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Rd tietalbaum “Dogma is described as corrupting free will when it is perceived as an oppressive set of absolute truths imposed by authority that demands unquestioning obedience, thereby constraining an individual’s ability to think independently or question established beliefs. This dynamic can create a fear-based mindset where individuals feel controlled by the threat of eternal punishment (such as hell) for non-compliance, leading them to suppress their own judgment and surrender their identity to external decrees”
“Loss of Autonomy: Dogma encourages accepting external authority over personal moral reasoning, effectively drowning out one’s inner voice and preventing the development of a flexible moral mind”
Does this sound like a just way to understanding right and wrong and making clear moral choices or does this sound more like control doctrine that forces people to fallow blindly and not be able to determine reality for what it is?
rescueParticipantHappy new year. Which part of the Torah contradicts what I said? Let’s go
rescueParticipantHakatan. _reality_ determines morality as it is the fabric of creation. Whether God looked into the Torah and created the world doesn’t contradict that morality is still the fabric of reality. The Torah and reality are a complement of the other not a contradiction.
rescueParticipantRd tietalbaum I understand why your saying all that because your operating from a place of blind obedience and you also believe that the Torah asks of us to have blind obedience. But that is not how humans were designed and because they are not designed that way I would think that God who created us, knows that about us and wouldn’t ask us to do so.
The Torah codifies morality. It doesn’t demand obedience
It codifies for us consenquences to our actions
It doesn’t demand obedience
Whatever is written in the Torah is talking about what happens to us when we choose not as “punishment” but as consenquences to actions.
The reason why the Torah cannot demand blind obedience is because _life_ is so complex you cannot have blind obedience in life but you _do_ have to have a very strong grasp of morality, to make moral choices, a strong grasp of principles, of faith, and the multitude of biblical and spiritual principles that it takes to live on the earth. All that is codafied in the Torah it’s just easily misrepresented by agenda driven dogma that can confuse principles for fear based thinking.
You are operating from a doctrine mindset of do or die.
And I am operating from a blue print mindset of clear moral guidance for a complicated world, a guidebook for how to be a clear thinking human being on earth.
With your individuality intact
My question for you is, if dogma and control is the name of the game how do you make real life choices?
How do you know truly what is right and wrong if you cannot think for yourself to understand as such and you have to blindly fallow whatever you are told. The reason why I disagree with your viewpoint is, is because you cannot fully live on the real world that way. The rules of do or die do not allow you to navigate the world properly and because it doesn’t allow for critical thinking it cannot be the true mirror of what the Torah is saying because reality and the Torah are symbiotically connected. The two work hand in hand. One side cannot contradict the other. If it does and does not allow a human being to operate how he was designed and created you are misinterpreting the morals written within. The Torah is supposed to guide you as an intact human being, not to control you and force you to conform yourself to doctrine thinkingrescueParticipant“Self-determination fosters better morality by transforming external rules into internal values through a process called internalization, whereas indoctrinated thinking relies on external control and heteronomy (regulation by forces outside the self). In Self-Determination Theory (SDT), moral norms become truly moral only when they are fully endorsed by the self through intrinsic motivation, ensuring the individual acts from their own reasoned commitment rather than fear of punishment or social pressure”
The fulfillment of three basic psychological needs—autonomy, competence, and relatedness—facilitates this deep internalization, allowing individuals to integrate moral principles into their own identity. This autonomous moral motivation is more self-sustaining, less prone to depletion, and enables people to learn from moral mistakes without becoming defensive, unlike controlled motivation which stems from introjected pressures or external rewards.
There’s a very specific design to our creation and part of that is self determination. When we can be free to use self determination morality and moral principles are much more deeply embedded because right and wrong becomes more important to us because it alighns with deep internal values not external need for control.
If this is out true desighn, then G-d knows that and wouldn’t ask us to manipulate ourselves into believing things we don’t truly believe.
rescueParticipant“True morality requires true freedom because it is defined not by blind obedience to external doctrines, but by moral self-determination, where an individual freely chooses to act according to reason and universal laws they have understood from their own conscious and life experience and understanding. In this framework, a person acts morally only when they are autonomous (self-governing), meaning their actions stem from an internal recognition of duty rather than external coercion, natural inclinations, or fear of punishment
The Bible is not an external book but an internal one. It teaches us morality as a spiritual guide. It is _not_ a doctrine of control it is a book of principles rules and laws of physics which is written into the fabric of our humanity. It doesn’t control us. Its a guide for our intact individualism
It was never meant to destroy our autonomy but to give us a blueprint of this reality so we can guide our complicated virtues in a complicated world.
Not to make us into complete copy robots of one another and take away our individualityrescueParticipantThe question is. What do _you_ truly believe and agree with. You might be surprised that when the Torah is interpreted correctly it’s more in line with the deep seated conscience and desire for freedom that you truly wish you had. Your just stuck, very stuck on the dogmatic fear based thinking that is chaining your soul. So let me ask you this. If all the laws didn’t exist and you would be able to choose..who would you be. _thar_ is the person god wants to use to worship Him. Not the fake one chained to fake ideologies.
rescueParticipant“It would be awesome tho if we could”
Why would it be so awesome? Besides somewhere inside your soul you wish you had the free will to use your own conscience and critical thinking. That somewhere deep inside your soul if the laws your so attached to didn’t exist it meant you are free to choose what you feel and what you believe….rescueParticipantQuerty
Morality is defined by _reality_ . The Torah just codifies it. That’s why it’s very important to filter all beliefs systems with what exists in reality cuz if reality shows it’s not true then the belief system isn’t true either. The two are connected cuz they are a mirror of each other. Not the other way aroundrescueParticipantdespite there being right and wrong, a person still has free will to make choices based on his own conscience, because that’s how we were designed, for critical thinking. Not for black and white dogmatic thinking.
right and wrong exist and bypassing those realities come with dire consenquences to self and others but we still have the ability to choose and within that ability there is room to make free will choices. Including not living by dogmatic extrmism which was shown above by one of the commentators.rescueParticipantPierka avos says “asie lecha rav” because its wise for a person to have a mentor. It’s imporant to intepret things properly into human concepts that apply and not to use it to push extreme dogmatic agendas.
rescueParticipant“Dogmatic thinking leads to bullying and the justification of dehumanization by fostering a rigid belief that one’s worldview represents an absolute truth that cannot be questioned or compromised. This mindset causes individuals to view anyone with differing opinions not merely as mistaken, but as enemies or threats to their moral or ideological coalition, stripping them of their individual humanity.
When people hold dogmatic attitudes, they often exhibit several behaviors that directly facilitate harm:
Inflexibility and Dismissal: Dogmatic individuals are unwilling to seek or accept corrective information, leading them to dismiss counterarguments and ignore the perspectives of others entirely.
Tribalism and “Othering”: The belief in absolute truth encourages a sharp division between “us” and “them,” where those outside the group are dehumanized or labeled as inferior, making hostility toward them seem justified.
Emotional Defense Mechanisms: Driven by fear and anxiety about their place in social hierarchies, dogmatic people may use bullying as a way to assert dominance and protect their ego from the perceived threat of being wrong or inadequate”Dogmatic thinking doesn’t equal truth. It is fear based and control based. It doesn’t allow for real conversation only humiliation and control of those that don’t step in line.
That’s not truth that’s extremismMarch 27, 2026 3:11 pm at 3:11 pm in reply to: How Did Shimon End Up In The Aseres HaShevatim? #2530859rescueParticipantMashiach is a person who will save humanity…..he will be form the tribe of Judah. Which in my understanding means he will embody the character traits of yehudah. That doesn’t mean he’s going to be Jewish. And anyways a Jewish person can’t be known across the world by everybody simply because it’s improbable
rescueParticipantSo anyone that doesn’t believe what you believe it’s ok to use violence againts them. How is this different then Islamic extrmism and how can you be angry when they hate Jews if you too hate everyone and condone violence againts anyone that doesn’t agree with you lol
rescueParticipantSomejew I know
It’s so sad that you openly admit your hatred for others and your cruelty. If this is your beliefs and if this represents what Jews believe then your all operating from a place of abject cruelty and control. And that’s very sad.rescueParticipantR d tietalbaum
I appreciate you want to live in a world where everybody wears a straight jacket and lives in unrealistic state of fear. But I have free will. That means I can think for myself and make choices based off my own thinking and make choices outside any control system _i_ choose cuz that’s a god given right and I refuse, because I think it’s unhealthy and unrealistic to live in extrmism. I respect that what you choose to do and that’s what makes you happy but I cannot live that way and I refuse to do so. I choose to see God as loving and caring and albeit sometimes judgment is necessary but I believe and like to believe that God who created us also lives and works from realistic thinking and he will forgive me for using language properly, which is when I want to convey a message and especially a biblical message so others can understand. Exactly in the way language was designed to be used. Thank you tho I appreciate your timerescueParticipantQuerty
Do you know what hypocricy means. You keep pointing at everybody else yet your always hangering on everybody about how bad _they_ are. If you want to accuse others of antisemitism. Look in the mirror thanksrescueParticipantSquare root honestly can you blame them? Their operating from 2 year old logic
rescueParticipantSquare root god punishes people because the world requires “balance” so whatever you put out, especially remorseless cruelty, has a Devine reaction that is like a boomerang so strong it usually hits with consenquences that are sudden and shocking.
It’s deserved. Every person generally gets what they deserve especially cruel people. So yep. Nobody is above the law. Especially Devine law.
So they can keep hangering people humiliating them dehumanizing them but gods hand of justice finds those who deserve it.
Sometimes it comes as an illness
Sometimes it comes as a tragedy
Sometimes it comes as suffering
Sometimes it comes in all different ways. But what you put out you get back lol
These people don’t believe in God. Cuz if they truly did they would understand that this world as free as it seems has living consequences.
Choices matterrescueParticipantSomejewiknow
And this is where the “people use religion to justify cruelty”
Comes from lol. Now I get it. Thanks for revealing your cruel rhetoric to all of us. Glad to know that’s what type of person you are.
Did you say you keep the Torah
The Torah says this “treat others as you treat yourself”.
So that would mean respect others despite your differences. I want to see where in the Torah (since you always have to use the Torah for a yardstick and you can’t think for yourself) does it say to treat others badly because of their belief systemrescueParticipantQuerty how do you know that God won’t say the same about you. I gave you musser as well and you didn’t take it. I tought you concepts like “stop bullying”
“Common sense” unheard of in your seemingly boxed in reality and yet you still don’t listen. Not a word. And you continue your hangering and lashing out trying to punish anyone who doesn’t conform to your extremism. Why are you so sure God will be talking to me when your hypocriticaly doing the exact same thing
Maybe it’s because you don’t know what God will do because you are not Him and also I don’t personally think that God punishes people for having differences of oppion as that would make God selfish and cruel and unrealistic which is actually a little insulting to your creator to think that way of Him.. I think he’s going to be _very_ unhappy with your behavior in the afterlife. You prob should try to make amends quickrescueParticipantWho you talking too querty cuz when you shout into the abyss only your own echo returns. Prob should stop taking before you reveal who you really are
rescueParticipantQuerty I wasnt defending her beliefs. You really do need to see a psychiatrist
rescueParticipantQuerty
So your saying because I defended her againts your bullying, which is wrong lol
For someone who claims to believe in “Torah” it’ says “treat others as you treat yourself” you seem to treat yourself one way and treat others another way so your a living can tradition and also defending someone against ugly behavour doesn’t equal endorsing their beliefs.
You really are special aren’t you?rescueParticipantQuerty
We _are_ arguing About what the Torah says. I simply disagree with your viewpoint
If talking about common sense, and other basic concepts mnakees me a “bad” person…then you might be crazy. Get your brain checked lol you might need medsrescueParticipantDr pepper good point. The system only works for the elites
rescueParticipant“we actively shut down dissent and adamantly reject critical thinking as a foundation of learning”
This belief goes against reality and basic common sense
Imagine I told you that you had to fallow me and you can’t decide or think for yourself? You’d never agree because a new life system like that is crazy. The reason why it’s crazy is because it’s unhealthy and it being unhealthy and abusive means that its not realistic. It not being realistic means it’s anti biblical and goes against the design of creation which is _you_. You being a created being and G-d being the creator means that He also doesn’t demand things from His creation that isn’t realistic. So your either interpreting the Torah wrong cuz the Torah works in alignment with reality because it’s the _blueprint_ _of_ reality or you love your extemist ideology cuz it gives you a false sense of ego and “rightness” which makes people feel their above scrutinyrescueParticipantSomjewiknow
My world view is not crooked. You may not agree with it because it doesn’t fallow your extreme ideology but I’ve showed time and again my voice points are more grounded in reality then yours. You can scream all day they are not but just shows how angry you are when people present basic abc to you. Meaning your an extremists in your views and any kind of basic dissent to your extreme oppion isn’t just a basic disagreement but an affront to your whole lifestyle which shows how dramatic you are. ChillrescueParticipantOh the extreme examples to prove your points…sigh stop bringing a dictator into everything that’s an extreme example that doesn’t apply as balance is key in reality.
Second I defended her cuz your incessant bullying was _wrong_ you may not agree with her and she can absolutely be wrong about it but the stones you guys threw at her seemed to me to be a more of humiliation ritual then a disagreement. Sorry not sorryrescueParticipantAlso your argument mirrors the way alot of people argue. The technical definition isn’t always _the_ actual definition in reality.
For example feminist will argue that feminism doesn’t mean degredation of men because that’s not the “technical” meaning. But in reality the ideology itself translates in the real world as degredation of men
There’s the technical definition and then how it plays out in reality and those are two different things.
There are countless examples of this when it comes to peoples ideologies.
What is written on paper isn’t always how it translates in reality so when you say I don’t “understand anti semitism” I understand perfectly clearly. Your just getting techinical and refusing to see the reality for what it isrescueParticipantI think people have a problem saying no. If you can’t afford camp….find an alternative?
Even the shidduch system is a little crazy, parents are forced to put down money and struggle so their kids can get a shidduch.
I feel like the world is upside down.
It says very clearly “honor your parents”
That means putting aside your own needs and letting them live with decency.
Backwards worldrescueParticipantErm, in biblical times the spoke Hebrew? Should we call them blasphemous too.
All language have words that are negative or derogatory
That’s reality
Knowing Hebrew is actually very important lol it helps you understand the biblical world better
I wouldn’t call that “horrifying” that’s a little dramatic.
Lashon koresh is actually words that mirror the exact frequency of reality.
If what your saying is true we would never be able to talk about anything at all about biblical truth because we may say the worda casually.
Words are casual. Language is casual it’s a way to communicaterescueParticipantIt works for some people because people appreciate the fact they can find a partner in that manner and it’s a system. But systems tend to treat people like numbers and commodities. Quite like a factory. The human factor is missing.
rescueParticipanttaking advantage of a system just because you _can_ is wrong. How many woman sighn up as single moms but are married that’s taking advantage of the system.
How many able bodied men arent working but taking money from the govement. That’s not “anti semitism” that’s people taking advantage of the system and our society is currently getting scrutinized for it.
Reality exists
“Anti semitism”
Is starting to sound like “I don’t believe in accountability” “therefore any scrutiny of my possible _wrong_ action” means people hate me.
Delusion much.rescueParticipantTrue your right
rescueParticipantDoes that make sense? Complicated to explain
rescueParticipantI think when we do checking it’s similar to what the snake said in the garden.
“Once you know you’ll be like God knowing good and evil”
Knowing information without actually knowing the person and seeing them for yourself gives people a false illusion of choice.
you cannot judge a person properly until you meet them lol,
So when you call the neighbors and find out everything about someone you are giving yourself the illusion of “knowing” them and then making false choices based on that knowing. Which isn’t real knowledge but the illusion of knowledge.
When you make choices separated from reality you thus think your like God knowing and being able to choose things based off information making your life much more complicated because you end up missing opportunities you prob could have had had you allowed reality to tell you the truth about the personrescueParticipantWell I was watching this video and it was saying, anytime someone shames you or uses humiliation when you state a basic oppnion
And he said “basic oppion”, quite like the conversations I have on these forums,
He said that when people resort to humiliation and name calling it means there’s psychological manipulation at play
Because if something cannot be scrutinized there’s something hiding in the background that people are afraid will be seen. So in order to shut down dissent and critical thinking people are marginalized and attacked rather then actually having a real conversation
You can see this a lot on this forum but a good example is what liberals do if you question themMarch 24, 2026 1:16 pm at 1:16 pm in reply to: to those vacationing in Florida in the coming weeks be careful #2529053rescueParticipantReally? I would shriek that lol. Sure….buddy
March 24, 2026 12:22 am at 12:22 am in reply to: Gashmiyus and Lavish Simchas (again) Where are our Gedolim? #2528947rescueParticipantI think, learning basic moral principles, might help this issue of extreme conformity
If I learn to have basic principles in my life, like hard work, effort, and spending within my means (these are muscles and habits that we need to learn) like going to the store and keeping a budget, first of all it will give us a stronger sense of security inside and make us stronger people overall and it will also help us combat extreme conformity because we get value from what we do, and pride from our work, instead of trying to find confidence from fitting in
The extreme suffocation of socioty is too much and it takes a strong person to do the right thing by himself in his own life because the crowds streighth is so strong
But going to the store and growing those muscles of self control in the small things
Will help us grow our self esteem in the longer term among our peers.
That’s where right and wrong and moral principles and critical thinking comes in even if you have to “go against the grain”
All great people have to stand strong in the face of adversity and it takes great streighth to go against the grain. Be that person for yourself so you can find and feel about your choices in your own life withinrescueParticipantSquare root and this is why critical thinking is important.
This extrmism is so dramatic. Everybody has to chill life is not that deep.rescueParticipantOk I think, ujm, it’s hard to get through to you, move along
March 23, 2026 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm in reply to: to those vacationing in Florida in the coming weeks be careful #2528895rescueParticipantDovid bt
Your right, reality exists tho you might be a little extreme in your thinking but if people said the same about Jewish people you’d shriek antisemitism….perhaps you should treat other people the same way you want to be treated perhaps.
..just a thought….March 23, 2026 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm in reply to: How Did Shimon End Up In The Aseres HaShevatim? #2528892rescueParticipantPekak “the shevatim don’t represent the months of the year” you say it with such conviction it must be true.
I never said they weren’t real people. Hard to have an open mind about differant concepts. Isn’t itrescueParticipantAnd somehow thats an affront to H”M….you might be a little extreme in your thinking
rescueParticipantOk so I should shut down my critical thinking and fallow someone who I disagree with. Cute.
rescueParticipantRight. But there’s a lot of control we do have over the issue like stop putting the resume as the most important component and start treating people like human beings. That might be a start. And you’re right it’s from both sides
March 23, 2026 10:41 am at 10:41 am in reply to: What will it take for the frum community to stop supporting ICE? #2528183rescueParticipantSo basicly you don’t believe in law and order. Why don’t you let all the thugs out of jail too if you don’t believe in jailers.
Better example break down your door and let everyone into your home all the burglers. Better yet invite them in, and feed them first before your family….actually how bout you give them your house and move to the slums. Oh better idea how bout you live on the street and give them your house….
Appeal to emotion has a problem
Eventually, the empathy becomes enabling. There needs to be a balance of both justice and consideration but you cannot be considerate without boundaries firstMarch 23, 2026 10:41 am at 10:41 am in reply to: to those vacationing in Florida in the coming weeks be careful #2528182rescueParticipantYou don’t think this is kinda racist lol
March 22, 2026 12:27 pm at 12:27 pm in reply to: Gashmiyus and Lavish Simchas (again) Where are our Gedolim? #2527870rescueParticipantThis is why I keep saying conformity is an issue.
Our entire lifestyle _is_ conformity. Maybe it’s time we get to the root of the issue which is
Our society does not allow for individualism and this creates this bottleneck of extreme conformity in all facets of life.
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