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Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipant
If no one wants to marry you are you then supposed to force someone to or marry a goy so you do not “sin”?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWell if I’m 19 and I have to choose to date someone 6 years older or 10 years- I’d choose ten. If I grow up a bit and still haven’t found my zivug my range would change
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNegative sites are on everyone’s taivos. I mean that’s like one of the 3 main mitzvos people- gilu arayos. Where do you things bad sites lead to?
Anyone who has even a small amount of internet access needs to be aware, on guard, and knowledgeable about this.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantOkay then ocho sunco@-what does attractive mean to you?
Describe what you mean. You can be attracted to someone but be pushed away by one feature and that does not mean you should turn away. There’s no love at first sight. You need to feel comfortable, like your could spend your life with her, she looks nice, and ??? you don’t need that much more in that area.
Health@ I would go for a boy whom is chassidish, or sefardi, or litvish or ashkanazi, whatever my zivug is. Weight is a hard issue but since I’m overweight myself I can’t really talk, so I’d have to say yes. (Perhaps when I’m in shidduchim I’ll be skinner bezrat Hashem, but I still would say yes)
Age is not a factor, I would marry someone younger than me (as long as he’s at least 20 when I’m dating but I hope to find my zivug before then) and I don’t care that much if he’s 7 years older than me for all that matters. If he has the middos, yiras shamayim, and everything else I’m looking for why should age or skin color play a part?
I tell girls in my class I’d marry an etheopian. Why not? Hashem chooses zivugim and he’ll worry about me. I’m very open minded.
The one thing I cannot have in a spouse though is closed mindness.
That’s a deal breaker.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNo theme
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantLower your expectations? You can’t find someone that is prefect. You may find a girl who is amazing for you in the middos area, and ruchaniyus area but she is taller than you or a bit overwheight or has a nose you don’t like or something like that-would you turn her down?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantIf you live in Israel you can avoid OU. Although most people look at us like were weird as immigrant americans not actually eating OU but whatever
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantAnd this people, is why our Rav says we cannot eat OU.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhen you see a heksher on something you assume the heksher means the entire package is kosher, not half, not a third, not what 1/4, like seriously? If it has non kosher items MIXED with kosher items INSIDE the packahe where they can get stuc together, touch each other, and more- WHY IS THERE A HEKSHER ON IT IN THE FIRST PLACE?!
It’s completely trief.
March 1, 2016 1:18 pm at 1:18 pm in reply to: If there is 1 thing i should bring to seminary, what should it be? #1149545Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWe have consmetics and sanitary stuff here. G-d forbid you americans try any other company, right?
February 29, 2016 7:42 am at 7:42 am in reply to: If there is 1 thing i should bring to seminary, what should it be? #1149531Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantYourself. That might be something you DONT want to leave behind.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantRead seminary savy
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantDid someone say shopping? Lol, search the CR-it’s been posted before
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI totally commend my friend and think what she is doing is amazing. I myself, am always trying to grow in spirituality too. It just seems to me boys can do anything, from purim shtick, to being on youtube, since girls shouldn’t be shown.
I do understand more of the reasoning behind this now. Thank you everyone.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI assumed because that’s seriously what it looks like on the streets.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhat all of you guys are saying makes sense.
And coffee addict from what I have heard from married women, we unfortunately do not get to sleep late, like until all our kids are out of the house.
I just assumed bochurim weren’t put up to such standards because you always see them making some sort of music video in the street, running late for minyan, or something else that they technically are allowed to do because it isn’t assur to have girls look at them.
But I do see your points.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantAvram- My point is saying that in general it is not considered proper for us. Although many girls in my school haven’t taken upon stuff like that our teachers are always telling us that we have to be refined in the street, look refined, no screaming, running, and so on….how talking on the phone makes people look in your direction so it shouldn’t be done.
I have to wonder if boys ever get speeches like this? I guess I just brought it up now since till now I just thought only like rebetzins do this stuff but then my friend joined in, so I started wondering if our teachers really mean that ALL girls should not be taling loudly, how are boys, men, children allowed to do so too? It’s seems so outlandish to say girls can’t run in the street and boys can cuz you can’t have a man’s eyes wander to a girl chas vishalom but I guess were like allowed to just stare at men all day or something. I mean it’s not like I’m wearing a bright red dress, or screaming on a megaphone…
I just don’t see why it’s considered to “moshech eneyim” of guys when we run, or talk loudly, but if boys do it, kids are doing it….then why would we stick out anyway?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI am already doing that in the zechus of 2 other people but I will add him on. Refuah Shelaima!
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNothing more needs to be said.
I think it’s more about not judging others so much. We judge everyone all the time, all day, what they wear, how they act, even people in your own family. We need to STOP.
Only then the geula can come
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantcatch yourself- my friend is very tzniyus also in the way she acts, dresses, what she talks about. She’s very refined and got the zechus of finding a bochur to marry as refined as her. From the one sentance I said about it it could seem that it is superficial.
My main question is really, why can bochurim talk on the phone loudly or run in the street and if women do so we are told it is untzuyisdik. It’s doesn’t seem to be equal. Bochurim can act like pigs and we are expected to act like princesses.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantapushatayid- perhaps because this isn’t the 90’S.
And to teach us ahavas yisroel and tolerence. 🙂
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantgavra_at_work- she’s getting married in a few weeks.
Shuli-so bascially men don’t have to be “refined”?
What is the defintion of refined? Why are women always compared to the queen and president and men…well, are just pigs? I don’t get it.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhy isn’t purim an exception? If I normally wear weekday clothes most of the week, it’s mutar and even a mitzvash for me to wear shabbos clothing on shabbos. So on purim isn’t ita mitzvah to dress up?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhat’s wrong with teenage girls on the web? I’m a senior and I’m here. I’m the youngest here by far. As long as you respect those around you and act like an adult you will be treated like one in the CR. Use grammar, seichel, and respect, and you are good to go.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNot all sems brainwash. And not all kids are that cut off from reality. Although when I went to look at sems I felt it was very true. No matter where I go I’ve met reality, and I know what it’s like. Perhaps israeli’s are just more mature, realistic, and have dealt with life more considering the wars, arabs, poverty, history of this land, and so many more challenges.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI agree that seminary is being overused, but there are some people who SHOULD go. I myself think that I really need to learn kodesh in a english speaking environment that dorms. This I believe is a personal choice that fits my needs for next year. The first thing that fits the bill for what I need is american seminary. And I’ve checked them out. I feel the majority of girls I saw were immature, in-town, and wasting their parents money. There are sems in america, and seriously- they don’t get to venture out to see Israel that much. You can get the Israel expirience in the summer, a 3 months seminary, free programs available in many Out of town cities, and you can go live there on your own too after completing american sem and paying your own bills.
In any case, I know my parents have 0 money for seminary. That is why I’m being painfully realistic with myself that I have to go to the american israeli seminaries who understand the margin of income for Israelis-people not making it every month no matter how hard they work. Even so, I felt shana aleph in seminary is equivalent to israeli 11th and 12th grade and that it wasn’t for me.
In any case, there are reaosns people go to seminary, and sometimes it IS the best choice for someone. But more often than not girls get here that don’t need it, or even brings them down in the long run (think unrealistic expectation of life) and short run (think sem girls and yeshiva guys at ben yehudah 11pm any weekday night)
I know too many people who abused their sem year. If they would of gone to USA for sem they would of come out as better people versus worse.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantAs much as my school stuffs it in to us that we need to marry a guy in learning (and this is still high school were talking about) I am realistic. I don’t think I would be able to work full time at all. I think I could do part time working. but not more than that. It would be lovely for my husband to learn all day when we get married but the reality is that even in shana rishona I’d want him to do some kind of work either so we can live comfortabely in shana rishona or to save up- on top of the fact that I think men need to work a bit since Hashem made them that way.
Not everyone should learn. Flatbusher@ – there definetly needs to be learners. But right now I think there is way too many.
I want a guy that does learn when he can. A night chavrusa, 2 hours on shabbos, on the way and back to work-I want a guy that looks at himself realisticly and sees he cannot learn 8 hours a day but he can fit in 3 or 4. And as we have more kids it might diwndle to 1 or 2. But I want a guy that will live for those 2 hours.
I have trouble concentrating for too long. 10 hours days of school are hard for me. But just because 10 hours is hard and I dont enjoy it doesn’t mean I can’t love 2 hours and hold on 2 hours of learning if I had every day. See my point?
There was an asrticle in mishpacha about how a father looked at what his kids needed for a spouse rather than what everyone else had/top kids/ and so on. I think this is the cause of the shidduch crisis. We all label each other, think we need top guys with tops girls with top weddings. Look at his middos. Would you take the guy who wants to learn 8 hours but isn’t a good conversation guy over a guy who wants to learn for 2 but can talk for hours? What would work better with your needs realisticly?
Unfortunately everyone has to put on a show and pretend we are looking for this perfect guy instead of being realistic like this.
The miracle is that despite this messed up system people actually do get married- and a lot! The married ones should be the exception and not the rule in this system
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January 31, 2016 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134931Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipant@sdd- He isn’t around these days. He’s more of a lurker and when he posts-he’s ussually trolling. But he rarely posts. I think is Username was/is Prankster-123 or something of the other a yeshivah bochur would choose.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantDepends on what you call normal
January 28, 2016 2:59 pm at 2:59 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134914Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI think they were married BEFORE the cr
January 28, 2016 2:59 pm at 2:59 pm in reply to: No, you don't own the parking spot you dug out for the next two weeks #1134022Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipant“Although I know the spot I dug is not really mine, I spend a lot of time and money digging it out. I just want to let you know that if you park here I will spend the same amount of time and money putting all that snow back around your car. I wish you luck finding a spot and hope you will reconsider this one now.”
– I saw I sign with this on it-now that is smart!
January 27, 2016 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134905Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantYou can easily pretend. Someone who is trying really hard and is knows of everything they write..
January 26, 2016 10:47 pm at 10:47 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134903Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNot all the time. It’s online, anyone can pretend to be another gender.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantI consider myself to be a OOT and I’m proud of it!
January 26, 2016 4:42 pm at 4:42 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134901Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantBut there has yet to be a CR wedding. If it did happen, would we all be invited?
January 24, 2016 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134896Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantMOD: How do you know who is single and what gender they are? Or do you have guessing games?
January 24, 2016 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134895Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantNo I see that she says she posts something or will email me something here and usually does.
January 24, 2016 1:57 pm at 1:57 pm in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134890Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantHashemisreading- I have my ways 😉 Actually a poster emailed me last week since she saw an article I wrote in a magazine and emailed me that I remind her of a poster in the CR. Guess I have the same writing style everywhere I write! lol
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantDon’t go to Cincinnati.
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January 15, 2016 11:19 am at 11:19 am in reply to: Who made the Purim story and where is he from? #1132444Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantSomeone told me he was from L.A…., is that true?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantDoesn’t that tkae a while?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantYou mean Yachad?
January 7, 2016 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152686Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhoos human’s error?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantHashem is reading: I was cracking up:
Laden with packages over each arm, running around Malcha Mall looking in all the little stands for an emerald sword for sale.
Now that should be my subtitle lol.
People’s subs should be visionaries oh how the mods think we look like. lol. Or suggestions from posters about how they look like.
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantYou got it.
January 6, 2016 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152684Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWas this so called thread deleted?
January 6, 2016 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152683Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantWhat thread? Sounds interesting…..
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantoh lol. What was with the crazy bumping?
Shopping613 ðŸŒParticipantPeople like me have it tough. I have yet to find anyone/organization/grant for girls whom live in Israel currently.
Hashem will send help. I’m not going for sem for camp. I have reasons I cannot disclose here.
But don’t judge everyone.
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