acceptability of a workplace environment?

    in reply to: chazaka meiikara #1504602

    catch yourself
    Participant

    “To reiterate, I’m 100% aware that this is a Torah-ordained doctrine. The question is WHY it is so.”

    Of course, we can not truly know the mind of Hashem. Nevertheless, we are free to theorize about the reasons for such things.

    In my last post, I mentioned three of the theories advanced in ספרים.

    in reply to: chazaka meiikara #1504421

    catch yourself
    Participant

    Various theories have been advanced as to why Hashem would choose to conduct the world in such a manner.

    For one, otherwise there would be virtually no such thing as moral freedom (what we call Koach Habechira) – we would be coerced to follow Ratzon Hashem by the clarity of our perception that He is the One Who runs the world (along the lines of what Rav Moshe Feinstein said about the Koach Habechira of Malachim – ע’ דרש משה פרשת בראשית).

    Additionally, a world which operates on a logical system of action-reaction (cause and effect) helps us to understand and internalize the concept of Midah K’neged Midah, so that we can use our experiences as guides in our Avodas Hashem.

    What’s more, as the Pasuk says, מלך במשפט יעמיד ארץ, the king establishes his government on the basis of justice (in somewhat more modern parlance, Law and Order). The fact that the world operates in a perfectly consistent way that is regulated by Laws which can not be violated is an expression of Hashem’s Majesty.

    There is plenty more out there, but these are the three which resonate most strongly for me.

    in reply to: chazaka meiikara #1504423

    catch yourself
    Participant

    Yes, DY, I suppose that’s true.
    Although perhaps the Limud to follow Chazaka is slightly more explicit.

    in reply to: chazaka meiikara #1504416

    catch yourself
    Participant

    √2, I apologize if you were offended. I assumed that you chose that screen name precisely because it is an irrational number. I was just saying that I disagree with the question. Whatever the value of √2 is (and it is obviously in the neighborhood of 1.414), it is an irrational number (like pi, there is no pattern to its decimal sequence).

    The joke portrays a rabbinic leader as having infantile selfishness and vindictiveness. It also implies ever so strongly that non-Jewish life has no value. I was taught that such “jokes” are anathema to the Torah, even when said clearly in jest.

    With all due respect to Avrah, I and others also answered the question, albeit not in so verbose a manner. If you prefer, here is a somewhat more elaborated expression of my response:

    Suppose there were a Pasuk which said, “Hashem said to Moshe, saying: Even as I create all that exists, ex nihilo, at every moment, I generally conduct the world in such a way as to give the impression that there is a continuous existence. I choose to have the world function in a systematic, predictable way, except for such times as when I will conduct extraordinary miracles. You are therefore to conduct yourselves as though the existence of Creation were continuous, despite your realization that it is not.'”

    Would you then still have a question?

    But there is such a Pasuk – it is the one where the Torah instructs us to follow Chazaka.

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