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☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
I thought this thread was about bedbugs. Now it’s about changing topics?
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☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIt’s got nothing to do with whether he deserved to die; the issue is whether the officer should have been expected to think that what he did could kill him.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhat Sam is saying is that there were frum people, non-heretics, who worked as “rabbis” in conservative synagogues (ostensibly to bring the congregants closer to Yiddishket), with the heter of Rav Soleveitchik.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantThere was no kabbalas ol mitzvos.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI’m glad you found it funny, but really, your whole line of thinking here is totally off. He wasn’t trying to enforce the mitzvos of b’nei Noach, and whether Garner happened to have been a criminal is irrelevant. The sole issue here is whether the police officer was responsible for his death, and that’s it. If he was, then he did no mitzvah, and he should have been indicted.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGoq, fact three is disputed.
Health, did he make a hin’ni muchan um’zuman? Maybe I missed it on the video.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantMazel Tov! May you and gefen see loads of nachas from the new couple for many happy, healthy years, and see doros yeshorim mevorochim.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantNeither. The first doesn’t need (although needs hatafas dam bris), and the second needs (definite) geirus vaday.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIt does not.
Also, government grants can heavily reduce the tuition to seminary, so a lot of families who can’t afford the $20k price still manage to send.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWho says they aren’t?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantComputer jobs can start at $45k per, with a pretty decent upside.
Also, a 22 year old girl could have a year or two’s salary put away. You’re probably thinking shver support as full support, but that’s not too common. It’s usually just about enough to cover rental of a basement apartment.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantA teacher (unless in the public school system) doesn’t make enough without some shver support, but OT/PT can with a big enough work load, and there are other jobs which do better and are becoming increasingly popular. Computers is one thing that comes to mind.
After 5-10 years, each story is different, but if at that point she’s not earning enough, he is usually working or at least taking courses.
And most guys understand this when getting married.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantThey’re looking at a 5-10 year picture.
Not that longer term would be a chisaron, but they’re not turning down shidduchim for it.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantNo, I have just observed that the boys (or parents) are not turning down shidduchim based on such a long term financial picture.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYes, but the vast majority of boys aren’t holding out for that. They simply want to be able to learn and pay their bills. You’re propogating a nasty and mostly untrue stereotype.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantThat’s not what’s generally happening, though.
FD = financially desirable. It’s a takeoff on the more famous GD, which stands for geographically desirable (and is probably a bigger factor than FD).
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant42, about an ounce.
Then, another ounce…
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participantthe little that I know,
very true!
Does that mean you changed your mind?
January 6, 2015 2:19 pm at 2:19 pm in reply to: Shidduch crisis solved (Thank you Rechnitz and Popa) #1051025☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYou mean a TOP SHELF boy.
January 6, 2015 1:06 pm at 1:06 pm in reply to: Shidduch crisis solved (Thank you Rechnitz and Popa) #1051022☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI don’t even get honorary mention?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSingle malt Scotch usually has the age printed on the label, so you don’t need to ask.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI like 10 year old alcohol, but 15 is even better, and 21 even better. Single malt, of course.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantHealthcrazy.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantCalling an exterminator and buying a new house are not precisely the same things.
Had you meant bombed in the other sense…
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantWhat do you mean by “bombed”?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIf there weren’t more girls than boys, some would have to, or remain single for extra years. Yet, I don’t think there’s a problem that older boys aren’t married because they can’t find girls with a good financial situation to go out with.
In fact, most 22 year old girls should be FD.
January 5, 2015 7:59 pm at 7:59 pm in reply to: did I (or alwayruns) ever tell you about the time #1050995☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIs cow manure fleishig?
Milk isn’t, and it also comes from cows.
So it was milchigs?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI always feel like when I try reading shidduchim somehow or another unless the couple gets engaged someone is hurt.
It almost makes me not want to try!
This is an excellent point.
Ok I seem to be the only female single here.
How old are you?
lol
Isn’t she also supposed to have a professional relationship with her coworkers?
Yes, but it’s a different sort of professional relationship. You show your coworkers pictures of your grandkids, but you don’t show your students or their parents pictures of your grandkids.
This is true, but in many situations (not all) there is still enough of a personal side to it to redt a shidduch, which, IMO is less “personal” (in a certain way) than showing pictures of einiklach.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSo let them marry the 25 year old boys.
(Of course, age-gap population growth theory says that because the boys wait, there are more girls than boys who “want to” get married.)
I’m not sure why you think it’s a solution, unless you mean that the boys should marry earlier, in which case we’re in agreement.
January 5, 2015 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm in reply to: did I (or alwayruns) ever tell you about the time #1050991☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOops, wrong screen name.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIsn’t she also supposed to have a professional relationship with her coworkers?
January 5, 2015 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm in reply to: did I (or alwayruns) ever tell you about the time #1050989☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOops, does that mean it was fleishigs?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIn our mosdos, there is inevitably a crossing of the line between professional and personal. I think it has its upside and its downside. I don’t think redding a shidduch is an absolute no-no.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantPicturesq, if it’s by design, in other words they’re not actively trying to, or extremely desirous of, getting married, then I wouldn’t call it a crisis. Unless, I guess, you think they’re making a big mistake; then , I suppose, you could call it a crisis.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGavra, I am kind of assuming that the vast majority in yeshivish circles do want to get married – I am not puk chaziing what you are, I guess. I say “want” in the sense that a boy who’s 20 and still plans to go to yeshiva in E.Y. does not (yet) want to get married, while a girl that age back from sem (or if she -gasp- didn’t go) is usually “in the parsha”.
BTW, tav l’meisav doesn’t seem to address numbers, just how much she’s willing to “settle”. Just saying.
Of course definitions are imprecise, but that doesn’t preclude making generalizations, especially when discussing a societal issue.
January 5, 2015 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm in reply to: did I (or alwayruns) ever tell you about the time #1050987☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIt was delicious, and I feel fine. Don’t try to bully me into not getting my snack. I’ll stand up to you.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantDo you think the change you observe is intentional or not?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantOf course they’re intertwined. This wasn’t supposed to be a multiple choice quiz; they could all be legitimately defined as “the shidduch crisis”, but it’s useful, IMO, to identify how you’re using it in a particular context.
I’m assuming that you, gavra, are referring to how you used it here:
Would you say that you exclude #1 from your definition, or do you mean both?
January 5, 2015 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm in reply to: did I (or alwayruns) ever tell you about the time #1050985☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantHe told you he stood up to me? Lol, I could tell it was habanero from a mile away. So instead, I stole his chuffin.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantHow does one get bedbugs? If I got bedbugs, would you report me to the ACS and try to get my kids taken away from me?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantMazel Tov, gefen and family!
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participantin recent generations the marital age has been rising
What age are they typically getting married at, and what used to be the typical age?
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantRandomly? Why would you want to think that, instead of realizing that the R’ma doesn’t actually argue on this psak of the Gr’a, and that how we pasken is consistent?
I think I’ve presented a reasonable approach as to how we pasken like the R’ma by a custom with an unknown source and like the Gr’a by Shavuos.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI’m not really in the sugya, but this is what seems to me: The ??”? is referring to where the reason for what the ???? do is unknown, so if it seems logical, it’s okay. This is what the ????? ???”? disagrees with, and ????? ???? we pasken like the ??”?.
The ????”? is referring to where our reason for doing something is logical, so it’s okay even though the ???? do it. The ????’s opposition to ?????? trees shows that he does not hold like this, since we have a reason to do it, and in fact, we did it before the ????. We do pasken like the ??”? on this. So, even though it may make sense to give gifts on Chanukah, if the ???? give their gifts as a religiously significant act, it would seem to be assur.
January 4, 2015 5:09 am at 5:09 am in reply to: Popa's shidduch consultancy and shidduch solution center #1061120☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantLol.
You should keep on doing it, this way I know to open the thread.
And three quarters of the CR knows not to.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSam, maybe you should look in the Nitei Gavriel.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=46444&st=&pgnum=407&hilite
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=46444&st=&pgnum=408&hilite
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSome boys do. Some girls don’t. On the whole, it seems a whole lot more common for girls to have a hard time.
I have sympathy for both girls and boys who are having a hard time.
☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant1) The fact that we don’t pasken like one shittah of the Gr”a in Chukas Aku”m does not mean we can’t pasken like him in another; in fact, that’s precisely what we do. They are two different things.
2) The Igros Moshe does not say that the Gr”a on Shavuos trees argues on the R”ma; he says he argues on the Maharsha”m. Again, they are two different things.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantThat gives me an idea.
☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI assumed he did, because he didn’t talk about older singles in general.
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