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When i got engaged, i heard some terrible news, and a friend told me that i should not think too much about it because i am a kallah, and kallahs have to be happy! is it a true inyan? it’s not easy to just brush off sad news even if you are a kallah or chosson!! i know that you’re allowed to be sad sometimes, but to what extend???
I’m sorry i cant help – i never heard of this…
I don’t think there is an “inyan” for this, as in a source in Torah literature etc. However, it is a valid point. It is a good thing to focus on one thing at a time, otherwise you’ll never experience anything. Imagine in a few years you’re leaning back on your recliner and taking in past experiences in your life. You’ll want to know that you lived the happy times to their fullest, and the sad times too. This way it might just be all muddled.
btw, mazel tov on your engagement! i assume its something recent?
So far as I know there are no Halachic ramifications to an engagement.
A kallah is a kallah for 168 hours following a chuppah
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Halachically there is no such thing as engagement. You are only Chapman and Allah after the chasing. Or at the minimum after kiddushin. Engagement is a non Jewish concept.
It’s good advice; you have too many other things to worry about. There is no Halachic imperative or “Inyan” though.
R gedalya schoor writes that the simcha of engagement of nowadays is that 40 days b4 leidas havlad a bas kol goes out” bas ploinee l’ben ploinee” and on this world we dont know who it is. when people are mishadeich its mivarer the safek- v’ein simcha k’hataras hasfeikos
“Engagement is a non Jewish concept.”
That is not exactly true, as we have the institutions of the Kidushin, the Tenaim, and now the Vort.
“Halachically there is no such thing as engagement. You are only Chapman and Allah after the chasing. Or at the minimum after kiddushin. Engagement is a non Jewish concept.”
I hate when my phone does this lol. I meant Chassan and Kallah after the chasunah.
How about ???????, esp. those who do it WAY before the ????????
WIY – i rolling when i read your first post! but yeah i figuered thats what you meant! lol!
Happy face- there’s definitely an inyan for a Kallah to be happy when it gets closer to the Chasuna. But during your entire engagement, I guess the happiness should be natural!
3 days prior to my wedding, my grandmother passed away. The Rav told us, that the Kallah should not think about the tragedy, and I shouldnt be sad. On the contrary, I should try extra hard to be happy in these few days before my wedding.
smartcookie
that must have been tough
WIY-
Phew I thought that was some movie reference I wasn’t getting and I was feeling out of it
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