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sitting in front of computer, typing, trying to think of something to write, but honestly, i can’t, because that’s all i’m doing now. its gonna be one of those days, i suspect.

if you ask my grandmother, my favorite words are whatever and cute.

any good news lately? no one has posted in a while 🙁

i said i’m interested in knowing. read again! i am from somewhere out of town, in the midwest, i know ppl on here are from where i am. wanna know if anyone else is. so if anyone’s from the midwest say “I!”

bringing back this thread cuz there are so many new posters and i’m interested in knowing

i know a boy who is 18 and just got engaged… and yes, you guessed it. he’s chassidish. now, before you all jump on me saying that that’s different, the only difference between us and them is that they grow up knowing that it’s expected that they will get married at a younger age! you don’t think he’s sitting and learning, just like all the litvish boys his age? the only difference is that he was prepared for it, while most litvish boys are not! you can’t blame the boys for not being ready if no one is helping them get ready early. if the litvish boys would grow up knowing that its expected of them to get married earlier, we would be able to prepare them earlier (maybe even “closing the age gap” which would help eliminate the “shidduch crisis”)

pba, i know i sound really harsh, but please understand that this is our Torah we are talking about! (and you did an amazing job getting me riled up, i mamash am at a loss for words, although you cannot see that from my posts.)

seriously, i am not mad at you, i am mad at the situation that lead to your having this perception. and if indeed you did bring this perception upon yourself, well, i hope to meet you one day so we can have a long talk… until then, i’ll try to set your perception straight thru the cr 🙂

your children will only feel like nebs if you give that impression over to them! but, if you show them that the Torah is so Kadosh, and that it is such a special honor to do g’lila, or anything that has to do with the Torah, then they will not feel like, and not be considered nebs.

two points i would like to share: One of the jobs of the kohein in the Bais Hamikdosh was to take the ashes from on the Mizbeach and “dispose of them”, so to speak. basically, his job was to “take out the garbage”. but do you think he thought of it that way?????? NO WAY , NO HOW!!!!!!!!! NEVER!!!!!!!!!! it was a job in the House of Hashem, such a holy holy job, and the kohein never thought of it as a lowly job, even though it is seemingly (to us) the lowest job in the Bais Hamikdosh. but no one ever thought of it that way!

secondly, we learn from the meraglim that only if you consider yourself lowly, will you be low in the eyes of others. change your attitude! change the way you see this heilige avodah, and make your children see it the right way, for what it really is, so they will be able to properly do this avodah!

just reread my post. sm77 i didn’t mean to sound harsh, just trying to say that you can have a nice chassuna without paying two salaries for it. gosh, i’m all for having a nice chassuna, i don’t mean you should have it in your backyard or something, but try to cut down on things. like, if flowers and music are really important to you, spend on that, but keep in check what you pay for the rest. see what’s really important to you, and keep that in mind as the main thing u’ll spend on. a few nice halls? choose a less pricey one. get what i’m saying?

you could not have said it better. it’s true and it’s sad. we all have to try harder. kol yisrael areivim ze lazeh. we are all responsible for one another. but we are all at fault.

hey rednails, me too! i just feel like i’m running in the direction of the computer all too often just to see if someone posted anything new, or whatever. maybe i should get rid of email, too???

in the toddler classroom i work in, there are two “little tykes” cars that the kids love playing with. every time a kid would get into one of them, one of us teachers would say “where are you going,(insert name)?” and they would give all diff answers (bubbies house, the store, the park…) but we were taken aback when one kid (mind you, he is three) excitedly told us “we’re going swimming in the mikva!” whoa. out of the mouths of babes!

cookie dough all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but its so hard to get here!

every time i see this topic i am so bothered. what kind of question is this?????????? if you really want to know why the singles are not married, instead of asking why they THINK they are not married, why don’t you ask Hashem, Who KNOWS the answer and has a plan? ur better off getting your answer there, if you want the right answer. or you could just trust that He knows what He is doing, and you could daven that He help all of the singles and bring them their basherts. ppl should only ask themselves personally why they think they are still single, and should be looking to improve or grow in some way. it is in no way anyone else’s business and certainly not something worth starting a thread over!

i couldn’t hear the whole thing on mostly music. after the third song, none of the others would play. anyone else have this problem? i would love to hear all the songs on there b4 i buy it. altho, it does sound amazing just from the first three.

MAZAL TOV TO EVERYONE WITH SIMCHOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AND IY’H BY YOU TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE STILL WAITING…

yossiz just go into ur ringtone options and do search and type in tweety bird. see what you come up with. it should be there

gefen WAS joking. i had just mentioned that in a couple of threads i had mentioned something to you or about what you wrote, and my father got all funny and said (something like) “so this is what you’re doing on yeshiva world, talking to boys” (uh, and by the way, that is so not my type, at all.

sorry to alarm you. no harm meant. this thread was more of a family joke made public (which you can’t do unless ur totally anonymous, like here)

well hatzlacha!

ursula – listen, why shouldn’t she have a mother in law also? misery loves company 😉 jk – i have a very nice mil

hey yosssssssssssshhhhhhhhhhhi z.! do you know u can get it as a ringtone? i once had it on my phone, and i was babysitting somewhere and the kids were all out at friends houses, so i just had the baby with me, but the mother was in her room and a boy my age was in the kitchen. so it was really quiet, and all of a sudden this loud ringer goes off with tweety birds voice and i was ssssssssssssssssssssssoembarrassed!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!! but of course, i look back and laugh!!!!!!!!!!!

well, aren’t you two ssssssssssoooooooooooooooo funny!!!!!!!!! shmiley face, how about this? caSSSSSSHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

deiyezooger, amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wow ilthl! what a zchus to be such a shaliach of Hashem!!!!!!! that’s amazing!!!!!!!!! i recently tried to redd a few shidduchim, too. i must admit, it takes tons of strength to call someone with an idea, and of course you may be way off the mark! but tell your friends (or whoever you were talking to) that some of the biggest shadchanim can also be way off the mark! tell them to remember that shidduchim come from Hashem, not the shadchanim. if Hashem doesn’t want a shidduch to go thru that a shadchan redd, then He will make that not work out, too, sometimes making something way off the mark!

but think of it this way: if it would work, wouldn’t that feel so amazing and rewarding? you were the shaliach in helping this couple to build a bayis ne’eman! that is such a big zechus! biggest thing to remember: (not to take anything away from the amazing work of shadchanim) shadchanim are people too! they had to start somewhere, just like you! and they are not always right either!

now, as far as not knowing what to do once you have an idea, either see if you know someone who knows both sides, and if they would feel comfortable redding it, or call a shadchan and tell him/her of your idea. or tell a parent/teacher whom you are close to. hatzlacha in this amazing avoda!!!!!!!!

mazal tov!!!!!!!!!! are you on only simchas? i wanna check you up 🙂

all the best and hatzlacha rabba meruba at this amazingly special time in your life!!!!!!!!

@ pacman: where is the emunah in your first post? just because az said something, it becomes written law? doesn’t Hashem have a hand in this? i’m not saying that there arent ppl who never got married. what i am saying tho, the more ppl who leave this all in the hand of statistics and age gaps, and what not, the bigger the crisis we have. but that’s not a shidduch crisis. that is an emunah crisis. the worst one ever. which is probably why we are where we are today.

WAKE UP AM YISROEL! TRUST IN HASHEM! DO YOU THINK HE WANTS TO CAUSE YOU PAIN? NO WAY! YOU ARE HIS PRECIOUS CHILD AND HE TAKES CARE OF YOU LIKE YOU CAN’T EVEN BEGIN TO IMAGINE! SOMETIMES, WE JUST ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO UNDERSTAND WHY HE DOES WHAT HE DOES. BUT IT IS ALL FOR OUR ULTIMATE GOOD. YOU JUST HAVE TO BELIEVE!

sorry, i know you all hate caps, but when i am trying to bring an important point across, i will use it.

singles, don’t lose hope. imagine this scenario: you just come home from another date and basically the guy/ girl calls it off. you are emotionally drained and feel like you can’t handle life anymore. and you go into your room and you cry bitter tears into your pillow. MAKE IT A TFILLA! DON’T WASTE YOUR TEARS! MAYBE HASHEM JUST WANTS ONE MORE TFILLA WITH TEARS AND THEN HE WOULD SEND YOU YOUR DESTINED ONE! but there is no way you can know. so try anyway, it obviously can’t hurt to try. and you might be very pleasantly surprised at the outcome. remember HASHEM LOVES YOU!

when you want something just PUSH- Pray Until Something Happens!

and have emunah! for if you don’t believe, how do you expect to have a fulfilling and happy life????? don’t let go of that emunah, and a special deep relationship with Hashem!!!!!!