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It’s not doing chessed that is bothersome to me. I think we should always have a good attitude towards helping others and I have no problem with hosting people for shabbos meals and dinners. I guess I was just surprised that someone would ask a newlywed to have her two female friends come live by her. It’s just something that I wouldnt do.
There are many who push for premarital counseling for any couple that gets engaged. I think it is a great idea, especially to work out how a couple plans on dealing with the practical aspects of marriage. It is not enough to have similar hashgafos, you will still need help dealing with finances, mortgages and bills.
Oh my goodness. Enough with the tzniyus rants already. As one poster already correctly said everyone is here in this world and working on their own struggles. Some are easier to see but all are real and personal. If we were perfect we would already be in the next world. So maybe your challenge isn’t tzniyus but it is something else. Work on yourself first. Your self righteous posts do not inspire ANYONE to be more tzniyus.
It sounds like it, and while that is very lofty its a bit unreasonable.
How do girls style their extensions?
Looks are inevitably a part of every shidduch, to not care at all is quite rare. As such, I think every girl should do what it takes to put her best foot forward, obviously barring extreme unhealthy measures.
Shtender Bender: No I believe it should go here because its just of the many things that girls are doing for their dates. And I want to know what the boys that go out with these type of girls would think.
Boys please answer this: Would you want to know or would you rather remain blissfully oblivious. I have two friends that got engaged and married. One decided never to tell her husband, letting him assume she got a drastic hair cut for her shaitel to fit. One decided to let him in on the secret. What do boys want?
More_2: What do you mean? Isn’t a large part of a girl’s beauty her hair? There is a reason why people spend so much money on their wigs!
MorahRach: that is a very small difference. hair extensions can really make quite a big difference. One of my friends has very short hair and her extensions add on a good 9 inches to her hair. To some boys that want a girl with nice long hair…it could be considered dishonest? Couldnt it?
Do boys think this is weird? Would they rather know or not if a girl is wearing extensions?
Also can you tell if people are wearing extensions? I’ve seen many brides that wear them and they are not blended in!
Well…back to the original question…I personally like colored shirts on boys, especially on dates. A nice blue, green or pin striped shirt is great.
My questions to boys:
What do you think a girl should order on a date? What should she never order?
If she is the same height as you should she not wear heels?
Finally if it didn’t work out between the two of you would you ever consider suggesting your friend for her?
Oh what a fantastic thread. I know so many stories. My friend told me that a girl she knows went to work in a camp (maybe Camp Simcha). Anyways her camper was a lovely girl that had cancer. The counselor and camper kept in touch for many years, and one day the camper suggested her brother for her counselor. The couple just got married last week!!
Or if you want a bit of a different way..you can make tuna salad where you take the can of tuna throw in some diced celery and onions and mayonnaise and blend it all up in a food processor. No mashing necessary 🙂
Obviously there was some basic discussion before the date and we have discovered that we are both modern orthodox. However, when is the time to begin fine tuning the exact religious levels? How do you bring it up without sounding like an interrogation?
What about the tzeddakah organizations that pay a huge salary to the heads of the organization? Some of these “flashy’ tzeddakahs pay their top managers upwards of $200,000!