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Even more so SAR charges $25,000 a year and a Bobov school in Borough park charges $4000 a year, Why should the MO schools get more money than the Charedi schools which charge alot less, the fund could tell you to send your kid to the cheaper school and not give you anything
Disqualifiers can include taking trips for vacations to E”Y or elsewhere, having luxury cars,
Please define “Luxury cars”. Is a 2002 Lexus a Luxury car vs a 2016 Honda Accord . Who decides this
Why should a vacation count against you? How do you know who paid for it, Maybe the person had Miles/Points or the parents paid for it. It is healthy to have a vacation. Maybe an African Safari is over the top. but even trips to Israel might not cost as much as you think especially if they have relatives there they can stay for free
For example the park, there are alot of reasons one cannot go to the park
It might be dark or raining outside or untzniut women there (Common in Central park in the summer)
Rav Avigdor Miller forbid going to sporting events, I think because of Chukas HaGoyim (I could be wrong on his reason )
Kosher or pareve? Huh?
I know what I wrote and I meant there are things that are totally kosher and things that arent kosher and arent treif.
Going with your kids to the park is Kosher and seeing a sporting event is Pareve. Im not sure if you get the difference. Its not always possible to do a totally kosher event like going to the park , so if its not possible to a pareve thing. I meant Pareve here as more Neutral than anything else
Probaly the whole idea of democracy and freely choosing your leaders is Chukas HaGoyim.
Its very important to learn yom v Lelaih, however one must also be careful not to suffer from burnout (I have unfortunalty seen this happen).
Taking a break from learning in order to recharge your batteries is a healthy idea and closing a gemorah in order to learn mussor is not a “break”
One should see alternatives to allow one to recharge and take a break with things that are kosher or pareve (Fully kosher activities might not be available so Pareve ones are good too)
Public school education is a right in this country, courtesy busing is not. Again people here think the public school will suffer but the courtesy busing and the sending of special ed students to more expensive options on the tax payer dime to avoid public school will continue. It will not. In the US basically you are expected to pay for public school education whether you use it or not. Older people without kids in public schools are supposed to pay taxes for it. Choosing not to benefit from public schools is not an excuse not to pay.
Since the state will not bail out either disctict at some point taxes will likley have to be raised. It is unavoidable
BDA tries to be more transparent than charedi beis dins and the reason is they are trying to get people to use them rather than secular courts so they try to be more open. Unfortunalty many chaerdi beis dins arent as fair as their should be. and this is not coming from me , Even Rav Schecter has said so publically I think in Mishpacha (or simialar magazine)
Depends what their reason is for refusing to pay full tutition.
Some people might refuse just because its just not possible. you cannot pay something you dont have.
The problem is Universal yeshiva education for all and affordable tutition for all are actually contrary to each other. Even if a school charges $2000 a kid tution, for a family with 5 kids, thats $10,000 post tax income. When you make $50,000 a year thats alot of money, many people make less than $50,000 and cannot pay the tution and unfortunatly many yeshivas do not follow acceptable accounting procedures like endowments , properly paying employees on time (Its against the law not to pay on time, even teaching torah) and its also foolhardy not to have proper insurance on your school. One lawsuit can shut down the school because of neglectful practices
Unfortunalty its not true that most come back, One should certainly daven for such an outcome, but one must also be prepared if they dont and if you are a parent of an OTDer if they arent coming back, at least try to get them in a productive life.
Send them to the Army, College, work anything productive. There are alot worse choices than those places. Im sure most would prefer their OTD child in the Army or studying in College than on the streets doing drugs
Kids know what their parents do for a living, they are not stupid
How many children are there in Lakewood. I wouldnt be surprised if there are a similar number of high School age kids as there are in Lakewood High School. if Lakewoood High School is one School, there is no reason a similar cannot be built for the frum community
In Public school you are required to take ALL students in your area, While this has good and bad results (Meaning bad students are forced to be accepted and the good result is you dont have to fight to get your child in school)
I dont know the exact circumstances in Lakewood, but it does seem there is some issue of schools . I do get that people are not so happy About putting their children in schools without reputations. Maybe a lottery type system would be a better way or some other way to assign schools to children
There are different kinds of cars
One can drive a 1995 ford Country Squire , one can drive a 2010 Honda Odeyssey or one can drie a 2016 Lexus
they are not the same because they are cars
CA
What does the halacha say about someone who goes to secular court instead of a Beis Din in a dispute.
I am not chabad, never was chabad and will likely never be chabad. But I have never heard a bad word about another jew from the Lubavicher Rebbe or anyone in Chabad. They never speak ill of their fellow jews . And you know what, most people who are not chabad respect them and like them even if they arent chbad or arent even religious.
May we all learn this middah from Chabad.
AND STOP WITH THIS SINAS CHINAM IF U MOSHIACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comments against Satmar are sinat Chinam, but comments made by satmar against others are perfectly OK?
You reap what you sow
If you solicit from someone you would not accept, the message is, your money is good enough, but you arent.
Would you say that if parents would not be willing to accept these stringencies, it would be morally reprehensible for the school to accept a donation from them?
If I can answer for myself, I dont think its morally rephrehensible for those schools to accept an unsolicited donation from such a person, however I think its wrong to solicit donations from such a person.
As someone who went to a school where they did take Non-Orhtodox children
I can tell you the results, over 95% of the relgious kids stayed religious. A few obviously left, but I have no idea if that was because they met the non-relgious kids or not, I am sure some left for that reason.
about 20-30% of the non-relgious kids are now religous which to me is a pretty good success rate given the circumstances. If a school refuses to take a non-relgious kid and they good to public school, I can pretty much gurantee the likelyhood they will be relgious is alot less than 20-30%
But in general there was a net gain evne if there was some loss
How did the mods let through a post without the Kavod Rav Shlomo Zalman deserved
Rav Shlomo Zalman used to allow photographs all the time and even posed for them or allowed a second if the first didnt come out good
Its not clear what kind of place the OP lives in. We dont know if they live in a regular aprtment with a lease, A month to month arrangment in a legal apartment or a month to month arragement in an illegal apartment (usually these are basements)
In an illegal aprtment the landlord might feel more freer to bully the tenant than if there was a written lease
I get why to avoid frum landlords, Its not the frum thats a problem. If you get a normal landlord, its basically a business transaction. However working with a frum landlord there is sort of doing business with family. Its generally not a good idea to do business with family. I personally prefer to do business with total strangers and not family in case something goes sour you dont have bigger issues.
Just notice this
The briskers do not wear glasses or spectacles or “brillen” on shabbos
How is someone supposed to Daven or read if they dont wear glasses and they need them unless they wear Contacts
Most residential leases are basically standard and I do find it hard to belive the landlord demanded entry without notice, I suspect this might be a month to month or illegal apartment where the landlord was trying to bully the tenant
You don’t have to show the apartment if you don’t want to.
Again it depends what the lease says. It does seem to me the landlord has no right to come unannouced and show an occupied apartment on any day of the week let alone Shabbos. However there might be some clause that contracdicts that and allows the landlord to call and show up (Maybe he called 2 hours before on Shabbos and the OP did not answer the phone)
ALWAYS read a lease before signing one and if you cant understand the legalize , get someone who CAN read it and explain it to you
Stand up for your religious principles and rights.
If you signed a lease allowing weekend showing of your apartment, your religious principles dont matter, you signed them away
If you signed no such clause then dont be bullied by a landlord
Rechnitz published some sort of Apology in Matzav for what he said
Not happening, and you know it. Even if it was offered, private school parents in Lakewood Ir HaKodesh would not send their children on such buses.
Of course not, but its not MANDATORY to pay for seperate buses, We are talking about what is mandatory and everything else needs to be cut
It seems some want everything they want and want the state to pay for the public school kids which isnt going to happen so there will be cuts from the private school kids
PBA
It depends on the lease, There might be a clause that the landlord in the final month of the lease has the right to show the apartment
usually though the landlord cannot insist to be allowed to show an apartmenet when people are living there unless there is some clause in the lease
Depends what your lease says, you need to obey the terms of the lease
You can combine bus routes so if a family has twins a boy and a girl (Or more likely children a year apart), but they go to seperate schools, the school bus can pick them both up and drop each off at their respective schools, this is more efficient and money saving.
In East Ramapo they give busing to more than the minimim required by law. Also there is no law that required seperate busing
Nobody is going to want to merge with a school district that wants courtesy busing to private schools and thinks that Football ,Band and AP courses are unnessary extra things and should be cut to give busing to private schools. .
i dont know lakewood for sure as I live in NY, but I am fairly certain GYM is required in NJ as well. I dont know about Art and Music, but these things are usually required in most places
Art, Music and Gym are mandatory in NY
Band and Sports teams are not
This should be a cautionary tale when you take money. Nobody gives “Free Money” they expect something in return, It might not be a bad thing, like some accountability where the money is going or they might want a say on how your organization is run, but its not free.
BY taking the money they gave him the right to give his opinion on something and its not so simple to shut him up. He might stop giving the money which is probably in the millions per year. Other Giverim might follow and say somethiong too on a topic, You cannot dismiss them all.
People here think there is nothing to cut , They can cut sending Jewish kids to Kiyrat Joel school district and educate them in East Ramapo for cheaper, there is no mandate to send them to Kiryat Joel
I would assume most school leaders view Mr Rechnitz as a means to get funding, not as a moral guide on how to run their school.
If he uses the purse string as power, they would have to listen or they dont get the money
Please. Every person I know has been saying this for years, but the rich kid says it and now it’s news.
He who controls the kings treasury controls the king. If you are going to rely on geverim finance your community, you are also going to have to listen to the Geverim if they have something to say
If you break your parole terms, they can put you back in jail. Not saying its going to happen, but it could.
In NYC you do not have the right to save the spot
It might set the record in Central Park. As of 8pm on Motzei Shabbos, it is about 1 1/2 inches from the record and it is still snowing
Parolees are not allowed to get a passport. A passport is a privildge , not a right
he is not Free, he is on Parole. Parole is not total freedom
One can belive in the idea of Da’as torah and also belive that nobody today posseses it
I remember being near a mountain and seeing a bright light from the top and hearing a scary voice from the top
FYI Its not Lashon Harah to tell people the truth about a community. People need to know the truth especially if they intended to spend thousands , tens of thousands or even Hundreds of thousands of Dollars on relocation.