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Where are you looking? You may want to consider Yeshiva Meon Hatorah in Monsey.
ChadGadya: I disagree with you. Based on the headline I thought she actually said it and someone was writing a rebuttal.
Shadchanim and parents.
As someone posted in another thread, we have to get out of the mindset that a girl 22 or 23 is an “old maid”. Referring to them as an “older single” is wrong.
Halachic source, I know NYS law.
GH: Please cite a source for allowing a woman to nurse “publicly”.
Unfortunately not every girl is mature enough at 18 or 19 to get married. Again, one size does not fit all.
While major brands have gone to plastic, heimishe brands still use jars.
Not meakaiv as one can be toivel on shabbos.
Slonimer and iacisrmma: There is no one answer or correct way. Sometimes it depends on the shul; sometimes on the person. I have seen and heard combinations of all of what you mention. Most people I know do one mi shebeyrach for the whole family (boys and girls). Others do separate. I personally do not mention each child individually but say my wife’s name “vkol sheyotzel meichalatzeha” except if I receive an Aliya on the yomim noraim. Then I do give the names of each child.
Bereishis 1:14
What halachos are you thinking of?
Yes, my wife still irons clothes especially shabbos shirts.
I didn’t notice anything like that.
Sadigurarebbe: This has become the most recent mantra of “self inflicted crisis”. Sorry but I believe there are many other factors as to why we have a “crisis” (and yes I currently have children in the shidduch process). These include “support” for “X # of years, girl/boy too short or too tall, girl/boy overweight, boys not wanting to travel outside of their home city to date girls in other cities, boy/girl wants to live in EY, intensive pre-first date investigations, irrelevant issues brought up by either set of parents, and on and on.
gilda: Yiddish is “Mama Loshen” ONLY to Yidden who come from Europe/Russia (Ashkenazic lands).
Thank you GH.
Wolf: You have a psak so you should do as you were told. I heard from Rabbi Dovid Heber that we do not make a brocha.
To my knowledge, we do not make a brocha.
ZD: you are correct as to where the dateline is. The Chazon Ish’s dateline runs through several contiguous land masses (Russia, Asia, Australia). According to the Chazon Ish you can’t have one land mass having two separate days (i.e. Australia West of the dateline is shabbos and east of the dateline is Friday). Therefore his dateline is not straight but curves along the east coast of the various land masses (i.e. the entire Australia is considered West of the dateline as is Yerushalim). As Iacisrmma stated above, R’ Tukatzinsky’s dateline divides Alaska. We do not know what his shita is regarding a contiguous land mass. Do we treat the entire Alaska as being West of the dateline or east of it? If it is west then Shabbos would be on what we call Friday; if east of the dateline it would be Shabbos on what we call Saturday; either way it is a safeik within his shita. Hawaii is definitely west of his dateline therefore according to R’ Takutszinsky it is vadai Shabbos on what we call Friday.
Depends on the type of shul you are in. Young Israels usually do not do a “mi shenadar”. Some shuls have a minimum for a matana – look on the bimah. I know a shul that has a piece of paper stating the minimum for a matana (and it is less than $18). If you do not want this extra mi shebayrach you just let the gabbai know.
If you want to name people during the mi shehbeyrach try to have their names ready. Usually one does his wife and children. Some add on their parents and in-laws.
When leaving (or coming to) the Bima is their a correct path to take to/from the Bima?
One takes the shortest route to the bima. One takes the longer route away from the bima.
Does the person getting the Aliya uncover/cover the Torah? As a Baal Koreh I prefer to uncover the Sefer Torah when I am ready to show the person the place.
Open the Torah?
Yes, the Baal Koreh should open the Sefer Torah and show you the place. Some people place their tallis on the word and some on the side so they don’t rub the ink. According to the Shulchan Aruch (Siman Kuf Lamed Tes Sif daled (139:4)), you leave the Sefer open and make the first brocha. You close the Sefer before making the second brocha. The Ramah adds that you should turn your head to the left when making the first bracha so that the khal shouldn’t think that the brochos are written in the Torah. See the Mishna Berurah Sif Koton Tes Zayin – Yud Tes).
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=49624&st=&pgnum=38
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=49624&st=&pgnum=39Scroll it ahead during leining if moving to the next column? As a Baal Koreh I prefer that person wait until I start unrolling the side I am holding since if you roll first you may start covering the words before I actually say them.
For Hagbah, you should put your hands as close to the round part of the atzei chayim as you can (for better leverage). Unroll so that 3 columns are showing, lbend your knes slightly as you start to slide the sefer off the bimah and then lift up. Lchatchilah you are supposed to make a 360 degree turn and then sit down.
Many of us realize that yiddish is not as widespread as it used to be. Should it be totally eliminated from litvishe yeshivos for that reason alone? Personally, I am not sure what the correct approach should be. As I once heard from the brother of a Rosh Yeshiva: “why are we so upset about losing a language that is 1000 years old and we are not upset that we can’t a speak a language that is over 5000 years old?
Haimy: There are a number of yeshivos that has already implemented your idea of having two tracks. However, I disagree with your later comment “The main reason why Yiddish is still in Vogue is in order to keep out certain elements from the yeshivish schools”. You as the parent have to make the choice (as you obviously did). You have to choose what is best for your child. I have dealt with various yeshivos for my children and I never thought that the only motive was to keep out a certain element. Of course, we don’t know where you live so it’s possible in your community that is true.
Haimy: You have insight into so many problems and the insight how to address them. So instead of posting here why don’t you go to either the Roshei Yeshivos or those who have influence in the community and discuss it with them ?
Haimy: You wrote “Think of names like Yeshiva of Brooklyn, Torah Vodaas, Chaim Berlin,” I am not sure what time period you are referring to but not mentioning three other mosdos, that of Yeshiva Toras Emes when it was in Boro Park and led by Rabbi Elias Schwartz A”H, Prospect Park led by Rabbi Avrahom Kelman A”H, and Bais Yaakov of Boro Park led by Rabbi Oscar Ehrenreich Shlita is a disservice.
All of these institutions were led by individuals who worked with parents on all issues including if students were not the “best” and if parents couldn’t pay full tuition. I think the amazing fact is that all the institutions mentioned were led by talmidim of R’ Shraga Feivel Mendelowitz or were directly influenced by some of his decisions.
TLIK: Where is your evidence that “The suicides we watched in horror this year are not suicides, but murders”? You have proof that each and every case that Amudim speaks about is a case like Malky Friedman?
Your alarm is ringing. Is it “on” or is it “going off”? Is rain a good thing? To a farmer yes as the crops need water, therefore “raining down” is a good thing! However, to a city dweller when the “rain is coming down hard” it is an inconvenience. When a persons temperature goes up (fever) it’s a bad thing; when it goes down it’s good. Conversely, if a person has hypothermia, then temperature goes up it’s a good thing; when it goes down it’s bad.
Is the house that is going “up” next to me that is blocking my view a good thing? Is the baby being “up” all night a good thing? The prices are going up is a “bad” thing for the buyers but good for the sellers; prices going “down” is a good thing for the buyers and bad for the sellers.
So yes, it all depends on the context.
GH: This is at least the second time that you have used the term “gold standard” with chasidesheh hashgachos. I for one do not believe that. You wrote “No one ever went wrong with reliance on a top of the line Chassideshe hashgacha.” The incident in Monsey a number of years ago and one in Flatbush where actual tarfus was found in these establishments that were under chasidesheh hashgachos.
LB: This depends on where the burial takes place. Usually if the burial is in the same locale then the day of burial if they are able to actually “sit shiva” before shkia. If they do not sit before shkia then it starts the next day. However, as happened with Rabbi Meir Zlotowiz A’H, the levaya in the US was on Sunday and the kevura was on Monday in EY. Shiva started on Sunday since not all the aveilim went to EY..
Part of their chesed to yesomim under their “Yedid 2 Yedid” program.
Joseph: If you are asking me, since we didn’t keep breakables and poisons in under the sink cabinets we took them off when our youngest was about 1 year. outlets – 4 – 5 years old
Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh (Rabbi Shlomo Brazil)
It depends. We probably left the outlet protectors in for a longer period then the cabinet locks. The gates for the stairs were on even longer. While I agree with CTL about setting boundaries, one of the rooms of my house had 10 outlets when we bought the house. It was easier using the outlet protectors.
I think it’s OHEL or Misaskim.
True but I don’t know what is considered “late” in EY. here in NYC anything after 12:00 PM is probably “late”.
Another reason for a delay here in Chutz L’aretz. Someone is niftar late in the afternoon on Wednesday Erev Rosh Hashanah. Kevura can’t take place until Sunday.
Joseph: Very simple, the boy could be:
1. Boring
2. Unattractive
3. Non-communicative
4. non-mentshlichThinking back to my dating days over 30 years ago, I had my share of bad dates. I also believed that a number of the girls I dated did not think we had a good date.
Maybe you had to much to eat and drink at CTL’s daughters chasunah!
I have a question for you….in many places the Mishna Berurah and other poskim advises not to put oneself into a situation of a safeik brocha. So why didn’t you tell the person, I am sorry but I am not finished eating yet so either please wait until I am finished, find someone else or say it yourself?
RY: That link was live in 2008 when this thread started. Many pages get deleted after 9 years .
My son attends a yeshiva that has it’s own kitchen and charges for lunches (I think it’s $400/year). They do not opt into the Government programs because they do not have a way to audit the papers that the parents have to complete to make sure that the parents are actually filling out the papers truthfully. So we have the choice of paying the ~$2 – $3 a day or preparing our son’s lunch. we chose the latter.
AS SANE HUMAN BEINGS!!!!
CTL: I thought it was the purchasing age that was tied to the federal funds, not the drinking age. National Minimum Drinking Age Act of 1984 (23 U.S.C. § 158)
(a) Withholding of Funds for Noncompliance.—
(1)In general.—
(A)Fiscal years before 2012.—
The Secretary shall withhold 10 per centum of the amount required to be apportioned to any State under each of sections 104(b)(1), 104(b)(3), and 104(b)(4) [1] of this title on the first day of each fiscal year after the second fiscal year beginning after September 30, 1985, in which the purchase or public possession in such State of any alcoholic beverage by a person who is less than twenty-one years of age is lawful.(B)Fiscal year 2012 and thereafter.—
For fiscal year 2012 and each fiscal year thereafter, the amount to be withheld under this section shall be an amount equal to 8 percent of the amount apportioned to the noncompliant State, as described in subparagraph (A), under paragraphs (1) and (2) of section 104(b).CTL: First, Mazel tov on the chasunah and may the chupah be bshah tova umitzlachos and that the chosson and kallah should be zocheh to build a Bayis ne’eman b’yisorel lsheim lishilah u’lisifares.
Second, yes I agree we have to live within our means. I had long discussions with my rav as to what he thought we should agree to buy based on our financial situation. We did not go for the $100/plate that you sited above. We also don’t have a place as you do to make our own but we thought about it. This is why many are opting to hold weddings in Lakewood to hold down costs or to accept reasonable packages from the New York based catering halls.
I agree with your statement “People must understand that NO gift can be a must. There are traditions, period.” In my family, leichters are bought for the kallah, usually paid for by the chosson’s side unless someone on the kallah’s side insists on paying for it.
The minimum age to purchase alcohol in the USA is 21. Many states have exceptions for religious reasons and in the present of parents.
Joseph: The OP asked specifically about “good start”. I didn’t search for the others.
Gerber Good Start or Nestle Good Start?
The OU product list has 3 Gerber Good Start products (all 3 are soy based and pareve).
The OU product list has 2 dairy and 2 pareve Nestle products.
Joseph, DY, CTL: I am not trying to argue nor “bash the gift slinging”. To be honest, we do not have the means to totally conform to what others get and our children know that.I did not buy my SIL a shas. We did not buy the shaitels for our DIL’s but did for our daughter.
I had to replace the retzuos on my tefellin shel rosh two years ago. It cost $30 by a reputable sofer here in Flatbush.
My shver did not buy me a shas or a watch and somehow I still married his daughter.