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ARWSF – “Unfortunatley we women may exercise poor judgment sometimes.”
Poor judgment occurs to both men and women. And women exercise poor judgment in getting divorced also.
To avoid bad judgment it’s best to seek counsel. The best is to speak with Rabbonim experienced with Sholom Bayis AND, not or, go to therapists who deal with marital issues.
To all,
There are now two more copycats of Feldman (Berkovits) & Reich.
Check out Sundays Star Ledger. They have an org. called “Unchained”.
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moi aussi – “Most divorces are initiated by women, as a result of abusive husbands. Abuse can be physical or/and mental.”
And I posted:
“How about giving us an example of “mental” abuse?”
So my whole post that I just posted is to prove your whole premise is wrong. Many posters have written, eg. avhaben, that women are at fault. In other words, they might be initiating divorce because they think that they are being abused, but in Reality they are NOT!
Momofsix -“I will say that only someone with a band is qualified to comment as nobody else knows what is truly going on in someones body.”
I’ll ammend your post because you’ll probably agree:
The only qualified opinions’ on this subject are people who have gone through the procedure or medical professionals (even if they haven’t had the procedure).
OOmis -Did you ever go through a procedure like the band or bypass?
moi aussi -“Health, why do you need examples of mental abuse? Are you quizzing me or do you want to deny the existence of mental abuse?”
I’m quizzing you because you are Not Rabbi Twerski. I’m sure his examples are true abuse. A lot of women think that certain situations are abuse when they are Not. Actually crying abuse by women in Court is one of the most common lies found in divorce court. It does exist, but not to the extent these women claim!
Esp. when it comes to mental abuse, a woman in a marriage (or the man) should first seek psychological counselling before deciding and esp. before telling the world, that they are abused!
Enough with all these women crying Wolf. Maybe you can score some brownie points – sometimes with friends and/or in court, but they are doing a big Disservice to both women & men who were actually abused!
AC – What’s the problem -Sefira starts next week?
far east – No, that’s what PC people like you are saying, except you’re saying it’s murder.
If s/o is stalking you & you’re scared – you run. You don’t stand and turn to face your attacker unless you have no choice.
If s/o is beating you and they’re on top of you -you defend yourself anyway you can.
It’s amazing how the people who have adorned themselves with PC in our generation have lost any amount of common sense.
And not just that -they think they can push their illogical mumbo-jumbo on others who actually think for a living!
MMC has a clinic just for this. They pay s/o (I think a NP) just to work all day tightening these things.
First the delis and take-outs pull in the dough -then the medical field pull in the dough (actually pull out or squeeze the dough).
moi aussi -“If a man isn’t married, it’s not because the women are too picky, it’s because the man is bad news.”
Who decided this, you? My opinion is there may be lots of women, but lots don’t really want to get married!
“A man who calls his ex-wife’s friends “Reshayim” shouldn’t wonder why he’s not remarried.”
Your real name must be Chulda, the Neiviah, because how else would you know what you just posted!
First of all, who said I’m wondering why I’m not remarried – I’m not at all. Who said I even started looking yet?
Second of all, how do you know that her friends aren’t Reshayim?
“Most divorces are initiated by women, as a result of abusive husbands. Abuse can be physical or/and mental.”
How about giving us an example of “mental” abuse?
Nbrg – I got fatter after marriage at least 50 lbs., but I still didn’t catch up to my wife. (:0
The band is safer than bariatric surgery. It should be done first.
PBA -the hypocrisy of some who call themselves conservatives is very obvious. They say Martin had the right to attack George due to self -defense of the stalking, but George had No right to defend himself while being pummeled!
Where have this country gone so wrong?
What is up is down & what is down is up!
I would have used colors to say the same thing, but I doubt in this PC world of ours the post would go through.
moi aussi -“Rabanim who deal in gittin say “beware of a divorced guy”.”
Just another excuse of many – of why not to get married!
Let’s forget about or ignore the Chiyuv for women to get married.
computer777 -“Health, with such an attitude, who will want to marry you?”
Someone like my wife, whom wasn’t twisted and crazy at the time of our marriage. Read my post on a logical level, not emotional.
Not every single woman is twisted and/or crazy and/or bad, but there seems to be a lot of them! Men who are like this usually get exposed. Women OTOH seem to be like the turtle and attack and then hide in their shell!
PBA -“It is always the woman’s fault. Always.
The passuk says ?????-??? ??? ?? ???? ???. That is, only men–but not women. Women are twisted and crazy.”
So TRUE! But in my case it wasn’t my wife. It was her friends whom are Reshayim besides being twisted & crazy!
zvei dinim -“My question now is: how can we turn the above stated fact, that smoking is assur, into the strong mainstream opinion?”
This is an easy answer. The Yeshivos would throw out smokers & not allow it. I know of one Yeshiva that doesn’t allow it & it’s not just lip movement.
Why it’s not part of their rules, esp. since they have so many constricting rules, is a question that you have to ask the people running these Yeshivos!
morah reyna -“I have a nice relationship with my ex- in laws. they live out of town. We e-mail or talk a few times during the year. It’s not their fault…”
So whose fault is it – yours or his? (:0
Toi -“health- would you like to have a word with my wife?”
No. She probably blogs also. I asked about your parents.
And if your wife blogs -does her Tatty & Mommy know?
To all the above:
Does Mommy and Tatty know you blog on the net?
The little I know –
At least you know some truth. A lot of people aren’t interested in the truth esp. when it comes to smoking.
A Sheep without a Spleen –
“Dear healthdawg,”
The reason you think I’m a dog is because every sheep needs a sheep dog. I’m not your dog. Perhaps Popa?
“You obviously are making an attempt at intelligence.”
At least I can try to be intelligent, some people/sheep can’t even get that far!
“As for my knowledge of medicine, it was already mentioned by the Blacksmith-water Sheep that I donate blood much more than healthdawg which of course takes care of your juvenile line about my cowardice.”
I never donate blood – I don’t believe in it.
And you probably do faint when you see a drop of blood – I’m sure you don’t look when you’re donating blood or having a blood test done.
“My wife thinks I am funny, but finds it even more funny that you cant tell where blood is coming out from.”
Everything is a joke to you two – until you get a little Boo-boo that won’t stop bleeding – then you come crying & pleading to s/o like me to stop it. And stop it we do.
A Sheep without a Spleen –
You obviously are making an attempt at humor. Maybe you should try Stand -up in a bar where e/o is drunk so you would be appreciated.
You don’t know the first thing about medicine -so there is no point in arguing with you.
You’re probably the type of guy whom faints at the the first site of blood.
BTW – You’re opinion is wrong! I know this must come as a shock to you because your Mommy & wife are always saying You’re right!
Dr. Dovvshtein -“Oh you’re right!
The Gadol Hador must have missed that step!
Quick call him up!
Sorry, I apologize, he must have been “mis-informed” (That’s the great heter going around nowadays for everything right?)”
Your sarcasm doesn’t change my point. I don’t know how the Shaila was posted to him, nor do I know if he knows or knew about Second-hand smoke at the time of his P’sak.
So if you want to say Muttar, which to me smoking is a classic case of Hezek which the Torah says Ossur -you and anyone like you are the ones who have to call him up, not me!
You can’t just assume when he said Muttar it included this issue, esp. because the Teshuva says only Tzorech -this would have nothing to do with Mazik!
ZD – Not unless included in the admission price is a free year of internet service!
Dr. Dovvshtein -“From R’ Elyashiv: It’s assur to *start* smoking (because sakana), but once someone is addicted, it is a tzorech for him so then it is not assur.”
This Heter of Tzorech can only be for yourself – it can’t be for Mazik. And that is what a smoker is – A Mazik – because of the second-hand smoke!
lakewhut -“I think the issue is starting smoking. That is probably because there’s a physical/psychological addiction that isn’t easy to overcome.”
Are you saying -really it’s Ossur but there is a Heter of addiction?
If so, did the person try whatever to get out of the addiction? If not, then he has no Heter! A minimum of the three-pronged approach would be required to consider that he is trying to quit smoking.
A Sheep without a Spleen –
“To put it simply- it is very easy to tell where the needle was.”
Are you the type that learns Hilchos Mila or Shechita and then says -“Wow, this is easy -anybody can do it!”?
“Try looking at where the blood is coming out from it wont be so hard because blood is a different color than skin.”
Really – blood is a different color than skin? Wow, I never knew that!
Perhaps – it’s not that easy to tell where to put pressure on because blood is gushing all over the place?!?!
SaysMe -“Any free advice, health?”
Yea, use s/o who is competent.
Or put ice on it afterwards.
A Sheep without a Spleen –
No spleen, but a Sheep’s brain.
“They might not be able to stop the bleeding
WHAT?! WHAT?! Have you half your brain tied behind your back to make it fair??!!”
Look I won’t put you down, even though you get my “goat”.
To put it simply – there is a difference in applying pressure in the exact area where the needle was or in the general area. The latter might not always work. If you’re interested in learning how to stop bleeding in almost every case that there is -I’d be willing to teach you -for a price.
popa_bar_abba -“My sister in law is a nurse. I could just email her and ask what to do.”
I know and your brother is Mr. Hatzolah. The techs know what to do, but the question is can they do it.
writersoul -“Health: Do you honestly believe that popa’s a girl?”
I didn’t post my opinion, just what the post should say!
lovebeingjewish – I know s/o named Shmuel & is called Shmuelie & his english name is Stuart or Stewart.
PBA -“Rabbi nice guy to you.”
Rebbetzin nice gal -it should be acc. to your sub title.
cshapiro – Not you. And I’m sure that they aren’t looking for s/o. It’s probably easier to get a job in BMG than in the township. You need a lot of connections to work for them.