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Victorinox makes them in assorted colors. They are commonly called tomato knives, used to cut fruits and for vegetables with soft skin. Retails for $7.
I have them in colors for meat, milk and dairy in both chometz and Pesach kitchens.@Joseph
Bernie would not be my first choice of the 23. But all speculation at this point is a waste of time. I will see how it shakes out before the CT primary and state convention. I will be a delegateAsk me a year from now when we have a list of candidates who are on the primary ballot. Many of them he 23 will have dropped out of the race by then.
I am not committing my time and or dollars to any of the candidates at this point.Avraham,
You are confusing the USDA standard for calling something dairy with the halachic definition of milchige. They are not the same.
Sometimes a product labeled non-dairy will have an OU-D on the label.
The hechsher information is for Jews who care. The non-dairy labeling us for the general population@Rebbetzin
I’m glad I’m officially a Senior CitizenRebbitzen
WRONG AGAINConservative Judaism had its birth in Germany and Hungary in the mid 1800s. Research Rabbi Z Frankel and the Jewish Seminary of Breslau. Take off your American self-reference criteria blinders. Both Refirm Judaism and Conservative Judaism had their births in Germany. LONG before people were driving cars to shul on Shabbos in rural America. Long before people were driving cars anywhere,,,,,,,,
@Neville
Are you living in the 1950s or Apartheid era South Africa?
Colored? That term went out of common speech decades ago.
It wasn’t ‘Orientals’ giving up girls for adoption, it was the Chinese. Only China had the official one child policy.We only went that route after domestic adoption route failed. We still terribly miss the infant Black female we fostered from 4 days old until 16 months when she was taken from us and given to. Black family for adoption.
So many of your assumptions are wrong.
@Rebbetzin
Domestic adoption was not a viable option at the time. CT Dept if Social Services directives at the time called for:
#1 placement of children in same race families if possible
#2 no placement in families that already had 2 or more children
#3 placement in same religion families if possible
#4 no placement in families where both parents were older than 40Thus it was not an option. We had fostered a black female from birth and attempted the adoption and she was removed by DCF when a black family wanted her
So we went the international route
@Joseph
Don’t quote form the OED, you and I both live in the USA, not Britain.
The use of the word changed ion the 20th century and we are not 1/5th of the way through the 21st century, get with the programNice try, but no cigar
I explained Oriental applied to things, not people and gave the example of the rug. Your medicine would be Oriental…correct use of the word
As for your forebears fro Russia, the Pale was in Europe, not Asia. In general Jews did not live west of the Urals, unless banished to Siberia as punishment or in a 25 year conscription in the Tsar’s army. Yes, there were a few exceptions.I have the Russian Imperial passport my paternal side used to come to America. It was issued in what is now Belarus…EUROPE.
The name of the train is ORIENT , no ‘al’ Agatha Christies is long dead, no one cam tell her to change anything!
Your response was pure foolishness (or ignorant) and proved that you are insensitive and uncaring@Joseph
The short reason is that our then only daughter wanted a sister and after 9 years of no additional children, this solved the problem.
More than that is more personal than belongs in the CR@Neville
You are WRONG
The change from Oriental to Asian, didn’t come from white liberals, read the following:
“American English
” American English speakers consider the term “Oriental” to be a pejorative and disparaging term when used to describe a person[1]. John Kuo Wei Tchen, director of the Asian/Pacific/American Studies Program and Institute at New York University, said the basic criticism of the term developed in the U.S. in the 1970s. Tchen has said: “With the U.S.A. anti-war movement in the ’60s and early ’70s, many Asian Americans identified the term ‘Oriental’ with a Western process of racializing Asians as forever opposite ‘others’.”[19] In a 2009 American press release related to legislation aimed at removing the term “oriental” from official documents of the State of New York, Governor David Paterson said: “The word ‘oriental’ does not describe ethnic origin, background or even race; in fact, it has deep and demeaning historical roots”.[20]In 2016, President Barack Obama signed legislation striking the word from federal law.[21]”
President Obama, is mixed race, not white, Director Tchen is not white.
I was asked not to use the term by a Japanese math professor I had in college in 1972.When I use Asian to refer to people I am referring to all East Asian ans Southeast Asian people from many more countries than you list,
When referring to Indo-Paks, Bengladeshis and Ceylonese I use the term Southern Asian, Southwest Asian refers to people from traditional Arab and/or Islamic lands.
Central Asian refers to the ‘real’ Caucasians (those from beyond the Caucasus Mountains in the former USSR and nearby regions@Rebbitzen
#1 Oriental refers to objects NOT people. You have Oriental Rugs, but Asian people.
This is a pet peeve of mine, its use is bigoted and ignorant.
#2 I have posted before that youngest CTL daughter was born and adopted in China (at birth). On the advice of our Rav we adopted a child of another race to avoid all problems of mamzerut later on.
Raised FFB, she always considered herself Jewish first, then American. She never checked race on forms, leaving it blank.She had no problem with shidduchim, and was in high demand. She has a BSRN, a MS in accounting and a JD, admitted to both NY and CT bars and came with high earning potential, no student debt, etc.
Not once was her race raised as an issue or objection to a date, she turned suitors away, Mrs. CTL and I turned golddiggers away. In the end, a female Jewish law professor fixed her up with a frum male law student (he attended yeshiva in Brooklyn before college and law school) and it was a fine match. Both sets of the parents were thrilled with the choice. They both now work in my law firm. Race was not and is not a issue.
@DovidBT
actually, the OP posted “NOT” watching the games………………..
Thus my comment about radio. I follow baseball and listen to the games, I don’t watch themThere is a wonderful invention called radio. I listen to baseball, I don’t watch it.
My Oma was uncomfortable with my Yekke mother marrying my Litvak father for more than 50 years until she died. She referred to Litvaks as peasants from the east.
I would have problems with any of my children or grandchildren (my kids are marrieds) marrying anyone whose ideology opposes the State if Israel.
@AviK
I don’t think any of the three elders you mentioned are like AOC
They have learned how to play the game, she is a newbie making waves and outrageous statements. She doesn’t represent me, only those in her Congressional District.
Feinstein represents only the residents of California
Pelosi has additional power as Speaker of the House and is a pragmatist. She seen an impeachment attempt would be futile and a waste of resources,
Biden, holds no office. I like him very much (having met him numerous times), but would like a younger candidate this coming election. I am very much undecided as to who I’ll support in 2020. I also have not decided if I want to be a delegate to the National Convention, but I’ll be one to my state convention.
I live in a Republican Town when it comes to voting for state and national offices, but the local Republican leaders I know are embarrassed by and do not support Trump. A number of them have intimated they could support a Biden led ticket if the VP choice is not radical@Kluger
With proper fences, locked gates and swimming pool alarms AND PARENTAL SUPERVISION, children should not be able to get into the pool on their own. We have 8 foot high fences (building code only requires 5 feet) that are alarmed. The self closing gates have locks that require a key and a combination, and there are alarms that sound if anything more than 15 pounds enters the water.
When SIL’s FIL was niftar and there was a yerusha, one of the first expenditures was for a swimming pool of their own. In this case the safety concern wasn’t the issue, it was money.@AvraminMD
“you demonstrate that you are intentionally provoking a certain type of response.”
No, I post how I feel and what I believe. My comment is that I find the attacks amusing. It is not limited to the CR.
Jealousy shows its ugly face in many ways.
My eldest brother’s wife comes from modest means. When they were engaged 50 years ago, My late mother asked the future DIL to go pick a sterling silver pattern for Shabbos and Yuntif use. The future machataynester opened her mouth and said: we don’t like silver, who needs something that needs polishing, pick stainless steel. When mom and future DIL got to Fortunoff’s, the young lady made a beeline for the sterling dept, not stainless. She told my mother that she had been trained from birth to say she hated sterling and other expensive things, because her parents could not afford them. She also told my brother she didn’t like diamonds, but when my mother gave me her engagement diamond for Mrs. CTL SIL was seething with jealousy, claimed it belonged to her since I was not the eldest son. My mother told her she blew her chance when she said she didn’t like diamonds. So, when my mother was niftara, her will did not leave a single diamond for this girl…all the other females in the family received the stones that had passed down to my mother.
My wife’s younger sister said she’d never have an in-ground swimming pool, too dangerous for children, but has brought her children to ours from the time they could walk. Just an excuse, they could not afford to have one put in, so they swam by us or my MIL.@lakewhut
You don’t know how it works, you make the false assumption that if more expensive homes are built the value of existing homes will rise and the taxes on the existing homes go up.
I have already explained that a top of the line home can fall in value when much more expensive homes with additional features are built in the same neighborhood.
A rising time doesn’t raise all ships, it sinks some@lakewhut
Your ignorance never ceases to amaze me
AOC is one member of the 435 elected House of Representatives
Warren, Harris and Sanders are 3 of the 100 member Senate
Senator Harris has held elected office since 2004
Senator Warren is nearing 70 years old and is a former Republican.
Senator Sanders is NOT a member of The Democratic party, although he caucuses with them. He joined the party in order to seek the Presidential nomination in 2015-16, but resigned after not getting the nomination and is again a registered Independent in Vermont.Waters is not the future of my party, she is 80 years old and has held elected legislative office since 1976 (43 years)
I don’t think the future of the party is 70 and 80 year old membersThe first term Representatives, may be the future, or may be an anomaly. Let’s see if they are reelected and gain power through seniority.
I was a delegate to the 2016 convention and these were not players@AviK
You are full of misbelief“Democrats like AOC would take away CTL’s house and give it to seventeen illegal immigrant families.”
Communists take away personal property, Socialists tax it to provide for the populace.The Congresswoman is but one of 435, has no seniority and you ascribe her far too much power and influence.
@1
Try 50,000 residentsYour ignorance is amazing, after you study land use, real estate and local government, then you can make intelligent and accurate statements. Right now you pull inaccuracies out of the air and post lies as truth.
@klugeryid
I was wondering how long it would take for someone to pick on the reference to a Harry Chapin folk song form the 1970s.
It’s about a truck driver with a load of 30,000 pounds of Bananas who loses his brakes while coming down hill entering Scranton, PA.For those who have driven the interstate to Scranton, as I have done a number of times, it is in a valley with a long and steep descent to enter
@1
Wrong again.
If I build a large and expensive home, my neighbors’ taxes do not rise.
Property tax mill rates are set for the municipality and applied based on government formula for assessed/market value.
The value of the other homes does not increase because a more expensive home is built on the block. In fact the market value/assessed value of what was once the premier house on the block may fall, leading to lower taxes.
Example:
There are 8 building lots on a street. 4 houses exist, all 4 bedroom 3 bath, 9 room colonials on 1 acre lots with 2 car garages, central air. Market value $550,000 each. 4 New Mcmansions are built on the remaining lots: 6 Bedrooms, 5 baths 12 rooms,3 car garages, central air, granite kitchens, built in swimming pools, They sell immediately at $925,000 each.
The existing houses will see their market value fall 10% because they don’t have the features of the new larger homes on the block, Their taxes will also fall.I spent many years in Town Government, including 4 years on the Board of Assessment Appeals Newer, bigger and better can drive down the prices of existing housing stock and then their taxes fall as well.
It’s always fun to watch those who don’t have or can’t afford, make fun or find fault with those who have or can afford.
As long as those who have pay for things themselves and are not partaking of community charity/resources (such as tuition assistance for their children) it is no one else’s business.@lakwhut
Mrs. CTL is an accomplished designer/builder/realtor
She does want to call attention to her designs and work. Our home is part of her portfolio.
The main part of our home was built in 1803. The extensions and additions she designed and we built are used to show what people can do to expand historic homes in our quaint New England Community in a harmonious fashion. She has won awards for her work. Better a Mrs. CTL remodel/addition to a 200 year old home than a teardown and a cookie cutter vinyl clad McMansion in its place,@AviK
I agree that children should learn to be considerate of others, but that doesn’t mean they have to share bedrooms. Our teenagers would have never played music aloud or held telephone conversations in the bedroom areas after the younger children had been put to bed.
Much of what you describe is applicable and necessary to apartment living or when houses are built so close as in sections of Brooklyn that you can almost reach across the property lines from one kitchen into the house next door. Consideration is different when you live in single family homes on acre plus lots in small towns.
You and your brother were/are only three years apart and living together would be far easier than for our girls 9 years apart. I’m 8 years younger than my next older brother, Mrs. CTL is 15 years older than her younger sister (with no boys in between). Sharing rooms in this situation with no economic need makes little sense.
BTW, when I was a child and went to visit my grandparents in Brooklyn or the Bronx, we were instructed to remove our shoes at the apartment door and don soft soled bedroom slippers so we’d not disturb the tenants in the apartments below. We only played quite board games in the apartments and went to the park if we wanted to be loud.
Here in the country, we have no neighbors in the building. The house on one side of us in 250 feet away, the house on the other side we built for my late MIL and my youngest daughter and her husband live there now with our youngest grandchild. Our kids didn’t have to go to the park to run, jump and make noise. We have several acres of fenced yard with sports and swimming pool. That said we know sound carries and they always had to be inside by 8 PM, unless it was an organized Motzei Shabbos party on the grounds.
It is just a different lifestyle when you don’t live in a congested area.30 Thousand pounds of bananas
@AviK
I did not say something is wrong with sharing a room, I said we didn’t not want our children to do so. Our parents shared rooms with siblings in NYC apartments. We were raised in houses in CT with our own rooms. We value privacy, quiet time, etc.
Our daughters are nine years apart in age. A 16 year old who goes to bed at 11PM shouldn’t have to worry about disturbing a 5 year old who is asleep at 7PM.
Our 3 sons are 5 years apart. I can’t imagine an 13 year old having to share with a 3 year old if the family can afford separate rooms.
It’s all about choices and parenting styles. I would not go into debt to avoid kids sharing rooms.@Meno
Yes, bathrooms.
Personal hygiene is strictly a private matter. B”H none of us has to feel rushed to bathe, do hair, use the facilities in order to get out of the house in time for school or work.
I love a long soak in the Jacuzzi tub, but wouldn’t want that to keep someone else out of the bathroom.This may surprise you, but Mrs. CTL and I have separate bathrooms (as did my parents). This has been particularly important while she has been so ill these past three years. For example, her soaking tub has a battery operated chair to assist her getting in and out. Her commode is extra tall for ease of use and her shower room is made to wheel in and out with a wheelchair when it was needed.
@AviK
Is it a problem if one builds a house CHUL when he already has a large home in EY?
My eldest sister and BIL spent the winter in our house in EY.
I built that house in 1984, we bought our current US home in 1988.
We had hoped to retire there someday, but I’m still workingThank you ZahavasDad
I have posted here for years that I could not afford a nice three bedroom apartment in NYC for what my house costs me in CT.@lakewhut
Who determines need?
Our home is 17 rooms.
It was only 8 when we bought it, but expanded over the decades,
We never wanted our children to share bedrooms or bathrooms
Both Mrs. CTL and I have professional offices in the home
All our grandchildren spend the summer with us, all our family spends Pesach with us.
Most important: we paid as we expanded, no borrowing. Much of the work done by us:carpentry, sheet rock, basic electrical, painting.
In our town, our home is large, but there are quite a few bigger. We only have a 2 car garage, more than 1000 houses have 3 car garages or bigger.SO>what constitutes a mansion by you? I think brick or stone construction, slate roof, walled property with gated entry, servants quarters in the gatehouse or over the garage.
I don’t consider the 12 room vinyl side McMansions of the 2005-2008 era as mansions, just noveau riche oversized homes lacking individuality@1
Green meat is bad for you physically@Balance
The word is denIgrate, not denegrate.My post was tongue in cheek, which is all you will have left after loosing your teeth trying to chew overcooked well done steak.
If you want well done beef, make pot roast, or brisket or cholent or beef stew or other gedemte fleisch, not a good steak,Fly Southwest, they have open seating, avoid the problem
@redleg
” a teak remains a steak whether it’s rare or well done. No transformation occurs.”I don’t agree. A fine piece of beef steak that is allowed to be cooked until well done has become a piece of shoe leather, and just as tough, A transformation some edible deliciousness to something not fit for a dog has occurred.
Thank you Millhouse…………
The supposed Rebbetzin has no clue how things work in the real world,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Rabbis bundle orders to sell chometz and have done so for many yearsSHE????????????????? avoided answering why her husband doesn’t handle selling the family’s chometz. The wife woulkd not be doing this in most frum families. WHY?????????????
The Rebbitzen is a troll, a fake and most likely a manI have decided that I shall no longer waste time reading or responding to her/his posts
@Rebitzen
“Which is why I personally appoint more than one Rov to sell my chometz – just in case.”#1 why isn’t your husband the Rabbi selling the family chometz?
#2 Why would you put multiple rabbis in the position of committing fraud????????????????
Once the first rabbi sells your chometz, the other rabbis are selling something for which their agency is not valid, because the chometz has already been bought by a goy. They could go to jail if the 2nd, 3rd , =4th Goy, etc. demanded delivery of the chometz already sold by Rabbi #1 to Goy #1What has happened over the generation is not germane today. In this internet world the local rabbi appoints agents to bundle and sell all the chometz entrusted to him by a set time and date. Often it is a Vaad or other rabbinical agency that has a number of people who can complete the sale, even if ione person is not ablke to do so.
My BIL, was a shul Rav. 25 years ago this Pesach he had an unscheduled kidney transplant. He had contracted with the Vaad Ha Ir to sell all chometz for which he was an agent. The Vaad bundled his contracts with all the other shul Rabbis’ contracts in the city and made the sale. If the head Rabbi was ill, one of the others would have completed the transaction.
This is no difference than if I have to make a motions appearance in court on Monday, but I am on trial, one of the other attorneys in my office attends the motions calendar hearing in my stead, the client doesn’t go unrepresented
@Rebitzen
You may think you asked me a question, but you did not.
Your post was not addressed to me
I chose to ignore your hypothetical narishkeit@Joseph
You have no idea if the material redacted was minor (as you claim) or major BECAUSE none of us has been able to read the redacted material!You have no idea if each and every redaction was required by law to protect grand jury testimony. Some redactions made have been in the name of “national security” whatever that means……………..
I would love to read the actual report in full, but doubt I’ll still be alive in 100 years when it gets released.
Meanwhile, I look forward to the actions in the SDNY US attorney’s office, as well as the NYS AG’s actions against the Trump family. POTUS has no pardon power over state convictions.
@nishdayngesheft
“Lawyers charge in 6 minute increments. I believe that lawyers cannot charge at hour minimums.”NO, some lawyers may charge in 6 minute increments.
We (Law Offices of CTL) bill in quarter hour increments. 68 minutes is billed as 1.25 hours, 67 minutes is billed as 1.0 hour. Lawyers are free to set minimums, but it must be spelled out in the letter of engagement that every client signs.These rules may vary by jurisdiction, but hold in the 4 states where I am licensed.
I would not bear the expense of taking in a new client: initial interview, determination that there is no conflict of interest with the firm and/or clients, signing a representation/retainer agreement, printing and filing the paperwork, invoice and payment handling for less than an hour’s billing. However, if an existing client called and said I’m renting property X to a new tenant, please issue a lease for signature with the following information on it….I’d have a paralegal do it on existing templates at a charge of 1/4 hour.
@Gadolhadorah
” Most good contract and transactional lawyer charge at least $500-$700 hour so that should be a good starting point.”
No they don’t. That would be very good or exceptional transactional lawyers.
The type of contract for a simple sale and then buyback would be spit out of software by a paralegal or legal secretary billed at $200 per hour or less.The Rav is not negotiating for you when he comes to pre-Pesach terms with the non-Jew. He is negotiating for himself and all others whose chometz will be included in the sale.
Many rabbeim don’t actually do any of this, but simply act as a sub-agent for another who makes the sale.That said, in our shul the amount given to the Rav varies between $18 and $180. This is a holdover from the days when shul rabbis had to supplement their meager salaries with this kind of income (also matzo sales, lulav/esrog, Bar Mitzvah lessons). Today, we pay respectable salaries (100K plus in our area plus house, car and perks) and don’t nickel and dime the congregants.
The shul Rav gets $500
The Chabad Rabbi gets $180
The rest we bake ourselvesIt would be much cheaper to just buy it. But, the baking experience for my grandchildren is very important. Mrs. CTL and I came from the bakery business
Hot dogs and hamburgers off the grill with potato salad and cole slaw on plates. Potato chips as a substitute for buns
I have never bought either of them, I make my own
Crank up the music.
Cleaning is drudgery, it is not supposed to be fun,
Your kids have normal reactions.
Just remind them that they are part of the family and expected to do their share of the work. No work, no eat, no spending money, no use of the car, etc.As long as they don’t charge by weight who cares