Forum Replies Created
I’m not going to be answering the previous question here. But I’ve come to notice that the only thing that will help the world now is davening/praying that all creations are granted empathy and awareness. I hope this message gets to those who will understand the gravity of the situation at hand. I cannot afford to keep posting here as I seem to get nothing out of it in return. So goodbye.
Real tough Jewish music question…
Which Jewish musician do more people know the lyrics to the songs than those who know the tunes?July 14, 2021 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1991806
What was your purpose in posting such a post. It comes across as pointing fingers, as it seems you feel someone is trolling. Such expressions tend to cause divisions. You are free to express what you wish to say, but is the goal to unify, or divide? I don’t need your answer. You need to ask yourself what your intent was in that post.July 14, 2021 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1991781
Non Jewish veterans are frequently homeless. They fought for the freedom you take advantage of in your country. As such, hakaras hatov in the form of money to people who did you such a favor is tzeddaka. However, if the non Jew burns the flag of that country in disrespect for the lives lost, it is not hakaras hatov and is not tzeddaka.
YWN: please edit what’s necessary to make it seen. I have one thing to add. Once I began to understand Torah, I realized something I had learned in mishnayos as a healing solution to my damaged skin. I had learnt that picky people used to put cloves in olive oil and annnoint their skins with it. It would help feel good. I applied it to sunburnt skin, the pain subsided. Someone suggested I apply it to my psoriasis condition. Exercise coupled with olive oil coupled with extreme mental health improvement, today I saw massive reduction in inflammation of the skin. I thank our creator for showing me a path out of my pain.
This must be read to understand what made my view change. I was hurt physically because of religious views, forced to do whatever I was told without thought. At a certain young age, due to physical abuse, with no knowledge about how to heal myself, my skin developed an inflammatory issue called psoriasis. What most don’t know about it is that the skin duplicates too fast and surface skin dies, while skin beneath it grows hot from dead skin on the surface. My body was on overdrive for life of the skin. To heal from physical and emotional pain, I would consume endless amounts of food. Insane food expenses. I was so overweight that doctors told my biological parents that I wasn’t going to reach age 20 without dieting. I had given up on diets that just never worked. But I gave one last chance and doctors gave me a diet based on bloodwork. I lost 70 pounds in 6 months. Kept the weight off for 3 years. Then a rabbinical authority coupled with my parents insisted that I quit my diet for one day, Rosh Hashana. I knew if I did, all work put in would be lost. But I did what I was told to do by my rabbi and my parents, quit for one day, never went back on. All this time, my skin condition expanded all over the surface. Doctors sent every medication they could, but another family member was already doing certain immuno compromising prescription drugs because of facing the same medical conditions, from the same source. It came to a point that I was informed of a warning by the other family member this could lead to organ failure, as the skin is the largest organ of the body. Any attempts to go off medication would have caused that family member to die. I took my own steps to avoid the same pitfalls. As skin was duplicating too fast, I had to slow down by killing my skin cells in bleach baths. It was a constant battle for years, to the point that I was bathing in commercial bleach baths. Accused of mental illness led to ingestion of weight gaining medication, I reached 375 pounds, I could not fit in a bath tub, had difficulty cleaning up when I went to the restroom, at which point I went to my doctor wearing a 8xlt shirt and showed him what was happening, begging for prescription steroids to regain control. After bloodwork, I was declared a diabetic, doctors were just about to give up hope on me. But we worked out a plan together, I am down in less than 3 months, 68 pounds. I used Torah knowledge to understand that it was a matter of pikuach nefesh in more than one way. In addition, funding was dry, as if I’d turn on the faucet and be lucky if clean water came out. There wasn’t enough available funds to cover kosher meat, every Jew I spoke to wanted to control where I got food from, but never shared enough to cover the bills to recuperate. I then told them one by one “mochel tovos”, if you’re not in fully, I don’t want your assistance. Partial assistance without problem solving is in essence saying I want you to have issues. My own brothers turned against me, to kill me. Our creator did not allow it to happen. edited I learnt what self love really means, connected with Torah I had learned on the level of self love. The day I understood the true nature of Torah, these storms that I wrote in the chat room erupted all over planet earth. Firenatoes, tornadoes, earthquakes. I was no longer afraid to walk outside despite the tornado warning. I knew my creator loves me and is protecting me. I have just connected with our creator today on a level I have never experienced or expected to achieve. There is a law in Judaism called we go up in holiness and we don’t go down. I am rising with self love, of my neshama and my creator protecting it inside, that people have begun taking pictures of me on the street, coming over reaching out to give high five, jaws dropping all around me, but I’m determined to hopefully never disconnect from either source. To have those connections grow and push all this dark energies away, show them how to change into love energy. If someone writes me off, they wrote off the torah and neshama and hashem within me. You hurt yourself more than you hurt me. Eventually, all your spiritual eyes will open, as mine is not far away from doing so fully.
When we say chaverim kol yisroel, even bais shammai and bais hillel studied with each other, elevated each other through their back and forth. It’s like dance in the form of fighting. The more they danced with each other, the more it was perceived as the perfect fighters they both were.
I’m not allergic to kosher meat, but many times it is incorrectly prepared, which makes me feel sick. Kind of like fruits that are underripe, or already fermenting and getting spoiled, so I don’t always benefit from consuming them.
I have recently achieved much success despite the pain of my youth. I have understood what pain means and how to move past it. I experience other people’s pains when they have too much of a burden. If they ask for help and want help, I give assistance with my spiritual connection for them to help themselves, but only if they desire to experience our creator’s love. I show them how to change their pain into love. Those who hurt me never win. Unless they are honestly trying not to hurt and trying to learn to love themselves. Our creator has given me a gift of empathy. Once I have a connection with one who wants out of pain, even if I’m not with them in person, I do experience their pain through spirituality and have the ability to help them overcome. I am living proof that our creator, our neshamos, are real and are made of pure love. edited I have come to appreciate true Torah and our true creator. I know which step on the ladder I am standing on. Every step up the ladder I take, I do my best to be as secure on that step as I can get, before moving up to the next rung. I don’t need to rush up to the next rung on the ladder but when people lower on the climb are just holding on for the free ride, I disconnect spiritually from them until they are willing to put in effort. Lifum tzaara agra. I don’t wish to take your reward from you, so I don’t wish to take your pain from you either. But I do wish people would truly value the rewards over the pain.
Aharon hakohen brought about peace by using deceptive speech. He used speech in deception to cause peace. That is what the one who judged me negatively did today to me, but it caused a rift between him and I. As I experienced pain through action, not only words. Others will be mesaken the damage of the action, by giving money to me to be able to teach more how to be loving. The one who did the action has plenty of work now to be mesaken his neshama. He had no ill will, but now that he pointed a finger likaf chov, even by mistake, he is once again not a kli machzik beracha and has to once again find a way to become one again. We have shared knowledge on how to accomplish that. He will succeed on his own, because our creator will help him achieve success. Once he uses the knowledge and tools to become a kli machzik bracha again, I will be able to share more beracha with him.
Clearly you’ve all made up your mind that you know everything. Please explain the storms right now all over the world…
Refusing to post my words without due cause is geneivas daas.
I understood the message as “don’t give up”. Truly good advice. By saying so, you showed your personality. I mean no disrespect. What I’m saying back is, we are all of the same root.
Yes. To change their own nature. To connect with our creator. To understand love. To desire our creator’s love. When love begins to overflow, share with others trying to change their nature. Reward them for their efforts by guiding them to do the same. To become overflowing with love. When all our cups are overflowing with love, viochalta visavata, uverachta, we will all bless together. Together all who dried out and have been brought back to life will call out Baruch Shem Kivod Malchuso Liolam Vaed with meaning love and we will sing hallel together.
Hashem is above torah. Even if those who learn it think they can control our creator through Torah, we were never given that power, never will be given such a power. Any attempt to change our creator is the same as saying you hate creation. Every human who learns torah has it within, yet still is required to acknowledge hashem is above us all. If a Torah scholar knowledgeable in tzoraas tells the kohen this is not tzoraas, if the kohen says tameh, the kohen’s word stands. The kohen fought for hashem. It’s not easy, but it is very rewarding. It’s time to recognize there is a creator above us all, who wants good and has a good plan. If this is hard to achieve, learn shaar habitachon over and over until you have no friends at all. Then you’ll see that hashem is our greatest source of love, is within each and every one of us, you’ll be able to connect with hashem from within and end up seeing hashem everywhere in and out. It’s inescapable, pure love, pure life, guarded within and without. Truly worth fighting for.
Maivin: great words of advice. I can see you follow them. Thanks for judging me a tzaddik. Viamech kulam tzaddikim.
AviraDeArah: as the saying goes, never assume… I won’t extrapolate this one here 😉
Everything is alive for a reason. Unnecessary killing, does not accomplish positivity. Picking unripe fruits, does not accomplish positivity. When the fruits are ripe for picking, the tree lets go. That’s how we know it’s beneficial to consume or replant to grow more. It’s extra that is being shared by nature. Nature is a self sustaining and self loving system. The more fully beneficial gains shared, the more growth continues. The more early taking before given happens, the less beneficial things happen.
Coffee addict: praise is a sign of support for what you’re doing. Remember it says, kol sheruach habriyos nochah heimenu, ruach hamakom nocha heimenu. It means hashem loves you. Use that as your fuel to continue doing the ratzon haborei. Hashem is our guide, praise is supposed to be a motivator to repeat the positive action. As my teachers used to write on tests, Metzuyan!
Once again, you are the exception to “am kishei oref” here, on the correct path. I hold no accusation against you. I was simply stating that rabbi akiva was on such a high level of torah knowledge by the time he said shema for the last time, that likely was protected from physical pain. When the makom tefillin was defiled, that was emotional pain. Feeling disrespect towards the place that his connection was made.
To all posters. I clearly stated in the beginning, don’t judge me negatively, I don’t want to return the favor.
Reb Eliezer: in Gan Eden, we used to communicate with the animals. Both sides were heard. Don’t you want such a strong connection once again? How do you think a true bond with the animals can be achieved? Ever heard of the lion whisperer? Accepted as part of the pride? Creating personal connections to lions and hyenas through understanding, love and kindness? We have such potential as a human race, but we run from ourselves, run to pain. If we love ourselves and value our lives, don’t you think the animals do too?
I feel bad for your situation, as you seem to think pain is necessary to fix a problem, as opposed to pressure, that rewards increase with progress towards the goal of our creator.
Even a fish with fins and scales, prepared improperly, is a danger to physical health.
No one wants to disconnect from doing what is right and experiencing the love of our creator. If there is any danger to our body holding our soul, there is a reason for non kosher, to save the life of the body that is being lost. My personal experience was that I became a diabetic, meat was the only option available at the time that would bring my body back to life, kosher meat was too expensive so I did what was necessary. Those who gave money for the cause, knowing it had to be done, didn’t like it either, but money is scarce in these circles. They understood that it was necessary for now, given availability of assistance. I didn’t like that I felt the need to do it, but I’m no longer a diabetic. I didn’t enjoy exercising, but I enjoyed the results. Now I’m regaining strength that I need to live, need to recuperate. I wouldn’t want to have to eat even kosher meat, if I could come to a understanding of how to thrive without it, without supporting unnecessary loss of life. We are all in this boat, but the less we row the boat towards our destination in unison, the longer it takes to reach paradise. Sometimes, someone who rowed real hard with dedication, pushed to the point of passing out, gets more credit in the eyes of those who sat back and enjoyed the ride, not putting in much effort at all. There is a great feeling to paradise, some want it more than others.
I am not rabbi akiva, but his connection to Torah was one of the greats. I’m pretty sure that Torah knowledge protected him in his journey to olam habba, a greater love than the short moment of losing the physical connection. He had his eyes on the prize, so to speak.
I’ll give you an example of something that I disagree with what is being said in the name of modern Torah scholars. A current headline on YWN states “ HaRav Kanievsky: “Whover Has A Part In Gezeiros Against Chareidim Will Sit In Gehinnom”. I beg to differ. They are currently in gehinnom, already now, or pain wouldn’t be the intent of their actions, love would. Decrees causing diversity wouldn’t be made by them, rather they’d be making decrees that cause togetherness.
Hashem is always there, even if you’re in gehennim. Even the snake cannot exist if hashem doesn’t want it to. I disagree with the belief that our creator punishes, as we were created the way we were intended to be created, any less would be disbelief in the capabilities of our creator. Even the snake used to test Adam and chavah suffers because it sees that damage was and is still done, by it seeing the development of insuperiority of humans. The snake also has it’s tikkun, whether you find that surprising or not, because if it didn’t, it wouldn’t exist. If we are not being mechazek one another to be mesaken ourselves, to connect with our creator’s positivity, to see love and kindness and share extra of that, if our actions weaken instead of strengthen, we have to put our faith in our creator that we will be shown how to cause connection instead of disconnection. By judging everything and everyone likaf zechus, we are judging our creator’s plan as positive as well. Even when I feel pain by how Jewish people treat me, I still come here to mention that we need to find a way to judge our creator positively in order to bring the whole world back into connectivity once again. I love everything and everyone around me. But inappropriate touch, is just one issue that causes disconnection. I don’t like when a mosquito lands on me, but it needs to taste sweet life in order to live, that’s how it exists now. I don’t judge our creator as bad because I got bitten, I just wish there was a different way for the mosquitoes to find the sweetness in life, e.g. by sipping the extra nectar in flowers instead of the sweet life living in me. Yes there is plenty of sweet life in me to share with the mosquitoes, but the itching that I experienced by what’s left behind by it, I don’t appreciate. The pain left behind by being judged likaf chov to the point that I hated life, is causing me to be judged likaf chov again. I’m just asking to let our creator be the judge, instead of misperceptions of thinking foolish things like “pain is good”, as judgement by our creator is only love and kindness. Only causes understanding and connection, life to grow in connectivity. We can grow to see ahavas hashem as more important and more meaningful than ahavas tzaar.
AviraDeArah: according to what you just said, the goal of every mitzvah is to be connected. If it doesn’t create a bigger connection, it’s not a mitzvah. Obviously, something with how the mitzvos are taught are wrong, or we’d already be fully reconnected and back in gan eden at the very least.
As long as you’re learning about life, you’re being productive. Keep shteiging. Hashem loves when people do that.
The bond was there before eating eating treif on Yom Kippur. If starving yourself and supporting price gouging or improper use of money gets you closer to your creator, I would not stop you. But that attitude, did not get me close to my creator. Kindness, love, these things showed to me by nissim in my life, rebuilt the bond that was taken from me as a child. I learnt how much there is for me, by looking inside for the truth, by feeling what I wanted for myself, understanding that if I don’t like pain, it’s not possible that our creator wants me in pain either. If I want unlimited abundance, no bloodshed, love between everyone, just because I don’t know how to accomplish it, doesn’t mean our creator doesn’t want that for me or us all. I would assume that our creator wants everything like gan eden for everyone. If you assume otherwise, if you think everything from the beginning of time wasn’t a gift, if you think we cannot get even closer and more pleasant than gan eden, then your perception is sad compared to mine.
Different things they see or hear that I do. Listening to music during the three weeks, not fasting, even on Yom Kippur, eating food from non kosher stores, using my phone on Shabbos, all the while not realizing that I suffer from all that was done to me and I’m doing everything I can to stay alive and positive, not realizing that I have a stronger bond with my creator than they will ever achieve without putting in the effort I did.
History has just repeated itself. IYK has left the chat.
Okay. I get it now. We’ll see how this plays out…
I nominate myself to be the lone FFB who snoozes through the whole davening peacefully in shul, yet accomplishes more during that sleep than everyone who is davening.
Let’s be robots!!!
The reason we need someone to be head of kiddush club, is we need someone to be willing to make a kiddush hashem…
Who’s going to be head of kiddush club?
I also want to point out, that the furniture was offered to me, but the bed was already in the trash. I had to take it out of the trash. I sleep on a quality bed that was thrown away. Quality people get thrown away as well. I was a quality person, destroyed. Made into nothing. But there is a plan in this world, I know I’m part of it. If not, Hashem would not be raising me from destruction. From a place where nobody has returned. As it says, meashpos yarim evyon.
What you don’t understand is, even you were helped. There is no getting up from where I’ve been put down. By laws of nature, I should be dead now. I only have a bed to sleep in, because someone I cared about very much died and their furniture was offered to me. I’m only getting up because there is a greater force picking me up. Probably because I was wronged by others. So much so, that unlike Holocaust survivors, I still have to fight for what you consider normal life.
The lesson of chad gadya is, that there is always someone bigger or stronger than you. When one gets attacked by the biggest and strongest of them all, Hashem is even bigger and stronger. There is no need to prove greatness. If there is a chain reaction of suffering and pain, eventually Hashem will end all pain and suffering. Bimhera Biyameinu.
At least society recognizes that there is alternative to rectal thermometers. Injections in the rear are still done today, because that’s a fairly large muscle in the body. The muscle absorbs the medication, so sometimes depending on the medication, society has no alternative yet. However, there are alternatives to violence for raising children, yet society over all is still resorting to violence. Why? (Why, is a question that is judging) what is the cause? (What, is seeking a solution) It’s so frustrating that just because someone was wronged, they cannot hold back from wronging others, refuse to improve themselves. This action is a sign of failure to properly raise a child. If you take the action to be violent to a child because you experienced violence yourself, the justification is flawed. You have the ability to find alternatives to violence, to work on your personal emotions and gain control over them instead of allowing the emotions to control you.
I found an interesting correlation: there were a few countries with 0 reports of corona. All those countries, in the UN vote against moving the US embassy to Jerusalem, did not denounce the move that led to more peace in the Middle East. Just an interesting observation.
There were people who stayed home, had zero outside contact, sanitized everything, yet still died from corona. Fact is, everyone has been exposed to corona whether they have antibodies or not. There were people living in the same home as others who had corona, yet bloodwork showed no antibodies, they were totally unaffected. Children were the least affected, animals outside even less affected. Are we going to vaccinate all the animals on the planet? Animals were even more exposed to corona than humans were, yet the animals weren’t dropping dead from corona like us humans. As far as the vaccine goes, it’s not a tetanus shot, there’s no guarantee it’ll be 100% effective to secure the health of the one receiving it. Just like the flu shot, it’s a temporary hold off at best, that comes with side effects. At worst, it causes the very thing you tried to prevent by taking it. We still don’t know the effects 10 years after taking the shot, whichever one is taken. Why do people want to be guinea pigs for no reason? If you were supposed to die, Hashem has so many other ways it could happen. Did anyone else notice how as soon as people began taking the vaccines riots broke out all over the world? To think these injections don’t have negative effects is ludicrous.
I am not paskening. However, it seems there are things you can do for others and things you can do for yourself. If I were facing such a challenge of not understanding my purpose in life, I’d probably attempt to improve my personal life by working on what I find difficult, while improving others lives with what I find easy.
I hope this helps.
Was your life sabotaged by your own parents to the point that you couldn’t get up? Clearly not. Let’s talk real here. You hold a job, got married, own a house. How did you pay for that house? Who put the down payment towards it? Did you pay it all yourself? Or did you have help, community support. You got married, so now you possibly have dual income to assist with that. In addition, community support to make sure you can support her as well. You’re not all alone. The one job I was offered, my parents approved of because it made them look good. No one ever asked me what I wanted. It was all to force me to submit to their rule. I guess, you submitted, were supported because you did. When I wanted to take college courses, my parents didn’t pay for it, I did. I worked hard to pay off my debts, to be responsible, all the while money being mooched off of me from the community for one cause or the other. But when I wanted to take the next step to open a business, my parents disowned me, my community offered no support, I ate the ice off the road because I was hungry. I had nowhere to stay, I slept on park benches, on the ground in parking lots, ignored by my own Jewish “brothers”. I was made vulnerable, attacked at work, one coworker even attempted to murder me. I was working for a Jew. Who then pressed along with my parents to have me put in a mental institution, just to destroy me. I had to fight in court for the right to control my own money. I then used some of it to save a stranger’s marriage and take his home out of forclosure. To this day, I have no clue who the guy is, all I know, he was Jewish. I have a name as a danger to society so I have no legal right to own a firearm. No right to defend myself. If I were to get married, I’d have to go to court to fight for the right to raise my own kids. The only one fighting for me is Hashem. I received a letter recently telling me that there are many in need of help for food in the community, asking for my help. Why do you think this happens? Hashem works Midah kineged midah. Miami, people are homeless now. Why do you think this happens? I now have a home I call my own. Why do you think this is? Midah kineged Midah. When Jews shirk responsibility for each other, Hashem picks up the tab. Because of what I went through, I said my final prayers, ingested something that was guaranteed to kill me. I fell asleep, yet woke up totally unaffected. Hashem wants me alive for a reason. I walked and prayed Hashem should hit me with a tree to just end my suffering. A tree instantly came down where I had been standing 30 seconds earlier. Most people believe in themselves as to the reason they are where they are in life. I’m only here because Hashem wants me here. Good night.
There already is a google hador. Now, in the CR, there is talk of appointing a harav hagoon…
This conversation tells me that quite a few here have already made up their mind to take the vaccine. If not, why are the details being discussed like they matter. If a brain surgery is necessary, do you question every step the surgeon takes? The issue here is that nobody is being held accountable for anything COVID-19 related, yet here the ones giving consent are possibly paying the price. The concern here is that the children are also your responsibility and there seems to be some sort of uncertainty. The question is, do you really believe children are in danger? There seems to be a lot of uncertainty where there also seems to be a lot of certainty.
Personally, I see things differently. Medicine is a practice. It’s not perfect. Most doctors nowadays, will tell you not to smoke while they do, will tell you to exercise while they don’t. Good truthful doctors are few and far between. Every medication has it’s pros and cons. If I can manage to live well without a medication, why make my body work harder for no reason? Just because some power hungry oppressive laws are put in place, doesn’t mean I won’t choose to live as best as I can with the circumstances available. I’m anti flu vaccines, so I’m clearly anti the COVID vaccine. Most are not anti the flu vaccine, so most will likely take the COVID vaccine. So now comes the question those who plan to vaccinate their children have. Which vaccine is the best option, hence the conversation at hand. We can agree to disagree.
Yes… all about how money has been devalued. The reason money is so valuable, is because it allows people to work together to help each other out. If someone needs food prepared for them all the time, not everyone is willing to volunteer to cook for them what they desire, causing the needy to feel like a burden. However, the value of money, is that if the one in need of a chef has money to offer as payment to get what he desires, now the ones who wouldn’t share their talent to better the needy one’s life, changes their perception that it’s beneficial to help out. That is the true value of money. Not forcing those who don’t have money, to submit to other people in order to get what they need.
The old story of the question asked to Israelis “in whom can we trust to run this country?”, where everyone replied !בי! בי, resulting in Netanyahu assuming the position of power…
Got it. Thanks.
I’m okay not sharing too much. But I remember being beaten with metal, leather, it didn’t matter. Anything was seen as a possible weapon to be used against me. I remember being deprived of food, having to sleep sitting without a pillow or blanket. I feared hunger so much that I couldn’t eat slowly and enjoy food because I was afraid it might not satisfy my hunger long enough to last until the next time I’d have food. I remember being forced to hurt myself, or face more pain. Religious beliefs were used to control me even more, as a form of psychological abuse. Fear was so embedded in me that Jewish music causes me pain to this day. All Jewish music is religious in nature, so how would you feel if everywhere you go reminds you of the abuse? I’ve been through therapy for over 11 years now and I’m still working in trauma therapy to try to overcome the psychological abuses, while living with reminders everywhere I turn in the Jewish community. In my days, no one would listen, so everyone was complicit. Judaism failed me. Humanity failed me. To this day, I see every human as a potential danger to me. All I can do is adapt to live among a society that does not want to change. As they still don’t want to change, it is impossible for me to make a difference as the saying goes, “you can bring a horse to the water, but you cannot make it drink”.
You wanted to know, now you heard my horror story. One that I face for the rest of my wretched life. But at least, I don’t try to relive those memories all the time. I’d rather learn to enjoy the positive opportunities life still has to offer me. So yes, I go to trauma therapy. But I connect more with dogs and horses than humans, as I know they understand more than humans do.