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Most?best.
Which perek?
There were tapes in the times of the Chovos Halevavos?
The best shidduchim come from the non-professionals.
Define “best”.
Also hashgacha pratis.
Also, I did already answer your question:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/college-4#post-588831
There could be any number of reasons.
Tell me, if the cash register has an instruction manual, would he read it? If so, he obviously does read secular material, and his not going to college is not because he considers it assur to read secular material.
That is so cynical.
All I can say is that b”H many parents (in-law) actually like their children, and simply enjoy spending time with them.
You could ask the same about yourself, your cell phone, computer, and for that matter, indoor plumbing.
See, the next step is to have emunah that just as the benefit of missing the appointment was visibly for his benefit, the pain and suffering, although not visibly so, was also to his benefit.
A man who was not yet frum told Rav Noach Weinberg zt”l that he knows Hashem loves him even though he doesn’t follow the Torah, because his motorcycle once went over a cliff, and Hashem saved him.
Rav Noach responded, “Who do you think pushed you off the cliff!?”
It’s not fine, unless the kids like it. You should take it as a compliment that they think you like it.
Many shiduchim have been turned down by parents wanting things that didn’t make a difference to their children.
And many shidduchim have been turned down by boys wanting things that really don’t make a difference to a marriage. And many boys have overlooked flaws which do..
I don’t know if you meant it like that or if you merely meant that “the age at which they typically start dating.”
I meant that, and it’s not based on psychology, it’s based on someone whose opinion I highly value who dealt with too many bad marriages caused by the boy’s immaturity, and (unrelated) to the point at which one’s learning style is established enough to get married.
Don’t the phones have flashlights?
Some communities still converse in Yiddish, and perhaps if it were feasible, all should, but it’s too difficult to implement.
Or perhaps there’s no inherent advantage, but the circumstances then made conversing in a separate language important.
Either way, it’s the circumstances which changed.
ZD, that’s practical application changing, not the underlying hashkafa.
What to do practically changes with changing circumstances, but hashkafos/ideology don’t change.
What’s the top yeshiva in America learning-wise, besides for BMG?
I didn’t know there was anything else.
Oh. Then you’re actually one of the few people who don’t have a problem with their kids going into the same profession. 🙂
There actually is “a shred” of evidence, but as you say, the numbers do add up regardless.
Whether or not the possibility of the numbers not actually being as uneven as the projection justifies the expense of doing a thorough study has been a matter of debate on the CR, but the gvirim have apparently voted no with their wallets.
How many different professions do you have?
Regardless of how long it takes to plan, I think shorter engagements are better, even if it means less fancy gowns and such.
It’s funny that you say that you didn’t want the next generation going into your profession. I think everyone says it about their profession. 🙂
I wasn’t asking for an apology, I’m just wondering why you made such an assumption.
I am absolutely convinced that ,if in our nightmares, Trump is elected President, he will run rough shod over our democratic institutions and install himself as “Leader for Life”
The radical right wackos said the same about Clinton and Obama.
Also, if it’s still within the year, I don’t think you gain anything.
Mazel Tov.
It is permissible to make a chasunah for your daughter, and fully participate, even while in aveilus for your mother z”l. Your siblings may not be able to fully participate, but in my opinion, it is more important to not delay the marriage.
I don’t know why you think boys care less about unimportant criteria for a shidduch than do parents.
Regardless, I think it’s very far fetched to say (as I think you’re implying) that the age gap is a product of parental involvement. I think in the litvish yeshiva system, the natural age at which boys are ready to get married is about 22-23, and girls 19-20, and this is the cause of the gap. It has little or nothing to do with parental involvement.
Why do you assume that most posters don’t work for a living?
See mw13 yourself.
There is no hint that Trump wishes to engage in or to foment violence against the enemies
This is even granting that he is a racist, which I don’t (although I do think it’s possible).
Okay, I also think keeping parents away from their kids’ shidduchim is insane. Probably even more than outlawing age gap shidduchim (which is definitely insane).
It is unrealistic because nobody in “authority” would suggest or legislate it, and nobody would listen.
If there continued to be an age gap, how would there not continue to be a shidduch crisis?
SDD, if it were only socially acceptable to marry a girl a few years younger, but there were no parental “inapt requirements”, would there be a shidduch crisis?
BTW, keeping parents away from their children’s shidduchim is really no more realistic than outlawing age gap shidduchim.
ROB, I didn’t need to Google Hitler. You are being even more ridiculous.
Mw13, you seem to think his ideas are based on racism. That’s possible, but he has only “come for” groups he legitimately feels are damaging us.
Trump is today’s Gerald Burton Winrod ym”s (@DY).
So I Googled him, and you are being ridiculous.
I don’t agree that we need to assume that he is evil. The reason he wants to discriminate against Muslims is not necessarily because he hates Muslims, perhaps he just has security concerns. Some may feel that the collateral damage of the innocent being included is not justified by those concerns, and/or that there are other ways of dealing with those concerns, and/or that it’s a slippery slope and ch”v we could be next, but disagreeing with those points doesn’t make him evil.
You are oversimplifying the halacha. Define “meaty”, and query whether a meaty oven of every definition always gives a pareve food baked inside it a din of meaty.
The reason for the issur of meaty or milky bread is that bread is commonly eaten at all meals and is normally pareve. This milky or meaty bread might thetefore inadvertantly be used with meat or milk.
The unique shape serves as a reminder that this is not like typical bread which is assumed to be pareve.
Ubiquitin, I disagree. You’re not confused.
So?
I don’t think that ad was from NASI.
Why wouldn’t the bread be pareve?
5 year gap? No one’s claiming that’s the norm.
I think they want them learning for longer; I can only guess why they don’t push them to look for slightly older than 19-20 year old girls.
Perhaps the gap has been closed a bit, but I don’t think by much.
BTW, in answer to your question, it seems to me (anecdotally) that it’s a bit more common for closer in age shidduchim to take place, but the typical shidduch still has a gap of several years, because for the most part, the roshei yeshiva to whom the bochurim listen are not pushing them to go out younger or to insist on a similar age for shidduchim.
OK, I missed that.
It didn’t seem that you were asking him to do anything, rather asking *if* he does something.
Also, asking him to read *every* ad in the newspapers and websites he reads is unreasonable. Hakaras hatov has its limitations. If someone gives me a ride I need to express my appreciation, and perhaps to do him a favor in return, but not to give him my house. The OP merely asked if it’s appropriate hakaras hatov to look (“pay attention to”) the ads, but not to read each and every one, as you asked.
I highly doubt that it was an advertising query which was ignored…
No… but it just makes sure the OP is consistent.
If it isn’t, is it anything more than ad hominem (pardon the pun)?
So talk about older vehicles.
do you also make sure to read every advertisement in the paper and in every magazine you read? Do you make sure to read every billboard and “this section of road cleaned by ….” sign on the highway? When you go to a store, do you feel the need to read every sign they have up on the walls advertising their wares?
That doesn’t address whether hakaras hatov applies in a situation where the intention wasn’t altruistic.
So talk about recent model vehicles – if deep down they know it’s true for all vehicles, maybe they’ll follow it for recent models.
Maybe if you tell them to follow protocol, they’ll read your post and follow it. If you post a random distinguishing factor (a small percentage of overall more deaths because of a much higher number in accidents involving pickups and SUV) anyone reading is unlikely to take you seriously.