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Photoshop isn’t $20.
Same principle. Is my self-respect worth the $500 that Photoshop costs? When I ask that question, I still get the same answer.
And certainly, for a music CD that can be bought for $15…
The Wolf
he’s usually not there when I’m there.
I didn’t see this line.
Nonetheless, if you can wait until you see your boss again (i.e. it’s only a few days or so), it’s better to do it face to face.
Otherwise, send him an email saying that you need to schedule a face-to-face (or phone) meeting. It’s bad form to resign by email (unless, of course, it’s the ONLY way).
The Wolf
Whenever I’m tempted to copy music (or, with me, it’s more likely to be software), I tell myself the following:
“Is my self respect worth more than the $20 I’m saving?”
The Wolf
As a general rule, it’s better to speak to your boss when resigning, rather than doing it by email. After your conversation, send a follow up email — but don’t do it by email initially.
You don’t owe any explanation. However, you can say that you want to pursue other opportunities or that your interests have changed and you want to go in a new direction.
Good luck!
The Wolf
No weddings yet. Several bar-mitzvahs.
I know the caterer isn’t cheating anyone. The OP is making the case that the soda should be banned because no one likes it. My point was that unless he thinks the ba’al simcha is being taken advantage of, why is it his business to begin with what someone serves at a wedding.
That being said, if a person really wants to serve something other than Be’er Mayim, he’s free to make his simcha at a different hall. No one is forcing him to use *that* hall.
The Wolf
OK, I’ll play along…
Being a founder of an amazing organization of kiruv is not one of the criteria for being Moshiach.
Please refer to the criteria for such in Hilchos Melachim and please elucidate HOW the Rebbe fulfilled these conditions.
And, lastly, assuming he fulfilled ALL the requirements, please explain how we are still in golus.
The Wolf
the reason im talking about it, since the person making the simcha is paying 30-50 per plate, depending where the even is , you would think maybe they can give u decent food!
Are you paying for the food? Is the person paying for the affair so incompetent that they can’t decide for themselves how much they want to pay and what food they want at the wedding? Do you have reason to think that the caterer is cheating him and that he doesn’t want the soup or “weird” side dishes?
If not, then why are you getting involved?
beer mayim- ive never heard of anyone claiming to like it!
Again, that’s not the issue. The person throwing the affair wants it. When it’s your turn to have an affair, by all means, choose a different drink.
The Wolf
what does OP mean? and how do u bold words?
OP = Original Poster
To bold text, use the “strong” tag.
The Wolf
When a child matures from childhood to teenage years, the parents’ job changes from management to sales. You can no longer force them to do the right thing, you have to convince them to want to do the right thing.
Not knowing the exact situation, it’s very difficult to give specific advice. But as a general rule, you don’t want to force issues — doing so will only drive the teen further away. You may not be able to convince the teen to dump his friends, but you might be able to influence him not to take on their worst habits. You have to hope that he’s learned enough to resist peer pressure to do things that are very wrong.
Let’s face it — there are things that every teen will do that parents don’t agree with. You have to learn to pick and choose your battles. If you fight your teen over every little issue, not only will your teen resent it, but s/he will not be able to distinguish between the stuff that you are willing to negotiate on and the stuff that is simply over the line. You have to give your teen the ability to explore and find his own identity — even if it means some rebellion. All teens do it and it’s perfectly normal.
Bottom line: don’t lock him in the house and don’t forbid him from seeing his friends — it won’t work and will probably make matters worse. Instead, try working with him to make him know what’s important to you (and by important, I don’t mean every issue — I mean the REALLY important issues). And, above all else, make sure that you keep open lines of communication so that your teen always feels comfortable coming to you — no matter how much trouble s/he may be in.
The Wolf (parent of three current teens)
After reading this thread and one on school pranks, perhaps I wasn’t as bad a kid as I always thought I was.
I was a poor hashkafic fit for my school — it was very hard-right yeshivish… and I wasn’t. Furthermore, because I didn’t fit “the mold,” I was often ignored and, therefore, barely learned anything there in my time.
The Rosh Yeshiva knew that I wasn’t a good fit for the school — but I was generally well-behaved. The worst that could be said about me (as far as in-school behavior went) was that I was failing Gemara. Nonetheless, the fact that I had a different mindset than the other kids made me stick out like a sore thumb.
I think the worst thing I ever did was trying to play a mind game with the Rosh Yeshiva. I decided to try my hand at composing some divrei Torah and began carrying it around with me in a folder. I carried the folder around with me everywhere on school grounds for a few days until finally, one day, he called me over and angrily demanded to know what was in the folder.
I sheepishly handed it over and let him inspect it.
Yeah, I know, expecting a smile for trying to compose divrei Torah would have been too much. I just got a scowl, was told not do it again (the “it” not being explained) and sent on my way.
The Wolf
How come they serve soup at weddings?
Because the people paying for the wedding want the soup served.
Which course do u like the most at weddings and why?
Doesn’t matter to me.
it should be banned to serve beer mayim or beer mayim chayim sodas at weddings! yuckkkkkkkk
Why, because you don’t like them?
The Wolf
One that, as a parent, I’ve come to appreciate, comes from the old master of quotes himself — Mark Twain.
By the time a man realizes that his father was right, he has a son who believes he’s wrong.
The Wolf
That is what Moshe R. said, too.
If you think I am anything like Moshe Rabbeinu, then you may need to have your eyes checked. I am not worthy to be compared to him in the slightest way possible.
The Wolf
Just because R’ Moshe was matir all milk doesnt mean you dont get more schar.
Not all of us do mitzvos for the sake of getting schar. I don’t.
The Wolf
With beautiful frum children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and great great grandchildren.
Obviously, then, this marriage occurred at least 70+ years ago. Things may well have been different then as well and the conditions then may not have been the same as contemporary conditions regarding expectations in marriage.
The Wolf
helpful:
imo, that age gap is sick! and more than that, the life experience differential is way too much. methinks there’s something you don’t know.
Marriages like that could work… but they are surely the very rare exception rather than the norm. You cannot make general rules from the exceptions — and certainly not from the very rare ones.
The Wolf
Didn’t Dr. Hall say on the other thread Mitoch Shelo Lishma Ba’ah Lidai Lishma?
Perhaps. But it’s definitely NOT lishmah at this point… and I can’t guarantee that it ever will be.
I know, you are just an Anav.
No, just a realist.
The Wolf
Exactly the opposite! You will get infinite Schar for being Machmir like Rav Schacter who holds all cows are Safek Traifos currently and does not drink milk.
On the contrary… because I’m not doing it lishmah. I’m not staying away from milk because I’m concerned about terifos… I’m doing it for my own selfish, petty reasons.
In fact, one can argue that I’m insulting HKBH (so to speak) by saying (metaphorically) that His milk isn’t good enough for me. For that, certainly, I’m not earning any points in Heaven.
The Wolf
The problem with hard caps is that they might prevent someone from going out with someone with whom they might hit it off.
I was speaking with a woman (yes, I know I’m going to hell for it) a while back about what she was looking for in a shidduch. She listed off a number of things including an age range of 25-35.
I then asked her if she met someone who was 36, but met all the other criteria would she consider it? After saying that she would, she then agreed that she didn’t have an absolute age cap.
Age certainly should be a factor and, I suppose, there must be a point where age is an absolute deal breaker (I don’t see a 19-year old going out with a 70-year old man regardless of any other factors). Nonetheless, while I one can have an age range, no one should reject someone solely because they fall a bit out of that range.
The Wolf
really where? And why should you believe what ppl say here? 🙂
This thread: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/anniversary-parties
I care because I do. (Yes, I know that’s not helpful. Sorry.)
The Wolf
It possibly may not pass the yashrus test and is wrong, but if it is not stealing don’t call it stealing.
Fair enough. I’ll amend my comment:
I’m more worried about your temptation to do things that are unethical (i.e. download copyrighted music from your friend’s Ipod) than your temptation to listen to non-Jewish music.
Nothing the OP said indicates any potential copying (and it should be noted he said he never yet has copied) is not of “free source” music.
Fair enough. I suppose it’s possible the OP is considering copying stuff in the public domain. I doubt it to be the case, but I’ll grant that it’s possible.
The Wolf
u totally missed the point. does this happen to you a lot? im starting to think that the most embarrassing story you posted is true…
Perhaps it is. Perhaps I really am very stupid or mentally retarded. Perhaps I’m the stupidest person on the face of the earth.
The Wolf
and what yasrus test are u talking about.
Do you mean to tell me that you see absolutely no ethical problem with copying music and not paying for it?
The Wolf
and to “The Wolf”, i hope you are a posek and can back up that wild pesak that downloading music is stealing. even for someone who calls himself “The Wolf” thats a pretty bold statement to be throwing around.
It is stealing.
And even if it does not mean the technical halachic definition of stealing, it’s still wrong and doesn’t pass the yashrus test.
The Wolf
Perhaps this will make a dent in the shidduch crisis for these law grads, and other presently undesirable potential wives.
Helpful,
My wife is currently going to school for a Master’s Degree. How will I know when she has enough education to no longer be desirable as a wife? In other words, how far along does she have to be in her education before I should consider sending her on her way?
The Wolf
If anything, it simply means he needs new drivers. And I fail to see how this reflects on Joe Biden himself.
Seriously — are you suggesting that the Vice President of the US doesn’t deserve a motorcade?
The Wolf
OP, is there a point to this thread?
The Wolf
It doesn’t matter what my favorite sandwich is. I’ve already learned on these boards that I’ll have to give a din v’cheshbon for choosing any one sandwich over another. Since I have no reason to have one over the other (aside from personal preference which, I’m told is NOT a valid reason to choose one over the other) and since I’m not going to ask my rav which sandwich is the correct one to eat, I simply accept that I’m going to be punished for whatever I eat.
The Wolf
I’m more worried about your temptation to steal (i.e. download music from your friend’s Ipod) than your temptation to listen to non-Jewish music.
The Wolf
That’s the first time I heard a Wolf being lactose intolerant.
I’m actually NOT lactose intolerant. I just don’t like the taste.
The Wolf
So you are already in hell 🙂
Heh. I like that. 🙂
And Wolf, I’m starting to suspect that you’re playing Mosherose’s other side….
Nah. I just try to ignore him whenever possible. Life’s too short to waste time arguing with the unreasonable.
When I make statements as I do, it’s usually because I mean them. If I’m kidding about something, I’ll usually put a smiley after it.
The Wolf
Delete. I obviously misunderstood the OP. Never mind.
The Wolf
to me i feel that a snood looks like a shmata. a tichel you can buy in all different colors and designs and of course put it on top of ur fall. a snood…nothing dressy about it
Ah, but “to you” is not the standard of whether or not something is “dressy.”
I think that single-color solid ties are boring and plain. But the fact that there are plenty of people who happily wear them shows that my particular opinion on the matter is not the ultimate arbiter of what is a fancy tie and what is not.
The Wolf
I did not go to Law School. Nor do I wear overalls that I would have any overall experiences.
The Wolf
I don’t drink coffee.
The Wolf
I’ve never had a canvas wrap created, but I have used MPix, Bay Photo and Adorama for printing, all with very good results.
I recently had two of my pictures printed as ThinWraps from Bay. I was very happy with the result.
The Wolf
None of these papers are Daas Torah. They are merely the viewpoints of various Baalei Batim.
Do any of them present themselves to be otherwise?
The Wolf
The extra few dollars cost of spoiled milk is well worth the tremendous spiritual benefits to ones neshama of exclusively using Cholov Yisroel.
Since I don’t drink milk at all, I guess the lack of schar that I get for buying milk which spoils early will forever elude me. Another indication that I am going to hell in the proverbial handbasket. 🙁
The Wolf
For anyone who likes to point out that their parent who smokes is a tzaddik in all other ways
I wasn’t defending my mother’s smoking. As much as I love my mother, I will NEVER do that. I was simply objecting to posters looking at one thing she does wrong and labeling her as a “moron” and a “selfish fool” without looking at the entire picture.
The Wolf
I’m waiting for Wolfish to drop in and say the moon.
I already posted my (very real) fear on the first page.
The Wolf
Sorry… didn’t read that. My apologies.
The Wolf
“MY parents knew I would be driving before they let me get my licence”
Surely this is not true.
Why? I drove before I had my license. It’s called “driving lessons.”
The Wolf
I never feel down because of my beleif I trust hashem 100%
I guess that must mean that my trust is lacking. 🙁
The Wolf
My unexplainable fear is that even though I seem perfectly normal to myself, I am, in truth, odd, abnormal, cognitively and/or socially impaired and I am just too “out of it” to even notice — and everyone knows it except for me.
The Wolf
Now that’s a provision I like! 🙂
Of course, you’re aware that it does NOT mean the Republican party. 🙂
The Wolf