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“What if ????? ????? told you to wear it. Would that make a difference?”
what if ????? ????? told you to desecrate shabbos? Would that make a difference?
“We need to work and support our families; we need to learn; we need to help our spouses; we need to care for our children; we need to do chessed in our communities; we need to look after our immediate families; we need to daven with kavana. The list is endless, and each obligation pulls us in different directions. We can’t to all of them all the time, and we can’t focus too strongly on any one of them to the detriment of others. A one hour shemona esrei is praiseworthy, if that sort of teffilah is your niche, but you can’t use it as an excuse to not do other things required of you – whether at home, work, or school.”
RSRH, you seem to be forgetting the Gemara in brachos which states that the chassidim harishonim would spend an hour davening as well as an hour before and after preparing to talk to G-d. The gemara asks that if they spent nine hours a day on davening, how did they have time to learn and work? The Gemara answers that since they devoted nine fours to davening, they had special siyata dishmaya that in the few hours remaining they were able to accomplish everything.
“who do kids think they are to ask this,no, EXPECT THIS, from her parents?”
You make it sound like these boys are making unreasonable demands. What is unreasonable about a boy saying “if you want me to learn (so that you can get schar), and therefore I can’t support my family because I’m busy learning; someone else will have to support the family.” It might be the wife or the parents or the in laws. But you can’t play both sides of the fence. If you want a learning boy then you’ll have to pay for it. And if you don’t want a learning boy then why are you reading this thread?
I agree. Isn’t one of the rules of the coffee room that you are supposed to “write in a language somewhat resembling English”?
“Do you really think parents are supporting because of the schar or because if they dont support their precious child may not find the perfect shiduch”
That is a fabulous catch 22 – the parents have to support the boy learning because otherwise their daughter won’t get a good shidduch (the boy that’s learning). So if they really aren’t doing it for the schar then let them just not support the learning boy and then their daughter won’t get the wonderful shidduch with the learning boy that they don’t want anyway. So according to your wonderfully circular logic, how does the problem ever start?
“I do not give my other siblings because I dont think that they are real learners”
And how exactly do you judge who is a real learner and who isn’t?
“There is nothign wrong with the daf or getting a chavrusah at morning or at night.”
Learning an hour a day is great but it’s definitely not the ideal. The gemara in Brachos says that the people who made their work keva and their learning arai, neither was fulfilled.
“…. and those that cannot afford to do so should not do so.”
Then they have to find a different way of getting their schar. Perhaps learning themselves.
boredinoffice
Are you upset at people who value learning?
“The chiyuv is still there but at whos expense?”
No one is forcing any girl or her parents to support anyone. They take it upon themselves because they realize that that is how they get schar for limud torah.
“all the other person has to do is say 2 words back”
Two words is two words too many. Don’t you know that Bruria rebuked R’ Yosi Haglili for saying two extra words when asking for directions to Lod?
“Whenever I’m faced with a choice between two evils, I take the one I’ve never tried before.”
I have it hanging on my fridge.
“Is an alte bochor the equivalent of an old maid or spinster?”
Your question is unclear. Do you mean: Is an alte bochor the equivalent of an old maid or is it the equivalent to a spinster? (i.e. one as opposed to the other)
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did you mean: Is an alte bochor the equivalent of an |old maid or spinster| thus lumping them together.
the nafka mina would be whether or not you consider an old maid equivalent to a spinster.
“But you have a big responsibility to respect the Minhagim of other, and not ridicule and knock them, like some posters here tend to do.”
Even if previous gedolim called it a minhag shtus?
Who came up with the name Seasons for a supermarket?
“Even if you’re on the right track you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”
– Arthur Godfried
“Also, your story about Gedolim and Matzah ball in their window….
Our Gedolim know to respect Minhagim that OTHER GEDOLIM set, even though they don’t follow that specific minhag.”
That was their way of showing that they strongly disagree with the minhag.
“You cant all be the next roshei yeshivos of the generation”
And therefore the chiyuv of Talmud Torah dissipates? I don’t think it works like that.
Smartcookie
What have I said that demonstrates a lack of respect for our gedolim?
what kind of name is seasons anyway?
My goal is to conquer the world and be a tyrannical leader. Eventually I would hope to colonize other planets and galaxies, culminating with me becoming Supreme Dictator of the universe.
Alas how we yearn for the good old days when schools were in session on chol hamoed.
Isn’t that dishonest? Is dishonesty something that you want to teach to all the innocent children reading this?