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Newbee, what do you mean with your comment?
Surely you don’t mean that now that it’s widespread, it’s okay – that doesn’t make sense. If halachic dinners became the norm, would that make them okay? 😉
If you mean that the chosson/kallah shouldn’t pose in a way they’d be uncomfortable being posted online, then yes, but they shouldn’t be doing that anyway.
If you mean that they shouldn’t put effort into controlling the release of pictures online, I still disagree. I know people who did that successfully, although, perhaps that’s easier in my circles, where online pictures of simchas aren’t really the norm.
Sam, when I refer to loshon hora, I mean publicizing pictures in which the chosson/kallah do not appear in a tziusdik’e manner.
I’m not sure if you were referring to my comment, but either way, figured I’d clarify.
I don’t think it’s gezel. I think some of what they put up violates tznius, and therefore it’s also loshon hora. When it’s unwanted, it’s embarrassing to the chosson/kallah and families, and violates halbonas ponim.
I think being on a public website accessible to all does violate privacy.
I think it’s despicable.
I just don’t think it’s gezel.
Tuition discount is not a selling point for employment, faculty kids attend free.
Free is cheaper than reduced. Why wouldn’t that be a selling point?
Shhh…you weren’t supposed to tell them.
Of course there are people who get insulted when they’re not invited. No mindreading necessary. Yes, it’s petty in the scheme of things, but it’s the reality.
Whom to invite can be agonizing, and one absolutely must take people’s feelings into consideration, although you can’t always do what you’d like.
So I should never concern myself with someone’s feelings unless it’s directly expressed to me?
I don’t think it’s silly to not want to hurt people’s feelings.
I think this thread might have gotten more responses had the subject been “What to do when your daughter wants a car”.
They certainly don’t do it for free.
This has become increasingly common, as I can see. A rebbe’s salary on its own rarely is enough to support a family.
Ba’alei simcha often want close friends joining them at their seudas mitzvah. This idea might just be throwing out the baby with the bathwater.
Iphones can be filtered in a safer way than other smartphones.
NDG, you must have an unlocked world phone which works on multiple bands. Verizon is CDMA, and as far as I know, the voice service doesn’t work through the SIM in CDMA, only GSM works that way.
I would suggest first calling a few more times until you get a customer service agent who will do it for you.
I don’t know anything about this Arizal, but the concept isn’t necessarily a stirah to the Rambam.
CA, you’re getting there.
So far, simcha613 wins, hands down.
This aspect seems to work about the same as it does in private industry.
There’s a major difference, though. The upper limit of what the yeshiva can pay is determined by factors other than job performance. In private industry, the more valuable you are to your employer, the more they’ll pay you, because you’re making more money for them. That’s only true for a yeshiva to a very limited degree.
but you would probably have to be living in a city where there are more than two schools
That, or be a candidate to move to a different city.
If you give me a 50% tuition break but with my income I would be on minimum tuition, you can’t call it a benefit.
Agreed. Although it’s probably more comfortable to get it as part of negotiated salary than as a scholarship.
You think rebbeim are salaried about the same much on their 10th year with the yeshiva as they were on their first year?
They get regular raises. Also, some mosdos pay more than others, so an experienced rebve with a good reputation can move to a better paying job, or at least use that as leverage to get a raise where they are.
We can be meikil l’gabei amira l’akum.
It can be defined that way, but someone who wants numbers is probably comparing it to other options.
If you’re looking for numbers, including tuition discounts makes it dependant on how many kids he has, so much more variable.
I don’t know too many rebbeim who make ends meet solely on their rebbe salary, even including tuition reduction.
That depends on the context. For example:
“Yankel, what are you doing?”
“Nothing, Ma.”
In that example, “nothing” refers to a thing in and of itself.
I don’t think you can blame someone for assuming that it is unusual for a chassidish person not to have gone to college.
That wasn’t the assumption that was allegedly (although I am not judging) made.
The assumption alleged to have been made (which I hope ZD will refute) is that a Yiddish speaker is assumed to not be qualified even though he is filling that position.
Those are two different things.
If you’re a poor spelling, consider typing your reply in a word processor that has spell checking and then doing a copy and paste.
It doesn’t help for everything. For example, it doesn’t help if you’re just a poor writing.
(Sorry – couldn’t resist. 🙂 )
The rats eat the bugs.
They’re not total jerks. They leave some for us.
LC, lack of cleanliness can lead to insect infestation, and should be considered a kashrus issue.
Just because someone speaks yiddish, doesnt mean they are qualified to be a special Ed teacher
Correct, and nobody said otherwise. They should (and I assume do) hire only qualified ones.
If by any chance you meant what NDG saw in your comment, that Yiddish speakers are all unqualified, that would be very discriminatory and unfair, inaccurate, biased stereotyping. I will assume that that’s not what you meant.
We make a hekeish between the passuk which teaches us not to raise a violent dog and the passuk which teaches us to put a maakah up on our ruf.
If you don’t know why we mention dangerous things before getting married, you’re probably single, and I wouldn’t want to scare you by elaborating.
That doesn’t seem to be a problem with Yiddish.
If 70% of students in a district spoke Pashtun, there should be services available in Pashtun.
APY, true, and the OU will actually not give its hechsher if it says “spring water” and it’s not. So I’m told.
Is that closer to Warsaw or Cracow?
Google “Poland spring source”. Result: Today the water is derived from multiple sources in the state of Maine, including Poland Spring and Garden Spring in Poland, Maine, Clear Spring in Hollis, Evergreen Spring in Fryeburg, Spruce Spring in Pierce Pond Township, White Cedar Spring in Dallas Plantation, and Bradbury Spring in Kingfield.
He might have been talking about cottage cheese, and other types which aren’t made with rennet.
It’s a machlokes, so in theory, one could be meikil on cholov stam but be machmir on gevinas aku”m for these cheeses.
Either way, that’s a mainstream shittah, but for hard cheeses, it’s not.
The new father had just strapped his newborn in the brand new car seat with his wife next to the baby, when he realized that with all the “What to Expect When Your Wife is Expecting” type of books he had read, there was one bit if crucial child rearing information he hadn’t read about. Breathlessly, be ran back into the hospital, to the maternity ward nursery, and asked the nurse, “Nurse, what time am I supposed to wake him up in the morning?”.
RY, I’m suing the state of Maine too.
CA, don’t fall for that, they get it in the winter.
I just found out that Poland Spring water isn’t really from Poland.
I’m suing the OU.
The truth is this hatarah is controversial so it is best to ask a Rav before relying on it.
Should I ask him before, after or while he does hataras nedarim?
Every shul or yeshiva that I’ve ever been in on erev Rosh Hashana has done it.
Do I still need to ask? Also, do I need to ask him every year, or is every other or third year okay? After all, maybe he’ll read the CR and discover that for all these years, klal Yisroel has got it wrong.
Thoughts?
Why are they below average? Who says throwing money at it will help? These are all issues a duly elected board has a duty and right to decide, without a “monitor”, who may or may not represent the views of the electorate, who can overrule legitimate decisions.
Let’s try to avoid mentioning specific areas.
someone impartially reviewing costs
Lol
Besalel, because many of us are not against lev tahor just because they’re frummer than us, but rather, for reasons of substance.
Just to make clear, I never said or intended to even imply that any election wasnt free or fair.
Right. I just mean that there’s some leeway for legitimate interpretation and prioritization for services, and the democratically elected board is charged with making those determinations.
Every district is required to education all special ed children , not just frum ones
Nobody’s coming even close to saying otherwise.
I see it a bit differently than that.
His equation of timers to a”l is not absolute, otherwise he would asser lights for those who follow the R’ma and M”B for a”l. To be mattir, he is taking the position (in deference to the accepted practice of using timers) that that a Shabbos clock is not amira l’akum l’maaseh.
He would still have assered because of zilusa, except for the fact that some communities in Europe used a”l regularly.
Hence, he holds it’s muttar to use a timer l’chtchilah, without a tzorech gadol, even in the house, but only for lights. However, it is assur to use a nochri, even for lights, except for tzorech gadol.
Its very hard to prove that, And you have to go to an a beaurocrat who thinks religous schools are nonsense and when they refuse you have to convince a arbritor that private schools are better than public schools and again many of them do not belive in relgious schools and certainly do not believe in segregated schools (in the relgious sense)
That’s precisely why frum communities have voted in (legally and democratically) boards which understand the needs of the children from the community. There are a lot of issues which are subject to legitimate interpretation, and each side wants their interpretation to be implemented.
If you can sue them, it means there’s room for determination that for some students, special ed in private schools is appropriate.
It would be in the best interest of those students to have that determination made by people who have their best interest foremost in their minds.
ZD, only ironic if you mistranslate the term “posek hador” as “pope”.
ZD, source?
Literally, that sentence identifies the action, but doesn’t say the reason.
The reason is stated in the sentance which follows:
??? ????? ???? ?????? ????? ?? ??????? ??????? ?????? ???”? ????? ???? ??? ??? ???? ??? ??????? ?????? ?”? ???”? ???? ?? ?????? ???? ?????? ????? ???????? ?????”? ????? ????? ???”?
Perhaps it would be sufficient to be mattir based on the ??? ???? of timers themselves, but that is not what he literally says.
My initial reaction to cherrybim was based on the way you’re reading it, but I changed my mind when looking more carefully.
If what you mean is that he would not have used that sevara on its own, but relied on it not to asser what was already done, I can agree to that. It would nicely explain his wording.