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March 11, 2019 12:06 pm at 12:06 pm in reply to: In the Purim Spirit: Women are required to Ad dlo yada 😂🤣😂🤣 #1692700
This is actually a very valid question that the thread starter asked. I have searched for this answer for years and haven’t been pleased with the findings. There are poskim who require women to drink a cup/some wine but unfortunately all seforim that I’ve seen either don’t bring up the issue, or rarely just explain that it isnt tsnius for women to get drunk (based on a gemara but dont remember where off hand).
But an even better question was triggered by your second post on this thread, about scotch. its actually fascinating to read the arguments throughout various seforim about whether one is yotse the mitsva with non-wine alcohols. Some say the Nes happened with wine, so its davka wine, others say as long as your ad delo yada it doesnt matter which liquor got you there…
a question ive had is whether or not you can be yotse with Brandy according to all opinions since its made out of fermented grapes just like wine is.
Correct, I don’t think I got it.
was it a joke that I mistakenly took seriously?
I completely respect RebYidd as a human being but this I think this was such a stupid comment:
“Why should there be photos of males or females online? A human being should not be reduced to his or her visual appearance.”
its just a photo….no one is reducing you to your visual appearance….hahaha
Also, I find it interesting that about half of the readership of this website (which I am a grateful fan of) seems to consistently itch and moan about how YWN isn’t frum enough for them….its hilarious actually. I’ve only been reading for about 3 years but it is apparent on almost any post that that involves women, the IDF, secular/american news, zionism, satmar, har habayis, etc. I enjoy it and it is entertaining. To the hundreds of complainers that still read this I think it is so ironic that you do.
what an idiotic thread lol. im loving it.February 26, 2019 9:51 am at 9:51 am in reply to: A Solution: Finding Shidduchim (aka “Shidduch Crisis”) #1685397
And I am well aware that a Beis Din can force a person to get married, its in shulchan aruch, but that doesn’t mean that person can find a suitable partner.
Also, if a person isn’t married it does not mean anything is wrong with them. and if they aren’t emotionally capable of handling a relationship yet then perhaps they need time. I know people that are lucky if they are able to get out of bed in the morning (I know that might be an extreme example, but it is true), they certainly are not able to think about raising a family, regardless of how old they might be. There are many cheshbonos why a person might choose to delay getting married. They are not evil for doing so.February 26, 2019 9:51 am at 9:51 am in reply to: A Solution: Finding Shidduchim (aka “Shidduch Crisis”) #1685393
I meant no harm by my statement and I do not take it back. God decides if a person gets married. We do hishtadlus. If a person does not get married then that is what shamayim wants. Just like illness. We do as much hishtadlus as we can to heal a person. but if it doesn’t work after all we’ve tried then it is min hashamayim that it is supposed to be that way. It is sad and certainly not easy. But it’s true.
There actually is a small community in South DakotaFebruary 25, 2019 3:09 pm at 3:09 pm in reply to: A Solution: Finding Shidduchim (aka “Shidduch Crisis”) #1685080
This idea is absolutely ridiculous. So is not letting kids go to school until all kids find a school. There could be literally hundreds of kids without school just because of one kid? and fifty girls in a grade in school cant get married because one girl cant find the right guy? so ridiculous.
I want to offer a perspective that everyone might not agree with: not everyone can get married at 20. Some people will get married at 30. Some at 40. I just had an uncle get married at 50. Some people may never get married. And that’s okay. If you want to get married then try to get married. If Hashem wants it to happen it will happen. if not then not. You dont need a spouse to be a righteous person. You don’t necesarily need anyone other than yourself to complete your tafkid in life. I dont think there is a shiduch crisis. I think the current situation was meant to be. I think we need to do lots of hishtadlus in making shiduchim. but some people may get married late or never. thats just how it is. and if you get married early mazal tov thats great. (though that can come with some cons of its own, so not always better, depends on the person).
why would you want 39 copies of Malachi? 🙂
I think a small set of Mishneh Torah (Rambam) or Mishna Berura are great things to have which you could use for your whole life.
hahahahah omg i love everyones humor
Alright so here is my experience:
When I got married and had to leave yeshiva/kollel very soon after (since no one was supporting us) I soon fell into a deep depression. I felt that all my lifes goals were ruined. And that depression probably lasted over a year and did serious damage to my marriage/yidishkeit/life in general. Now I don’t feel saddened and worthless because im not learning full time. I used to though. I think it was because I used to think a life of full time learning was the only way to be a good jew. I thought i was a failure for working. Now I know that isn’t true thank G-d.
CTLAWYER I admire you, you sound so cool
My grandfather was sephardic and lost many aunts, uncles, and cousins at the hand of the Nazis. He moved from Greece to America with his immediate family before the Nazis obliterated his community. He became a succesful businessman here and bought an awesome brand new Mercedes two-seater sports car. He drove it until his mid-90s. I am so proud of him for all that he accomplished and think that an awesome sports car, regardless if it was made by Germans (some of which may have been nazis), is the least he deserves. Blindly labeling German products as Nazi is absolutely ridiculous. It is racism. Yes, you can be racist against Germans. Not all Germans are Nazis. Just like not all Jews are involved with money fraud. Some might’ve been but you can’t label a group based on the actions of some.
Maiy nafka mina and who cares lol.
We see there is a lot of jew hating going on and it’s impossible to tell anyway today who is esav or yishmael or anyone else for that matter….we’re all mixed upAugust 23, 2018 12:14 pm at 12:14 pm in reply to: Answering “what type of guy are you looking for” in shidduchim? #1579218
I just want to applaud you for trying to figure this question out.
Im male, but when I was in shiduchim I mainly just told the shadchanim i was looking for yiras shamayim, sameach bechelko, good midos, simchas hacham, etc. etc. These are all phrases which, while they might be good traits, do not describe a personality. Someone could have all those heilege traits but just not match with you. I’m only speaking based on my personal experience, not telling you what to do. I wished I had actually sat down and thought about what type of person (personality, hashkafa, interests, values) I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Even if it had taken me longer to get married, it would’ve been worth it. I also told the shadchanim that I just want someone who cares about shmiras hamitsvos, dveikus b’hashem etc. Those terms are very vague because ideally all frum jews aspire to those traits. I wished I had spoken to a rebbe and/or trusted (married) friend of mine first about what I really wanted in a relationship (the truth is I may not have even been ready for a relationship maturity wise. I was 22, which is normal for some but to each his own). Anyway, my relationship is pretty rocky now and I think it has to do alot with how I approached shiduchim.
Wishing you hatslacha with everything, clarity, and happiness on your journey. It’s worth the wait for the right person.