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I’m not a Skulener ( I knew his father Z”TL, a tzaddik ) but there’s something wrong here.
First, let’s deal with the rules that the bochorim broke. Ok, so punish them , make them eat dry bagels with halvah for a week, let them stand in the corner for 10 days, and gamarnu.
But I’d like to hear from that rosh yeshiva as to what his real reason was… the real emes…. Quoting Shulchan Aruchs isn’t going to cut it. A levayeh is Torah, it’s one of the most important mitzvos – showing kavod to a human, a Yid, and especially a beloved rebbe.
I’m convinced that some, many, if not all of these bochorim’s parents knew what they were going to do.
They didn’t cut seder to play at an arcade. So, kibud av is also part of this picture.
A similar thing happened to me , where a rebbe of my offspring disallowed him to be with family for a simcha ( I don’t want to give pratim). So the rebbe disregarded kibbud and respect for siblings, parents, grandparents, and in our case, a great-grandparent, who was since nifter. Derech eretz kadma l’Torah..
I’m bothered by the control that is exercised by roshei yeshiva and rebbes here and in EY who refuse to allow a bochur to come home for an occasion or leave the yeshiva for a while for another pressing need.
Besides- what he did here is to to re-open the old anti- Chassidc feud, which is already making the rounds.
You’re right, I’m confused. Maybe a researcher on a grant could write a couple of volumes on what admorim said, how it was denied by “witnesses” , how it morphed from what was actually said , if said at all, to what the Tell Overs repeat.
It’s happening all the time with a He Said that is denied later, brought back to life by signed pakshevillin which in turn are
challenged to their veracity,and on and on. Your computer has already taken over the world.You described it accurately.
Re: Rav Hutner response about Chabad propaganda and Bolsheviks.
I’m skeptical of a majority of “told over” sayings of admorim.
The Satmar Rebbe , when a chosid told him over and questioned him about something he once said, reportedly said, ” Most of the things that people say I said, I never said.”
And I’m skeptical if he even said that.
” TOLD OVER,” sounds like the telephone game.
My wife often tells me over things I said to challenge me, which I’m pretty sure I never said, and I tell her over the same.
Yes, he told over, she told over.
Also, If papa has a load of dough, the girl becomes better and better looking.
And you Haimy, ? Why you got so quiet all of a sudden?
Haimy, Haimy …
There’s more, but just to knock you out , here’s a showstopper:
On Yom Kippur, does the mother wear a white kerchief( tichel) on top of the shaitel and a shirtzel ( apron) as is the minhag by many, or is she clad in just ordinary Yom Tov clothes?
Combo from 3 people I know, 1 chassidish, 2 middle of the road yeshivish.. some q’s were from wives of questioners…
– length of peyos… behind your ears or curled( gekreizelt) alongside the face. Mikvah? Every day? Which mikvah?
– Boy wears hat? Ever see him without it? My friend’s response: Don’t know, never showered with him..
– How long his Shabbos jacket? How many buttons?
Friend’s response: Don’t know how to answer- if too many, we’ll take one off… If too little, we’ll sew one on.
– Do they stack at Shabbos meals,? What it means is, if you have a maid removing dishes off the table, does she remove one at a time, or dies she waiter- stack all at once, which would indicate prust, coarse, boorish behavior.
Enough??.. I’ m not making this up. This is from 3 people I know.
….And even in some chassidish circles, the questions are insane. My chassidshe friend told me some that were asked of him benogei’ah his daughter. You hair on your head will stand up if you heard them.
I believe it started along with resumes with those online shidduch connection sites where singles meet. Unless you’re chassidish, it’s pics, resumes, asinine endless questions and nterrogations.. Add the restrictions that have been placed on just meeting at certain venues which have become treif..I feel the pain of singles of this generation .
It’s a heartache that shouldn’t be.
There’s also an opinion that Esther wasn’t all that hood looking, but she had chein, charm in the king’s eyes.
He was most attracted to her anyway.
So bochur, don’t limit your choice to photos only. Give it a shot unless you’re outright repulsed.April 2, 2019 10:28 pm at 10:28 pm in reply to: Ywn article on Joe Biden containing pictures imodest? #1707584
Pics of Uncle Joe touching women? Fake, doctored. He never did that, women lied, exaggerated . Only the Kavanagh women were telling the truth. And we don’t even see a pic..Amazing.
Anyway, whatever happened to what’s her name ? With the foggy glasses … you know , the flying phobiac?
There’s nothing wrong with looking for looks per se.
However, looks are highly subjective which complicates the boy’s quest. IOW- what exactly are you looking for?
There’s also an issue underneath that’s not much talked about openly – “what will my family & friends think of how she looks?” So , automatically he might refuse to even date a girl who’s a little over the skinny side even though she has a “pretty face”. That’s a reason I dislike shidduch photos. Bocher’l : Take a chance.. Maybe when you see this girl with weight, nose, height, and gait, you’ll ditch all your preconceived fantasies, fall head over heels, feel you can’t live without her… family/ friends be plastered for crying out loud !
Obviously, Rebbetzin is reacting to the anti-Lubavitch endless nauseating overload. Meanwhile, they don’t hang people in effigy, don’t harass opponents, treat all Jews equally in the 770 shul having davened there many, many times , help Jewish travellers when out of town. I personally know families who have become frum due to their outreach and are NOT meshichists at all.
No, I’m not Chabad, certainly not a meshichist, and have great respect for the late Rebbe .
Is some of you have issues with them, then just don’t follow them, just follow your own rav.. Leave them alone already and stop with the reyos, pshetlach and toirah’lach against.
Hiking in the woods anticipating the arrest of the fabricators who wished to take down an innocent man
Or lolling at the pool wistfully reading the dozen books about the president that popped up in the last 2 years .March 24, 2019 1:29 pm at 1:29 pm in reply to: Chabad? Most non religious Jews are not halachikly Jewish. #1700333
Note that the responses after yours were posted within about a minute after each other and joseph already knows that Haimy wrote about his 50% .March 24, 2019 12:30 pm at 12:30 pm in reply to: Chabad? Most non religious Jews are not halachikly Jewish. #1700301
I don ‘t know about this Haimy guy, but I’m pretty much convinced there’s basically one dude causing most of the rioting. I caught joseph switching a username to my thread from ujm to joseph within minutes of his posting, and I’d like to know how he did that w/o “inside” help
He also slipped in a virulent video months ago to which I responded, but that got deleted. Mod 29 asked my about it, apparently he didn’t know about it, but did another mod know? A search going back to 2009 will show that this dude’s been carrying on for a decade.
A little bird sang to me that your motzei zman is earlier than mine. By the time I step out at Shmonei Esrei you’ll already’ve made kinyan on my hefker ticket. My mom didn’t raise a fool…
Forgot to mention that to my recollection, Yom Tov was also in the discussion.
DY “….. don’t think anyone ever questioned owning stocks over Shabbos (or, at least, it’s pretty much been settled…
Yes, they did question it, and yes, it’s pretty much settled as far as stocks are concerned.
“…..are NOT buying a chance for a prize that will definitely be awarded on Shabbos. Very often there is no winner and the pool grows and the next drawing occurs on a weekday….”:
Interesting take which I didn’t think of, but eventually the numbers come in and may yet be on Shabbos.
Which leads me to your Rav’s insistence that the raffle not be drawn of Friday night because of Jews, etc.
Can you recall his reason? Because that can impact a Shabbos winning draw …. Or no?
Feel free to skip it over especially if you’re still hung over..
In fact skip 90% of the CR . No reason to be nasty espec on Shushan Purim.
You don’t think my q is legit?? Move on bro…
My issue is not vague.. It’s making money on Shabbos.
You guys are giving good answers why it’s not necessarily so.
However, I’m not yet comfortable with lottery winning, there may other issues here, and that’s why it SEEMS vague..
You want me to give an explicit halachic reason and I don’t have one, that’s why I’m asking…. just like an another sheilah one would ask… It’s certainly not a no-brainer, because stocks have also been discussed over the years as to Shabbos ramifications.
CA… my op implies any issues which may affect the drawing such as we’re discussing.
He’ll allow my wife’s pic? But the usual pubs will Photoshop her out, the single women will think I’m single too , get my # and harass me, then my wife’ll suspect I’m doubletiming her.
It ain’t worth it. Never mind kinyans, non-claims and such.
You gave me the best answer yet.
I hear you, but I’d like for poskim to weigh in, because at his time, as I told Josep…er, ujm , above, I haven’t bought Friday night drawings.
Yes, I think you’re allowed.
I understand the forfeiting part.
So you’re saying it’s not a problem if one claims the draw on a Monday even though he won it Shabbos .
I’d say yes, if no other issues are behind it.
I don ‘t quite get the claiming . If you won the drawing then it’s yours. How and when you claim or report it for tax purposes seems like a separate issue .
So I want to know if lottery and stocks are in every aspect the
the same. I’ve a question whether they in fact are , and if yes, the that would answer it.
…..especially if he quickly ditches one for the other by mistake.😉
Rabbi Yair Hoffman;
Can you please do a column on this one?
Making money on Shabbos with a Jewish dollar, all 100 pennies owned by him, not by a non- Jew.
You see nothing inappropriate here.?
That’s what I’d want to know. Would you be comfortable with the millions won on Shabbos? It can’t be so poshut.
I’d first research names that he may go by, such as Tzemach, Yinon,( off the top of my head)…
If there are other pseudonyms lurking in the closet I’d be very, very suspicious. Very.
But it’s your dollar , and you as a Jew invested to chance winning on Shabbos. Why should the drawers or drawing machine make any difference? Or when you get the money?
I don’t buy such tickets.
But…. tell me how you quickly changed from UJM to Joseph when you 1st responded a few minutes ago?
…. eluh mei ?? You wanna shlugg upp the hekish because there’s a difference between these activites…
Ahhh-haaaaaaa, I hear, I hear …. nu…. so tzurich iyun but it’s not impossible.
Re: mitzvos lav le’henos nitnu……
Bameh devorim amurim, if the shusher means it k’shem mitzvah. However, If he shushes for his own benefit, there’s a svoroh to teineh that he can enjoy hanuh’eh bli pikpuk.
Because in such a case, lichoireh mei nafkuh minah between shushing and sushi’ng. L’aniyas daati both can be enjoyed even bo -byom l’chulei almah… no?
Lol, Heargod…. Ahhh, the good book.
Re: Winning lottery and extreme depression.
To paraphrase Tevye in Fiddler, when told money is a curse…..
Let me be smitten with it (riches) and never recover.
I’ll deal with depression a day later.🤣
Ok, I see it, but so what,?? He discusses that the shadchan should have spelled it out, and writes “nirah lee” , and it’s a special case. You can’t pasken from here.
Plus he adds the “efsher” if such and such happened in this particular case. It’s nice learning but no psak .
In any case, he engages in interesting discussion for learning purposes, and let a posek who’s a bukee in shadchan inyanim pasken.
Thanks, DY, but I don’t see clear cut halacha here, and he writes about minhagim in different places, and unless I missed it, he doesn’t mention family.
In fact, I understand his opening line ( at Tes Zayin) to say, that what the Olam says that if a shadchan outright says that he doesn’t want a fee, nevertheless there’s an obligation to give him one, has no shoresh or mekor anywhere in Talmud or any posek.
If a family member redds a shidduch, it is assumed that he/she is not expecting going rate unless verbalized at the start. If he/she did not, then imho it’s not a standard shadchan case.
I don’t see extrapolation for this scenario from your Pischei Teshuva.
I feel that if my family makes a shidduch for my offspring and demands and expects full rate shadchan money , then he/she is a chazzer (te) and will cut him/her off , period. I’m not Vanderbilt and they know it.
Mentchlechkeit is also Torah.
What’s family for anyway? Bar mitzvahs & funerals?
Kindly show us that halacha especially for family .
If all ends well, ask family what gift they like and get them the best you can afford. Unless they’re poor, expecting full shadchan price from family , whatever that may be, is being a chazer…… Unless you’re rich.March 10, 2019 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm in reply to: Can golus end but the geulah still did not arrive? #1692362
Well, apparently not, but the question is how long this initial phase will last. The Rambam supports Shmuel’s opinion, but that isn’t the final word. Nobody has the answer. Even the opinion that the world will be destroyed for a period of time is a machlokes. And if yes, the question is for how long, or does it even mean literally.
Avi K…..That Rashi is actually ad loc in Sanhedrin and the gemarrah itself says so…. That the abundant fruits is yet the greatest sign of geula… EY has for thousands of years yielded norhing to any occupier or invader in abundance. Mark Twain described how desolate and forlorn EY is when he visited there 120 years ago. The signs of geula are here .. But only believers see it. The naysers have their heads and shitot in the sand.. Too bad.March 10, 2019 8:06 am at 8:06 am in reply to: Danger in America anyone else considering moving?!?! #1691982
…Actually, Arafat is an example of our own doing.
His stock fell to the depths, fled to Tunisia, and Rabin/ Peres brought him back to life figuring he’d be the best peace partner. They went against Hashem’s will who basically buried him already ,and we paid a terrible price..March 10, 2019 8:06 am at 8:06 am in reply to: Can golus end but the geulah still did not arrive? #1691979
It can. Take a look in Meseches Sanhedrin along with meforshim where this issue is discussed. Some say Techiyas will be earlier than others… We just don’t know till tat era is upon us…. Hopefully soon Bimheirah Beyameinu…March 9, 2019 11:06 pm at 11:06 pm in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1691877
I heard the same thing about wives of rabbonim not covering hair from Litvishe people years ago. Apparently this happened in Lithuania and environs, not in Hungary .
You’ll have a hard time finding this info in contemporary Jewish publications, as they are very prone to revisionism and whitewashing history, especially bios, and especially photos.March 9, 2019 11:06 pm at 11:06 pm in reply to: Can golus end but the geulah still did not arrive? #1691874
Save your breath.
When Moshiach shows up on Rechov Yaffo inviting the kibbutz in Ivrit wearing a kippa sruga, the galus lovers will call him a Zionist. Talk about a good kugel recipe instead- one without so much salt.