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  • in reply to: Pence/Haley for 2024? Or Ryan/Gowdy? #1568857
    OneOfMany
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    Welcome aboard! I’m trying to brainstorm a punchy campaign slogans, like:
    Make America Bound in Darkness Again
    It’s Eternal Doom Again in America
    Evil Overlords We Can Believe In

    in reply to: Poll: What's Your Favorite Nosh? #1568824
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    I just realized that I can’t even remember the last time I ate winkies…I gotta put them on my shopping list

    in reply to: Pence/Haley for 2024? Or Ryan/Gowdy? #1568825
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    tsk tsk tsk, what’s with with all these bush-league tickets? Go big or go home, VOLDEMORT/SAURON 2024

    in reply to: Hi. Everyone. Do you guys remember me? #1568315
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    Hey Syag! I’m doing great, how are you? Everyone’s usernames look so weird without a mile-long subtitle after them…I guess I’m gonna have to get used to it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    lol now you got me trying to figure out how old Harry is supposed to be in 2018…

    in reply to: Hi. Everyone. Do you guys remember me? #1568191
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    Wow, hi arwsf and JayMatt19! Let’s keep this golden oldies reunion going!

    Also, does anyone know where the subtitles went? I feel so lost without them…

    in reply to: Open me! I'm another sem thread! #984197
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    Darchei Binah

    in reply to: Problem dealing with a student #981260
    OneOfMany
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    Your priorities are messed up if you’re complaining that a student’s questions “zap you of your enthusiasm.” Teaching is (or at least, should be) about addressing the student’s needs, not the teacher’s. Enthusiasm should be generated through interaction with your students, not from your satisfaction with your lesson.

    My suggestion: try legitimately addressing the points she raises. Don’t write them off as mockery, even if it IS clear that she’s only questioning out of belligerence. Don’t try to divert her with unrelated incentives. Don’t be defensive or evasive if you can’t give her an answer–say, “That’s a good question, I need some time to think about it,” and try to prepare something that SHE will find meaningful. If she’s putting a negative spin on everything you say–try to look past the negativity, pinpoint the issue she’s bringing up and open it for discussion. Whatever you do, be straightforward and level-headed, and don’t let your pride or personal outrage get in the way. If you do that, I think you’ll find that she will respect you more and might even be willing to listen to what you have to say.

    Also, in general, try to have an bit of leeway for an open forum during the lesson. Don’t try too hard to keep to your script. Mentally prepare yourself for spontaneous discussion, and encourage it. Don’t make this about “fixing” this student–it’s really an opportunity for you to develop better teacher skills and genuinely engage your students.

    in reply to: Need help with yearbook themes #978814
    OneOfMany
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    outer space/wild wild west crossover

    in reply to: Special treatment in Yeshivas #983179
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    You really are a Randroid, aren’t you.

    in reply to: Government shutdown? #976979
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    House Republicans add provisions defunding Obamacare as part of the spending bill, Senate Democrats refuse to pass bill with said provisions. Lots of stonewalling back and forth, no spending bill is passed, and new federal fiscal year is about to start unfunded. Boom. Government shutdown.

    in reply to: How did the Sanhedrin Know All Languages? #997539
    OneOfMany
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    Funny you mention that, because the full quote is:

    “People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but actually, from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint, it’s more like a big ball of wibbly-wobbly…timey-wimey…stuff.”

    in reply to: Sesquipedalianism #1071209
    OneOfMany
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    ahaaaaa…weird…

    What about the bad wind one. :3

    in reply to: de Blasio v. Lhota #975549
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    whoever will give me free doughnuts

    in reply to: Sesquipedalianism #1071207
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    dunno

    To err is human; to forgive divine.

    A rolling stone gathers no moss.

    dunno

    No use crying over spilled milk.

    Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

    People who live in glass houses shouldn’t through stones.

    in reply to: Sesquipedalianism #1071206
    OneOfMany
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    A bad wind…is a sign of no good…? Seems about right.

    That last one is really cunning. The rest of them are just painful to read. X_X

    in reply to: What did you cook/bake today? #1007840
    OneOfMany
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    I bought a doughnut.

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975213
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    Classic Joseph misdirection technique (go back and look at the comment): railroad someone making a point with related but irrelevant (yes, irrelevant) teshuvos to put them on the defensive. Solution: don’t feed the Joseph.

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975207
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    in reply to: The YWN Coffee Room Welcome Wagon #1064897
    OneOfMany
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    The CR Discworlders Club

    Feel free to use it to discuss anything geeky and/or nerdy. ^_^

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975201
    OneOfMany
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    Look, Syag, you’re being pretty obnoxious yourself. If someone is being obnoxious, tell them what you find offensive. Try to have a dialogue. Being uncommunicative and taking the moral high ground does not help anyone.

    And I really mean this non-obnoxiously.

    in reply to: Sesquipedalianism #1071197
    OneOfMany
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    zenzizenzizenzic is still my favorite word. ^_^

    in reply to: Very bad form of envy #974894
    OneOfMany
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    Don’t base your observance on the pride or shame you feel when you compare it to someone else’s observance. Base your observance on what Judaism means to you. Once you have a focus, you can look to the actions of other believers to help keep to it.

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975194
    OneOfMany
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    Syag:

    You’ve got it backwards. I fault you for jumping to the conclusion that this person must have insufficient faith, when I think–and SHE says STRAIGHT OUT, MULTIPLE times–that this is her questioning what has been brought to support her faith so far, NOT her questioning her faith. That is why I think you are unjustly equating asking questions with losing faith. And I am backing her up on this because I have gone through (and still am going through, to some extent) the same exact experience. For a person who thinks these things through, there is a difference between belief in the religion and faith in the people practicing the religion.

    And no, none of my opinions on this matter are based on “preconceived bias or stereotype.” Precoceived? Conceived before what? Actually having knowledge of Bais Yaakov hashkafos? I’ve been to mainstream, right-wing Bais Yaakovs for nearly my entire life. My opinion of them is not based on anything other than my experience in them–an opinion that was actually incredibly positive before the actual experiences. And no, I am not acting out spite or anger or anything like that. I am saying my straight-up opinion based on my experiences, positive AND negative. I am not trying to play games or be nasty here.

    One more thing: if you still think my responses are way off mark, please explain to me why they are, exactly, because I cannot tell what you are really trying to criticize me for.

    in reply to: Recommendations for a good book (adult) #974818
    OneOfMany
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    …what are chick books?

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975192
    OneOfMany
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    This is in response to ultimateskier, but I am addressing it to everyone here:

    You’re saying that you’re freaked out about the idea of a potential mentor being someone who “isn’t firm in their beliefs.” This is what I think you are misunderstanding about bais yakov maidel’s complaint (for lack of a better word), and learning and Judaism in general:

    ASKING QUESTIONS DOES NOT INDICATE A LACK OF BELIEF.

    You are all saying that bais yakov maidel isn’t strong enough in her belief. What I want to know is: how do you know that?

    Wait, don’t answer that question. I already know the answer. As Bais Yaakov students, we were all taught that we didn’t need what men learned to be good, believing Jews. Our job was to develop belief with what they gave us, which they told us was enough. So as far as we know, anyone who couldn’t make do with that couldn’t really believe–because what she had was all she needed.

    But I disagree with Bais Yaakov on that point. And I want to make this very clear: I do NOT think that people feel that what Bais Yaakov has provided them with is sufficient are stupid or cowardly. Everyone has different intellectual and emotional needs and THAT IS FINE. What ISN’T fine is a system where these needs can only be accommodated at a specific level, and other needs are dismissed and belittled. Our Torah is incredibly vast and deep, and not something people should be questioned or shamed for wanting to learn. Really, I think that that is antithetical to the spirit of Judaism, and something that should not be promoted to ANY Jew.

    Speaking of high school teachers…I had a teacher in high school–a “real” rebbetzin in every sense of the word–who told us often about how she shouted down for apikorus as a student. She would then say, “But when you are seeking to truly understand Torah, there is no question that is apikorsus.” And, no this teacher wasn’t what you are accusing bais yakov maidel of being. This same teacher yelled “TOIRAH IS A BESTE SCHOIRAH” when she first walked in on the first day of class, and had us write an essay explaining what Torah meant to us before she would teach us anything. Her love for and commitment to Torah were nothing like what I’d seen in all of my other high school teachers. And I think this is BECAUSE she wasn’t afraid to really examine why she found Torah meaningful.

    Again, I’m NOT saying that the rest of my teachers were no good. You are not a fake believer if you are not all “intellectual” (I do not think this is the right word in this context) about it. BUT. Someone who refuses to ask real questions about what they believe in, and shuts down and belittles the questions of others, isn’t someone who is secure in their belief.

    TL;DR: Asking questions and wanting to learn at whatever level you are at more builds security in beliefs, and being afraid to ask questions and shutting them down is a sign of dangerous insecurity.

    in reply to: Recommendations for a good book (adult) #974811
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    Beloved–Toni Morrison

    Midnight’s Children–Salman Rushdie <– this and Beloved are not for the faint-hearted, as they are disturbing and kind of gory

    The Ocean at the End of the Lane–Neil Gaiman

    Discworld series–Terry Pratchett

    Tortilla Flat–John Steinbeck

    The Lord of the Rings–J. R. R. Tolkien

    Pale Fire–Vladmir Nabakov

    The Help–Kathryn Stockett

    Millenium Trilogy–Stieg Larsson

    The Joy Luck Club–Amy Tan

    War and Peace–Leo Tolstoy

    Room– Emma Donoghue

    The Good Earth–Pearl S. Buck

    Mrs. Dalloway–Virginia Woolf

    Age of Innocence–Edith Wharton

    in reply to: Recommendations for a good book (adult) #974808
    OneOfMany
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    how “prudish” does it have to be

    in reply to: Recommendations for a good book (adult) #974806
    OneOfMany
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    What’s your tolerance level? 🙂

    in reply to: Why bais yakov maidel freaked me out #975187
    OneOfMany
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    (1) You really misunderstood the point bais yakov maidel was trying to make.

    (2) How exactly is a teacher who is realistic about her belief and sincerely tries to strengthen it a bad thing? (And if you don’t think that was what bais yakov maidel was on about, I urge you to read point (1) again.)

    in reply to: Why Would a Girl Even Want to Learn Talmud? #973826
    OneOfMany
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    Excellent post. But I think there is a much more basic and compelling argument that can be made.

    As observant Jews, we are expected to base our entire lives around certain laws and principles–but as women, we are not supposed to understand how and why those laws and principles make sense. And for some reason, when we try to learn more, we are met with YOU JUST WANNA BE LIKE A MAN STOP THAT. Like, really? That’s the only reason you can come up with for someone wanting to learn about the thing that is supposed to be the foundation of their life? And then we are called on to justify our motivations, while rationally, the claim that people shouldn’t have understanding of the laws of their religious code is what actually needs justification. It’s mind-boggling…

    in reply to: Counterfeit Bills #990372
    OneOfMany
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    what

    in reply to: Seminary Rejection #987329
    OneOfMany
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    nishtdayngesheft: My seminary’s payment plan was staggered so that 95% of the tuition was paid before seminary started. And they are considered very liberal when it comes to tuition. I don’t know what other seminaries do, but it is entirely conceivable that there are some that make you pay in full up-front.

    Also, the payment contract that my parents signed clearly stated which part of the total was a non-refundable deposit (it was credited toward the tuition). So even given your (extremely selective) tendency to judge in the most favorable light possible, such a lack of transparency on the part of the seminary administration can be nothing other than unacceptably negligent.

    OneOfMany
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    She teaches in Machon Raaya too. ^_^

    in reply to: Best way to break in four-inch stilettos before Yom Tov? #971860
    OneOfMany
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    Throw them under a truck. Then throw them in the garbage.

    in reply to: You Are Cordially Invited #1096169
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    SaysMe: Whew, good memory! Yeah, it was a week or so ago. Thanks. ^_^

    in reply to: Giving Pets Regular Names #984305
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    Replace them with a non-pesty pet. Maybe a lizard or something, in case the ants come back.

    in reply to: My kid is a bull! #970873
    OneOfMany
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    snort. You ever heard of a cattle stampede?

    in reply to: Why Aren't These Posters Banned and Their Topics Deleted? #970832
    OneOfMany
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    uhhhhh okay…

    in reply to: Summer #970841
    OneOfMany
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    The weather IS unusually nice for this time of year…

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976722
    OneOfMany
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    benignuman: Thanks. I look forward to your response.

    in reply to: Why Aren't These Posters Banned and Their Topics Deleted? #970830
    OneOfMany
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    Is this a serious thread? I ask this seriously.

    in reply to: The CR Discworlders Club #1114589
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    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976712
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    benignuman: We are working with different understandings of the concept of belief. I think yours generates a good framework of understanding, but I do not think it is sufficient. Also, I think your understanding of the nature of science as a whole (as laid out in the first paragraph of the OP) is not fully formed. This will factor in later.

    One thing that important to tack onto this concept is that science is not determined by scientists. Science is a tool used to catalogue information, and scientists are people who use that tool. As with all tools, if the user does not properly understand the use of the tool, or insists on applying the tool to tasks it is inherently unsuited to, work done with the tool with likely be faulty. Science is very often touted as a way to get all the answers about the universe and such (which I expect is where axioms about physical existence and projected rules and laws come from), when in reality, science as close to a goalless process as possible. It is a means, not an end. If it has any end, it is only to be an efficient means. We create our own ends to give meaning to the enterprise, but those meanings are not intrinsic to science itself. And yes, due to the inductive nature of scientific inquiry, such subjectivity can lead to skewed conclusions. But at the end of the day, science is still fully capable of washing its hands of all that. The responsibility does not lie with the method itself.

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976693
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    physicsyid: When I say there is no such thing as belief in science, I am specifically not referring to the opinions and methods of scientists themselves. It is natural that those who perhaps devote their life’s work to the development of a certain field or theory will feel an inexplicable affinity toward it. But that is a failing of human beings, not of the study of science itself.

    As for making assumptions in the development of scientific principles: I think there is a difference between making an assumption and acknowledging that it is not testable, and labeling said assumption as “belief.” That’s where the idea of uncertainty comes in.

    As for your lasts remarks: yes, what you are describing is your belief. But those are beliefs that are not intrinsic to scientific methodology; they are metaphysical/epistemological queries, which, while they may have implications in the long run, do not factor into scientific avenues. Also, I don’t see what job security has to do with anything.

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976686
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    There is no such thing as “belief” in science, for two reasons: (a) As jewfishfeminist said, you can choose to acknowledge or contest its principles, but belief does not come into the equation one way or another; (b) Belief is antithecal to scientific methodology in that it compromises falsifiability and is at odds with its ethos of discovery.

    –Richard Feynman

    in reply to: Do boys really have the upper hand in shidduchim? #966449
    OneOfMany
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    Well, they are protesting right now. And they say you are a snortface.

    in reply to: Glasses or contacts? #966492
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    I have the aforementioned astigmatism problem, so glasses. I am so used to seeing myself in glasses that my reflection plain unnerves me when I go without. (That might also be due to the fact that I can’t really see it.)

    in reply to: Do boys really have the upper hand in shidduchim? #966447
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    T613613T: My point in asking why you spoke on behalf of all women was to tell you that you don’t. Agreeing to disagree is fine, but

    you still don’t get to do that (without me disagreeing to agree to disagree, anyway).

    jf02: What about *no* way? Why does there have to be a power dynamic?

    in reply to: WAaaaTERRRRRrr #966239
    OneOfMany
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    well, this is my oasis in the heathen seas of coffee

    in reply to: Do boys really have the upper hand in shidduchim? #966444
    OneOfMany
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    also, why are you speaking on behalf of all women.

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