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30 Thousand pounds of bananas
@AviK
I did not say something is wrong with sharing a room, I said we didn’t not want our children to do so. Our parents shared rooms with siblings in NYC apartments. We were raised in houses in CT with our own rooms. We value privacy, quiet time, etc.
Our daughters are nine years apart in age. A 16 year old who goes to bed at 11PM shouldn’t have to worry about disturbing a 5 year old who is asleep at 7PM.
Our 3 sons are 5 years apart. I can’t imagine an 13 year old having to share with a 3 year old if the family can afford separate rooms.
It’s all about choices and parenting styles. I would not go into debt to avoid kids sharing rooms.@Meno
Yes, bathrooms.
Personal hygiene is strictly a private matter. B”H none of us has to feel rushed to bathe, do hair, use the facilities in order to get out of the house in time for school or work.
I love a long soak in the Jacuzzi tub, but wouldn’t want that to keep someone else out of the bathroom.This may surprise you, but Mrs. CTL and I have separate bathrooms (as did my parents). This has been particularly important while she has been so ill these past three years. For example, her soaking tub has a battery operated chair to assist her getting in and out. Her commode is extra tall for ease of use and her shower room is made to wheel in and out with a wheelchair when it was needed.
@AviK
Is it a problem if one builds a house CHUL when he already has a large home in EY?
My eldest sister and BIL spent the winter in our house in EY.
I built that house in 1984, we bought our current US home in 1988.
We had hoped to retire there someday, but I’m still workingThank you ZahavasDad
I have posted here for years that I could not afford a nice three bedroom apartment in NYC for what my house costs me in CT.@lakewhut
Who determines need?
Our home is 17 rooms.
It was only 8 when we bought it, but expanded over the decades,
We never wanted our children to share bedrooms or bathrooms
Both Mrs. CTL and I have professional offices in the home
All our grandchildren spend the summer with us, all our family spends Pesach with us.
Most important: we paid as we expanded, no borrowing. Much of the work done by us:carpentry, sheet rock, basic electrical, painting.
In our town, our home is large, but there are quite a few bigger. We only have a 2 car garage, more than 1000 houses have 3 car garages or bigger.SO>what constitutes a mansion by you? I think brick or stone construction, slate roof, walled property with gated entry, servants quarters in the gatehouse or over the garage.
I don’t consider the 12 room vinyl side McMansions of the 2005-2008 era as mansions, just noveau riche oversized homes lacking individuality@1
Green meat is bad for you physically@Balance
The word is denIgrate, not denegrate.My post was tongue in cheek, which is all you will have left after loosing your teeth trying to chew overcooked well done steak.
If you want well done beef, make pot roast, or brisket or cholent or beef stew or other gedemte fleisch, not a good steak,Fly Southwest, they have open seating, avoid the problem
@redleg
” a teak remains a steak whether it’s rare or well done. No transformation occurs.”I don’t agree. A fine piece of beef steak that is allowed to be cooked until well done has become a piece of shoe leather, and just as tough, A transformation some edible deliciousness to something not fit for a dog has occurred.
Thank you Millhouse…………
The supposed Rebbetzin has no clue how things work in the real world,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Rabbis bundle orders to sell chometz and have done so for many yearsSHE????????????????? avoided answering why her husband doesn’t handle selling the family’s chometz. The wife woulkd not be doing this in most frum families. WHY?????????????
The Rebbitzen is a troll, a fake and most likely a manI have decided that I shall no longer waste time reading or responding to her/his posts
@Rebitzen
“Which is why I personally appoint more than one Rov to sell my chometz – just in case.”#1 why isn’t your husband the Rabbi selling the family chometz?
#2 Why would you put multiple rabbis in the position of committing fraud????????????????
Once the first rabbi sells your chometz, the other rabbis are selling something for which their agency is not valid, because the chometz has already been bought by a goy. They could go to jail if the 2nd, 3rd , =4th Goy, etc. demanded delivery of the chometz already sold by Rabbi #1 to Goy #1What has happened over the generation is not germane today. In this internet world the local rabbi appoints agents to bundle and sell all the chometz entrusted to him by a set time and date. Often it is a Vaad or other rabbinical agency that has a number of people who can complete the sale, even if ione person is not ablke to do so.
My BIL, was a shul Rav. 25 years ago this Pesach he had an unscheduled kidney transplant. He had contracted with the Vaad Ha Ir to sell all chometz for which he was an agent. The Vaad bundled his contracts with all the other shul Rabbis’ contracts in the city and made the sale. If the head Rabbi was ill, one of the others would have completed the transaction.
This is no difference than if I have to make a motions appearance in court on Monday, but I am on trial, one of the other attorneys in my office attends the motions calendar hearing in my stead, the client doesn’t go unrepresented
@Rebitzen
You may think you asked me a question, but you did not.
Your post was not addressed to me
I chose to ignore your hypothetical narishkeit@Joseph
You have no idea if the material redacted was minor (as you claim) or major BECAUSE none of us has been able to read the redacted material!You have no idea if each and every redaction was required by law to protect grand jury testimony. Some redactions made have been in the name of “national security” whatever that means……………..
I would love to read the actual report in full, but doubt I’ll still be alive in 100 years when it gets released.
Meanwhile, I look forward to the actions in the SDNY US attorney’s office, as well as the NYS AG’s actions against the Trump family. POTUS has no pardon power over state convictions.
@nishdayngesheft
“Lawyers charge in 6 minute increments. I believe that lawyers cannot charge at hour minimums.”NO, some lawyers may charge in 6 minute increments.
We (Law Offices of CTL) bill in quarter hour increments. 68 minutes is billed as 1.25 hours, 67 minutes is billed as 1.0 hour. Lawyers are free to set minimums, but it must be spelled out in the letter of engagement that every client signs.These rules may vary by jurisdiction, but hold in the 4 states where I am licensed.
I would not bear the expense of taking in a new client: initial interview, determination that there is no conflict of interest with the firm and/or clients, signing a representation/retainer agreement, printing and filing the paperwork, invoice and payment handling for less than an hour’s billing. However, if an existing client called and said I’m renting property X to a new tenant, please issue a lease for signature with the following information on it….I’d have a paralegal do it on existing templates at a charge of 1/4 hour.
@Gadolhadorah
” Most good contract and transactional lawyer charge at least $500-$700 hour so that should be a good starting point.”
No they don’t. That would be very good or exceptional transactional lawyers.
The type of contract for a simple sale and then buyback would be spit out of software by a paralegal or legal secretary billed at $200 per hour or less.The Rav is not negotiating for you when he comes to pre-Pesach terms with the non-Jew. He is negotiating for himself and all others whose chometz will be included in the sale.
Many rabbeim don’t actually do any of this, but simply act as a sub-agent for another who makes the sale.That said, in our shul the amount given to the Rav varies between $18 and $180. This is a holdover from the days when shul rabbis had to supplement their meager salaries with this kind of income (also matzo sales, lulav/esrog, Bar Mitzvah lessons). Today, we pay respectable salaries (100K plus in our area plus house, car and perks) and don’t nickel and dime the congregants.
The shul Rav gets $500
The Chabad Rabbi gets $180
The rest we bake ourselvesIt would be much cheaper to just buy it. But, the baking experience for my grandchildren is very important. Mrs. CTL and I came from the bakery business
Hot dogs and hamburgers off the grill with potato salad and cole slaw on plates. Potato chips as a substitute for buns
I have never bought either of them, I make my own
Crank up the music.
Cleaning is drudgery, it is not supposed to be fun,
Your kids have normal reactions.
Just remind them that they are part of the family and expected to do their share of the work. No work, no eat, no spending money, no use of the car, etc.As long as they don’t charge by weight who cares
#1
Many are laced with nicotine…highly addictive and dangerous to your health
#2
Many have the same chemical in them used to deice airplanes. It can cause major respiratory illness and affect hearing. Youngest Ms. CTL tried these in high school and ended up with serious ear problems.Two of my grandparents went to secular college
My parents went to secular college
All of them lived at home and went by subway
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My siblings and I all went to secular universities and graduate schools
My children all went to secular university and law schools
We all lived with relatives in undergraduate school and in apartments while in graduate school, never in a dorm
All of my generation and my children attended seminary or Yeshiva for a year or two after high school and before university.All of these people remained frum after secular college/university.graduate school
All of us held jobs during our college and grad school years as well……no time for bitul zman with the goyim@anonomousjew
My response was to Whitecar and the Reagan quote about being a former Democrat.
Not one of the people you mentioned left the party and were elected to office as Republicans.I did not make a list with the title you used. Read the thread before posting nonsense and making accusations.
@Whitecar
sorry for the typo….SAY, not day@Whitecar
and did Ronnie day that about wife #1 when he was taking up with Nancy Davis?@Habochur
You are showing your age and inexperience by making blanket statements without having read and digested all the previous posts.I explained that it makes sense for Mrs. CTL to lease her car because it is 100% expensed for business/tax purposes and an owned car would have to be capitalized and not have those benefits. I OTOH, own my car, not driving enough for the lease to be beneficial.
It is not about having the newest car, because B”H we can afford to have a new car every year should we so desire…we don’tSome of us do work.
I last posted at 9:11 this morning while waiting for my 9:15 client to arrive.
I was in court from 11-3 and now am taking some time off to be with Mrs. CTL.There are many threads that lose my interest as they diverge from the OP or the baiting and trolling starts, so I walk away.
BTW…how’s the mailbox holding up?
@Coffee Addict
Leasing doesn’t make sense for everyone, but does for others.
Mrs. CTL leases a car. She uses it for business and takes the entire cost of the leases as an expense against revenue when figuring taxable profit for the year.
If she purchased the car, she would be tying up 50K plus in funds and would have a capital item on her balance sheet and only the limited depreciation would be an expense each year. She gets 100% bumper to bumper maintenance, They come and get the car when it needs service and provide the same model loaner. They give 3 full detailings a year. The only thing she has to pay for is gasoline. And on our policy there is no difference in insurance cost between an owned or leased model.
Right now she is looking at a new vehicle as her lease is up May 1. She had 2007, 2010, 2013 and 2016 editions of the same vehicle but it has been discontinued as of 2018 so she can’t just call her salesman and order the replacement on the phone.I do little driving. My car is 15 years old and has just hit 72,000 miles. For me leasing makes little sense.
Both my daughters drive leased vehicles (take after mom) none of my sons do.@writer
NO, they don’t all charge for everything.
We just returned my Late MIL’s Lincoln as her lease ends this month. All scratches less than 3″ long are not charged for. Normal wear and tear is allowed. After 3 years, no one is expected to return a car in showroom new condition, but stains, holes, rips, tears, gouges, scrapes are not normal wear and tear.Mrs. CTL drives a leased car (her choice, I own). In all the years we have never paid a cent for condition issues when turning the car in, only for being over mileage, once.
All leases are not created equal, as an attorney I caution you to read and understand the lease terms before signing, its not all about the monthly and down payments
@Joseph
Leaving flowers is generally a violation of the rules in most Jewish cemeteries. Carving a sentiment or endearing name is not against the rules.I remember taking the shamash of our heimische shul in New Haven to make the rounds of local cemeteries one August when he was too old to drive. He pointed out the Matzeva of ‘The lady with the baby carriage’ There was an engraving of a baby carriage, and a story in Yiddish about this woman who pushed a baby carriage through the poor Jewish neighborhood each erev Shabbos for decades delivering free food for the poor. She had no husband or children and the Matzeva was paid for and erected by the shul Rav who decided on the engraving.
@Joseph
Our family cemetery in NYC is years old. Many of the stones have Yiddish in addition to Hebrew on them.
My Zaidy’s stone has Zev in Hebrew and Wulf in the Yiddish.@yyoossii
The OP mentioned a Matzeva or footstone. I referred to a footstone. There usually is not an engravable rear side of a footstone. In fact the footstones for my parents’ graves are flat in the ground@a mamin
Slang is a word such as ain’t. A nickname is NOT slang, it is an endearment. In this case as the OP wrote it is the English verbiage which would have the endearing name, not the proper Hebrew inscription.
My father’s stone have the correct Hebrew name, in English it has his given name then a parentheses containing A/K/A XXX…….the name everyone knew him as for more than 90 years.
In the OP’s case the great grandchildren will go and visit the grave for many decades to come and be comforted to see that ‘Bubs’ is buried there. They do not know her by any other name.