Mr Taxman

Yours is a very common situation. As someone that experienced what you are currently experiencing, i would only mention it once to them which you did, and i see they told you “dont try acting holy” – but just go ahead and do that, and dont cut yourself off from your parents. Talk to them and communicate with them as you would if they were not speaking loshon horah. We have a commandment of Kibud Ov Ve’aim and its important you dont cut yourself away from them. I think if they see what a good person you are and are trying to be, they will respect you for that.

when he grows older, it would be every parents wish that he would be serious in his studies and mature enough to differentiate bad from good, things he should do and things he should not do….With good parenting and good Chinuch one would hope that one would not have to worry too much about that, but i know it is every parents worst nightmare.

yes it is – look into hunter college PT program. A lot of heimish frum girls in the program there.

treat yourself to a get away somewhere and pamper yourself. coem back a changed person. A break from reality always helps.

So i am telling you that we are all capable of changing – just try. Your telling me that people can’t change? That’s not true. If none of us can change and improve then it’s a very sad state of affairs. Aversion, Addiction – people can change!!!

Only in Brooklyn is there an aversion to it. Lakewood, Passaic, Clifton, Monsey, Stanforf, Waterbury are very welcoming communities and friendly even though some people are not the bubbly open type personality, but they welcoem you and greet you with a smile becasue it is the normal thing to do and nice thing to do. Nothing to do with whatever you mentioned Coffee Addict.

Its impossible for any yeshivah or sem to give boys or girls the Israeli experience in Chutz la’eretz. One has to go to sem or yeshivah in Eretz Yisroel to have the Israeli Esperience.

Nicaragua

Candy 613 – to ease the nerves the pointers are:

1) Have a good attitude

2) Take everything and do everythign with a smile

3) Be first to initiate the introduction rather than waiting for people to come to you.

4) Be flexible

Until you actually arrive at Sem, yes, one will be nervous and excited and not much one can do about that. But ince one arrives at Sem, these are some pointers to ease the nerves and the transition.

Its totally normal to be anxious and nervous and excited. Like RFS said – a good attitude is a must and do everythign with a Smile and be the one to introduce yourself instead of wating for others to come to you – I know i reiterated what RFS said but it is so true so i am just stressing it.After a month you will feel settled and have a Chevrah of friends. Hatzlocho and have a wonderful year or 2 or 3 in Eretz Yisroel. Enjoy the ruchnius and the gashmius and be successful.

I remember as a teenager hearing (mostly females) saying “I hate you” instead of I am so jealous of you / you are so lucky. Could be from an American show or sitcom perhaps – I am not sure. It’s def from the materialistic world that we live in.

I was also surprised….especially after the words ant the funeral that Leiby’s father said….

The hard job is maintaining this from after Simchas Torah until Chodesh Ellul the following year. But a nice Post.

A couple of things:

1) Leave early – Don’t wait another year to start leaving early.

2) If one can avoid letting a stranger in a house, you shoudl avoid it and i don’t care whether it’s jewish / nonjewish babysitter.

3) Your husband can also help you

I WOULD ASK YOUR ROV

This isn’t about revenge – MDG.

WIY: you said “its a sign he is a certain type.” The worst thing in Yiddeshkeit is all the labelling we do. We are all part of Am Yisroel and if he is more outgoing and comlements a Frum young lady, its a nice thing. He could be a real sweetheart of a guy and be a wonderful husband one day. We should not judge or label others.