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yesorno – good one. However, in that case, it’s still coed.
Maybe the glitch only works for new posts, but is set up to reject reposted posts that had been deleted the first time.
Why, you have a problem with that, Golfer? What do you think I’m wearing right now? (j/k).
Yes – you have a chiyuv to hear the Megillah both by night and by day. Women are obligated as much as men.
I still don’t get why these posts are going through and the others didn’t. It’s not possible that the mods are reading them that fast.
LB – I wrote my last post before I saw yours.
I understand, and your emotional health is important. Maybe take a few days and come back to it.
The whole thing was really a big misunderstanding (imho) and I think I understand where it came from. It would be good if it could be cleared up. Maybe I’ll try again when I have a chance and can figure out how to explain it more concisely and clearly (either for you or for the others).
You can take good advantage as well. I was considering doing that, but I’m too tired.
For example, if I were to repost all the posts I tried posting last night in your defense, LB, that were deleted for some reason.
Which was really chaval because I explained both perspectives (both yours and those who were arguing with you), and validated both, and could have effected shalom between you guys (which is one of the biggest Mitzvos – maybe the biggest.).
Who’s Rush Limbaugh and WABC? Why were you on the air?
Yeah, that’s the one I saw. lol.
I had already mentioned or alluded to it on another thread anyhow.
And I can’t imagine the mods don’t know.
I checked. It was there.
They are. But I guess I checked too late (40 seconds). Will check now.
JA – brilliant!
LB – brillianter
Apparently there must be some kind of technical problem right now. (it’s not even ” right after submission”; it’s upon submission.) Surprised you just noticed. Surprised no one is taking advantage.
Then the op should have been in quotes.
What assumption am I making exactly?
If we’re the same person, we’re schizophrenic because we disagree sometimes.
We also have very different personalities. And live in different time zones.
It looks like it’s 3 times a year.
I just found it online. In the first issue I checked, they quoted me!! I found that really funny. I was mortified at first, but when I read it, I saw that most of the posts they quoted from me were pretty intelligent, so it’s okay.
You were on the air with CY?
Joseph, maybe you’re Country Yossi??? That would explain why you have the same name and why they always quote you.
Really? I have to start buying it. Where do they sell it? I haven’t seen it in years – I didn’t even know it was still around. Do they sell it in EY?
Joseph, since you seem to read it, have they ever quoted me?
“Joseph and LU give the same answer, yet Joseph is right and LU is wrong. Discuss.”
Where do you see that we give the same answer? And how could Joseph be right and I be wrong?
Do you get blocked after a certain number of deleted posts?
What happens if the moderators are on vacation (like right now)? Can anyone post whatever they want?
Does Country Yossi magazine really quote the CR? I should start buying it so I can see if they quote me.
AVi K: “If the former, why not change?”
Do you go to shul every Yom Kippur and ask forgiveness for the same things you asked forgivesness for the year before? Do you daven three times a day – “selach lanu Avinu ki chatanu…”?
“Simple. The narrator is a man.”
Except that she’s not. Unless the moderator who told me that she’s a girl was lying.
Warning – According to halacha, it is assur to say anything negative about a book, so posters should be careful about their responses.
If you have nothing good to say, say nothing. But don’t leave a blank post either.
I am not commenting simply because I haven’t read any of the above books.
I think they may have the type of boy you are looking for/that would be good for you.
Just make sure you explain clearly to the matchmakers what you are looking for. And most importantly, make sure that you check out the guys VERY CAREFULLY! This is always very important in any case, but it is particularly so with a system in which the shadchanim have never actually met either you or the guy and may know nothing about him.
There is no way to know if anything he wrote about himself is true, and there is no way to know if he is really Frum or normal, etc. So checking it out is VERY important. And don’t just rely on the references that he gives. Try to figure out who else might know him (people that you know or at least know of).
You might want to try YUconnects instead of SawYouAtSinai. It is part of SawYouAtSinai and is the exact same thing. Despite the name, there are plenty of guys and girls on it who never went to YU.
Most programs have someone on staff whom you can contact for advice. If you have a hard time reaching your student, you should contact her.
I would first follow YehudaYona’s wise advice and leave a message with my phone number. Then, if I didn’t hear back from, I would contact the staff person.
“LU: Guessing you have insider knowledge?”
🙂
Any knowledge I have may be outdated and is not for public consumption if it’s not on the website. Rebshidduch is advised to go by what’s on the website. Call them and see if they will take you.
“There was a guy in my kollel”
You want to explain how that’s not a coed kollel? Unless you’re the secretary, janitor, or cook or something like that.
“Lilmod, about what would I be offended?”
I don’t know. I just got nervous that you were. But if you’re not, that’s great.
Coed kollels on the other hand….
And punching people through windows…
WTP – I hope I didn’t come across as too critical of your post. If so, I apologize. I reread your post, and it’s possible I may have read into it more than you meant. Plus I always worry about LB taking on too much, and it does happen sometimes that people give her mussar for things that I are not clear-cut halachos.
In any case, even though I do think it was important that I write what I did (for LB’s sake), at the same time, I apologize if I sounded critical of you.
Thank you for explaining what you meant.
LB – those are from years ago. Anyhow, we don’t know if they are all really Joseph just cause the mods gave them the username “Joseph”.
I saw some old thread in which this issue is discussed and I think it turned out they were wrong about some.
“I dont think I’m going to convince him, i just find it fascinating when people are proven wrong and instead of retracting double down”
That’s impressive. Whenever that happens to me in the CR (which it does a lot), I just get frustrated and give up.
Thanks for the vocabulary/science lesson. So why did you choose it for a name?
It depends if you mean “the other side of the street” or “the other side of the world”.
The grass on the other side of the street is greener because I live across the street from a park, so all the grass is on the other side.
The grass on the other side of the world is less green because I live in EY which is the best place in the world.
The grass on the other side of my life is less green because I’m happy I’m me, Boruch Hashem, and I wouldn’t want to be anyone else or have anyone else’s life!
“Note the T.”
What does the T indicate?
Yes, as a matter of fact it does:
1. I just stopped smoking yesterday since I discovered that it’s not a good idea to smoke before the age of 119.
2. I had only started smoking in the first place when I discovered that it’s only boys who smoke who are considered OTD and not girls (for some reason, I had been under the mistaken impression that it was the other way around…. so it was good that I was enlightened by the CR).
3. I decided to start dating since I found out that there actually are perfect boys in the world.
Wolf – I think she responded on another thread. It sounds like she may have been misunderstood.
Honestly, I didn’t read these particular posts so carefully because I wasn’t so interested in the topic, but from I know of Lightbrite, she is one of the most sensitive people in the CR, so I highly doubt she meant what you think she meant.
My guess is that either she didn’t express herself carefully and/or she was misunderstood. And I believe she said as much in her post on another thread.
That is just my take on the situation. I don’t mean to devalidate your feelings if you were hurt by something she said. And if you feel an apology and/or an explanation is owed to you, you certainly have a right (and perhaps an obligation) to say so.
Okay,I figured out what tautology must mean and I looked it up to be sure.
But this is not a tautology because I was talking about what you already know. You already know that your wife and kids have worth (unlike hitler yemach shemo, l’havdil). Not only that, but you know that they have a lot of worth. If such worthy individuals consider you to be a very worthwhile individual, then you clearly are.
Wolf, please read my statement which you quoted carefully:
“But if anyone WHO HAS WORTH thinks you have worth, then you must have worth.”
The people who felt hitler had worth were not people who themselves had worth.
“(And please don’t tell me that anyone who valued Hitler must be worthless, because then it just becomes a tautology.)”
Sorry, I don’t know what a tautology is, but I fail to see the problem with telling you that anyone who valued hitler must be worthless.
My point was that your WIFE and KIDS think you have worth and I know that you think that they have worth, so if you think that they have worth and they think that you have worth, then you must have worth.
I hope you weren’t offended by anything I wrote on the other thread. If you were, I apologize and I hope you are moichel me.
There is Partners In Torah. But it is only for people who aren’t religious yet or recently became religious.
Torah Mates is through OORAH, and I think it’s also only for people who are n’t religious or are recently religious, but you can contact them and find out. I’m sure you can find them online.
I don’t know of anything for Frum girls. But you can try either of the above programs to see if they will take you.
no, but if you find out, please let me know.
Maybe fish don’t consider fat to be derogatory.
mw13 +1!
I know but that doesn’t really answer my question.
LB, If you speak to divorced guys, you might hear a different story. There are guys who are divorced from abusive wives who are shunned by the community who are often more likely to take the wife’s side.
It probably happens both ways, and I have no idea which is more common. I do have the impression though that often people are more likely to take the wife’s side.
In this case, the OP did not complain about not being invited to simchas, so it doesn’t sound like that’s the issue.
and btw, we don’t know if the OP is male or female. Why are you assuming it’s a she?
“Lilmod, I do not want to disappoint you but expect the worst.”
Meaning what? That you are not listening to my advice? Well I guess there’s a reason that everyone else has stopped giving you advice.
LB – her relationship with the guy who she was giving rides to because he promised not to talk to her but he ended up showing her his tattoo, but she’s going out with him anyhow because he promised to learn full-time if she does and he doesn’t smoke.