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Tuna fish, egg salad, watermelon, dairy (in the summer), leftover gefilte fish, salads.
The Wolf
(Just waiting to be criticized by someone saying “How dare you serve that at a Shabbos Seuda! Don’t you have any respect for the kedusha of Shabbos?”) 🙂
Where do you live?! You obviously dont live in Brooklyn, Five Towns or Lakewood!
As a matter of fact, I *do* live in Brooklyn. And while there are showy Jews in Brooklyn, there are showy non-Jews in Brooklyn as well. I don’t believe it’s to any greater (or lesser) extent than in the population as a whole.
The Wolf
i don’t thin k when a choson and kalla are about to start a yiddish home, and build a bais neman byisroel, there should be a mixed crowd.
Then don’t invite any non-Jews to your wedding.
i also think it strength’s the false rumors of our wealth, they can only wish for what we call a cheap wedding.
Interesting notion. Hiding in your statement is the assumption that we pay for wedding we cannot afford. Perhaps that should change.
it doesn’t add any yirash shamaim, or ahavas yisroel, so why do it.
Maybe it adds to the simcha of the chosson and the kallah? I know that I was very happy to have everyone who was at my wedding — Jew and non-Jew alike.
The Wolf
Which leads me to another rant: we frum Jews WORSHIP money!!!
Speak for yourself.
A number of years ago, I won a megillas Esther at a Chinese auction. It came with a beautiful large silver case. I personally detest ostentatious displays (for myself, anyway) and NEVER used the case. For a number of years, I carried the megillah around in a Ziplock bag.
Eventually, my mother in law bought me a simple wooden case, which I now use.
In any large population, you’ll find some examples of people who are showy. But I don’t think frum Jews are any more or less showy with their wealth than the population at large.
The Wolf
Yayin mevushal?
No, that’s a non-issue. It’s the wine that’s not mevushal that might be the issue.
As for me, all my affairs have been non-alcoholic so it wasn’t an issue. (Yeah, I know… we’re boring people.)
The Wolf
I’ve had non-Jews at just about every simcha that I ever made. No issues, no problems. If they have questions about the goings on, they’ll no doubt ask someone to explain it to them.
The Wolf
I know nothing about the company mentioned in the OP — good or bad. Nonetheless, I would strongly advise speaking with a professional financial adviser before engaging in debt settlement.
The Wolf
I’m not sending my kid to Israel next year… but largely because we can’t afford it.
The Wolf
Amazing !!! None of the scholars, pseudo-scholars and scholar wannabes noticed that Chayiv is mis transliterated
So what? It doesn’t change the essence of the conversation and it’s not as if the transliteration of the word is m’akev. 🙂
The Wolf
Yeah, yeah… I meant “statute.” Ya got me. 🙂
The Wolf
actually “wolf”, im your conscience.
Whatever.
if your saying that EVEN a yeshiva bochur IN ISREAL wouldnt know what goes on
No that’s not what I’m saying.
What I’m saying is that you are *personally* aware of the spending habits of a small subset of people. If you want to be aware of the spending habits of yeshiva bochrim in Israel in general, you need to gather a lot more data. Have you done so? Or are you extrapolating from a small non-random-sampled group to a population as a whole?
then maybe you should learn a few things!!
As should you as well. You should learn about data sampling techniques and statistics.
I also noticed that while you posted a question, you failed to provide any solution for what you perceive to be the problem. Since you seem to believe that there is a huge problem*, please at least give a suggestion for a solution.
The Wolf
* Just to be clear — I’m not saying that you are wrong. You may well be right that bochrim “spend money like hotcakes.” I’m just asking you to back up how you came to that conclusion.
Boy, I must *really* be wicked. One day I was hammering together two pieces of wood while standing on a ladder. I had a box of nails on the top step of the ladder and accidentally knocked them off and onto the floor. Although, to be fair, I did pick them up afterward. 🙂
The Wolf
1) A YESHIVA BOCHUR IN ISRAEL!!!
Congrats. So you’re personally aware of a small subset of yeshiva students in Israel whom you know personally.
Anecdotal evidence should not be used as conclusive proof for a large group.
The Wolf
why shouldnt i have some fun with it?
While it may give you some satisfaction, what you’re proposing is illegal. Just because someone is blocking your driveway does not give you the right — under halacha or New York State law — to damage the car.
Mind you, I sympathize with you greatly and, truth be told, your suggestion game me quite a smile and, I’ll admit, there is a sense of karmic justice in it all. But in the end, it’s still not the right thing to do. As your parents no doubt taught you, two wrongs don’t make a right*.
The Wolf
* Although three rights make a left.
Wolf, mind if I ask where the name Eees comes from?
It’s a nickname. We both have (numerous) nicknames for each other.
The Wolf
Homeowner,
You missed one very important aspect in your laundry list — the fact that it’s just not right. I’ll bet the double parker woldn’t like it if someone blocked his driveway or blocked him in.
Where’s the simple common courtesy?
The Wolf
Had my mother come over, I too would probably not have lit.
Ugh… that’s horrible. Trust me, folks, I actually meant to write in intelligible English. 🙂
The Wolf
my MIL was in my house with my husband and kids
That is a key difference between your situation and mine. When Eees had the boys, I did not have a female in the house to light candles, so I did on my own. Had my mother come over, I too would probably not have lit.
The Wolf
When I’m in the hospital after having a baby, I light Shabbos candles there.
As you should. But unless your husband is staying with you, he needs to light wherever he is as well.
The Wolf
i feel that bochurim in isreal spend their parents money like its hotcakes. do you?
Do you have any factual evidence to back up this “feeling?”
(And how does one spend hotcakes anyway?)
The Wolf (who never, ever spent a hotcake in his life).
November is National Novel Writing Month — or, when shortened, NaNoWriMo.
You can Google for more details.
The Wolf
I always thought Frank Purdue was a gilgul of Ed Koch
Can you be a gilgul of someone who’s still alive? 🙂
The Wolf
(Yes, I realize you were just joking.)
I work in an area of Manhattan where there are no kosher restaurants anywhere nearby. If I want to go out to eat, I’d have to hop on the subway and spend at least ten to fifteen minutes traveling by train.
The Wolf
Every year I mean to do so and every year I am far too busy come November.
Of course, it doesn’t *have* to be done in November — I can write during any month. 🙂
The Wolf
See B’eer Hietiev O”C 263:3 that some had the minhag that the 1st shabbos after giving birth the husband lit the shabbos candles.
1. I never heard of this minhag.
2. Even if I had heard of it, there was no saying that I would accept it.
3. It doesn’t matter now because I can’t go back and undo it.
The Wolf
I’m proud, some people however think its crazy.
I don’t particularly care what “some people” think. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man cooking – period – end of story. Anyone who thinks that it’s “crazy” because a man cooks seriously needs to have their attitudes re-adjusted.
The Wolf
It is very difficult to read long, unformatted blocks of text such as this. Next time, please at least arrange it into readable paragraphs with line breaks inbetween.
Thanks,
The Wolf
charlie – there is no motzi shem ra on a nochri.
Even if that’s so (and I don’t know it to be), don’t you think that needlessly damaging someone’s reputation is a bad thing – even if they are a nochri?
(I don’t actually expect an answer to this question.)
The Wolf
I have been so
That should have read “I have never been so.”
The Wolf
BTW, for the record, I have never been a closet cook. The term “closet cook” indicates (to me, anyway) that one is embarrassed or ashamed of his cooking ability or desire. I have been so. I have always been very proud of the fact that I can make food and always love trying out new recipes and dishes.
So, to that extent, I am NOT a “closet cook.” I am a very proud one — one of the very few areas of my life in which I do take pride.
The Wolf
See Kitzur Shuchan Aruch 35:8 That only when wife is not home and waiting for her will cause the dough to spoil
Well, in my case, the dough would not have spoiled, but if I waited for her to come home, we would not have had challah for Shabbos. There would not have been enough time for it to bake.
The Wolf
This was always one of those issues that I struggled with as a parent. My kids like to sometimes get up and read as well.
In the end, I decided that the battle wasn’t worth fighting. There were far more pressing issues that I want to impress upon them… such as table manners when actually sitting at the table.
In the end, I think the ability to sit through a meal to the end will come on it’s own with additional maturity. Table manners, OTOH, will not.
The Wolf
Assuming this is in the United States, I wonder if there might be legal issues with their not treating you well because you don’t believe in their beliefs.
The Wolf
Yes, but the wife has a “din k’dima” on theese mitzvos
That may be true… but if she’s not there (as she was not when I baked the challos or lit candles) then a man is just as obligated as a woman and MUST perform these mitzvos… just as a woman MUST recite kiddush if there is no man available.*
The Wolf
* That situation existed in my house for four years. From the time my parents separated until I became a bar mitzvah, my mother made kiddush and homitzi on Shabbos.
The Wolf
True! And also for lighting Shabat and Yom Tov candles.
Yep. When my sons were born, Eeees was still in the hospital at the onset of Shabbos (they were born on Friday and Thursday). So, those weeks, I lit the candles in the house.
(My daughter was born on a Tuesday — so Eeees was home in time for Shabbos that time.)
The Wolf
Maybe I’m remembering wrong, but I do not believe there is a statue of limitations. In fact, I’m pretty sure that I recall that once he has been convicted, any two people who were present can later go to another bais din, testify that the defendant was convicted of a capital crime (along the normal rules of testimony) and the new bais din can execute him. The original witnesses need not be present and the original testimony need not be rehashed.
The Wolf
Good for you Wolf, whats about Hafrushas Chalah? My wife does that, never did that mitzva myself even as I bake the chalah.
Yes, I was mafrish challah as I used all of a five pound bag of flour. It was the first time I was mafrish challah in my challah.
Men have the very same chiyuv regarding hafrashas challah. It’s commonly associated with women since they tend to bake bread more often in the home, but if a man does it, he is just as obligated to separate challah.
The Wolf
Yes Yaakov avinu kissed Rochel but does it mean that any man can kiss any women?
I never said that it did.
The Wolf