My .02

It is ok to try and fail and try and fail again, but it is not ok to try and fail and fail to try again.

AOM- What about ppl who are overweight? Obesity causes all kinds of medical conditions. They are shortening their lives. Are you condemning them too?

Sorry , I lost you there. But either way if his saying is in any way related to property ownership it would not make sense why there would be no such thing as yiu’sh. Or am I still not following you?

If you’re working off the literal meaning of the gemarah, I would have to disagree since according to all opinions yiush mida’as is yiu’sh. They only dispute the din of yiu’sh shelo mida’as.

Nice try Mod , but no cigar(excuse the cliche- I just left the smoker thread)

AOM-That’s not fair. people who smoke, and likewise ppl whith heart conditions that keep eating steak know they are killing themselves or possibly bringing on medical conditions that will diminish their quality of life. Is it because they don’t love themselves? Or perhaps it is shortsightedness?

I know of a father of a teenager who was a smoker, who took his son to a hospital for lung cancer patients so he can see first hand what he is doing to himself. After a few minutes of this unpleasantness, the son turned to his father and said, “Ta this is too much for me, I need to go take a smoke” Sad.

Life is not a bowl of cherries, but neither is it the pits.

If there is a will, there is a relative.:0)

Popa- There certainly is an I in “pizza”-and in “ice cream” and in “win”, but there is no I in “team”

I was wondering the same thing.

I heard from chassidisheh sources:

Yi’ush itself is not an aveirah, but it leads to the biggest aveiros.

Or a spin on the words of the gemarah- yi’ush shelo mida’as-if s/o is miya’esh he is shelo mida’as

Yes but not a Timex. It’s got to be a brand name and can cost almost as much.

FYI it’s spelled Fiveish as in Five dollars per Chinese auction ticket.

There was a story about the parents of one of the gedolim of yore who ran out of funds to pay the melamed. The father had one valuable item he treasured- a gold watch. He woke up early in the morning and headed to the pawn shop to cash it in- only to find that his wife had beat him to it- she was already there trading in the last valuable item she owned- a set of silverware. Something to aspire to!

Charosses must be of a thick consistency symbolic of the cement we were forced to mix. One ingrediant of charosses is apples to remind us of H-shem’s kindness- woman in child birth would hide in the apple orchards to evade detection by the Metzriyim, who were killing all male babies. H-shem made the labor painless so the Mitzriyim wouldn’t hear them, and then hid the infants undergound and fed them etc.

Question- We eat marror to remind us of the bitter experience and drink wine , lean etc. to commemorate the subsequent freedom, why by charosses do we mix in the apple-it seems out of place?

Answer (based on Sifsei Chaim- R’ Chaim Freidlander zt’l)

Even in the bitter galus, H-shem loves us, watches over us , protects us- Yes it’s a time of din,we are being punished, but we are always His children

The remarkable thing about this particular chessed is that it was performed for us DURING the shibud-the enslavement- not after-it is only fitting that we commemorate this by combining the apples with the charosses. This is one of many things for which we must be makir tov by the seder, and reaffirm our loyalty and love for H-shem. We are still in galus, and we need just look around and we will see H-shem’s great kindness to us.

I’m not so sure fasting is recommended in our day. People make a siyum, and speak about the nifteres. If someone is inspired by hearing about her meritious deeds and decides to emulate her, it brings an aliyah to her neshama. Any acts of rightiousness that you do having in mind that you are inspired by your Mother A”H is a big zchus for her. May the neshama have an aliya and may we be zoche to umacha H-shem dimah meyal kol ponim.

“Were you ever prompted to take real action because of a dream you had? Were the results positive?”

There was a fascinating article in the Reader’s digest several years ago about a man who kept having recurring dreams about an impending air plane crash. The dreams were so vivid that he actually contacted authorities to warn them about it. His report was recorded and filed. A short time later there was a plane crash that matched exactly to his prophesied description.

“I sometimes dream a person I know is somehow suffering,call the person,and find out they were truly going through a rough time.”

That’s pretty spooky. There are a few members of my Mother’s family that had similar experiences. My Grandmother a”h once made a long distance trip to visit my aunt (back in the day when telephones were not so prevalent) insisting that she sensed that she was ill. Sure enough she was. I don’t have this unique ability. The only action I take on account of a dream is when I have nightmares of being chased by some one and I’m unable to run away, I take it as a sign that I need a break from work and do something wholesome.

Mod- How about For whatever it’s worth!

Unless you have something better. I’m at your mercy!

Cherrybim- All the better- at least you know the score.

Aries- you are right on the mark, except, I may add that you are not in the business of “making money” off a friend, but rather making a living. There’s a big difference.

Once some one is used to getting something for nothing, they will never feel good about paying you for it, regardless of how politely you request payment. The best scenario is to discontinue services to her in a tactful way i.e. just keep telling her you are behind on your other work, and just won’t be able to get to her. Eventually she will get the hint. It is not good for your self esteem to let some one take advantage of you.

Just because in adar you are “Marbin” bisimcha doesn’t mean you have to be sad the rest of the year. To the contrary- in Av you are “mimatin” bisimcha- meaning you are happy the rest of the year. Of course if that doesn’t work for you, you can always try Gumball’s suggestion- and get help…from Captain Jack!