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  • in reply to: opinions on strollers needed #818195
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    @dvorak

    You can always get one of those huge clips (don’t know what theyre called) that holds a bunch of bags. I see everyone walking around with them attached to their carriages and they look really useful. You probably can get them in any store really but in the 5towns you can get it in Variety on Central Ave.

    in reply to: Was Mishpacha Magazine Really Put in Cheirem? #818508
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    @always runs with scissors

    “That she should go take a risk of breaking her neck on an icy steep hill wearing slippery fibre glass skiis????”

    I am going to nitpick about this comment. Would you be so against this if a family went skiing and the mother decided to join her husband and children in this sport?

    I think if there is a women who feels like she is very overwhelmed/stressed and becoming resentful or depressed or near a breakdown (which does happen!!) then kol hakavod. Go to an all girls shabbaton. Is it better for her to suffer from a nervous breakdown? Is it better for her to be resentful to her husband and children?

    in reply to: Yiddish and Hebrew #818397
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    2cents- if its only one word then I usually can figure it out by context but when its an entire phrase or an entire post, its difficult to do that. Not to mention the fact that I assume it wouldn’t be too hard for the poster to translate so there would/should be no need for me to google translate it.

    Thanks everyone:)

    in reply to: how much to charge for hebrew tutoring? #818060
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    A tutor for a highschool age girl (usually a regents course) charges in my neighborhood between 85-95 so assume that you wouldn’t charge as much as that and if you do not have a degree… I think 60ish makes sense but I am totally guessing right now.

    Hope the job works out for you:)

    in reply to: opinions on strollers needed #818188
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    I hear that the citi mini is a great stroller. Prices vary depending on whether you want this years model or last. The difference in the models is probably a stitch of thread sewn onto the seat or something, meaning nothing major at all!

    Gluck!

    in reply to: not their fault #819544
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    I think it is an amazing learning experience for children. They will learn to accept people who are different and to be ok with situations that might not be the most comfortable for them. They will also not stare at a person that they see on the street who is ‘different’.

    in reply to: What should I be when I Grow up?? #821419
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    Whatever you decide to do, DO RESEARCH ON IT FIRST.

    For instance, do research before becoming an interior designer because right now I have 2 friends out of work for 2 years since the job market is not so big for this kind of work as of now. Iy”H when the economy picks up when obama is out of office getting a job as a designer might be easier.

    Also, anyone thinking of going to law school should think very hard about it before doing it. There are NO jobs even for the people who are on top of the class. I know many people who went to law school, couldn’t find a job so either opened a business of their own or went back to school.(not that you mentioned it lol)

    I actually think that being a nurse practioner is a great job and many more drs are hiring them as opposed to Drs because you can pay them a little less than drs but the nurse practioner can do almost as much as a dr. I think you need to become a nurse before becoming the “practioner” part.

    Gluck either way!!!

    Oh, also make sure you love what you’re planning on going into because I did not make sure and I stopped my schooling for it when I was soooo close to finishing:( In the long run it worked out to be for the best but it’s a little sad dropping out of school!

    in reply to: Psychologist Help #818448
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    cinderella- while talking to a friend can be really helpful sometimes it is not always so good to completely lean on a friend especially if the issues are big. I did this and completely alienated a couple of friends because of it. It just became too overwhelming for them to hear about my issues and they just did not know how to deal with it. Also, many times the friends themselves are struggling with some issues of their own so it could get overwhelming for them or they could give advice that sounds amazing and technically could be amazing but in the long run could be detrimental. I think depending on how large the problem is it is worth finding a really GREAT therapist. She is trained to help you and her ideals or own “issues” will not get in the way of her helping you cope or figure things out.

    BUT I am also not saying that you shouldn’t speak to a friend. Just don’t put the whole major burden on his/her shoulder. It could stimes be way too much for them to carry around by themselves!

    Sorry this post is so long, I just have a lot of strong feelings about this since I have been there, done that.

    in reply to: Most Moving Jewish Song In Your View #1097020
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    I can’t choose one in particular but I LOVE the Journeys songs that are about like the Holocaust or the one called “In a one room apartment…”

    I also love singing ani maamin whenever I feel down. It really kept me going when I was struggling a lot in highschool. Now things are much better but I still love singing it. I think the words are so simple yet so meaningful!!

    in reply to: holiday blues #823802
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    am yisrael, first of all- I am so sorry that this time of year brings back sad memories for you. It must be so difficult! I do understand I think (even just a little bit) because a family member of mine passed away on chol hamoed Pesach a couple of years ago.

    It feels liike it is a bittersweet time and atleast I feel this way that I have to put on a show for everyone that all is well and I am not struggling at all.

    I have no idea about your question though, I just thought knowing that someone understands somewhat might make things a little easier or not easier but you might feel less alone.

    A gut moed and again, I’m so sorry for your loss and hang in there!!

    in reply to: simanim.. #854006
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    I kind of think it’s bargaining with Hashem. Might be wrong though…

    in reply to: Girls Summer Camps – Help! #871504
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    @Saralastein, is that the camp run by Rabbi Hiller?

    in reply to: How do i film a wedding live? #817197
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    I know that Chai Lifeline has these hookups for people who are sick in the hospital or otherwise cannot make it to a family members wedding. If this is the case, maybe try contacting them.

    Either way, it is really nice of you to want to do this!!

    in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820710
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    Don’t know if this point was made yet because I have not yet read through all the posts but a lot of girls when they first come out of seminary are on a high. Then they get married right away and marry someone who is also on that same madreiga as she is (when she first comes out of sem). Problem is a lot of the time the girl falls from her high and then there is the problem of the two of them not being on the same madreiga. This can lead to divorce. In fact, I know a handful of people who have gotten divorced for this reason.

    I also know someone who was on a high after sem and told me that she wanted to marry a guy just like my brother. Luckily, she did not get married the yr right after sem because the guy she married is very diff from my brother (still a great guy though) and if she would have married the ‘other’ typa guy I think it would have led to disaster.

    This is why I think getting married right after seminary can be good for some people but not for others. It’s ok to wait a year or two to get married- IMHO:)

    in reply to: Another view on reporting abuse #816319
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    Starting from the top up…

    am yisrael- I didn’t mean it’s over and done with that there would be no ramifications (or are no ramifications). I meant that as far as we know, the abuse is not happening anymore, b”H. But thank you for Rabbi Goldwassers #. I think I will call him and speak to him about it.

    greg- I know I am a mandated reporter but does this apply to something that happened 3 years ago? Like do I have to report it now even though it happened three years ago?

    Thanks middle- ya, I don’t nec agree with the mother but I am not her so who am I to judge I guess. I’m assuming she knows (or thinks she knows) what she’s doing. But yes, I am going to call Rabbi Goldwasser and ask him for some hadracha.

    yit- I will do just that.

    Thank you everyone for all your input!

    in reply to: Another view on reporting abuse #816313
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    I found out recently that I had a student who was abused by her father. This happened like 3 years ago while her parents were getting divorced. She was a little on the quiet side, I think a little anti- social almost but we thought it was because of the home situation. When I found out about it now I was (and am still) devastated. I wish I had known and could have done something about it!! She is currently not living with her father but is also not in therapy for it and her mother does know that it happened.

    I wonder if I have an obligation to tell the school or since it’s over and done with, just leave it be. I guess I should ask a rav this question. I mean is a rav the right person to ask a question like this to? If not, who do I ask?

    Thanks:)

    in reply to: When life hands you lemons… #818170
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    of course, can you explain what you mean by “Find one good friend/role model to let it all hang out to, and then:

    Make the best of it and never let them see you sweat, because no one likes a crybaby, and no one benefits anyhow, not even the one crying.”

    Sorry, I don’t think I quite understand what exactly you’re saying here. Thanks in advance;)

    in reply to: Dear Teacher, can you give us a little break?! #816695
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    deiyezooger, I am an asst for 5 and 6 year olds. We gave homework over succos as a review since the girls are off for close to 3 weeks, there is definitely time for them to forget the things we learned (nekudos). The homework should take all of 5 minutes though. Even an older child can do the homework with the preschooler. Maybe this is the teachers thinking when she gave the homework because this was our thinking when we gave our homework.

    Good yuntif!

    in reply to: hair covering and married women #816445
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    Got it, workaholic. Thanks for answering!

    in reply to: hair covering and married women #816442
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    A random hair covering question. I was noticing in shul on y”k (during selling of aliyos, not during davening lol) that many people cover their ears when wearing a tichel. Is there a reason for this? I noticed it on more than one person so I can’t imagine that it’s just ‘how she does it’. Is their a reason behind it?

    in reply to: New Charity Website! #815625
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    Are you sure its legit? I’ve never heard of it til now so b4 I bought thru it, I’d do some research.

    in reply to: Sleeping in the Sukkah #816913
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    My father and brothers don’t sleep in the succah but for safety reasons. I live in a safe neighborhood but it is also very very close to a not so safe neighborhood so they were told not to sleep in it.

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    Health, the women went to kaparos because that is her families minhag. Maybe she didn’t want to hold it but it would have been ok to her if her husband held it. I don’t think that has anything to do with being spoiled. Fact is, many people find it disgusting to hold live animals. Myself included.

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    Who is this Rebbetzin? I’ve never heard of her before…

    in reply to: Easiest Succah to Build #838239
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    We have the fiberglass one and because we are in such a wind tunnel we need to add pieces of wood attached to help stand it up. We also need beems to hold the schach in place but that might be because it is too wide and too long. Just be careful because there have been years where everyone has lost their succahs… recently 2 of our panels broke because of falling and wind. They were fixed last yr by our succah builder but if it wouldn’t have been, it would have been very expensive to replace!

    in reply to: I HATE SHIDDUCHIM!!!! #858844
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    Just wanted to say one thing. Not all people who have been physically abused won’t make a good wife. Yes, some may have serious fears and flashbacks and things that they don’t even know they have until they get engaged/married but others might just be ok. Also, if a person was in therapy for this then I feel that there is not much of a reason to say no to them (if ur only reason is because of the physical abuse). Of course, do intense research but I would say do intense research even if there wasn’t physical abuse in the girls background.

    in reply to: tomo yeshiva #815160
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    momma- don’t know if anyone answered you cuz didn’t read all the posts but TIFERES MOSHE is the name of the Queens yeshiva under the leadership of Rabbi Yaakov May.

    in reply to: Urgent Tefilos Needed for Newborn Rivka Bas Sara Raizel #814725
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    Aries- I got a message yesterday that it was yesterday. Sorry for posting wrong info… May she have a full refuah bikarov!!!

    in reply to: Urgent Tefilos Needed for Newborn Rivka Bas Sara Raizel #814723
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    The baby is 10 days old and is having major heart surgery tom. Please say tehillim for her!! I know the family personally (and not thru darchei bina). There was a whole letter written by the babys mother begging e/o to daven!! She won’t be cured tom but if the surgery goes well then its a good sign, iy”H!

    in reply to: Help! My child can't fall asleep at night #814845
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    winny1, I know many drs that recommend taking Benedryl as it is a non- addictive medication that causes one to fall asleep (usually atleast). It is non-addictive but you can get used to it and that would make it not work. I worked with a child who took it for years and it still works on her now. Just ask your Dr before trying it on your child!

    in reply to: info on medicine use for Yom Kippur #814716
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    commonsense- I just wanted to thank you again for posting this information. I called (and was amazed since I was only put on hold for a/ 2 min!) and my sheila was answered. The Dr did the translating since it was hard to understand the Rav but the Rav gave me an answer that I would definitely would not have been able to think of myself hence the reason he’s the posek and I’m the asker lol:)

    But thanks again!

    Gmar chasima tova and an easy fast to you!

    in reply to: Help! My child can't fall asleep at night #814843
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    baalhabooze- would the calcium pills work for adults too? I am also having severe sleeping issues where I can not sleep through the nights anymore. I tried Benedryl (under Drs orders) but didn’t work. Now on Melatonin but so far no relief. I am going a lil crazy over it so if s/t as easy as Calcium could help me then I’d run for it lol.

    in reply to: info on medicine use for Yom Kippur #814713
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    Wow, thank you commonsense for telling us about this!

    in reply to: Pidyon Shevuyim #817037
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    ayc, which Rabbi Reisman? I’m assuming you’re speaking of the one in Brooklyn cuz I don’t think the one in Far Rockaway is as well known but I definitely could be wrong about that!

    in reply to: Refrigerator info #814593
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    momma, I don’t really have anything to tell you about a fridge itself I just wanted to give you a heads up even though you’ve probably thought about this already. I have heard in the past that some people have had some issues with their fridge in terms of shabbos and things being muktza. Just a thought that I had when I read this. Good luck with choosing the best product for you!

    in reply to: The Easiest & Best Sukkah Shlock (Roof Covering) #838044
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    We used to put the blue tarp on (the typical shlock) but then one year it nearly brought the sukkah down (onto ppl) so we stopped with it… Wtvr u do, make sure its safe please!

    in reply to: A day to disconnect #813858
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    I didn’t pledge but had hoped to do it anyway but kinda forgot a/ it. But now I’m thinking that didn’t we all disconnect for 3 days over yuntif? And will be doing it for another 6 days (succos too) so what’s the diff? I am not trying to be obnoxious here… Really just wondering what I might be missing!

    in reply to: R''H and deaths?! #813800
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    I guess my faith or belief is just not strong enough. Something I have to work on this year…

    in reply to: Advice for fasting YK #882580
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    pascha, I’m not a posek so don’t go by what I’m saying but I think that if you don’t feel well and the only way for you to make it through the fast is by staying home and even staying in bed then that’s what you gotta do. I have family members that don’t go to shul (even for yizkur) because they would not be able to make it through the fast otherwise.

    I also know for myself that ever since I was released from the hospital (a year ago, b”H) it’s hard for me to sit for crazy amounts of time, like sitting/standing for the entire mussaf so I do plan on leaving in middle if I feel the need to and I don’t feel guilty for doing it either. (wow, that was a run on sentence. Sorry) I try to make it back for neila but again, if I see I won’t be able to manage it then I try and say it at home by myself.

    Good luck fasting and gmar chasima tova!

    in reply to: R''H and deaths?! #813796
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    You’re right. 2 of the 3 people I was talking about were in their 100’s but fact is they died either on r”h or right after. This is the part that scared me.

    Also, aries- it always freaks me out when we say in davening who will die by fire and we can name someone we know personally who did, or who will die by water and know that boy from the 5towns. It is terrifying that we really can put names to these things. Either I never really paid attention til a coupla years ago or it didn’t happen til a coupla years ago that we were able to do this. Like I feel like it proves my point a little more a/ the world coming to an end.(Or that I feel like it is anyway)

    in reply to: Why Isn't Pollard Free? It's Simple… #814058
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    I’ve actually heard something very interesting. I heard that even if pollard would have the chance to be freed, he wouldn’t leave unless they said he was completely innoccent or something along those lines. He is not looking to ‘just’ be pardoned. This is what I’ve heard recently…

    in reply to: left over challah from yom tov #813650
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    Make challa kugel. I could give you a recipe if you want…

    in reply to: Fasting!!!!! #883104
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    Ya, it is very common in the chassidish world for the girls/women not to fast besides y”k and tisha baav. We always ask my father how this minhag managed to get lost in my family since we all fast but he’s pretty lax about it. If we need to, we can break it…

    in reply to: SEMINARY!!! #918780
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    Pninim sounds like it might be a good fit for you. I went there a buncha years ago but it definitely was not academic and was very hashkafic. As per the girls, my year we were known as being the most ruachdik but I heard that after that Rabbi Meisels started accepting some “iffy” girls BUT have now heard that he has stopped that and is changing the seminary to be for a good girl, not neccasarily a girl who is “troubled” and that the seminary will try ‘fixing’.

    I think it is a great seminary though! I still keep up with Rabbi Meisels even though it has been a few years since I’ve been there.

    in reply to: If I get one more mass text #814093
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    Here’s another thing that bothers me about these mass texts erev r”h. When I answer it anyway since it’s the least I can do, they don’t even think of texting back. For some reason this bothers me a lot!! Am I wrong?

    in reply to: If I get one more mass text #814078
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    popa, I also feel like it is a little impersonal to send out a mass text wishing the entire list a good yuntif. If you would like to wish me a good yuntif, feel free to do so but in a more personal way like sending out a personal text or even calling me might be nice. I don’t know if everyone agrees with this but I sure do:)

    in reply to: No Sleeping Rosh Hashana Days #813355
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    Is the reason for not sleeping on r”h because it REALLY will affect our year or is this just a myth? Also, it could be I’m wrong but I heard that if you fall asleep by mistake then it’s ok…

    in reply to: Help Me Forgive #971381
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    Really strange (I think atleast). I let a friend know that there were still things that weren’t 100% between us and that maybe we should discuss it before r”h being that I didn’t want to go into it holding a grudge against her, c”v but she didn’t answer me at all.

    Does anyone think this is strange? I really wanted to be mochel her and am trying so hard to do without speaking to her but it is very difficult for me.

    Any other ideas of what I can do before r”h?

    Thank you!

    in reply to: Pain of Shidduch Rejection: #821270
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    I would like to say that I think it depends on the person and their maturity too etc but I would also like to say that I can see it if a male took it harder than a girl since everyone expects the guy to be the strong one in every relationship, or just in everything in general so he might have to show it outwardly but inside maybe it hurts even more than he’s letting on. I could imagine that having to cover up that hurt and rejection might make it worse but who knows? Maybe I’m imagining wrong:)

    in reply to: Help Me Forgive #971373
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    I also had this problem and asked a rav what to do about it. I think he said something like if you’re already asking this question than you’ve forgiven them. Yes, it still might hurt and it’s allowed to hurt still but you’ve forgiven them already.

    I’m not so sure this makes a lot of sense to me since I really do still question whether I’ve forgiven them even though like 3 or 4 r”h and y”k have passed and I wonder if there really is a way for me to know…

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