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Hi toomuch00! i also went through a similair situation in high school and it really is very painful and torturous to go through! some things that helped me include repeatedly telling myself that everyone makes mistakes and just because i made a mistake doesnt make me any different! everyone forgets the answer to a question in class and everyone makes a slip of the tongue. no one is perfect.
there was one person in particular that id get intimidated from so id try and break down the barriers by making sure to notice when she didnt do something perfect. not to put her down, of course, but to show that no ones perfect. even if i did say the wrong thing, chances the next second people wont even remember what you said.
another thing was pushing myself to go past my comfort zone. meaning, dont just hang around with the girls you always spend time with, give a “hi how are you” to someone you usually dont. dont avoid get togethers because you dont feel comfortable, do the opposite- go and try to participate in some way. start with something tiny and work your way up.
recently i heard a shiur from rabbi brezak about chinuch, but i think it can apply here too. in seaworld, theres a whale named shamu that can jump 22 ft into the air. how did the train a whale to do such a feat? they set him up so that the whale cant fail. the whale had to jump over the rope? so they started by putting the rope underneath the whale and rewarded him when he went over. slowly slowly they raised the rope and the whale jumped up higher with it. set yourself up to succeed! dont aim to be the head of G.O.! just give a hello to someone new. and work ur way up.
lastly, write a list abt all the positive things u can think abt urself. and refer to it. remember U R NO DIFFERENT THAN ANYONE ELSE! even if u feel different, its just you feeling it, but its not true! you are just as special as everyone else with your own special attributes and talents.
keep repeating these things to urself and keep a record of when u do succeed and give urself a pat on the back!
sorry abt the longwinded post, but i had a lot to say. hatzlacha and keep us posted!
Oh really, they know what a cell phone is!
I had a cleaning lady that didn’t show because she couldn’t find parking since it was alternate sides!
fairly common, though it’s not expected or anything. at least by my husband. he’s gotten tips anywhere from $5-$50, depending on the person and the job that it was
they can accept a tip, but they can’t use it to buy a slice of pizza, for example. they can only use tips to buy more equipment for chaverim
challahback, chaveirim doesn’t owe you anything, they do it purely as a chesed and are leaving their wives and children to help out a yid in need. yes, sometimes all volunteers are busy, but you don’t have aright to be upset at them. Do you get upset if you ask someone for a favor and they can’t do it?
Chaveirim members arent allowed to accept tips for personal use. Any tips they get are used for equipment
I’m with wolfishmusings on this one. You can’t trust anyone you don’t know in today’s world.
They have these necklaces that the charm is a gold circle with your monogram engraved and on the back they engrave your kids names. Or they have the circle with your monogram and your kids names engraved on different smaller circles.
i’ll take 41-50 inclusive, bli neder
S2021 are you serious??? Maybe tell them how these guys are leaving their wife and children to entertain them? its not like they join because they have nothing better to do with their lives! (Not upset at you of course =D I won’t shoot the messenger)
My son had it. It’s viral so no medinicines for it and it takes abt a Week to go away. Refuah shelema!!! (Not that I’m diagnosing you….just sharing our experience)
Calling fifteen minutes before your home and tell the volunteer to wait for you. Knowing your car is half broken and needs a boost to start each time so they call chaveirim each time. Yelling at the volunteer why didn’t you come fast enough. Telling the volunteer to change a flat while you shop. Calling for a tissue stuck in your seatbelt (real thing, no joke) etc etc etc my husband is a volunteer and all these scenarios have happened.
Ehh… my youngest still has time til bicycle days, and I think he still has that tennagery “I’m invicible” attitude. We actually saw a teenager get really hurt when he fell off a bike outside of our house, and the helmet really saved him! Yet that didn’t convince him… ideas anyone?
ok, here’s a new question- how do you get your HUSBAND to wear a helmet? (the type that says C’mon I don’t need a helmet,)
Hey I just wanted to share a story with u I am a member of this great org and sometimes people don’t act the right way for example my friend thats also a member told me once he went on a call to help a lady she had a flat tire when my friend got there the car owner wasnt there so he called her she said ya please I’m shopping fix my flat during the time that I’m in the store when I come out I expect u will be done now in asking do u think thats nice?
What’s the name of the place on Ave. M?
It’s All A Gift
oh, and the jewelry there is exchangeable. they also sell high line handbags, so while your there you an peek at both and decide which you like better. still dreaming about that ring….(anyone want to know my husband’s cell number? lol)
It’s All a Gift , down the block from moishas has beautiful jewlery, at excellent prices (yes, in your price range). I’m pretty sure it’s what your looking for. Some of the jewlery is fake and some is real, so ask. I saw a gorgeous stunning diamond ring for $250…. still dreaming about it lol. Ave M and east 5th good luck!
popa, I think you enjoy getting on people’s nerves. Well, you succeded in getting on mine and insulting me. Happy?
If we Jewish women weren’t Jewish, we wouldn’t be allowed to keep Shabbos. And please, enough with the women jokes.
my budget….ummmm $200.00?? lol i guess im dreaming too much..never mind…April 8, 2011 12:50 am at 12:50 am in reply to: Shidduchim – when you think your parents arent realistic #756898
by not being realistic, do you mean the type that’s looking for the “dream girl” like money, looks, brains… when your not that type? (more focused on midos, lets say?) and when a suggestion comes along that finally sounds good to both of you, your just so burnt out from the whole thing that you can’t think straight?
For sure babys mask first, but its kinda freaky to think about…. do they get all the same safety stuff??? Otherwise, my baby is getting a seat if we ever fly…
Shrek lol! My question is if you put your baby on your lap, and let’s say the oxygen masks come down, are you going to tell me the baby doesn’t get one from the airline because you didn’t pay??
I have the city mini and I absolutely love it! It’s made well, is very lightweight and closes easily with one hand. It folds up nicely too. it also has a very large hood, and if you play with it, it can be used as a raincover in the rain. It costs $230 everywhere, doesn’t go on sale though. I bought mine from bed bath and beyond and got a lifetime warranty! The ride is great- smooth and easy to push. highly reccomended!!March 28, 2011 10:21 pm at 10:21 pm in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753390
thanks so much for the info! you really got me thinking lol. now where’s my pen and paper….March 28, 2011 8:39 pm at 8:39 pm in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753388
So basically I have nothing to lose by trying? (Assuming I go to the ones you listed) also, how do the illustrations work?March 28, 2011 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753386
Tbt do you have to invest a lot of money to start? Like is it a risk starting? its just an idea I thought of and not sure how to go about it…March 28, 2011 12:34 am at 12:34 am in reply to: Any writers here? Where can a poem for a children's book, for all, be submitted? #753381
Funny you mentioned it. I was thinkinjg about writing childrens books. Any one know anything about it? How to go about it? How much of an investment is it?
you talk about your spouse to your parents, not siblings. your parents won’t get jealous if you tell them your husband cooked supper last night.
also important, is when the wife is pg, its very important for the husband to have patience with her, often the nine months can be a very hard time for the wife, and her husband should compliment her regularly for running the house. the wife also has to be understanding that its hard for the husband too that suddenly his wife isnt her spunky old self. two way street, i guess. like the rest of marriage
Eclipse, wow. I’ve been reading your posts and I have to say they’re really inspiring! Especially what you said about tefila. I once went through a time that I davened and davened for something (not as critical as things posted here) and seemingly just didn’t get it. I was upset since I was confused and didn’t know what hashem wanted from me anymore, but reading ur posts give me chizuk all over again. You seem like a very special person who’s gone througbh a lot. Keep strong!!!
maybe ask some of your coworkers? there are tons here, though i don’t know of any off hand. maybe they’ll advertise in classifieds or magazines??
spghetti and meat is yummy- saute onion add meat and vrown it. add to cooked noodles, add salt marinare sauce bake and enjoy!
mac and cheese
penne vodka (sooo easy, ok not so healthy)
i have some sephardic recipes if you want 😉
im in a bad mood.:-( i cant sneak in bed with rugelach though, cuz my baby is up and also then i’ll be fat. i already indulged on potato chips. didnt help. i dont wanna go for a walk cuz um still in my robe and dont have a stroller here for the baby.
sjs- yikes that must have been a nightmare for you!!!! after my son’s bris, i made my husband change the diapers in the beginning or else i would just cry 🙁
apy- lets see you throw up all morning and then talk. its not uncommon for pregnant ladies to be on iv because they were throwing up so much. are you also going to blame the old lady for coming right before?
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ook, first thing straight- to all those who say you should have come on time, who are you to judge why she didn;t come on time? i know that i myself was pregnant last year purim and made it right before the megillah because i was busy throwing up in the bathroom the entire morning and couldn’t pry myself away from the toilet to make it there earlier. so i don’t deserve a seat because i was late? What if I can’t find parking? APY, i can tell you are not a women, so don’t rush to conclusions like that. do you know what its like to be pregnant? do you know what the i-cant-breath-have no-energy-and-feel-like-im gonna throw up on your head feeling is? what about women with circulation problems? what about if she was in the ninth month when its very painful to stand? contractions can happen from seventh month, although not painful its uncomfortable. your gonna tell this poor lady you have to suffer because you came right before for whatever reason – which isnt even late?! coming earlier is smart planning, but i challenge you to time a pregnant lady and see how fast she can move especially in the morning.
m in israel- its not always so simple that you moved so your exempt- especially if you moved after army age. they gave my husband a very hard time giving him permission to go to israel, even though his permanent residence is abroad. they look at it as you ran away from the draft. your husband was a baby that’s why it’s much easier.
canadian mike- don’t worry the embassy won’t deport you or anything.
I know the guy we got in America was pretty nice.
sister bear, go to the consulate. they will most probably find some loophole for you since you left before army age and going for school. just as a btw you would anyway need both passports to fly there.
didnt renounce cuz complicating. But did get permission to go . Also realized israel doesnt know my husband has a kid or ir even married
oh and even if you givd them the canadian passport they can still find out. I know someone this happened
to. Just go through the legal motions. Youll be much better off. Good luck
if your already 35 it shouldnt be a problem to get permission since your no longer army age. Go to israeli consul and speak to the guy to get a letter you will need to get in. Dont change your namd they have caught people. Also its not so easy to renounce either
WIY, you do have a point, a wife is always supposed to look put together- before he comes home she should fix herself up for him, and most importantly have on a warm smile. I think as long as she is a happy person and thats most important. A skinny grump won’t do too much in a marriage. Theres more to this thought that I just can’t seem to put into words, but hopefully you’ll catch my drift. Think about it- there are heavier women out there who have perfect marriages!
I booked with do all travel- they beat all prices, hands down! and cheaper than online to since they give you a discount so you book with them. btw el al doesn’t use those yucky scanners!!!!!!!!
i bought my best wig from Fortune wigs and I wouldn’t go any other way! i can’t even look at my others now! (and i bought it on sale too- supppeeerr cheap – $400.00)
Anyone wonder if the TSA agents themselves get the pat down? Who said THEY’RE not the ones with the bombs?!
mother in israel- they really did that to you??????? what do they think your baby is a bomb?! This is crazy! I wish i had the guts to tell one of those tsa agents off…. Let see them take off thier shirt for some stranger. Mother in Israel, you shoulda said well, I’m warning you… I’m very prone to throwing up and I’m feeling super nauseous right now lol
tunebeigel, it can easily be switched to a color picture with photo shop. and they see the whole body. you can even see a picture of it on tsa’s website
what if you tell the tsa person that your wig has metal clips that might go off?