Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
I went to a rally last night in La. They mentioned about other rallies that also occured globally. It moved me so much, so many Jews coming together for their brother. – They stressed that it’s Not about condoning negative activity, we should always do things ethically. It’s about being there for our brother during this hard ordeal when the goverment is exceedingly hard on him
I think that was probably the purpose of this hard ordeal; to bring us together.
May our achdus help to bring the geula closer
Aries has a good point. A lot of teens are under too much pressure and can’t take it. There are things to help them back. But we should do prevention by giving them what they need so they don’t go off.
If some of them need a slower pace, then fine give that to them.
If some of them don’t feel the joy of Judaism or understand the meaning, then provide that to them. – It’s important that parents and teachers know what the child going through because they might look okay but really not be. Parents should communicate with them while they are still okay to prevent them going down hill
I think what they are saying is that we should protect our children more because they are more important. -If we try to protect things that that don’t really matter, we should do much more with our kids who are more precious.
Funny, I’m listening to Shlomie Gertner and then some of you mention it here.
I’ve looked up my english name and hebrew name. It’s interesting to see what comes up.
True, we should remember the importance of ahavah. That’s why this project of working on our middos is so important because we need to unify in order to be strong, like in the Purim story.
Babies and kids deffinately need to stay hydrated.
That’s an excellent idea to work on a mitzvah or middah for the zchus of easing our way toward the Geula.
I’ll try to work on emunah, plus try to control my temper.
well said, the only way to improve is to accept that we need to.
Maybe people will accept it more if the person giving the advice conveys that they are only doing it because they care. Plus, maybe they can make a deal with the person, for example, I’ll work on this and you work on that. That way, the person doesn’t feel like the only one doing something.
The problem is not just on message boards but also in person too. People are sometimes disrespectful to each other because they become emotional and passionate about the topic.
However, we’re not very persuasive when overheated. We just sound like a pushover. The best way for people to get their point across is to Talk Calmly. Takes discipline but is more effective.
While sometimes people need advice, there are many who are fine and following halacha. We might not agree with them, but we can still try to get along.
What we should do is not look at the outside but the inside and see the specialness that’s in every Jew
What concerns me is how the BT feels. They come so inspired by Judaism and then find people arguing etc. We need to be a GOOD EXAMPLE for them and help them continue being inspired. Example is a much stronger teacher than words. When people see people acting nicely, enjoying Shabbos, being tznius, they’re inspired to also.
I heard a beautiful speech inwhich the speaker said there are two types of unity. One that comes when something harsh happens and people come together. And one that happens because they really feel connected like at har Sinai.
With the first one, while it might work to bring people together like when there is a tradegy and they feel for each other. Sometimes, it’s a situation like everyone is stuck in elevator and they have to get along. This last example is just for the each individuals sake.
But at Har Sinai, that was true unity because they truely felt connected to each other.
The way to achieve this is to work on looking PAST the SURFACE and FOCUS on each other’s SPECIAL NESHAMA.
Now of course, people sometimes need constructive criticism, and we should give someone that if they need it. That is also a form of love. But if they are following halacha and do it differently than you, you might not agree, but don’t Disrespect them.
We have to be careful Not just with gossip stories but also Hurtful words towards someone
The speaker I heard said that achdus is very important because it’s one of the things that we need to acquire Torah, like in the Purim story when they united and re-accepted the Torah
Dr Pepper, great story. It’s amazing how a little thing like ‘Good morning’ can make a difference. Our little actions and words have so much power. We can brighten someone’s day or bring it down with negativity, G-d forbid. This story is a good reminder.
Tomim, that’s also a nice one 🙂
a long while ago, while I was waiting for the bus, I found that I didn’t have enough change with me for the bus fare. Then a frum lady drove by and saw me and offered me a ride. It was very nice of her
mazel tov
Baruch Hashem, I have 3 nieces and 2 nephews
Plus, keep in mind that some runaways are just be tired of it all and don’t want to come back, and so it’ll time for them, but just be patient and supportive
You have to make bounderies, but I think that there should be a balance of that, plus space. They need both, one to keep them safe and the other so we don’t push them away. Some things we can’t let them do and are off limits. However, we also need to let teens be able to make small choices. That’s sometimes how people learn. They might decide that you are right, but they don’t know until they see for themself. Like this story in which this man didn’t want his son to go to the movie, but he let him choose what to do. The young man went there and afterwards decided it’s Not worth it and left that place.
Of course, every case is diff and some might stay there. But if they forbid him from going to watch it, he might lie and say he’s going to a friend’s house or something. It’s better that they know where he is.
–
Also, in regards to a child who’s off and run away, let them know they have a place to return. Sometimes, kids don’t come back because they feel they can’t. Let them know you are there
Just like we know our mom and dad is there for us, so too, Hashem is always there. And everything He does is for our best, eventhough sometimes it’s hard to see that.
Like a Parent, He has given us so much for our own benefit and wants us to take care of ourselves and others spiritually, physically, emotionally so we can continue to be holy and connect to Him.
Anymore stories — it’s great inspiration to improve our middos thereby reaching our potential
Before someone marries, they have to think ahead in to what their situation might be like. A good idea would be to ask someone in that situation about it so you kind of have sense of what it’s like.
For example, if a girl wants lifestyle inwhich her husband learns while she works and takes care of the kids, then she should talk to a woman who has that, and ask her about some things about it. This way she can make an informed decision what to do. She might say yes she wants it, or decide she wants someone who does both learn and work.
theres the Jewish site yideo tube and the cool Jew
I saw some really beautiful jewish music videos for example, Yosef Kardunar, Baruch Levine, Berry Weber and so on
Refuah sheleimah
main thing is people should realize that it’s what’s inside that counts
Avraham showed a lot of enthusiasm when he invited guests
Someone told me Sunday they were at the store and heard someone ask why the light fixtures are moving. They figured it’s probably an earthquake. Where I live, it was a small vibration. I didn’t know about it until I heard the news. 🙂
I really think you should consider one of the things I mentioned. Griffith Park has so many activities and is affordable.
Or like you mentioned, the aquarium in Long beach, they also have boat rides 🙂
btw if you search on google for griffith park it is the second link
Miniture golf at Sherman Oaks Castle Park in the valley near La. And Griffith Park, which is in between the city and valley has horse back riding, hiking, a zoo, minature train ride, and a planetarium
have a good time
It’s important for people to take time to find out some things first like whether you two are compatible with each other’s personality, have similar goals and interests and so on. Also, we need to have realistic expectations, for example, in regards to lifestyle, parnassa and so on. Take care
I think that if you want to be alone that’s fine. Or you could do what oomis said about having other singles over. You guys can keep each other company. Anyway, hope you have a good time during the second half of Pesach with the kids 🙂
Good idea, I choose mine as you see above 121, 130 because the first one talks about our help coming from H’, and the second one talks about yearning to be close to Him
Plus, besides better nutrition, people also need excercise
so nice you put links
It can be a frustrating time. What I like to do is listen to music while cleaning, and do one small job at a time.
Good point, safty first. It’s important to stay whole so we can serve H’
On a sidenote, that’s so cute, father and son riding together 🙂
The 14th track is sounds so spiritual 🙂
This is why it’s important for parents to communicate with their children early on so they have that connection and can help their children with whatever they need. There’s a story I heard from a friend reading Mispacha magazine, about a guy who was having a hard time behaving at school. He didn’t mean to, he just couldn’t help it. If I remember correctly, he had ADHD. He was having a hard with everything and so he went off. But later, when he was given the support he needs, he came back.
Sidenote, just want to add that for ADHD, besides medicine, a special nutrician plan and exercise helps
There’s a book called ‘At Risk-Never beyond Reach’ By Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch which helps parents communicate with their children
What I look for is someone who is nice, respectful, observant, who’s both learning and working. Someone I can have a nice conversation with. What’s important is compatability, middos, mature and reliable. Someone who’ll treat their spouse like a partner. Also, Don’t look for perfection, Nobody’s perfect. Just look for important things, like their personality etc