Ex-CTLawyer

@lakern
Then I’m glad my 215 year old home is far from the largest and most fancy and most expensive in my town.

@Takes2
Christians are NOT victioms of Anti Semitism, they may be victims of Hate crime

@JNN
Most anti-semites I’ve encountered in 60+ years in the USA do not base their anti-semitism on antic of Israel. It is about being jealous of how well Jews have done in America. They want our money, belongings and perceived power. Their evengelical churches are pro-Israel and teach hatred of Jews in America.

The Pittsburgh Shooter was after Jews and the Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society who settles and aids non Jewish immigrants in America. He didn’t go after JNF or organizations aiding Israel.

You place far too much importance on Israel in the hateful minds of American White Trash

What Joseph doesn’t want anyone to know is that in addition to hosting his daughter for the summer, he has stashed his in-laws for elder-care in our ‘rest home’ in the country. Those are the antiques he refers to.

and….
The 13th Amendment prohibited the sale of humans in the USA, human remains are merely chattel and may be sold, thus the reference to an auction sale.

@Joseph
Since your daughter lives here all summer, we have few secrets

@DovidBT
Yes a mailed thank you not is required. Make sure your full return address is on the envelope.
This accomplishes a number of things:
#1 It hows your good breeding and manners
#2 The host/hostess may file these away (my mother, MIL and wife always did/do) and they actually record remarks such as who was there, what was served and about the guest.
These files are used both for inviting for a return visit and more importantly in the Jewish mothers matchmaker service.
#3 Sometimes only one of the couple is there when you leave and receives the oral thanks, this way both know you appreciated being hosted.

@Ubiquitin
Actually it would apply to having been hosted for Shabbos in a 3 room illegal basement apartment in Boro Park as well.

This is the Yekke side of my parentage speaking.
I’m 5th generation American. My parents Z”L were married 65 years when my father died. I only heard them have a verbal altercation once…my mother called my father a ‘peasant from the east’

@ytvalumNUS
Not everything that involves race is hateful.
In fact using the term racist to refer to Jews is not accurate, Jews are NOT a race, there are Caucasian, Asian, Black Jews that I know. Jews are a people, were once a nation and adhere in different degrees to a religion.

Claiming Supremacy is generally hateful speech. Show it in your actions, not in your words.

Uncle Ben
Joseph did NOT write ‘spiritual’ degeneration! He said the goyim have degenerated. That is spewing hate. I know many ‘spiritual’
My small town of about 35,000 has more than 12 churches (in addition to shuls and Chabad) 5 parochial schools, 2 Catholic High Schools, an Evangelical K-12 school, a Bishopric and seminary. It is mostly single family homes, most people know or recognize each other and boys still come to the parents house to pick up girl for a date.
People recognize each other’s cars (all of ours have vanity plates) and a young person driving or acting irresponsibly will elicit a call to the parents or a balling out by neighbors. It is common for families to be third or fourth generation to live here and for couples to have been childhood schoolmates to marry in their 20s or early 30s after college and starting a career.
Just as the Hareidi community is growing, so too is the observant Xtian community….albeit not in the large sinful cities such as NY.

There are some real misconceptions about the goyische world and dating expressed in this thread.
Since I live in small town CT I have observed much of what goes on in both goyische and not frum situations,

#1 Most single frum girls live at home until married. Thus the boy is expected to come to the house meet the parents and get parental approval before the girl goes out the door.

#2 In the non-frum and goyische world girls marry later and are generally living on their own before dating for marriage. No need for the boy to come to the home and get parental approval to go out.

#3 Non-frum and high school girls date in High School (or Junior High) for fun, not marriage. These girls live at home. The boys do come to the house and are subjected to the parents before the girls go out. I have seen neighbors inspecting not only the boy, but his vehicle…is it safe enough to transport their precious daughter?

Two of my daughters were either living at home or with a relative while in college when dating. The boys all had to come to the house and pass muster with Mrs. CTL and myself or my Sister In Law and her husband. The third daughter was introduced to her chasson by a law school professor. Both young people were living in graduate housing at the university. Neither kept a car in the city while in school. They would meet at the law library and go out from there. Neither would have permitted the other in their apartment while single. They had met in class, and the professor who suggested the shidduch was known to me and contacted me in advance for permission. I trusted the professor’s judgment. It was right, they dated, married, both are in my law practice and they have given us a grandson this year.

@AviK
ADAs get in house training to be prosecuting trial attorneys. They are expected to have a working knowledge of criminal law, and research specifics when needed.

Law schools do not teach students how to be trial attorneys. That is something learned under the tutelage of experienced mentors after passing the bar and beginning work.
Most attorneys never do trial work. The English system has two classes of attorneys: solicitors who do most work and Barristers who do trial work.
I don’t do criminal work as a rule. Anything more than an initial; appearance I help my client find an appropriate attorney who is skilled in the specific area of the law. A DUI lawyer is different form a white collar crime defense attorney.
This doesn’t mean I couldn’t research the law and defend a client if I had to. Sometimes you can’t get out of a pro bono assignment from the court

I am amazed at the vitriol being slung and the lack of knowledge in these posts.

#1 Just because a judge had a civil practice as an attorney doesn’t mean she doesn’t know criminal law. The Bar exam tests criminal law and she passed.
#2 The prosecutor is not a Judicial Branch employee, they ask for high bail. That is a request, it is NOT a bail recommendation. Some courts have employees who examine the defendant’s record and make recommendations to the judge.
#3 Not only does the judge have to answer to the voters, come re-election time (I think electing judges is absurd, we don’t do it in CT except for Probate), the judge has to answer to the chief judge in her district. The Chief judge may have set guidelines for bail amounts or even sent a message regarding this case. Too much variance from the wishes of the Chief Judge can lead to sanctions.

Judicial Discretion is limited by her superiors

@1
Please stop lying. I dare you to show where ion the Democrat national party platform it calls for taking away all guns. It doesn’t
I m a Democrat, active in politics, serve on town and state committee and have been a national delegate 5 times. I take our platform very seriously, have helped to write 2 in the past.
I resent when someone such as yourself lies about the official party position.

Gun control laws are not gun elimination laws. I would not fire a gun, it doesn’t interest me. That doesn’t men I oppose responsible adults with proper training and vetting having gun permits.

@Joseph
Short answer, yes
I have lived through good and bad times.
In the 1950s, my father made more than $50,000 per year when a family was middle class if the income was $5000. In 1962, his business partners put the business into bankruptcy while he and my mother were on an extended business trip abroad.
The family survived on the $4,200 per year my mother made as a public school teacher, while he rebuilt his business. We lived in a house that cost $16,000 new in 1954 and the monthly mortgage payment was $75 including taxes. We ate lots of pasta and rice and chicken on Shabbos and yuntif. I wore hand me down clothes from my eldest brother. I had a great childhood.
My father rebuilt his business, paid all our past and current education expenses and we all made something of ourselves.
In the 1990 recession of G HW Bush, I lost millions of dollars of investment property to foreclosure. I tightened my belt and we went on with life.
I am not wanting material things. My car is 14 years old and works fine, I don’t get a new one because I don’t need it. My children are educated and capable of supporting themselves and their children, they don’t need our support.
In down times I appreciate what I have and enjoy the memories of experiences past without jealousy or longing for more stuff and money.

CR readers know that Mrs. CTL has had terrible health issues for the past 2 and 1/2 years. I’d gladly trade the CTL compound and material things for a 2 room trailer if in turn her health was restored.
After all…it’s all just stuff.

@Takes2-2tango

Your post was approved the same time as mine.
There is a choice, non-smart phones are still marketed in the USA.
In addition to Jitterbug, Consumers Cellular has a basic flip phone and you can get a plan with no internet access.
The Jitterbug is a better phone, Mrs. CTL tried both

@RebYidd23
Reasons it makes sense:
#1 Feel Good legislation. You’ll vote to reelect the legislator, but he’ll still get gun money support
#2 Gun control legislation has to be passed incrementally, one small restriction/requirement at a time. A true control bill with teeth won’t pass
#3 It allows for conviction of a criminal on some charges even when the main case fails. Can’t convict on the armed robbery and get bad guy off the street? Get him for possession of the illegal/unregistered/un-permitted gun and get him off the street.

There is a method to the madness

@Philosopher
I don’t know how long your family has been in its current country and what heirlooms (Jewelry, silver, etc) have passed down in the family.
My family arrived in the USA in the 1860s and early 1870s and has accumulated a century and a half of heirlooms.
The concept of being the safe-keeper of these heirlooms and the duty to pass them on to future generations has been instilled in us from early childhood.
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My eldest DIL has my paternal grandmother’s engagement diamond. The setting and side stones were designed and made for DIL. She has my maternal great-grandmother’s Pearls.
My eldest SIL proudly wears my Maternal Grandfather’s gold watch. My daughter have it to him when the got engaged. He has promised it to his eldest granddaughter to give to her Chasan when the time arrives in the future.
This is not to say that we do not also buy new jewelry as gifts in the family, but the heirlooms and family continuity have special meaning.
When I married Mrs. CTL….she was given a choice of 4 engagement stones that had been in the family for 4 generations. She chose a stone that had been worn by my great grandmother who had the same first name as Mrs. CTL.
I’ve had the pleasure of buying her much jewelry over our almost 45 years of marriage and she looks forward to passing it on to our children, grandchildren, etc.

I no longer hold elected office, I retired last year, but am on our Town’s Police Commission. Standard protocol is for officers to wear gloves when handcuffing someone. This way if the handcuffs scratch or draw blood, the officer is not exposed to additional health risks.

@Joseph

Who is THEY? you refer to…….
As of the 1990s most travel guides for tourists coming to NY listed 20% as the expected or common tip percentage.
It wasn’t about being greedy, but providing servers with a living wage.
In 2018 any 16 year old working at McDonald’s here in CT starts at state minimum wage of $10.10 hour, but a 45 year old server with 25 years experience is legally only paid the server’s minimum wage rate of $6.38 and is expected to earn the difference through tips.
In NY, that kid at McDs gets $7.50/hr minimum wage and the experienced server is paid $4.00 plus tips.
That’s ludicrous.
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If you and Mrs. J go into a sit down restaurant for lunch and the bill is $60 before tax. A $12 tip is appropriate. The server will be expected to tip out $3 to other personnel on your check. The $9 for serving you for an hour is not much. Remember for much of the shift, it is not lunch time and business and tip income may be lower.

I support a $15 minimum wage bill (coming in CT) and no tipping

In the USA tipping is expected. The IRS will affix a minimum 8% tip level to server’s income if it feels tips are under-reported. Servers in restaurants have to tip out set percentages to bartenders, hostesses and busboys. So, if you stiff the server, he/she may still have to take 5% of the checks for the shift out of his.her pocket and pay the other workers. Then he/she may get a tax bill for that income not made.

15% went away in the 1980s. 20-25% of the pre tax bill is a proper tip in 2018. If you cannot afford to tip, go to a joint without table service, you don’t have to stay home. BUT, if you have service pay for it.

Similarly, push your state legislators to raise servers’ minimum wage to the same as everyone else and get rid of tipping altogether.

No savings and they can’t do it all.
Need a R/T Bus class to southern France in about 40 days. They could not find or Book Delta (who had the best times and shortest layover in Paris. They offered other longer flights on multiple airlines for $500 more than booking on Delta’s website.

I learned decades ago to avoid businesses or items with a do all claim.
The English idiom is Jack of all trades, Master of none.
In the clothing business, when you see an item advertised as ‘one size fits all’ it doesn’t, maybe most, but not all.

If you are constructing your sukkah and then putting it into its final position, you are not using what is already made, you are merely finishing the construction project. The placement of the sukkah with the schach on it is still in the construction phase, no different from assembling walls and then lifting upright into position before nailing them to the floor.
If you truly couldn’t use what is already made, you would not be able to buy finished dimensional lumber such as 2x4s or sheets of plywood to build the sukkah, you’d have to cut down trees and hew your own boards

@Joseph

Nice try, maybe a newcomer would fall for your question. I would never post titles that could give away my identity.

@Dovid BT
Yes I have met many famous secular world musicians.
Leonard Bernstein and Stephen Sondheim
Paul McCartney
Not John Lennon, but yes Yoko Ono
Itzhak Perlman
Andrea Bocelli
Paul Simon
Art Garfunkel
Peter, Paul and Mary
I first met Elton John in 1974, his American manager’s daughter went to college with me and I was invited to her parents house to meet him. I shall be seeing him Motzei Yom Kippur in Hartford at a private reception following his concert as the guest of the same no longer young lady who first introduced me to him 44 yeasr ago.
Pete Seeger
Odetta
Ronnie Gilbert
Joan Baez
Theodore Bikel
Zero Mostel
ALL FIVE Marx Brothers….Chico and Harpo were accomplished musicians.

@Whitecar

No I am not Dershowitz

My family has been active in Democrat Party Politics since 1932.
I have held local elected office.
I have been a delegate to CT State and the National Dem Conventions.
I’ve known dozens of Congress members and Senators over the years.
In July 1976 when my father was sitting shiva for his mother in our New Haven home, the Mayor, Governor, both US Senators and 4 of our 6 members of Congress made shiva calls.

BTW>>>>I have met Atty. Dershowitz but his politics have drifted too far right for me.

I am a liberal which is not typical in the CR, but that doesn’t mean I am not frum, just don’t want to bind others with my beliefs. I am against school vouchers and carter schools. Tax dollars should only be spent in the public schools. You want private, raise your own funds…I did

@Yehudayona
I consider met as being introduced to, exchanging words/small talk and possibly shaking hands.
I was presented to HRH Prince Phillip and HRH Queen Elizabeth II, exchanged about 15 words of pleasantry, but they do not shake hands.
I have shaken hands with all the Presidents I listed. I met Golda Meir at a dinner in a private home in Ramat HaSharon in 1971. She spent most of the evening talking with my mother about about teaching aqdolescents,

I don’t consider seeing or just being in the same large arena as meeting someone.