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September 18, 2017 5:38 am at 5:38 am in reply to: Why don’t shadchanim get paid as much as psychologists? #1366032
Because they don’t have their kids for as long as the rebbeim do.
It’s that simpleSeptember 17, 2017 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm in reply to: Why don’t shadchanim get paid as much as psychologists? #1365976
I think a better question is why don’t rebbeim get paid as much as psychologists
Thinking out loud
My pet peeve?
I am chasday lev.
Really?? You yourself are an organization?
I was moderated out
I guess it’s ok to nurse in public as long as you don’t comment about itAugust 11, 2017 12:33 pm at 12:33 pm in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1337524
Ever heard of malbin pnay chaveyro barabim ayn lo. Chelek liolam haba?
Mutav sheyapil Adam atzmo likivshan haesh vial yalbin pnay chaveyro barabim?
Diazal sumka viasi chivra (since The blood drains from his face it’s asking to killing him) (rishonim on the gemorah)
That is where I am coming from (remember your comments were in the context of this taking place in public)
Where are you coming from?
As to kollelman comment
I did not want to go there but I think it is quite obvious that there are many times when the female in question has not gained even an ounce in quite some time vihamayvin yavin
It’s time to stop making excuses for people who openly flout halacha
The halacha of Dan likaf zechus has guidelines. Did you know that when it comes to an average person doing something clearly wrong according to some rishonim YOU ARE MECHUYAV to Dan likaf chov? Look in the chafetz Chaim in the pesicha “essin number 3” and follow the footnotesAugust 11, 2017 12:56 am at 12:56 am in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1337356
I just read over your signal response to me
“Criticizing is worse than insulting” ??? Really?unless you mean that in your opinion every criticism contains insults as well,
Where on earth do you get such a hashkafak from??
To insult someone Is akin to murder on some level . to the extent that one loses their share in the world to come.
I never saw such harsh words about unwarranted criticism.
Certainly Not about warranted
Please clarifyAugust 11, 2017 12:44 am at 12:44 am in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1337347
“you are calling them fat. “””And it’s not nice to call people fat.”
That too Is not judgement?
Time to own up
We all judge others
And there is nothing wrong with nicely telling a friend that their clothes are too tight
Anymore than when you tell a friend that what they are saying Is lashon hara.
Should one Not do that either?
Maybe the reason they were saying the story gr8 because they did Not realize it was negative. So really when you tell your friend “please stop saying that. Its lashon hara. You are really just calling your friend a stupid person.
That is so Not nice
And judgemental tooAugust 10, 2017 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1337284
“Therefore, by saying that someone is not b’tznius because their clothing is too tight, you are calling them fat. And it’s not nice to call people fat.”
Seems like judgement to me .
Btw . when you say I am overanalyzing the issue. to me that seems like a criticism.
What time is your auto-da-fe?
Can I bring snack?August 10, 2017 8:49 pm at 8:49 pm in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1337199
I must be missing something I do not see anywhere on the thread that there was public criticism I was assuming that it was a question of one girl perhaps telling her friend you should not be wearing such a thing it is not befitting I don’t see anywhere that there is a talk of public criticism inter-gender criticism I don’t know where all this information is hidden but I cannot find it on the thread in the original post maybe I am missing the first postAugust 10, 2017 3:04 am at 3:04 am in reply to: Tight-fitting clothing and tznius – the elephant in the room #1335524
I find your comment fascinating
Let’s break it down
Somebody says a girl’s shirt is too tight
In order to give the girl the benefit of the doubt you will now make the assumption that originally the shirt was perfect size just now she grew and did not realize that it is perhaps no longer and acceptable shirt
That is a beautiful way of judging someone favorably how ironic
How ironic is it then that the outcome of taking someone who to the Casual Observer is doing something improper and by you finding a way of judging them favorably you are now taking someone who to the Casual Observer did nothing wrong because all they did was make a specific factual comment or statement that the shirt in question is unacceptable and now you made them into the person who did something wrong and offensive
So to sum up you took two people who to an objective Observer person number one did something wrong and person number 2 did nothing wrong
You figured out a way to negate the wrong that person number one did by slapping person number 2 with a wrongdoing
That is exactly what is known in the vernacular as
PC garbageJuly 30, 2017 7:46 am at 7:46 am in reply to: What Happened With Ezras Nashim In Boro Park On Monday Night? #1328824
Health; help me out here.
I am new to this board
Here is what I was able to make out
You feel that there is an intrinsic value in ”choice” no matter how poor that choice may be
Having put all that to record here are my two questions
1- what is the issue with hatzolah? No names just issues
2- don’t we have plenty of choice without ezras nashim?
You could call
Chase credit cards
And the list goes on
These may be very poor choices but from your posts it is clear You are only looking to make sure there is choice
edited – by ‘new’did you mean screen name?July 19, 2017 10:49 pm at 10:49 pm in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1321653
Sorry about lack of proper punctuation. I am typing on a small phone screen and its extremely difficult to actually see what I am writing.
My basic point in short
Perhaps the girl had religious issues. (Seems so from the paragraph about how her parents tried to save her soul for five years.
Perhaps the parent(s) who called represent a real financial threat to the stability of the school.
Would you recommend the school close down?
Its a tough call and I don’t know the answer.
Perhaps the school told the parents not to send their daughter but the parents sent her to try to force the school’s handJuly 19, 2017 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1321640
It seems every commentor is missing the point it seems quite clear that this girl had some sort of religious issues that may be the letter writers changed details and low Scholastic achievement may be a euphemism for low religious tendencies the parent who called two say that they would pull their child was within their rights the school is additionally within their rights to decide between the two children the school now has an ultimatum to decide between the two children if the school felt that losing and influential or financially giving parent would be to the great detriment of the school perhaps undermining the financial stability of the entire school what would you like the school to do would you like the school to shut down due to financial loss are you as a commenter prepared to cough up the necessary funds to keep the school going if the school loses affluent parent buddy the only question that seems to remain is how should the school proceed that is really the domain of the school administrator probably the administrator should not approach the girl on the first day of school and throw her out however that may also be detail that was changed within the letter and perhaps the administrator actually called the parents perhaps the administrator called the parents the day before the school started and told them to please not send their daughter perhaps the parents felt they would force the school’s hand and sent her anyway I do not know neither do any of the other commenters on this site know .
what I do know is that schools are placed in very difficult positions on constant basis yes Lakewood is and therefore it is not a community school system there are many many merit-based schools that is a fact of life it is a problem I do not know the solution neither do any of the commenters on this siteMay 3, 2012 10:49 am at 10:49 am in reply to: Did I ever tell you about the time I almost got gored by a bull? #874138
yw mod 42, did you mean “moooed”
mytake, well said, but why does the community patronize the shops that sell this stuff. we dont buy from non kosher butcher stores, why buy from non kosher dress stores
“NASI is NOT against the freezer. Never has been and probably never will be. Especially since the freezer isn’t going away any time soon and”
” NASI doens’t waste it’s time on ideas that aren’t going to be implemented.”
really?so is nasi closed? which of their genius ideas was so great? laying out 15 grand to go on a list?
“frum” girls who dress like street walkers
“frum marrieds ” who wear wigs that cover more than their skirt
unfortunately i dont think the average frum family makes ens meet .
kupat hair is responsible for degrading the worth of gedolay yisroel into slick snake oil salesmen.
females should dress with an awareness that they are going into the PUBLIC arena before they go out. no, not don’t look. don’t wear!
happiest you know what the problem would be, schools making money on the supplies. i still think it is the best solution. but the teachers also have to update what they really use
coffee addict, where is the lack of tzneyius in having a girl check out prospective husbands? (especially since most probably it would be her parents anyway)
adorable, if 3/4 of the names are no good for the boy who cares about the length of the list it is just a pain in the neck to check out so many ppl. i still say go to the girl first and watch the problem reverse itself boys complaining and girls with lists
any teachers care to comment?September 11, 2011 11:26 am at 11:26 am in reply to: write a grammatically correct sentence with the word 'and' 5 times consecutively #808315
nature, i had same elementary school teacher as you only the story was with a fruit and vegetable store
the “had” goes something like this
kid named had writes an essay . in it he writes i had lunch. teacher takes of a point resulting in a 99 -highest mark in class. teacher says Had had had “had” had Had had ,”had had” Had had gotten 100
so shlishi now you are saying that all the girls get tons of dates just they cant all get married cause its too few girls ? well thats not what everyone says. they all say the girls dont even get dates . i think the problem is we think you can only give a name to a girl after the boy says yes so of course the boy gets a whole list and the girl doesnt cause for every batch of names the boy gets , one girl gets his name(if he is considerate and doesnt give 2 girls a yes at tyhe same time) we try to protect the girls from getting a “no” so they end up not hearing about the dates suggested. how about if people would just go to the side they know better, first. then the girls would also feel part of it. btw if a guy gets a girls name hearing she already said yes to him, she has a better chance of him saying yes. mazal to all!
and like one poster mentioned. whats with the book fee? whatr do they buy with that? 40 each kid? including pre 1 a?
uh shlishi, that would mean that hundreds of girls got dates while only one boy got. i think thats the opposite of what everyone says!
thats a great idea all schools should do it!