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asdfghjkl- yup! interesting table talk
A few more stories:
My mother was on a first date (way back before she met my father)and the guy took her to look at rings! She said no after that date.
A date was taking me to the airport to catch a flight and his car overheated right at the entrance to the airport. A nice heimish yid realized what was going on and offered his assistance. It was embarrassing and no I didn’t marry the guy.
And speaking of heels getting stuck in the grates- On a date in Manhattan I kept walking on the edge of the sidewalk so that my shoes shouldn’t get stuck in the grates and I mentioned something like ” I don’t like walking on those” when I came home I realized how that came out sounding like, Mommy I’m scared! Well, he married me anyway.
Any restaurant, Starbucks, or a walk along the boardwalk (If you have one near you).
Enjoy!
I know someone who dressed up with random colored shirt, hat, pats etc. and when he was asked what he is he said he’s a disguised polar bear- you just had to laugh.
another simple funny idea- dress up as a mekubal- with a robe, cane, head bent and mumble under your breath.
nothig….going to my in-laws.
In my neighborhood growing up we always joked that GS was a pick-up line. Of course it depends how you say it….
When someone is laid off they can get unemployment for the first little bit while they try to find something that can work for them. Most times its not even worth it to become a cashier in Wal-Mart!
Of course if unemployment takes years to process, like it did in my case, then its worth it to take any job you can get just to survive.
one more point that i think someone mentioned is to daven for her during the pregnancy and labor. they say that during labor is a tremendous time for tfilla. If you can, have her in mind.
I just found this thread now and didnt have time to read the whole thing but thought i should respond. A friend of mine worked in Starbucks and said that she was shocked at what frum Jews were ordering. She figured they just didn’t realize that it really wasn’t kosher. Devora, if you want to help these women you need to be able to go over to them totally non-judgmental and let them know that it could be a problem of kashrus- then, if they listen or not is out of your control.
i love shikufitzky! I thought i was the only crazy one!
Teenager, I feel for you and I feel for all the kids in this situation. I was recently there and so I know exactly what you are referring to. My suggestion to you is to find yourself a “big sister” or mentor who can help you, guide you, and most important hang out with you.
Starting a kosher hang out is alot of work and, as previous posters stated, many frum communities wont go for it. However, finding a mentor will help you in the short term and maybe you guys can bring oyur idea to fruition. In general, If you have a mentor it might be easier to do the right thing because you know that there is someone who cares about you and believes in you.
When I was growing up my older sister was my mentor- she had gone thru alot and therefore was able to help me. So one summer, when I was 18 and hanging out in the mountains for the summer (lifeguard) I made friends with a whole bunch of guys. When my sister came to visit fo rShabbos I wanted to show her my friends because I knew she wouldnt be judgemental. When we went out to bowling moztai Shabbos ( at 2 in the a.m.)I was busy getting to know some guy when another guy came over to my sister and told her how amazing she is for what she’s doing and how he wishes he would have had someone like that for him when he was in highschool! p.s.- I never spoke to the guy after that and my girlfriends were so impressed and turned on to Judiasm that my kollel wife sister was so cool and non-judgemental and willing to party.
Another mentor that I had brught over some books for me to read when I was under house arrest (by my parents) and suspended from school. She also hung out with me when I needed some support and some good, clean fun.
Without my mentors I dont know where I’d be today- there were so many people that helped me alog those crazy years and I guess this is a good time to say thank you to all those out there who care about Hashems lost and hurt children.
I’m sorry for rambling but I hope this letter can help someone out there. Also does anyone know if there are any mentoring programs in Lakewood – I would like to be a mentor and attempt to give back at least some of what I got.
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The school I was at actually paid the staff to have girls over for Shabbos- this made it a win-win situation. We got to eat at special people, who lived very simple Torah lives but they didnt lose out because of it as they were fully compensated for it.
This wasnt public knowledge because the school didnt want the girls to feel like the teachers would only have them for pay.
How About this one-
If you had to describe the girl as an animal what animal would you say she resembles and why?
(I’ve actually heard of such a question. I think the one asking the question is the animal)
I was in school in Israel for two years and I always say that if parents knew half of what their child does in Israel they wouldnt sent him/her.
On the other hand, for me Israel was the best thing. I once commented to my father that I felt bad that I cost him so much money by going to Israel. He told me that he felt it was very worth it and he would do it again. I agree that I would not be the person I am today without having gone to Seminary.
However, Seminary is not for everyone- for some it can be a world of growth and for some it can cause tremendous destruction (I’ve seen that too).
Some bloggers brought up attending Sem in america or England- between me my sisters and friends we discovered that because there are scholarships offered to those going to Israel, Israel is actually cheaper for us out of towners, (who dont have a seminary where we live).
In general, every parent must know their child well before sending them off for ten months on their own. Make this disicion wisely and ask sheilos if necessary- don’t just bend to the pressure!
Rabbi Keleman of Neve Yerushalayim has said about the definition of normal: Hashem, being perfect, is the epitome of normal. The closer one is to Hashem and follows in His ways the more “normal” he is. However, as he deviates from Hashem he is taken further away from the title of “normal”.
Is it actually possible for someone to be totally completely average and not excel at one thing?
Everyone can excel at something. If someone is lacking talents they can make it up by excelling in sensitivity, patience or even talking. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and I have yet to meet an average person.
In answer to the last question- when someone dresses provocatively it is usually a reflection of feeling empty on the inside. As a recent teenager I’ve been there and done that. I nkow what the feeling of emptiness looks like. It pains me whan I see someone dressing to show off her outside because she feels she has no internal worth.