Lilmod Ulelamaid

Well that’s the point – if it’s a coed kollel, that answers the question, doesn’t it?!!

That’s great. I’m not sure if I can say the same.

Ubiquitin – Thanks for the correction. I just looked it up and it’s the SA I was quoting, not the MB.

In terms of the “very clearly” part, I was referring to the fact that the two foods don’t have to be different brachos. The SA mentions two portions of meat, & since two portions of meat have the same bracha, it is “very clear” that the two foods can have the same bracha.

The words “very clearly” were really going on “and not two brachos” and not on “two different types of food”. I had not realized that he writes “portions” and not “types”, or I would have worded my post more accurately. My point remains true though, even if it wasn’t phrased correctly. My point was that “??? ???? ???” cant possibly mean 2 different brachos, although it can and does (at least according to most Poskim we follow, according to what I was taught) mean two types of food.

Thank you for your corrections. It’s nice to know someone is reading and paying attention to my posts.

I also always wondered about people who are very insecure and get nervous that people will think they are lying even though they aren’t, or they themselves are scared they are lying even though they are not.

Would the lie detector think they are lying even though they are not? I have always been afraid that I am the type of person whom a lie detector would suspect of lying even when I’m not. Good thing I never had to use one.

Randomex – sure. I might be there around Shavuos time.

How does the toy know if they are lying? Is it a real “lie detector”? Are those things accurate?

Next time I’m in Lakewood, let me know where you’re sitting and I’ll come say hi.

At the age of 119, your body is probably not very strong, and while normally one smoke won’t kill anyone, if a 119-year old who has never smoked smarts smoking, I would imagine it could be quite dangerous. It’s probably safer to start at 70 or 75 than at 119 (especially since the average life span for men is only around 79, I think).

If you really have to smoke, you should probably do what one person I know does – he only smokes once a week, on Motzei Shabbos, because he says you can’t get addicted from smoking once a week.

But best of course is not to smoke at all!

First of all, I would imagine that there are people who have a different perspective than you do on the situation. They may be wrong; that is something I have no way of knowing and can’t possibly have an opinion on. But the fact is that in any divorce situation, there are always people who have a different take on the situation. In some cases one is wrong and one is right, in some they are both wrong, and in some cases, they are both right. But that is the reality in just about any divorce (or any situation involving people and relationships and conflicts).

I know you say the facts are known. But I don’t know what that means. Known by who? Known how? Were these people witnesses? If not, they don’t know. And even if they were witnesses, they may have thought there were extenuating situations or may not have perceived it as abuse.

Only if you think that the shidduch crisis means that there are no boys in the world.

Wolf – were you able to keep it off? That’s the important part.

Maybe she wants to think carefully about her response before she posts, so she can give a well-thought-out-answer. And maybe she hasn’t had a chance to do so yet.

“My email address is publicly known. Anyone can email me.”

How is your email address publicly known? We don’t even know your name.

Or are you talking about someone who already knows you in real life?

I thought the whole point of this thread was about meeting people whom you don’t know in real life – only in the CR?

I’m sure your wife doesn’t agree. Or your kids. Or your friends.

I hope this has nothing to do with the Chofetz Chaim you alluded to. If it does, you are definitely misunderstanding it, because it applies to me too (I think), and I definitely have worth. (and so do you, for that matter!)

If you are talking about something else, I still think you are wrong, because Hashem created everything.

What are you talking about? What do you think doesn’t have worth?

Everything does have worth. It’s not a lie.

One of the moderators said so, and I believed them. I’m almost positive about that; I’ll look for the post later b”n. Don’t have time now.

You want to know how the moderator knew? I wouldn’t know – you’re a moderator – you should know how moderators know all this mysterious information that no one else knows.

I once saw a really cool maamer explaining why B’nei Yisrael are compared to pomegranates. I don’t remember the whole thing and I don’t remember where I saw it, so I can’t look it up, unfortunately. If anyone here knows the source and can post it, I would very much appreciate it.

It was something to do with the fact that pomegranates are unusual in that the seed is the fruit itself. This somehow had to do with the fact that all Yidden are inherently good even when we do aveiros.

There was a lot more to it than that, and it put together a bunch of Aggadata’s to make the point, but I don’t remember it.

If anyone knows what I’m talking about, please let me know. TIA!

“Many sons of talmidei chachamim have been ballei battim.”

Apparently, Rav Shach felt a need to explain why his son turned out this way, since he didn’t feel it should have happened.

By the way, though, Joseph didn’t say the issue was that he wasn’t a baal habas. He said the issue was that he wasn’t a big Talmid Chacham (which isn’t necessarily the same thing).

Personally, the way I heard the story was that he was upset that his son didn’t take the same path as him – meaning that he had a different hashkafa. This doesn’t necessarily contradict what Joseph wrote since part of having a different hashkafa could include not being a Talmid Chacham, but it does explain why it was unexpected.

Try alcohol. It has the opposite effect of coffee. But just don’t tell any of the anti-alcohol people in the Purim thread 🙂

On Pesach, I usually try to drink soda to erase the effects of the 4 cups of wine. I’m not sure if it’s ever been that helpful though.

Bochur – I also think that mod 29’s idea sounds like a great idea. I don’t have first hand knowledge of Rav Wallerstein’s schools, but I have heard about both him and his programs, and both he and his programs sound wonderful.

oh, well, I wasn’t in Lakewood an hour ago so I didn’t get to meet you.

Cool! I guess she’ll find out one day that she is getting reward for something she didn’t even know she did.

In terms of the guy, my guess was that he grew up Frum and went off. Even if he meant it sarcastically, maybe he was really impressed on some level and maybe you had an influence on him and didn’t even realize it. Maybe you too will find out one day that you are getting rewarded for something you didn’t even realize you did.

You never know the influence you might be having on someone without realizing it and all the ripple effects it causes!

In terms of tznius issues with dressing up, from what I’ve heard it’s not so black and white, and while the Gedolim might say that some (over Bas-Mitzvah) girls should not dress up, they will allow it for others. It depends on the girl’s background and community, etc. There are Bais Yaakov high schools that do allow the girls to dress up (as per the psak of Gedolim and Rabbanim who allowed it for those schools at least).

Lightbrite is at a stage where she needs to take things slowly, so it may not be such a good idea at this point to worry about things that are not clearly assur and may be a matter of minhag hamakom.

That being said, one does have to make sure that the particular costume is tznius and in good taste. I think that LB will have to use her judgment and/or speak to her LOR (probably Rebbetzin in this case).

gross!