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  • in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320651
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The only problem with your theory is that schools check out the students beforehand.

    That’s not a problem with my theory, it’s a problem with almost any theory.

    However, just because you do research, there’s no guarantee that you didn’t miss something.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320625
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    How does anyone know that this girl will had a bad effect on anyone?

    Presumably, she has had this issue prior to high school.

    in reply to: Terrible side effects of the bungalow colony movement #1320610
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    If a man is going to watch somthing hes not supposed to just because hes wife is away shows there is a chasoron in their marridge or person

    Indeed, it’s not a problem for perfect people.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320608
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    But what is supposed to happen to the girl after she is sent out?

    It’s a big problem, but if she really is having a bad effect, there may be no choice.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320588
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    Good middos and yiras shamayim is ultimately the goal.

    It’s a lot more likely for a girl to be sent out for fear that she will have a negative affect on others’ middos and yiras shamayim than due to poor academics.

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    But the opening question can mean many different things, and until these are clarified, no one can answer anything.

    I think you know good and well what he’s referring to.

    As to the rest, it simply doesn’t address the hashkafa issue at hand, which is very firmly in the realm of daas Torah to decide.

    Many of your own posts have crossed the line of what is questionable to be discussed in a public venue, and you (and others) need to own up to the fact that it’s not something to take lightly and decide on your own.

    in reply to: Parnassah for kollel members. #1320470
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The notion that somehow if all kollel people were to leave kollel, they would be ridiculously successful in a business or profession, is quite fanciful.

    V’ho raya, many do, and aren’t.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320463
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    To be fair, though, you wrote that you are not “one of those that believe that all school administrators are evil, heartless monsters just in the business for the kovod”. All it takes, though, is one.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320456
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    But other posters seem to have no issue with the credibility of such a story. Why not?

    Some people are cynics.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320454
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The specific discussion was about airing dirty laundry in public. That is very different from medical advice.

    in reply to: Parnassah for kollel members. #1320443
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Who says they don’t deserve it?

    I’m all in favor of parnassah for kollel guys, but if they’re in kollel, they presumably don’t have time to work…

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320439
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Tb, excellent post, and important point.

    Nevertheless, it would take a lot more than that to rescind an acceptance.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1320420
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I will note that the OP wrote, “Can one actually go to med school and still make time to learn Torah (at least 2 hours a day), make it to minyan and daven three times a day?”, and these conditions were explicitly stipulated in the Steipler’s letter.

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    the rate of divorce in the frum community is rising according to the JSWA statistics

    Compare to the non frum community.

    If there were statistics for the communities that use shidduchim vs. those that don’t, I would say compare them.

    Yes, there are marriages that should not exist which do because of social norms. There are also many which end up being worthwhile which would have ended in other social contexts.

    We’ll never have precise statistics, but I’m quite confident that despite its flaws, our system is the best that exists.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1320341
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    TLIK, I find it fascinating how you quote “the Gedolei Yisroel” as authoritative when it fits your worldview, but couldn’t care less what they hold when you don’t agree with them.

    https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/how-should-we-address-public-issues-without-airing-our-dirty-laundry-4#post-1319411

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1320151
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I think this might be interesting to the discussion. I wonder how many frum medical students/doctors keep these conditions layed out by the Steipler zt”l.



    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1320087
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    (I removed the references to aino yejhudinm since according to most poskim, (though not all) that isnt relevant practically)

    It’s not relevant practically when it comes up. You have to save anyone.

    Is it relevant in putting yourself in that position l’chatchilah?

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1320043
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Guarantee is strong. There is no such guarantee. A person can decide to only accept “Shomer shabbos” positions and odds are he’ll get one in a field where these exist. But there is no gaurantee

    So if someone asked you for advice about medical school, in all fairness, you would need to advise that after finishing school, they may not be able to have a career unless they work on Shabbos.

    in reply to: Out of the box ideas to solve the shidduch crisis 🚫🥊👰🤵 #1319892
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Most importantly, start encouraging our young men and women to meet under normal circumstances with due deference to halacha and yiddeshe values

    That’s an oxymoron.

    otherwide engage in normal introductions, connectrions and dating the same way as the large percentage of people do.

    Should we copy their divorce rate too?

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1319837
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    They cannot afford to antagonize their customer base any more so than other businesses absent some fundamental issue of ethics or borderline illegality. If this girl was mamash admitted without the proper vetting to the yeshiva’s standards or would have resulted in conflict and brogias with the school’s existing student base and families, they were within their rights to reverse an admissions decision.

    No they weren’t in their rights to reverse an admissions decision, unless that girl posed a direct threat to other students. Of course, we don’t know that that wasn’t the case, because details were not provided.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319713
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    He was specifically asking about achzarius. You tell me: do Hatzala guys sometimes need to do things which cause pain?

    That was not your original narrative anyhow. You started talking about Shabbos (which I agree is probably very difficult, though not impossible), but you quoted a gemara which has nothing to do with Shabbos.

    So I pointed out that the gemara has nothing to do with your point, and you decided, I guess, that really you were talking about achzarius, and R’ Akiva Eiger backs you up.

    Except that R’ Akiva Eiger said no such thing.

    Mentch1 merely pointed out, correctly, that switching your narrative to one about achzarius shlugged up your whole chilluk between doctors and Hatzala members.

    So now you’re trying to change the narrative to be about other pshatim in the gemara.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319668
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    How are you even in the same book as ubiquitin?

    Your distinction between Hatzala members and doctors was regarding the tzurah of Shabbos. He asked you regarding achzarius, and it’s a fair question.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319580
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Ubiquitin, a question. When someone enters medical school, is he guaranteed that he can, if he wishes to, avoid Shabbos shifts in internship and residency?

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319567
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    This is the biggest issue with Shabbos, since most if not all of these acts (paperwork, ordering non-essential medications like tylenol) are not pikuach nefesh.

    A lot of what is done is not for pikuach nefesh, it’s for eivah.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319550
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Even if don’t bill for it?

    That would take a lot of chutzpah for you to bill me for asking me a question.

    in reply to: Chalav Yisrael Egg Cream 🥚🥛 #1319507
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Is that reliable kashrus-wise?

    I though we say “ein mashgichin b’Bosco”?

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319457
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    If that’s your business, it’s assur.

    in reply to: Out of the box ideas to solve the shidduch crisis 🚫🥊👰🤵 #1319452
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    That might also help the “too many Yidden don’t keep the Torah” crisis, as a side benefit.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319447
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Read it carefully. He said they have that מדה, which in others would lead to גיהנום, but for doctors is “טוב”.

    No. דבר דבר.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319442
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Here is a collection of אחרונים I found online.

    טוב שברופאים – לקט פירושים: אחרונים

    מהר”ל:

    “וכך פירושו מה שאמרו (קידושין פב א) ‘טוב שברופאים לגיהנם’. פירוש, מי שהוא רופא ואינו בעל תורת אלקים עם זה, הרי כל ענינו שהוא מעיין בחמרי בלבד, לכך הוא בעל גיהנם. שאין ענין הגיהנם רק ההעדר והרע, ומפני שהחומר אין לו מציאות בפועל, והוא בכח בלבד, ודבק בו ההעדר, כאשר ידוע מענין החומר שאינו נמצא בפעל. לפיכך בעל הטבע, המעיין בענין החמרי שאין לו מציאות בפעל, הוא בעל גיהנם. שגיהנם אין לו מציאות בפועל גם כן, אבל הוא חושך וצלמות, וזה אינו מציאות נחשב כלל. ודבר ברור הוא כי בעל הטבע החמרית, אשר אין לו רק שמתעסק בחמרי, אשר החומר אין לו מציאות בפעל, הוא בעל גיהנם. וזה שאמרו ‘טוב שברופאים לגיהנם’, ופירוש זה ברור גם כן מאוד” (ספר נצח ישראל פרק ל).

    קול סופר:

    מענין הוא גם פירושו של הקול סופר על המשניות מהגאון בעל מחנה חיים ז”ל שהכוונה של טוב הוא בדייקא, כי רופא מומחה ובקי הוא שחקר והיה מנסה הרבה בכמה חלאים אשר חפץ לנסות וע”י שמתו רבים תח”י וראה שסם זה אינו מועיל וגם זה אינו מועיל בא עד התכלית מה שמועיל א”כ דם הרבה שפך עד שנעשה טוב שברופאים כי הרופא שהולך בעקבי מוריו לא נעשה טוב שברופאים א”כ אם נעשה טוב שברופאים עכ”ח המית הרבה כדי לנסות וראוי לבוא לגיהנם ע”כ (הובא בשו”ת ציץ אליעזר חלק יא סימן מב).

    מהרש”א:

    דהיינו שמחזיק עצמו לטוב ולמומחה שברופאים, שאין כמוהו, וסומך ביותר על מומחיותו מתוך גאוותו, ולפעמים הוא טועה בטבע זה החולה, וממית את החולה ברפואותיו בדבר שמזיק לחולה זה, אבל יש לו לישא וליתן עם שאר הרופאים כיון שהוא סכנת נפשות, (מהרש”א קידושין).

    רבי עקיבא איגר:

    כי המדות הטובות שברופאים המה האכזריות, כי רחמן לא יוכל להקיז דם ולחתוך מכה וכיוצא אם יצטרך, וכן צריך לשקר כי אם יגיד לחולה מעמדו לפעמים יקרב מיתתו, והיינו “טוב” המדות הטובות שברופאים כגון להתאכזר אם ישתמשו, במדות הללו סתם אנשים, יביא זאת אותם לגיהנום, וזה שאנו אומרים בתפלה שמו”ע מלך רופא נאמן ורחמן אתה, כי השי”ת הוא רופא נאמן ואין צריך להתאכזר וגם רחמן, (רבי עקיבא אייגר על התורה).

    תפארת ישראל:

    מי שחושב עצמו לטוב שברופאים מעותד לגיהנם, דאינו מתיעץ עם חביריו ובקולמוסו מונח חיים או מות (קידושין פרק רביעי).

    רבי חיים מולאז’ין:

    המחלה הגדולה שישנו להאדם, הוא העבירות והחטאים שישנם בידו, והנה בחובת הלבבות (שער הכניעה פרק ז’) כתב שהמדבר לשון הרע על חבירו, אז עוונותיו של ההוא עוברים אליו, נמצא שברגע אחד הרי הוא מרפא את חבירו מחטאת עוונותיו. וזהו “טוב שברופאים” שמרפא באופן המהיר ביותר מהמחלה הגדולה ביותר אבל “לגיהנם” סוף דרכו לבאר שחת על שהוא מדבר לשון הרע על חבירו (הובא בדף על הדף קידושין פב).

    רבי יחזקאל אברמסקי:

    טוב שברופאים, אותם רופאים שאומרים רק “טוב” בגימטריא י”ז, שאינם מתפללים בשמונה עשרה ברכת רפאינו, שאין בוטחים בד’ אלא כל ישעם על חכמתם ותבונתם, הוא “לגיהנם” כמובא ארור הגבר אשר ישים בשר זרועו וגו’ (שם).

    פרדס יוסף:

    טוב שברופאים לגיהנם, דהיינו שהרופא צריך שיראה תמיד גיהנם פתוחה לפניו אם יהרוג איש, ויעיין בחריצות לראות שלא יטעה ויבא לסכנת נפשות. פירוש נוסף: לא שייך לומר כל הרופאים לגיהנום, דהרי שמואל (בבא מציעא פה, ב) ורבי חנינא (יומא מט, א) ואבא אומנא (תענית כא, ב) והרמב”ם ובעל מעשי טוביה ועוד היו רופאים וצדיקים, אבל יש ב’ מיני רופאים, א. צדיק שיודע שבלתי ה’ אינו יכול לפעול מאומה והוא רק שליח ה’ ומתפלל רפאנו ה’ כו’, ב. רופא שאינו מאמין בה’ ומחסר ברכת רפאנו בשמונה עשרה ברכות והוי רק י”ז כמנין טו”ב. וזה שאמרו “טוב” שברופאים שאינו מתפלל רק י”ז ברכות מעותד לגיהנם. עוד יש לומר, דלפעמים צריך לחתוך אבר ולהיות אכזר ולא לרחם במקום סכנה, ורופא שהוא טוב ורך לבב מעותד לגיהנם, כמשל העולם מי שאינו יכול להריח אבק שריפה לא ילך למלחמה (פרשת בשלח).

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319440
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    שטרי הדיוטות and דבר דבר. I don’t know a way around the latter.

    No, they’re mad at your version of the gemara, not the real ones.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319435
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Would it be assur for a biglaw lawyer’s associate to come to their house, and show them some changes in a document, and then go execute based on his advice?

    Yes, absolutely assur meikar hadin.

    As an aside, you should really see the meforshim. You can’t take a gemara and read it against all the meforshim in order to fit your agenda. That’s a lot closer to kefirah than anything else I’ve seen on this thread.

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    TLIK thinks he’s more qualified to answer this than talmidei chachomim.

    In every generation, there have been people who though they were just as, or more qualified, than the gedolim of that generation – השופט אשר יהיה בימים ההם.

    In Moshe Rabeinu’s time, it was קרח ועדתו.

    I think you should seriously think about if you want him/them to be your role model(s).

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    64 is old??

    in reply to: Sleeping dogs and purity 💤🐕🚰 #1319127
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Are you a veterinarian?

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1319086
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Popa’s just jealous ’cause he couldn’t get into medical school.

    in reply to: Dried salami #1319074
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I told you you should have restocked.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1318976
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Yeah, it’s a “challenge” to not take a residency which means you won’t keep shabbos for the next 3 years.

    So now we’re down to three years, rather than your previous description of raising kids without being home for Shabbos.

    Soon we’ll be down to complaining about doctors needing to rely on the bungalow colony eruv.

    in reply to: What did you cook/bake today? #1318669
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    “Nuch a mazel” you’re not the cook in your house.

    My kids agree with you.

    in reply to: calling shidduch references #1318640
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I finally figured it out. Me-no is short for “me normal”.

    in reply to: What did you cook/bake today? #1318561
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Scrambled ravioli.

    in reply to: Inside-out Ravioli 🔀🍝 #1318538
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    You didn’t move the v further out, and that started just as far in as the o.

    in reply to: Dried salami #1318517
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    For how long are they supposed to hang?

    in reply to: Inside-out Ravioli 🔀🍝 #1318512
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    That’s scrambled Ravioli.

    WTP’s is backwards Ravioli.

    Inside out Ravioli would be iarilov. Or something like that.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1318505
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    Granted some were eliminated

    We can’t know how important those eliminated facts are without hearing them.

    It does: “due to her unfavorable scholastic achievements” (at the least it certainly is strongly implied)

    That was said in a different context, and I don’t agree that it’s logical to apply it to the other context.

    in reply to: calling shidduch references #1318402
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    in reply to: How often do you think about your liver? #1318376
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    עד מתי אתם פוסחים על שתי הסעיפים

    in reply to: How often do you think about your liver? #1318363
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I’ve not watched the video

    That’s okay, I haven’t either. I just thought it was cool that we’ve made liver such a hot topic that the news site did a feature on it.

    in reply to: How often do you think about your liver? #1318362
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Or sauteed.

    in reply to: Frum Doctors #1318346
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    There are lots of jobs in which the employer expects his employees to be available seven days a week.

    I asked which professions.

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