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  • in reply to: age for marriage #1141615

    If no one wants to marry you are you then supposed to force someone to or marry a goy so you do not “sin”?

    in reply to: Looks in shidduchim #1141874

    Well if I’m 19 and I have to choose to date someone 6 years older or 10 years- I’d choose ten. If I grow up a bit and still haven’t found my zivug my range would change

    in reply to: How the CR/MODS works #1140556

    Negative sites are on everyone’s taivos. I mean that’s like one of the 3 main mitzvos people- gilu arayos. Where do you things bad sites lead to?

    Anyone who has even a small amount of internet access needs to be aware, on guard, and knowledgeable about this.

    in reply to: Looks in shidduchim #1141861

    Okay then ocho sunco@-what does attractive mean to you?

    Describe what you mean. You can be attracted to someone but be pushed away by one feature and that does not mean you should turn away. There’s no love at first sight. You need to feel comfortable, like your could spend your life with her, she looks nice, and ??? you don’t need that much more in that area.

    Health@ I would go for a boy whom is chassidish, or sefardi, or litvish or ashkanazi, whatever my zivug is. Weight is a hard issue but since I’m overweight myself I can’t really talk, so I’d have to say yes. (Perhaps when I’m in shidduchim I’ll be skinner bezrat Hashem, but I still would say yes)

    Age is not a factor, I would marry someone younger than me (as long as he’s at least 20 when I’m dating but I hope to find my zivug before then) and I don’t care that much if he’s 7 years older than me for all that matters. If he has the middos, yiras shamayim, and everything else I’m looking for why should age or skin color play a part?

    I tell girls in my class I’d marry an etheopian. Why not? Hashem chooses zivugim and he’ll worry about me. I’m very open minded.

    The one thing I cannot have in a spouse though is closed mindness.

    That’s a deal breaker.

    in reply to: Purim – ????? #1142657

    No theme

    in reply to: Looks in shidduchim #1141846

    Lower your expectations? You can’t find someone that is prefect. You may find a girl who is amazing for you in the middos area, and ruchaniyus area but she is taller than you or a bit overwheight or has a nose you don’t like or something like that-would you turn her down?

    in reply to: OU kashrus is not reliable? #1214434

    If you live in Israel you can avoid OU. Although most people look at us like were weird as immigrant americans not actually eating OU but whatever

    in reply to: OU kashrus is not reliable? #1214411

    And this people, is why our Rav says we cannot eat OU.

    in reply to: OU kashrus is not reliable? #1214371

    When you see a heksher on something you assume the heksher means the entire package is kosher, not half, not a third, not what 1/4, like seriously? If it has non kosher items MIXED with kosher items INSIDE the packahe where they can get stuc together, touch each other, and more- WHY IS THERE A HEKSHER ON IT IN THE FIRST PLACE?!

    It’s completely trief.

    We have consmetics and sanitary stuff here. G-d forbid you americans try any other company, right?

    in reply to: If there is 1 thing i should bring to seminary, what should it be? #1149531

    Yourself. That might be something you DONT want to leave behind.

    in reply to: seminary packing list!!! #1139830

    Read seminary savy

    in reply to: seminary packing list!!! #1139821

    Did someone say shopping? Lol, search the CR-it’s been posted before

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138910

    I totally commend my friend and think what she is doing is amazing. I myself, am always trying to grow in spirituality too. It just seems to me boys can do anything, from purim shtick, to being on youtube, since girls shouldn’t be shown.

    I do understand more of the reasoning behind this now. Thank you everyone.

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138908

    I assumed because that’s seriously what it looks like on the streets.

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138903

    What all of you guys are saying makes sense.

    And coffee addict from what I have heard from married women, we unfortunately do not get to sleep late, like until all our kids are out of the house.

    I just assumed bochurim weren’t put up to such standards because you always see them making some sort of music video in the street, running late for minyan, or something else that they technically are allowed to do because it isn’t assur to have girls look at them.

    But I do see your points.

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138893

    Avram- My point is saying that in general it is not considered proper for us. Although many girls in my school haven’t taken upon stuff like that our teachers are always telling us that we have to be refined in the street, look refined, no screaming, running, and so on….how talking on the phone makes people look in your direction so it shouldn’t be done.

    I have to wonder if boys ever get speeches like this? I guess I just brought it up now since till now I just thought only like rebetzins do this stuff but then my friend joined in, so I started wondering if our teachers really mean that ALL girls should not be taling loudly, how are boys, men, children allowed to do so too? It’s seems so outlandish to say girls can’t run in the street and boys can cuz you can’t have a man’s eyes wander to a girl chas vishalom but I guess were like allowed to just stare at men all day or something. I mean it’s not like I’m wearing a bright red dress, or screaming on a megaphone…

    I just don’t see why it’s considered to “moshech eneyim” of guys when we run, or talk loudly, but if boys do it, kids are doing it….then why would we stick out anyway?

    in reply to: Help a child with a brain tumor #1145120

    I am already doing that in the zechus of 2 other people but I will add him on. Refuah Shelaima!

    in reply to: All G-d wants is… #1138700

    Nothing more needs to be said.

    I think it’s more about not judging others so much. We judge everyone all the time, all day, what they wear, how they act, even people in your own family. We need to STOP.

    Only then the geula can come

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138887

    catch yourself- my friend is very tzniyus also in the way she acts, dresses, what she talks about. She’s very refined and got the zechus of finding a bochur to marry as refined as her. From the one sentance I said about it it could seem that it is superficial.

    My main question is really, why can bochurim talk on the phone loudly or run in the street and if women do so we are told it is untzuyisdik. It’s doesn’t seem to be equal. Bochurim can act like pigs and we are expected to act like princesses.

    in reply to: SEMINARY LETTERS #1138617

    apushatayid- perhaps because this isn’t the 90’S.

    And to teach us ahavas yisroel and tolerence. 🙂

    in reply to: Why can't girls stick out in a crowd? #1138864

    gavra_at_work- she’s getting married in a few weeks.

    Shuli-so bascially men don’t have to be “refined”?

    What is the defintion of refined? Why are women always compared to the queen and president and men…well, are just pigs? I don’t get it.

    in reply to: Purim constumes for teen girls? #1138641

    Why isn’t purim an exception? If I normally wear weekday clothes most of the week, it’s mutar and even a mitzvash for me to wear shabbos clothing on shabbos. So on purim isn’t ita mitzvah to dress up?

    in reply to: SEMINARY LETTERS #1138614

    What’s wrong with teenage girls on the web? I’m a senior and I’m here. I’m the youngest here by far. As long as you respect those around you and act like an adult you will be treated like one in the CR. Use grammar, seichel, and respect, and you are good to go.

    in reply to: SEMINARY LETTERS #1138586

    Not all sems brainwash. And not all kids are that cut off from reality. Although when I went to look at sems I felt it was very true. No matter where I go I’ve met reality, and I know what it’s like. Perhaps israeli’s are just more mature, realistic, and have dealt with life more considering the wars, arabs, poverty, history of this land, and so many more challenges.

    in reply to: SEMINARY LETTERS #1138573

    @Shuli


    @Flatbusher

    I agree that seminary is being overused, but there are some people who SHOULD go. I myself think that I really need to learn kodesh in a english speaking environment that dorms. This I believe is a personal choice that fits my needs for next year. The first thing that fits the bill for what I need is american seminary. And I’ve checked them out. I feel the majority of girls I saw were immature, in-town, and wasting their parents money. There are sems in america, and seriously- they don’t get to venture out to see Israel that much. You can get the Israel expirience in the summer, a 3 months seminary, free programs available in many Out of town cities, and you can go live there on your own too after completing american sem and paying your own bills.

    In any case, I know my parents have 0 money for seminary. That is why I’m being painfully realistic with myself that I have to go to the american israeli seminaries who understand the margin of income for Israelis-people not making it every month no matter how hard they work. Even so, I felt shana aleph in seminary is equivalent to israeli 11th and 12th grade and that it wasn’t for me.

    In any case, there are reaosns people go to seminary, and sometimes it IS the best choice for someone. But more often than not girls get here that don’t need it, or even brings them down in the long run (think unrealistic expectation of life) and short run (think sem girls and yeshiva guys at ben yehudah 11pm any weekday night)

    I know too many people who abused their sem year. If they would of gone to USA for sem they would of come out as better people versus worse.

    in reply to: SEMINARY LETTERS #1138547

    As much as my school stuffs it in to us that we need to marry a guy in learning (and this is still high school were talking about) I am realistic. I don’t think I would be able to work full time at all. I think I could do part time working. but not more than that. It would be lovely for my husband to learn all day when we get married but the reality is that even in shana rishona I’d want him to do some kind of work either so we can live comfortabely in shana rishona or to save up- on top of the fact that I think men need to work a bit since Hashem made them that way.

    Not everyone should learn. Flatbusher@ – there definetly needs to be learners. But right now I think there is way too many.

    I want a guy that does learn when he can. A night chavrusa, 2 hours on shabbos, on the way and back to work-I want a guy that looks at himself realisticly and sees he cannot learn 8 hours a day but he can fit in 3 or 4. And as we have more kids it might diwndle to 1 or 2. But I want a guy that will live for those 2 hours.

    I have trouble concentrating for too long. 10 hours days of school are hard for me. But just because 10 hours is hard and I dont enjoy it doesn’t mean I can’t love 2 hours and hold on 2 hours of learning if I had every day. See my point?

    There was an asrticle in mishpacha about how a father looked at what his kids needed for a spouse rather than what everyone else had/top kids/ and so on. I think this is the cause of the shidduch crisis. We all label each other, think we need top guys with tops girls with top weddings. Look at his middos. Would you take the guy who wants to learn 8 hours but isn’t a good conversation guy over a guy who wants to learn for 2 but can talk for hours? What would work better with your needs realisticly?

    Unfortunately everyone has to put on a show and pretend we are looking for this perfect guy instead of being realistic like this.

    The miracle is that despite this messed up system people actually do get married- and a lot! The married ones should be the exception and not the rule in this system

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    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134931

    @sdd- He isn’t around these days. He’s more of a lurker and when he posts-he’s ussually trolling. But he rarely posts. I think is Username was/is Prankster-123 or something of the other a yeshivah bochur would choose.

    in reply to: Do Normal People Post in the Coffee Room? #1196382

    Depends on what you call normal

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134914

    I think they were married BEFORE the cr

    in reply to: No, you don't own the parking spot you dug out for the next two weeks #1134022

    “Although I know the spot I dug is not really mine, I spend a lot of time and money digging it out. I just want to let you know that if you park here I will spend the same amount of time and money putting all that snow back around your car. I wish you luck finding a spot and hope you will reconsider this one now.”

    – I saw I sign with this on it-now that is smart!

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134905

    You can easily pretend. Someone who is trying really hard and is knows of everything they write..

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134903

    Not all the time. It’s online, anyone can pretend to be another gender.

    in reply to: Out-Of-Town Jewish Hillbillies #1138047

    I consider myself to be a OOT and I’m proud of it!

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134901

    But there has yet to be a CR wedding. If it did happen, would we all be invited?

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134896

    MOD: How do you know who is single and what gender they are? Or do you have guessing games?

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134895

    No I see that she says she posts something or will email me something here and usually does.

    in reply to: POLL: How many posters do you know in real life? #1134890

    Hashemisreading- I have my ways 😉 Actually a poster emailed me last week since she saw an article I wrote in a magazine and emailed me that I remind her of a poster in the CR. Guess I have the same writing style everywhere I write! lol

    in reply to: Nice warm, affordable community in the US #1132526

    Don’t go to Cincinnati.

    in reply to: Hangman! Join the fun! #1132184

    L

    in reply to: Who made the Purim story and where is he from? #1132444

    Someone told me he was from L.A…., is that true?

    in reply to: HAPPY RANDOM BUMPING DAY #1121265

    Doesn’t that tkae a while?

    in reply to: Seminary for a month #1121250

    You mean Yachad?

    in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152686

    Whoos human’s error?

    in reply to: Photos in the CR #1121615

    Hashem is reading: I was cracking up:

    Laden with packages over each arm, running around Malcha Mall looking in all the little stands for an emerald sword for sale.

    Now that should be my subtitle lol.

    People’s subs should be visionaries oh how the mods think we look like. lol. Or suggestions from posters about how they look like.

    in reply to: ?BUMP!? #1121232

    You got it.

    in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152684

    Was this so called thread deleted?

    in reply to: Suggest subtitles for others (okay, and yourself…) #1152683

    What thread? Sounds interesting…..

    in reply to: Photos in the CR #1121612

    oh lol. What was with the crazy bumping?

    in reply to: Girls shouldn't go to seminary #1122980

    People like me have it tough. I have yet to find anyone/organization/grant for girls whom live in Israel currently.

    Hashem will send help. I’m not going for sem for camp. I have reasons I cannot disclose here.

    But don’t judge everyone.

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