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  • in reply to: I payed $21,000 for my daughters misery! #813317
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    @farrock- TAG does not have an official alumni association but the alumni girls do often get together. Each year around R’ Weitman’s a”h yahrzeit they have a thing with Morha Heiman/Nadav speaking where all the alumni and sem girls are invited to. Also, the teachers from TAG hs go throughout the year and the girls almost always see them, whether it’s out to eat in a restaurant or in someones apartmen, you can always find girls waiting for the teachers to come. Also, unfortunately when I was in Israel (a coupla years ago) a very well known family lost a daughter. There was a levaya in Israel and many many TAG alumni showed up even if they did not know the girl or family personally… Oh, and also for yomim tovim if a sem girl needs a second day meal they can always count on a Tag girl to either have them for it or help them find one. Once a tag girl, always a tag girl!!

    in reply to: PBA Officials In Ticket-Fix Grand Jury�s Sights #812720
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    There’s a person in the 5towns area who does it and when I got upset about it and was talking to a family member about it being illegal and a chillul Hashem, they told me what he does is perfectly legal. I don’t know how or what exactly he does but I took their word for it.

    in reply to: "intellectual stimulation" #813193
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    Here’s something that bothers me about some parents today. It could be that I’m not a parent so I just don’t see it from there point of view and if that’s what it is, then please feel free to correct me.

    I dislike when parents during winter break or summer break or yuntif break complain that their children are home and go on and on counting the amount of hours it will be until they are back in school. Shouldn’t we be happy to have our children at home and enjoy them? Afterall, aren’t there many many couples who wish they would have the zechus of playing with their children on these vacations?

    Like I said, it could be I’m wrong about this but I see/hear it pretty often and it just frustrates me. But again, please correct me if I’m wrong or only seeing this one-sided.

    in reply to: Sick of NY #812177
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    Kew Gardens is a great neighborhood. Yes, it is “dying” down, there are some great shuls there and a really nice school there too. I have family that still lives there and had family who lived there for 40 years before downsizing and moving away.

    @aries, yes- the 5towns is awesome but I do hear that you now also have some type of recycling there now too. No? With these special garbage cans and each home was given one so people are complaining about the garbage cans overflowing? I don’t know, could be wrong but that’s what I’ve heard from my friends across 878.

    Anyway, the 5towns/Far Rockaway is a great community with such amazing chassadim and different things going on constantly. People are always surprised when they come in to a conversation with there preconceived notions about the 5towns… when we tell them what really goes on here, they can’t believe it.

    (Lol, yes- I do advocate for my commmunity lol, it is the best!!)

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836065
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    syag, I wasn’t really talking to you. I was just saying that if the mod thought that a topic is a sensitive one to a poster (or anyone- I wasn’t singling you out per se) then that poster I’m sure knows this and knows that things might be said that they might disagree with and can be controversial. Honestly, I don’t know if I’m making much sense here but I don’t think it matters anymore.

    All I can say syag, you seem like such a strong person who really believes in Hashem with your full heart. I can tell this by your comment “Hashem has been very kind”. I really look up to you and hope that if c”v I was given such a hard nisayon like you that I would be able to have the same outlook and strength that you have right now!!

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836060
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    syag, I apologize. I just read through my post again and saw that I spelled your username wrong the second time I wrote it. I’m sorry!!

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836058
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    Mod, while I feel terrible for what syag went through, this is a controversial topic and it would turn controversial. While I’m sure no1 means to insult or hurt anyone else or disagree with them, in this type of discussion it can happen. Also, I do not think that anyone is arguing with her as a person, I think they might disagree with something that was said. I think someone would have disagreed with whatever was said if it was anyone… not because it was siyag that said it.

    Just thought that I’d bring this up cuz I was a little bothered by what that comment for some reason…

    siyag, Hashem should give you the koach to continue on after these hardships that you have struggled with and this coming year should be a year filled with simcha and health for you and your family!!

    in reply to: Cleaning Lady Horror Stories #1020261
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    We actually had a Jewish Russian cleaning lady. Her name was a real Jewish name that you and I would name our children. At first it bothered me that we were making a Jewish women clean our house but then I thought that this is the way she makes her parnassa and she would be working by someone else. Also, we treated her very well so thought that it was ok for us to employ her. She was an amazing cleaning lady though!!

    in reply to: why is texting wrong #811187
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    flowers- just want to address one of your points.

    A person might by mistake text a wrong number and then get into a conversation with them. This can happen BUT this can happen with calling someone too. In fact, I’d like to say it might be worse if it happened when talking on the phone because if you like the sound of the persons voice, you might just want to keep talking…

    in reply to: I don't really belong in the CR #811945
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    Ok, here is my opinion on this topic. Middlepath, your posts here are so helpful to so many people. I and many others will miss you but I definitely understand how you can get frustrated and even upset by some posts here.

    I too feel out of place here sometimes. I feel like maybe I am just not as “good” or as “frum” as the people on here. A lot of the time I do not post on certain topics because they just are so frustrating and infuriating to me. For a while I felt like people tried to push their “frumness” and “yeshivishness” onto the “regulars” here but then I just realized that this is their way of life, their minhagim and this is what they really and truly believe in. I may not agree with everything they say but everyone is allowed their own opinion and minhagim and rabbanim type that they ask their sheilos too.

    But I REALLY REALLY understand how you might feel out of place here. For real sometimes I read some topics and just want to cry because they sound so ridiculous to me and I always ask myself, don’t Jews (especially frum Jews) have enough to worry about without nitpicking over every little thing. I still do not understand this and really still get frustrated sometimes (like I did on the Dov Hikind and Hatzala issue that was discussed or the gum chewing thread) but I just try my hardest to keep my mouth shut so others don’t hear my frustration and feelings about it.

    I know I’ve rambled on and on here but if it makes you feel any better, you’re really liked here. Your posts really mean a lot to many people so you will be missed!! You obviously need to do what is good for you but we will miss you!!!

    in reply to: Gown Gemachs #811281
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    Most gemachs charge too, no? I’ve heard that their are gemachs that are more expensive than rentals or buying but could be wrong about that…. either way, I def hear your point!

    Gluck!

    in reply to: Gown Gemachs #811279
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    adorable, bridal secrets in Cedarhurst also sells bridal gowns. I do not know prices but I do know some people who have said that it was cheaper to buy from them then to go to a gemach or rent one. It might be worth checking out. Mazel tov and hope all the wedding plans go smoothly!!

    in reply to: Cruise to Bermuda on October 30 #811551
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    If you’d like some company, give a holler. I’ll be there right away:)

    in reply to: using someones wifi #866610
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    If it’s not gneiva, then why would people block theirs? If it is gneiva then it makes sense that people block them cuz they don’t want you taking their “money” (since you’re paying for it and they’re not) from them. My line of thought might be a lil convoluted here though

    in reply to: Gown Gemachs #811277
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    There is also Bridal Secrets in Cedarhurst. I don’t think it’s a gemach but she might be reasonbale. I don’t know. But they are really really helpful there!!!

    in reply to: annoying youngsters!!! HELP! #811250
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    smick, I do not mean to insult you at all here I just know that this happened in my family when my siblings came home from seminary.

    They acted like they were frummer than the rest of the family, that they had to “pasken” all of our sheilos and that we had to change the way we do everything in our house because we do it ‘wrong’. I don’t know if you’re doing this but if you are, that might be the reason she is acting strangely to you. I could totally be off base here but just something to think about.

    Good luck and hope it all works out!!!

    in reply to: Price Mistake #810920
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    We tried it and they were gonna charge us 7.95 in shipping which was still a ton of $ off but then we got an email later that the order was canceled.

    in reply to: maaser money #809724
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    Chai Lifeline!! or any Yeshiva in your neighborhood, or Kids of Courage… Unfortunately, there are tonz of places that would jump for joy for any donation!!

    in reply to: MOFES #809454
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    Is this a joke?!?!

    in reply to: Why are gas prices increasing again? #809462
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    Gas prices are going up because Obama wants to do something with the oil companies. (Read the NY Times Wed edition)

    in reply to: I need advice on how to handle this please #810177
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    You know what? I realize that might post might offend the op. I really did not mean for it to come out sounding like that and I’m so sorry if it does insult you. I guess this is just something that I have never heard before so it seems strange to me but if it’s happening in your family then it’s real and should not be negated.

    I’m so sorry!!

    in reply to: Enforcing your Kasruth Chumras on others – Rant #809683
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    Toi- thanks. I knew it was something like that but wasn’t exactly sure what. Thanks for the clarification!

    in reply to: shidduch dating, advice needed #810839
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    I’m a girl and in my house my father goes down to answer the door while I am standing in the living room (all ready!!!) with my mother. Everyone has their “set” place to sit and my parents literally ask how was his drive and that’s it. My mother usually gives me a little ‘flick’ so I know to start making a move to get up… it makes it so much easier for all of us and so much less awkward.

    BTW- I am ALWAYS ready 15 min before. Ready and waiting…

    in reply to: Enforcing your Kasruth Chumras on others – Rant #809681
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    I don’t know if this is the same but we have had family simchas and have a cousin who married a sefardi. Therefore, they are only allowed to eat chicken (could be wrong about what they’re allowed to eat just know that both meals they had chicken). Because of this, we told this to the caterer and he made sure that they would have what to eat. I think it’s a little different than a person putting their kashrus chumros on you. Could be wrong though…

    in reply to: I need advice on how to handle this please #810164
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    It was written that the brother in law is a little chassidish. I know many many many chassidim and most of them are working. In fact, many work in the diamond district. Besides for the fact that I think it is ridiculous for a family to be upset that there daughter and son in law decided that it was time for him to go work. And you’re scared of a shidduch?! I really really really never say this and I don’t know if I should but I smell troll here. It makes no sense to me that you would be scared of your shidduch being shtered because of the fact that your sibling decided that it was time for her family to have a parnassa coming in to the home.

    I seriously do not understand this attitude at all.

    in reply to: Opinion: Is Israel on the Brink of War? #809191
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    I can’t. I think that our world is falling apart. It is really scaring me. I am almost scared to wake up each day for fear of what crazy thing is going to happen that day. It is really scary. I know there is more I should be taking out of this and I am trying but right now I think my fear is taking over what I know I really should be doing or taking from this situation.

    in reply to: Elul-wake up Am Yisroel! #808616
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    ahhh, thanks mod. I actually think that that clarified it a lot for me. I was thinking that it is a punishment for us, whenever something happens somewhere else (although techinically, a bombing in Indonesia didn’t really affect me and I’m assuming most other Jews) so it didn’t really make sense what I was thinking.

    Thank you so much for writing that. It took only a few words to clarify such a major point. I really appreciate it. (Want you to know that I plan on copying this down into my phone so I can look back at it whenever I start doubting things that happen or start questioning them)

    Thank you so much!!!

    in reply to: Elul-wake up Am Yisroel! #808614
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    Middlepath, you are so right. I really do feel like we have become a closer nation because of these tragedies. It is sad that this is what it takes for us to reunite and become closer to each other.

    Am yisrael, I heard what you said about all calamities happening because of the Jews. I heard this in highschool and for some reason it is just so hard for me to understand and stomach. I don’t know why, it bothers me. Because there is a bombing in Indonesia, it happened because the Jews did something wrong? It just bothers me. Why should we be blamed for e/t that happens to other nations? I don’t know if this example will work but when Hashem destroyed sedom, was it because the Jews did something bad? Yes, there was no such thing as Jews then so I don’t know if this example makes sense.

    I know each thing that happens to us is because Hashem loves us and is trying to tell us something. I don’t know, it’s hard for me to really understand though. I am not c”v doubting Hashem. I know that my thinking is warped and is not correct, I just don’t understand the correct thinking either.

    in reply to: Avodah Zaroh in Nail Salons #810556
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    Just go to a Chinese one. Mine is amazing! She knows so much about Juadaism from all her frum clients. It’s hilarious. She wishes us happy birthday in hebrew and always knows what time shabbos is that week. She even closes for the yumim tovim since most of her clients are jewish so it’s just not worth it for her to be open. It really is funny to see everything that she’s picked up from all of us.

    in reply to: Elul-wake up Am Yisroel! #808608
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    I was just thinking something but it could totally be wrong or could totally not make sense. I haven’t really thought it out fully so for real, ignore it if it’s nothing.

    But does anyone feel that every year almost gets worse and worse? Like each year as it goes by, I think we (atleast I feel like I do) hear of worse and worse tragedies, if tragedies can even be compared. I have no idea if this makes any sense but I just feel like crazier and crazier things happen each year. Things that we never thought could happen, do happen…a earthquake and tsunami in Japan… a family in Itamar being brutally murdered…a jewish boy being brutally murdered… a rav being brutally murdered… an earthquake, hurricane, severe flooding all in one week. I don’t know, I just don’t feel like last year there were these extreme tragedies. It could just be that I don’t remember everything from last year and this years pain just seems so extreme so it’s hard to remember last years but I don’t know if that’s the reason.

    Anyone have any ideas or input? Sorry this is so long!!

    in reply to: skool shoes #808203
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    Was just in Macy’s and they had really cute shoes for really decent amounts! I got two pairs for what I would usually spend on one (something like 90 for two pairs). Definitely worth checking out!

    in reply to: President Bush 9/11 Documentary #808194
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    Tums, thanks for posting the link. It most definitely is a must see. I cried the whole way through but I am happy that I saw it too.

    I hope all those who lost loved ones find some type of comfort knowing that we all feel their pain. Maybe not the way they feel it but we definitely feel some of it!

    in reply to: masters programs in education? #809039
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    I know from others who did the Raizel Reit program or Sara Schneirer that yes, you can get a job working for a Jewish school but if you want to work for a non-Jewish private school or for the public school system you might have a harder time since these are not considered a ‘real’ college. I’m not saying whether I agree or not since I never did any research into them but to some they are considered a ‘cop out’. So just do your research before deciding on any one program.

    Hatzlacha!

    in reply to: School Supplies #808089
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    I’m a teacher but for 5 year olds so I can’t really comment. The only school supplies we ask them to bring is a folder. We used to ask for 2 marble notebooks but even got rid of that.

    I do want to say though that the only time we were ever asked for a book fee was in highschool when they gave us textbooks and the fee was refunded to us at the end of every year provided that we returned all our books intact. This was definitely a good way of getting us to treat our things properly.

    I like the solution of having the school buy the school supplies and the parents sending in money to cover the cost but I’m sure there would be a parent (atleast one) complaining that this is not acceptable for some reason.

    Good luck to all of you mothers though!

    in reply to: 9/11 memories #1178177
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    Today as I am listening to the news I can not imagine what all these families are going through. I see how much it has affected me, someone who b”H didn’t lose any family members and think to myself, how much more so them. The pain, the fear, the anger that they all must feel is unfathomable. All I know is that I am sitting here crying while writing this, crying while listening to the radio, and crying while watching all the news live. Honestly, I didn’t realize how much it affected me until now when I feel like I have a hole in my heart.

    Hashem should give strength to all the Jews and non-Jews who lost family members or close ones on September 11, 2001.

    Hamakov yinacheim…

    in reply to: Rabbi Wallerstein #808000
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    @workin, I don’t have his email address but check out the ohr naava website. It could be that it’s posted on there. As for your second question, I emailed him recently but didn’t receive a response but that could be for any reason. I think it’s def worth a try in emailing him. Good luck!!

    in reply to: What's up with the kookie glasses? #809997
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    @bein, I work in a school and saw a student wearing HUGE classes like that. I asked my sister who is in her grade what was up with them and she told me they’re not even real glasses. There is no prescription in them or anything. When I heard this, I just started laughing. A couple of years ago, we would not have been caught dead wearing something like that lol.

    in reply to: Al Shlosha Dvarim HaOlam Omed… #808505
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    This was probably said already but I’ll say it again since I think it’s an important one.

    I LOVE YOU!!

    in reply to: Visiting Rome #807420
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    middle- I am rolling!!! OMG

    in reply to: Need a push #807986
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    When I was going through a really really hard time in HS, I too couldn’t daven (still can’t really) but I would always sing ani maamin to myself whenever I felt down or alone. The words just had such an impression on me and when I sang it, I didn’t feel quite so alone. Yes, I know it’s not davening itself but I think I was still talking to GD just using different words.

    in reply to: Who Said It? #808534
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    ya, and ummm- to make a remark like that he has to be stupid. He was definitely not one of our better presidents and he is a democrat so in my eyes he is a bit stupid. I have some other pretty bad ones from him but they are not all “clean” enough for this site.

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    Just heard that he was deported. I have no concrete facts to back that up though but someone told me that.

    in reply to: Who Said It? #808531
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    “It depends what your definition of ‘is’ is”

    To guess this quote, think of someone obviously really stupid lol

    in reply to: computer virus?? #806861
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    golden, if I were you I would ignore it and not click anything they tell you to do because sometimes a virus comes up mimicking your anti virus software but once you click that popup to fix the virus THEN you become infected.

    If you’re really worried, do a virus scan and see if anything pops up then. If the cr thing pop ups then, then it’s another story.

    Gluck!

    in reply to: 9/11 memories #1178144
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    I also remember that for the days after there was nothing else on tv besides for information about what happened… it sticks in my mind like it was yesterday.

    in reply to: 9/11 memories #1178141
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    I don’t remember what we were learning in class but all I remember is that the school called us down for a assembaly to say tehillim. They did not tell us what was going on and we immediately thought something had happened in Israel (since if I’m not mistaken the intifada was going on then too). My mother told me a little later what happened. We came home at regular time and stayed glued to the tv until a girl in my grade arranged for a tehillim group in her house. I’m not sure if her father was missing or not. I don’t remember. I remember not being allowed to walk to her house because there was so much uncertainty about whether there were still more terrorists around. It was such a scary time and I am so so sad that it is already 10 years!

    in reply to: American Express Points #806700
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    I would assume that you should check their website. I did that with my (different) credit card points. They should have a list of rewards. If not, try calling them.

    in reply to: The Other Side- Stories About Mechanchim #806947
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    A little boy (about 5 or 6) lost his father a few years ago. His rebbe decided to just at random times go and play ball with him and things like that because he realized there is no father and all the siblings are older and many married. No1 asked the rebbe to do it, he just realized that a small thing like ball can go a very long way!

    in reply to: will katia follow irene? #806478
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    NY is also built on a fault line but granted not as big as California.

    Just thought I’d point that out, not like it has much to do with the topic at hand though;)

    in reply to: Stories about mechanchim/shochtim #807426
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    I teach. Today we had meetings and the dean spoke to us as an introduction. One of the things he said was you need to be very careful with how you speak to the children now (well always but especially now) cuz you really have no idea what is happening outside of school. It really made a very huge impression on me. Freaked me out a lil bit too.

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