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actually, that IS a good point. check mate then 🙂
A persons actions are the fruit of his thoughts which are the fruit of his outlook. The only real way to CHANGE your middos is through learning the right way to act and the severity of these matters “torah meivi’ah…”
However before we reach the stage of actual change there are some tips for control. By far the best thing to accustom oneself is, do not act when under intense motivation, anger, lust, or whatever. At that time train yourself to be calm, acting while under the influence, when your emotions are inflamed is a recipe for failure.
lol, everybody seems to be confirming my point about the virtual becoming a reality. After all, you all virtually know her!
I am not making assumptions about the person. I am reading the post. In his post i see no attack. Do you?
My opinion, if anyone cares…
First off, I wish a hearty mazel tov to the kallah and the chosson and families involved.
Now, It is my belief that we have become weak minded when we feel the need to throw random Mazel Tovs to a person we never met, and we dont even know if they actually exist (in the form portrayed anyway).
Of course we do this (as I have above) to share and encourage in this persons simcha. And that IS a beautiful thing. However, there is another angle to this. What lunacy is it to have a bunch of random people who dont know one another congratulate each other in a way that you have no idea who is congratulating you?
Would someone stop a random person in the street and say “hey i’m engaged”? I daresay most people would consider this outside the realm of normal behavior. So why is it different to post such on an anonymous group chat of people you have no idea?
As evidence to this, look at the type of ridiculous comments that followed not long after. My point is, this is only possible in a world where the virtual has become the reality and socially becomes off.
Now to be clear. To the kallah who posted it, I am not criticizing you at all. You presumably posted it in a spurt of “i want to shout it to the world” feeling which IS, absolutely normal. My point is, that in a healthy world people would see that and say “wow, thats one excited kallah” and go on, because the venue isnt apropos. (akin to a person who just got their long awaited direct deposit from their boss while waiting in the bank and then shouting “yes”). Only in a world where people take the virtual as reality and their feelings would possibly be hurt by anonymous strangers not responding would the reaction of my fellow coffee room ‘posters’ have to post as they did. And for that, we cry.
[please make sure you understand what i’m getting at before you respond in indignant fury, thank you]
Also, all the vigilantes, take a chill. It is good to defend someone who is being attacked but lets be clear, saying “all your tefillos werent niskabel” as was said here is not intended to be an attack, so no reason to go crazy on him. You may reprimand him if you disagree and scold the insensitivity . But he was not trying to hurt anyone. Dont become the abuser on your quest to defend.
This is something i’ve heard too, that if you mispronounce a word the “tefilos arent niskabel”, is there a makor for this? Specifically a word that has no significant structural change? and therefore its intent can still be surmised?
I dont know much about obamas birth certificate story, so i cant answer that. Though off the cuff, it seems he DID, provide one, and any half – normal person stopped harking on about it, save alex “luney” Jones. But again, i dont know.
As far as investigations that i am interested in, i do hope we get to the bottom of the Hunter Biden pit. And the ‘Dossier’ and its origins.
Billywee. lonely people who have a lack of tznius dont get invited to my table, ones loneliness does give them a free pass on any mitzvos.
That said. This is a HUGE oversimplification, maybe your wife like ‘forward’ people, but your comments’ wording implied that divorced women are to forward, that generalization is simply untrue. And you probably didnt even mean that.December 4, 2019 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm in reply to: Caution: People in YWN-CR may be lesser than they appear #1807636
Um, as far as i know i dont know any of the post-putters, we are to be anonymous no? hence i dont care what akuperma or gadolhadora or oomis really think, what pertains to me is what i see before me, unless i’m being stalked…wait… gotta go!
Unfortunately, There is ALWAYS a fallout on innocent people when a criminal gets penalized. A bank robber who was a staunch family man. A father who beat the parent of his sons bully. A person who has an alchohol problem but is the kindest and most endearing husband. A hedge fund manager who, under pressure, becomes a ponzi schemer. All people who broke laws and their punishment adversley affects those who love them.
In fact, if we looked at the broader picture of the effect of incarceration on that persons inner circle, we would never condemn anyone to prison, after all What wrong did the 5 yr old child of a mugger do to warrant not seeing his daddy for the rest of his childhood?! (this is in fact one of the points made that HKB”H is the dayan tzedek as apposed to basar v’dom)
Yet for society to flourish we at times have to look away from the mans inner circle and punish the criminal for his crimes. That is the only way to function, everyone understands that. And so, the children being separated? that is something that the criminal, in our case the illegal infiltrator, will have on their conscious for the rest of their life. But law is law.
my take, if anyone cares.
The facts, are very much unknown. Can they be true? it is possible, very sadly so.
Is it Lashon horah? well where did this man get his facts? if it was in some news outlet then its bifnei 3…
Also, i dont think its smearing the jewish community, aderaba, if it turns out that it did indeed occur, the jewish community should condemn it and take the person to task of course only al pi halacha.
As for those saying its a chillul Hashem, i dont think its a chillul hashem if a community realizes theres a person among them who did something terrible, i think that taking responsibility and condemning it is actually a kiddush Hashem. The way i see it, it would be a chillul Hashem if this atrocity DID occur and in meanwhile we are all yelling “HATE CRIME”.
You seem to have an incorrect understanding of the “bifnei 3” halacha. Please look into it.
Dunno if this matters to anyone but i’ll say my piece anyway.
Geirim have a hard time, the torah explicitly states this by warning us to be extra sensitive to them. So for a geir, the first ingredient for success is to have a little thick skin. Not that they should or their not good people, but that it will be something they need from unintentional, and unfortunately, sometimes, intentional callousness.
Second, Geirim are “k’sapachas” to yisroel, there are two opposite reasons for this, both true. 1- When a Ger becomes an exemplary Yid, There is R”L a tayna on those who dont match up. “even a ger… what about you”? This was the Pshat of the famous ger Tzedek Avraham ben Avraham, contemporary to the GR”A.
2- Unfortunately there are those who attempt to join the tribe but never really relinquish the “ways of their fathers”. These end up being a modern day “eruv rav” and can cause untold harm to the yiddesh community.
All that aside, Bottom line, I value and cherish a Ger, I look up to them, respect them, and would try to make things as smooth as possible for a Ger/Giyores i meet. @LostSpark, hope that helped!
The Eida is NOT nonsense.
@ Yabia Omer; Schach has to be non mekabel tumah, many bamboo mats where re-purposed chinese window shades, therefore a kli, therefore mekabel tumah, the hechsher is that their made in accordance with all the necessary halachos.
@gadolhadora, all your ridiculous tale-bearing aside, 2 points, 1) Rav Ovadia retracted that psak, not surprising seeing that an overwhelming majority of the torah world rabbanim where opposed. (you can be R’ Elazar and you would still have to bend to majority). 2) The Eida protesting is their complete right. Dont mess with people greater than yourself.November 13, 2019 12:13 pm at 12:13 pm in reply to: $5,000.000 donated to Trump by Orthodox Jews, can we afford it? #1800321
There are a few good points already referenced above. in short
1. No one has any claim on anyone elses money, as long as their obligations were paid, the rest is their right to use as they see fit. Whether they used it properly or not is non of anyone elses business.
2. there may be validity in supporting a candidate who is good for jews. (whether trump is or isnt is irrelevant to this discussion. if they think he is then it very well may be their duty to support him)October 27, 2019 2:35 pm at 2:35 pm in reply to: The zoo needs to change its attitude about tigers (T) #1794973
you are so wrong! we judge these poor creatures based off a few bad incidents that occured. there are more white murderers alive today than all tiger killings in the last 100 years. if we would think about the plight of the tiger, they are unwillingly enslaved, there is not so much family structure, and the amount growing up with father absence is staggering! yet there is no help with employment, they arent even entitled to food stamps, forget affirmative action. wake up america!!! #standwithtigers
@ meno, being that the responsibility of the police are to protect the citizenry, the appropriate response would be to inform her of the law and just move on, there doesnt have to be a brouhaha for every minor infraction. Furthermore, you write you’d be ok with with being ticketed for not walking in the crosswalk if thats the law. Lets be clear, the law is composed to have a textual standard for upholding those things that are correct and just, not to become the be all and end all. thats why we have times where laws are overturned or amended. When that law is applied legally but in a spirit of entrapment, for citizens who are otherwise law abiding, you now have “ivus hadin” perversion of the law.
On a personal note, you say you’d be ok with being ticketed if it was the law, it is commendable on your part to act with sacrifice in the name of upholding the rule of law even when unjustly targeted, yet that would not preclude others and those in power from being responsible to stand up for justice.
Also, lets reiterate the main point, infortunately, the secularists in israel are so hateful of the orthodox, that they cannot be trusted to execute fair justice, the woman being arrested rightfully felt that she was being accosted by thugs, not reprimanded for an infraction, and her fears are confirmed by the cops violence, all for a simple matter which was blown up for no reason.
yes you might, but do you even know your legal rights? lets be straight about this, a woman Jwalked, have you never j walked? or how about ever crossed the street out of the crosswalk or when the light was red to pedestrians? You’d really be fine with a cop ticketing you for that?
And demanding id, besides for being totalitarian, would you really be? ok you guys are obviously just good cops who are upholding the safety and integrity of our city, sure, let me tell you my name and address?!
And specifically in israel where unfortunately the climate is quite volatile, with the secularists [and their cops] constantly harassing the orthodox with both venom and violence. Your just trying to be practical in a story which has non of it, dont be the philosopher on the football field. it doesnt belong there.
theres something called legal harassment, would you be ok for being ticketed for not crossing in the crosswalk? then having to identify yourself like in nazi germany?
well without replying to your obvious misunderstanding of the nature of halacha, i wiould just say this. there has been many a time when i encountered that and was extremely frustrated, and some times ven had the opportunity to ask the people doig so to please ‘rearrange’… yet i have come to realize that there are so many different LEGITIMATE reasons why there was an emergency or obstacle that warrants it, as with everything in life, you just never know.September 18, 2019 2:02 am at 2:02 am in reply to: Jewish people being attacked when it (seemingly) could have been averted. #1787654
@yid for yashrus. you missed the point. when someone is attacked theres a natural feeling to defend oneself. its very strong and very painful and EXPECTED. so yes, it wouldve been smarter to apologize, but is that her duty? no. and anyone who thinks this is a boich sevara would do well to check the sefer hachinuch on the mitzva of ona’as dibbur, i believe its 338. where he relates that its natural for one to verbally defend themself and therefore it wouldnt be ona’ah to fight back. its also brought lehalach in Ch”m, i believe siman 421, 13.
and really? you can understand the black lady? what if the headline was “jewish woman hits black lady after black lady reaches over her (the jewish womans) daughters head to remove something from a shelf”? i mean, when did reaching over someones head become even remotely wrong? was she obstructing the girl s movements? did it endanger her in any way? my goodness!
1 – addictive, even if not for bad things it is a well established fact that the smartphone is designed to keep one engaged and occupied. That isn’t productive, especially for a jew, and leads to sin.
2 – shmiras einayim. even a filtered smartphone generally is filtered to block out bad stuff, however it is still no better than walking down the street, even innocuous sights like banking have problematic images which a. effect the person negatively, and worse, 2. is a sin if looked at
3 – personal privacy, go listen to the radio, this one needs no explanation, the only thing to point out here is that ask yourself how far this goes.
AND NOW, to GADOLHADORA, how honorable to speak to a gadol, i must say… anyway, 2 points…
1. there may just be a special place in heaven for Luddites. Your derogatory framing of them notwithstanding. Pointing to conveniences of having a smartphone doesn’t speak to the question of its drawbacks.
2. It is quite narrow-minded, your outlook on the 15 yr trajectory of smart technology. There are already prototypes of chips that are meant to be implanted on the brain that enable DIRECT connection to AI from, and to, the brain. A very scaled down version of this was recently in the news with people in Switzerland getting chips surgically implanted in their hands which enabled them to pay without a cc or phone. Now ask yourself this, you’re all cocky about being up to date with technology now.. are you ready for whats coming? Do you think that you will happily get such an implant, or do you see where maybe that can go horribly wrong , especially in the area of Judaism. Maybe these “luddites” have a point eh?May 31, 2019 7:34 am at 7:34 am in reply to: Percentage of men members vs. women on YW Coffeeroom? #1736044
actually,there is no discrepancy whatsoever between genders so obviously there are exactly the same number of male female participants, to think that women are any more sane than men and would shy away from pointless online trolling is misogynist and hateful.
non-gender, since heck, theres no difference anyway