Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
OK, how’s this:
I just heard on the radio yesterday that kids that have a TV in their room (and presumably the same could be said for kids with texting / internet access) are x times (I forgot the exact number) more likley to engage in “high risk” behavior than other kids who don’t. The report could not decide if its becuase of the constant barrage of negative behavoir or if its becuase those kids spend less “family time” among theor sibs and parents.
Either way, what I see from this is a SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY, and you (and your family) will be a whole lot better off
You can “buy” it anywhere you like, but it needs to come from your soul. You don’t just listen to Shloima.. you need to “hear” Shloima.
Simcha gorreres simcha, Blinky! (I’H by you)
I’m gearing up for a $5000-6000 year per child, but I’m thinking of it as my graduation present to them, for the 12-13 years of really hard work they each put in getting to this point.
Besides, after the year is up, they are facing a whole lifetime of hard work, so don’t they deserve a year to gear up? Ok, maybe not snorkling or para-sailing, and weekends in Eilat. But 12 months of dira life is a fair price to pay.
Girls too. They are facing 30-40 years of really hard work. They deserve the time away.
This question was posed on another thread. My take? If you have more “friends” on-line than you have in the face-to-face world, you need a break. If you spend a day off indoors, on-line instead of outside (or doing something constructive indoors) you need a reality check.
In my case, I use the CR as an alternative to a news site. I used to check the NY Timnes and the “other” hemish news blog, and found the CR to be more worthwhile. Surely less depressing and a none of the prustkeit you see on the NYT
I agree with Blinky. The only reason I can accept from someone leaving is if they are concerned they are spending too much time here, or if they feel that their cover is about to be blown.
But over a difference of opinion?
Either way, its your call, but I think you’re making a mistake. True, there must be other sites, but I doubt you’ll find as fun a bunch as you’ve got here!
Best wishes, either way – BPT
Perhaps, if he only read some of the threads and some of the posts, he might draw that conclusion.
But if he read the rest of the threads and the rest of the posts, he would see a whole lotta caring and support and sensetivity.
(and BTW, you might consider doing so yourself. You’d be pleasantly surprised)
Maariv? That I thought was a guy thing only. I know several girls who daven shachris and mincha, but not one of them daven maariv or know anyone who does.
It just took me by surprise. And Prof, I thought your kids did sit-ins. And they daven Maariv? Wow.
“I daven Shachris and Maariv.”
You’re kidding about maariv, right?
Please tell me you’re kidding.
“I’m both a father and a brother and I was mafrish challah this week”
Just curious, Wolf; did you wear a hat /jacket / gartel during this momentus occasion? I’m very happy for you either way; I’m just curious.
And while I have not yet done the challah, I did have a chance to bentch lecht, so I know how special a moment that can be (I wore the H/J/G, in case you’re wondering)
“a professional and a Talmid Chacham of which I am neither. “
Not yet and not yet.
Know what? When I got married, I was none of these either. It takes two to tango. Who knows? Sac may be just the person to bring out the best you have to offer.
As much as I hate quoting goyim, Henry Ford said, “you can have the car in any color you like.. as long as its black”
Different? Nah, we’re all 99% indentical. Its the 1% in us, that refuses to allow us to see each other in the same light!
(honestly, 1987; read the posts on cognitive disonance or the one from a few weeks back from the BY girl with hashkafah questions) and then tell me if you still think the CR is a “bash fest”)
Name tag? Not necessary.
Price tag? Definitely!
“if a good friends tells me they think something is a good idea, I’ll give it a try”
IMHO, Blinky IS a good friend, and an objective one, at that. Unless you know WIY in real life, you might just want to consider her suggesstion
That’s like diet coke and a pizza; either have it or dont.
Low fat kugel. What a waste of a good potato. The way we test kugel is, if it sags in the plate, its good!
Make kugel the way your grandma made it; drowning in oil. Just have a smaller slab.
s/he saw all the threads on otd, and wanted to help out by giving some of them a job…
Smile E. Face – This just shows where your heart is (and you should be very proud of yourself)
Members like you make this place worth coming back to!
“Make sure your homeowner’s insurance is paid up”
If they make as far as my property, that means they made it down the entire, mostly UNshoveled block, and unless they live on the block, they made it down several mostly unshovled blocks.
Homeowner, are we talking about the same BP? The one in Brooklyn, NY? The parts that I see and walk trhu, 3-4 feet would be a g-dsend
Borcsht.. thinking it was black cherry soda.
Way out of bounds. Either have a mitzva tanz, or don’t. From what I’ve seen lately, the kallah coming over to the mens side for ketzad merakdim has been eliminated, as a sign of yerida ha’doros.
The mitzva tanz is after the meal, when most non-family members are gone. And, the few mitzva tanzs I’ve been to where the married brothers get called up, they hold a gartel, not hold hands.
And bochurim? I had my head handed to me by my rov when I sent up my 6 year old to dance with his aunt (my sister). The rov said this is no place for bochurim.
Dear Clever –
I read and re-read your post, and am glad that I did. From what you wrote, its obvious that much soul-searching and insight went into your post. While each point you noted deserves comment, I will focus on one in particular.
You said that one of the links you still maintain is YNW, and coffee room in particular. While I cannot comment on what is said on YNW as a whole, (as I rarely visit the general site) the CR is where I spend a good portion of my day. That said, you are correct; there is petty fighting and name-calling. But for every teaspoon of divisiveness, there are buckets full of supportive and caring commentary to be found among us as well. True, the critical voices make more noise and ruffle more feathers, than do the voices of reason and sympathy, but we do our part to heal and help as best we can.
By the time you reach my post, there have been more than 20 replies, so that in and of itself, shows that when we hear the call for help, we respond.
You taught us a lesson worth learning.
Thanks, and I look forward to your future posts.
Understood. Lets see what my alterego has to say about it, though.
“chassidish i can never understand what they are saying- too muffled for me”
That’s true of the men, perhaps. The women, on the other hand, seem to speak an almost unnaturally good english (especially the one from Brooklyn).
Probably because they learnt it from school only, without the “streettalk” that is picked up on radio and ‘other media’ <can’t say the word in public>
Its tough to mention sit-ins, because there’s no choice involved. You either go to the house (nice or dumpy) or you don’t. Or you go to an “off site” house, where the little brothers / sisters / neighbors are not around to offer their input.
I respect your choice to have your kids sit in, but IMHO if you’re old enought to get married, you’re old enough to go out by yourself. But then again, I have friends who’s mother-in-law and kallah set up the chosson’s dresser drawers the week before the wedding, so maybe they really can’t be trusted to take a train on their own. (forget driving, that’s a given to be a no-no)
“old houses with 100 foot driveways and 40 or more feet of frontage.”
Homeowner –
All they need to shovel is a 3-4 foot wide path. And if they listen to the forcast, they can park the car in the front of the driveway, so they don’t need to shovel all 100 ft.
And in 2009? I was shoveling MY place and car (and ditto for all the other whiteouts)
How else could I get upstate to hit the slopes?!
“create alts to back you up”
You mean like imaginary friends? Squeak, the day I do that, is the day I check out accomodations at Creedmore.
And as far as the “biggest offender”, one day I expect to be “outed” by someone in the CR. The last thing I want to hear is, “That man is a phony”.
Trust me, my outside self is in total sync with my screen self. Good, bad or otherwise, its who I am, and I can’t present myself as someone else. (Besides, that would mean getting multiple sets of clothing, and I hate shopping)
British. It make the biggest nonsense sould like rocket science.
Clever –
Your post deserves an undistracted read-thru. (something I cannot do at work)
Let me do so on the way home, but thanks for sharing your story. It gives us a much needed wake-up call
But can you two cook? I mean, its all nice and wonderful to be able to come home to a shovled sidewalk, but once in the door, what does the kugel taste like!?
“Are they going to sell PSLs to the Siyum?”
No, but they are going to faher everyone before issuing you a ticket. Word of caution, though; saying the word maschteh instead of Masecha (minus the “t”) gets you an automatic downgrade
Plus, it will get the happy couple familiar with the place, seeing as how the next Syium Ha’Shas is going to be there!
That still brings a smile to my face.. thanks for reminding me!
And BTW, what happened to Mod 40? I haven’t seen the number in a while?
I can’t think of a reason I would need to screen names. My writing style and opinions would be readily apparent, so what good would a new name do me? I may have different reactions to different topics, but in essense, its still the singular me.
Unless the Mods start limiting posts to only 20 per day per name… then I’ll need a whole phonebook of screen names!
“In my college years that meant kids were becoming Moonies. “
Talk about a language barrier. You meant the Reverend’s cult. In my circles, a child becoming a “moonie” means they are frumming out and davening in Emunas Yisroel (for those of you not from Bklyn, Emunas Yisroel is a shul where there is NO talking and davening takes an extra 15-20 minutes longer than the speed machine places)
I just thought it was a funny choice of words, and I have’nt heard it in ages
Snow Tubing, ice skating, sledding
Sorry. I meant to write: Snow Tubing, ice skating, sledding, these things I can see, but skiing? No. (the rest of the post is unchanged)
You’re a bit harder to peg, Blinky, because you have’nt disclosed enough info. But if I ahd to guess, I’d still go with the mesechta master, but somehow, I can’t see you (or your husband / kids) on skis. Snow Tubing, ice skating, sledding. Like the vast majority of us, we just stand on the side and watch people like Sac do their thing, and shake our heads and wonder “why would any sane person try something like that”
And as far as muscel pain WIY, there I sympathize with you and your mother. I’m no stranger to the outdoors, but nothing compares to the bending and twisting like snow shoveling. But that’s us 40+ year olds talking. You youngsters should be doing this with the grace of a ballet dancer!
Why am I not surpised… But you’re the exception, and for you, there is an exceptional shidduch out there. One who can handle a tough mesechta during the zman, cut fresh powder in Apsen during channukah vacation. (and shovel out his car and his shver’s when necessary)
No steerah, this chosson of yours. Its two halves of a whole, and what makes him right for you 🙂
My kids had one morah who defined shlumpy. Her wardrobe and shaitel? Not top shelf, to say the least. But she loved her students like her own, and she was a great teacher.
But on a grade school level, we need to sell a product to a very tough audience. And anyone in retail will tell you, packaging / marketing is the key to sales.
“multiple personalities”
Thats what makes us so entertaining!
Granted. But that would mean you have kids that are in the 35-45 y/o range. I have no problem if someone pays someone else to shovel their snow (or mow their lawn, or wash the car). But the prevailing attitude in BP (and I live there, so I see it every time it snows) is, its not MY JOB AND I WON’T DO IT.
Know what? If you live in a house, take care of it. I can see the occasional exception, but cross the board?
Gimme a break. I see bochurim play a mean (and I mean MEAN) game of b-ball, so there is no reason they cannot be asked to do some physical work. OK, the sidewalk, maybe that can’t wait. But the driveway? The car? That’s not an emergency, and can (and should) be done by an able-bodied male (or female, but I don’t want to be accused of sabotaging a shidduch, so I’l staying away from that angle).
Cmiller –
You’re kidding, right? The biggest property in BP (including the driveway, would not take more than 30 minutes to shovel. Why would anyone need to hire someone?
On the off chance you’re talking about a senior citizen, you can probably get the delivery boy from the supermarket to do it for $20. But really, pay someone to shovel snow? What are kids / grandkids/ son-in-laws for? Don’t tell me everyone lives OOT. There is always someone (a nephew, a cousins child, someone) that can do this.
I find it funny, that kids can play in the snow (or go snow tubing / skiing/ ice skating, if they’re older). but are all of a sudden invalids when it comes to handling a shovel.
I could see the CR being a problem, if you spend all your free time here. Like, say a day off, and instead of going somewhere, or doing something around the house, you spend the day CR’ing. Or if you have more screen conversations in a day, than you do face-to-face.
But for the vast majority of us, CR is just another version of a newspaper or a radio broadcast. It fuels our (or at least my) outside conversations with new info / material.
No, its too hard to hold a siddur and a plate at the same time.
“the worlds most expensive car”
Used to be, used to be. The One-77 is almost double a Bug
Yes. Its supposed to rival the BMW 7 and Mercedes S class
Sac –
Forget the Mase; Aston Martin’s newest rocket just made its debut (and boy, is it quick)
And if you really want to turn heads on OP (and OOT’ers, that’s Ocean Parkway, not Opening Post) for 1.9 mil (yes, million), you can get the One-77. But you gotta act quick, only 77 are being made.
And BTW, I did see the write-up about the new Hyundai, but have not seen one yet. Prob because I’m too busy scopin’ out the new Odyssseys in BP (drool, droool).
But its your budget, so spend it as you see fit! (But my vote is for the Odyssey)
No clue in Ivrit, but in yiddish, its refered to as the “kabbolas punim” on the womens side of the hall and the “chussin’s tish” on the mens side.
There is no mention of food directly, but its self-understood
You’re kidding, right? Lunch break is spent doing the same thing I do at the 10:00 break, the 11:00, 12:00 the …. (you get the idea)
The only exception is the mincha break, when I daven mincha.
“you are on a first name basis?”
I’d have said shmorgassboard, but at the time, my mouth was full
I have’nt been to Marina in years, but I’m told the Shmorg at Ateres Avrohom is top rate.