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we have a youth minyan and its great. they motivate the kids to pray with raffles and prizes (younger kids don’t stay for mussaf since its too hard for them, they have a class geared for their age and games)It keeps the shul quiet, and its chinuch for the kids
unless the first day was a horror, i feel there should be a second. there are many stories of couples who didn’t think it would work on the first, but went anyway so not to hurt the other’s feelings, and they got married
Sister bear, is there a way you can tell me when and where The Man with the Truck comes? I’m also having a super hard time with tznius clothes- mainly tops. i’ve been wearing the same 2 and I’m going out of my mind!
i think the best idea is when shuls have a minyan or class for the kids so they don’t disturb others, but there not bored out of their minds. also, talking quietly between shemoneh esrei and chazara might disturb others. that’s my opinion anyway
Lol amen!
i love the second song modeh ani. it’s such a nice song!
I’m sure they ran across some tough times too, so why don’t they include those, but also include how they overcame it and the siyata dishmaya they saw with it? So others should get inspiration from it… also, maybe emphasize the end when they overcame all those challenges how happy they are (light at the end of the tunnel kinda thing). being a bt has some very tough times to go through, so talk how they got dealt with it (but in an inspiring way… i think you catch my drift)
godaven.com has a search for minyanim anywhere
wow, reading through this post brought back such memories(not such good ones) I also used to be so insecure and I used to eat myself up over it. Why couldn’t I just have fun and feel free like everyone else? I felt like I couldn’t breath! Then I told myself hey, why am I different than anybody else out there? everyone makes mistakes and its accepted! no one will laugh at you or make fun of you for setting the table the wrong way. and ya know what? I bet you have things that you know how to do better than the girl who knows how to set the table. don’t focus so m uch on what you might have made a mistake on- focus on your accomplishments! give yourself a pat on the back!there are things that you know how to do and roles that only you can complete. all of our neshamot are connected. without you, klal yisrael wouldn’t be complete! we’re depending on you! here’s an idea- make sure to always greet everyone with a smile-watch how much of a difference you make when the other person smiles back!to be human is to err!
you can check on godaven.com for minyanim. also, you can go to priceline.com for hotels (you tell them how much you want to spend and give a credit card number.when they find a hotel matching your prefrences they automatically book it, so you can put in a fake credit card number so you can see the hotel they want to book you in before giving them a real cc number)- you can find hotels like the mariott and sheraton at cheap cheap cheap prices! Also if you google things to do in nh you should get a whole list. Oh, and about priceline.com- the system updates at 3 am, so you get the best deals then (if you can stay up that long….). Good Luck and have fun
now they’re up to $2 and 2 days left to the bidding….think it’ll be cheaper to buy the magazine lol
can you post the stackable coupon codes from the magazines?
I didn’t read through the whole thread, so forgive me if I am being repetitious, but a big rav, I forgot who (i’ll post it when I remember) said a child should get a potch if he either runs into the street, or plays with fire. The reason why years ago hitting was acceptable is because then they knew HOW to hit (no, not on the hand or the leg…. but rather out of anger or to sincerely teach a lesson- without any traces of anger).Nowadays, we don’t know how to hit the proper way , meaning not of anger, and so we are not able to hit our kids today unless the above circumstances apply.
New Roc city in New Rochelle (about an hour from brooklyn) is a great place-arcades, mini golf, bowling, laser tag, pool (as in the game not a swimming pool, go karting-with a license.
The day pencil skirts were created, I laughed.
>From my perch in Paris where I direct the Designers, I laughed.
A laugh of approval. A laugh of deception. A laugh of
cruelty.The evilest of evil laughs.Why did I laugh? Because I realized I’ve got them.
No, not the weak ones.
Not the ones falling between the cracks.
But the best of the best.
Only THEY can help me.
They’re the ones I can feed off of.
The weak have nothing to offer me.
The strong ones are the ones I need.
Yes, the best of the best.
The “Bais Yaakov Girls”
So she’ll do her daily mirror check
Pearl earrings in place.
Button down.
Black tights.
Skirt covers knees.
A true Bais Yaakov Girl.
I watch from afar.
And I continue to laugh my evil laugh.
Just wait till she sits down.
I’ve tried in the past with the collarbone, but theres no fooling them.
They’re too strong for me. with the elbows, there’s no way. that leaves me
with only one solution- the knees. Covered when they look in the mirror, and
so -they innocently think- covered the whole day.
True, there are those few moments here and there when she notices, so
she’ll tug on her skirt a bit but I’m not worried because there will be plenty a moment when she won’t notice.But fortunately, the Rabbis in front of the classroom do.
And so do the weak girls.
And so does G-d.
Even for those who do realize perhaps this skirt is too short, there’s
always the black tights excuse to help me out.
Thankfully, they don’t seem to realize that black knees are still knees.Oh I’ve educated them well.Secretly, slipped the word “Duty-length” into their vocabulary.That did it.They’re more defensive about it than anyone else.
If they buy a skirt that by mistake is “duty length” I watch proudly as they run to the seamstress to chop it off to just below the knee.
The stronger amongst them will say a little longer below the knee, but they
also don’t realize that that won’t help them very much when they’re sitting.Then there are those who do scare me because they really are trying to do
the right thing. So when they sit down, they’ll tug on their skirts and pull it over their knees. Or so they think. I just hope they’ll be sitting with one leg on top of the other and then they think their knees are covered but in actuality, only one is.
Thank G-d, they don’t take their leaders too seriously when they encourage them to go for four inches below the knee. I’ve succeeded in getting them into defensive mode when it comes to these things.
I’d worried way back that they would realize that their relationship with
G-d is ideally that of a good marriage, and their leaders merely their husbands close friends coming to tell them what they’re husband REALLY likes.
Because if they would realize that, they would RUN to buy the “Duty length”
skirts. Because when you truly love your husband, you run to prepare whatever it is he likes.
But then I would be out of business.
Thanks to my hard work, that’s not the case.
Seems their marriage is a bit shaky after all.
And to my credit, their “Husband” watches them sadly thinking is that all our marriage means to you? All you can give me are skirts that JUST cover the knees. Is our marriage merely an obligation to get over with in the easiest way possible? Is that how much you value me?
And I laugh.
With much appreciation to all those who’ve assisted my cause over the years,
And with gratitude to all those who’ve provided me with many good laughs,
The Satan
Editors note:
Yes, he has got us in more ways than not, and yes it’s so easy to think I’m a good BY girl so what are a few inches anyway?
But just recently, we were forced to see that when it comes to the aim of a gun or a rocket, a few inches really DO matter.
And we witnessed Hashem being SO careful with His inches, so many rockets JUST missing their aim.
Maybe we can show our “Husband” some well deserved love.
And be careful with our inches too.
sjs with pikuach nefesh, of course it would be allowed. like nutramegen formula-its made from pig something or other, but if a baby has digestive issues (forgot if it is colic or something else, they could get a heter to use it
i don’t know much about microsoft mobile or anything, but i know online, kaluach.com has a great hebrew english calender that is easily downloaded for free. hope this helps!
charliehall, foodstamps would be there even if kollel families didn’t take from it- how many kollel families are there in percentage to the rest of the low-income families in the US? and of course one should only get foodstamps if they are legally eligible.
sjs, if you can’t live with taking charity, then that’s your own personal opinion, which you are %100 entitled to, and no one can change your mind. but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to live a kollel life for everyone else. (and by the way, for you {and others who feel the same way} , accepting charity would be considered a form of mesirus nefesh for living a kollel life)
hey do i know you????? actually, wasn’t a wedding
tzippi- foodstamps took about a month, medicaid, right away (by the next enrollment period-like with all insurances)
sjsinnyc- who ever said you have to support yourself off one income? and i mentioned before that the amount of hishtadlut one does is according to how he feels secure. some people feel like they want to do those extra side jobs as a form of hishtadlut to feel more secure. hashem helps everybody. period. everything hashem created is for us to do reson hashem- including foodstamps. i know someone who had a bris and they lived in a different state while their whole family, extended family lived in a different state. when they had a simcha, at that exact time, a new airline opened up selling tickets for 30 dollars- no joke, maybe even cheaper. everyone came in for the simcha. including extended family and people who wouldn’t have came otherwise. the whole plane was that family. it even reached the news stations.guess what? right after that simcha, the airline closed down, and never opened again. hashem created this world to do his torah and mitzvot, right? and- what’s HUD?
by the way, to those making calculations… first of all most kollel couples get foodstamps, and insurance through medicaid is free. that’s first of all. second of all, through my own personal experience, and through many others i’ve heard about- try as you might to figure it out on paper, but when you come to a kollel life,you won’t get an answer. my bills get paid. how? I have no idea. it doesn’t add up, but somehow it works. there were times that we needed money asap (like to pay the car service when i went into labor on shabbat-yea, without money it would be pretty bad) and lo and behold somehow we got it (tutoring kid came on friday specially to pay us)! i know someone that was doing pesach cleaning and found a large amount of money in the process- that was over 20 years old! (forgot what its called- kinda like a cd in a check-make sense?) this person told me- “and to think i was worried about covering my pesach expenses! hashem takes care of all of us!” – and this wasn’t a kollel couple either. hashem sends! and, there are always side jobs that can be done not during yeshiva time- tutoring,chazanut, or whatever other talent one has. maybe the husband can do something during bein hazmanim too (c’mon, be creative!)oh,and there are a lot of gemachs out there to help out too. living a kollel life means learning to sacrifice
wow….were down to naming people after food….
Hey, I married a full time learning boy, I didn’t got to college, and get no support. And once I had kids, I decided to work from home since I wanted to be the one raising my kids and not a babysitter. Guess What? I feel like I’m living in a dream. I couldn’t be any happier. Parnassa doesn’t come from in laws, it doesn’t come froma bank account, and it doesn’t come from a paycheck. Parnassa comes from HASHEM only. Someone asked me how i pay my bills. You know what, I have no idea, but each month somehow it just ties together, I can’t explain it! Hashem sends the money. Of course things may get tight at times, and I can;t just buy whatever I want, but it doesn;t make me one bit less happier. I know your going to say you have to do your hishtadlut…. but everyone has a different amount of hishtadlut they have to put in. If you do x amount and say hashem will take care of the rest, but cant sleep at night, that person should be doing more. baisically, each person should do the amount of hishtadlut they feel secure with. Oh, and by the way, going to college doesn’t gurantee you a parnassa either. Hashem sends each person what theyre supposed to get, so everyone will get that amount whether they have a degree or whether they don’t. how many people nowadays have a degree but it doesn’t seem to be doing them much good? Ok, I’m not going to say a lot of people do get a lot from it, but it’s not the degree giving them that money.Oh, and by the way, kollel didn’t pay us until almost a year later. IMHO, there’s no use in calculating we need this much to live, so that means no kollel. We once were saving up for something we wanted, and when it came time to buy it, we did buy it, but guess what? We didn’t even end up paying for it with the money we saved up. No we didn’t get it as a gift either. For some reason that we can’t figure out, that month we had the extra money to pay for it ourselves (and were talking about a 1000 bucks, not like 100). I felt like Hashem was telling us you think you’re in control, that you’re the ones making money? Think again! If a girl sincerely wants to marry a kollel boy, and live a kollel life, GO FOR IT! Hashem will help! In high scholl a big rebbetzin camae to speak to us and told us if you sincerely dream to marry a kollel boy, Hashem will make that dream come true.
And you know what? If funds do, chas veshalom run out, he can always go to work! You never heard of a kollel couple living on the street!
First of all, for all those people saying to try and let go, and forget about it, it’s much harder than you think. I had some very bad childhood experiences in school, and try as I might to let go and move on, it was extremely difficult. It actually took years to even start forgetting it. People used to tell me to to just forget about it, and I would get upset and even more frustrated that it was all people were telling me, so what’s wrong with me that I can’t forget it! That was the way i felt anyway. Of course it IS important to move on, but keep in mind it’s waaaay harder said than done. I ask mechila from now if I hurt anyone who did write to try to move on, I just feel like people should know that it’s not as easy as it sounds, and hearing it too much can lead to much frustration (no one is helping me! they just say move one! why cant i just move on? is it me??) Secondly,if you do write the letter, I would recommend someone you trust read it over- I have experience in writing a letter and than reading it over once I moved on in life and thinking “oh my, did I really write that?!”. an unbiased view will make sure what you wanted to say came out in the right way, and with derech eretz. good luck!
and about stop signs- i was taught to stop by the stop line, count to three in my head and then inch up…. By an all way, whoever gets there first has right of way and then you take turns. BUT if th eother persons decide to be rude and go first anyway, don’t fight him and try to go first cuz your supposed to -defensive driving. Turns-whenever it’s clear, you can turn into the closest lane (i think the closest lane…)
Make sure to turn your cell phone ringer OFF if you bring it. Also, make sure to look around you alot when parking… if there are no lines down the middle of the road on a two way street, make sure you don’t drive in the middle of the road (sounds silly, but if your used to driving with the lines, you may veer off without realizing. Make sure you know how to turn on or off the windsheild wipers in case it starts raining, which has happened in the past. Keep both- that’s right BOTH hands on the wheel the whole time. If you take one hand off, they might just fail you-at least that’s what its like where I live. and don’t forget to signal when you pull away from the curb at the beginning and back to the curb at the end. GOOD LUCK!!!!
I also used to have the problem of the wicks tipping over. I found what solved the problem was doubling the floats. Oh, and I always use water on the bottom, otherwise the glass could shatter.
if i’m not mistaken, i’m pretty sure i saw`someone advertising as a cleaning lady upstate on luach.com, or jewishclassifieds.com. hope this helps!
i didn’t read through the whole thread, so forgive me if i’m being repetitive. soem songs i know of that originate from goyish songs include: Rabbi nachman, and lots of others but for some reason i just can’t think of them now (don’t you hate it when that happens?) My general guideline goes like this: a- could you picture your rav listening to this music and b- if it’s so beaty that when you dance to it, that dance might resemble what you would find in a disco club, there’s a problem.
a note about leaving children in a car alone- Never ever leaver them alone in the car even for a minute, no matter what season-winter spring summer or fall. It takes just a mere few seconds for someone to chas veshalom break into the car and…
and don’t get fooled by “its the daytime,” and no one tries these things during the day when everyone can see, because unfortunately there are many stories nowadays that prove otherwise.
loehamans is also a store that you can find stuff in during the winter, fall, possibly spring. They always have sales and promotions going on, no problem.their clothing is good quality too
I know someone who was dating seriously. Her date let her drive his car since she never really drove on the highway before, and he was going to coach her. All is going well until he tells her ok, now you can switch lanes. So she switched, both of them not seeing the speeding car in the next lane. baruch hashem the other car managed to stopped just in time before smashing into them! Her date reassures her it’s ok, it’s nother fault….The girl was all nervous and shaken up of course, but since they were on the highway, she had to continue driving. They continue driving and this girl, still not yet herself, drove through a red light on a busy intersection! Baruch Hashem once again, they got out of that one without an accident too. After that, she let him take over. Now they’re happily married 🙂 🙂
if anyone is buying a washing machine, here’s a tip- when you get it, make sure to take out the shipping bolts! If you don’t, your machine will jump up and down like crazy, and it isn’t good for the machine. Oh, and don’t assume the delivery men or whoever installed it took them out. we didn’t know this when we bought our machine and my husband had to hold down the machine it was jumping so hard!
I always joked that it keeps the kids busy as they sit there and watch the clothes go round ‘n round
i just got a frigidaire front loader and I absolutely love it!They do clean better, and are more efficient- just make sure if you buy one to take out the shipping bolts! without that, your machine will jump around like crazy- and don’t assume the plumber or delivery man will take them out!