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Hi WIY! (just liked the way that sounded)
I can think of at least 4 ways to say what you said to zahavasd in a more courteous, mentschlich manner.
Can you?
Ok, zahavasd, so I’ve heard.
And your point is???
Not a man, but just wondering, mommam, how you feel about wearing Tory Burch- very popular, trendy these days. The logo is not as clearly a cross as the Swiss Army logo, but it’s still a cross. I see it on so many people and I don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, but personally, it makes me uncomfortable. How about you?
Yes, yes, yes & no.
Curiosity, this is scarey.
I think I know you.
No, I know I know you.
I thought the Mods don’t let us describe ourselves with such precision so we preserve our anonymity.
But they let this one through…
Conspiracy, curiosity???
I see Toi is expecting an “equality shmooze.” So here’s my bit for the equality shmooze if and when it comes. Interesting to note, men have a tremendous yetzer hara pushing them not to learn Torah. Women’s yetzrei hara keep busy pushing them away from doing what they are supposed to do, Torah learning not on top of the list. Aside from learning halacha lemaaseh & maybe a little mussar, probably not on the list at all. So a woman actually trying to sit down and learn the Daf every day will have greater hasmada with less effort than her husband.
Lfum tzaara agra.
Sam2, for those of us not as knowledgeable as you are, care to elaborate?
BHTW got me really curious…
How come i never saw Goldenp’s name before?
Interesting.
So, for an encore, let me tell you all how I am Anastasia, last member of the Romanov dynasty.
Anybody here old enough to remember?
Hello!
This thread is really strange. Not sure I’m really getting it…
Do the mods know all our names??
And do they just randomly as they see fit post them?
Why don’t we just make a phone book thread and exchange info, phone numbers?
I thought there was some point to the anonymity.
Must be the humidity.
What’m i missing?
(For all you leitzanim out there, “Brains” would not be a nice answer. The Mods won’t allow. Or would they??)
Nope, mommam, i think it’s closed. But guess what?
-Now they’re Both closed!
Hope it had nothing to do with me.
But perhaps I flatter myself, it probably did not!
Miss a, this is not an answer from someone with massive amounts of knowledge and experience regarding Yeshivas in B’klyn, but from what I do know- Yeshiva Rabbayim here are overworked & their classrooms overcrowded. Unfortunately, most are not able to provide the kind of individualized attention you are implying your child needs. You will probably have an easier time getting your son accepted if you can offer to provide help for him yourself to bring him up to par with his peers; either by hiring a tutor (I know- great expense if you get someone good)or if he’s lucky enough to have a parent, grandparent, benevolent uncle, etc to help out. The Yeshiva staff might provide you with the name of a bachur who is able to help, but it won’t be free of charge in most cases.
It’s a pity that, as you wrote, smaller yeshivas, which sometimes seem attractive due to smaller classroom size, tend to provide much less education.
Good luck finding a place where you and your son will both be satisfied & happy. Hope it all works out!
Just something I’d love to have time for.
And don’t.
So at least it can be my name.
This is just a puzzled question about moderators, not a “what i would do if…” Seeing as how i have never been formally or informally welcomed here, not sure I’m permitted to even think of being an actual Mod. Anyway, here’s the Q:
I noticed we’re in the middle of posts on a thread about giving a wife the “sotah warning”. Ok. Everyone has different interests, different questions, who am i to criticize? But a day or two ago somebody posted a question regarding repairing a marriage after infidelity on the part of the other spouse. I didn’t post a reply right away; I’m not a therapist, and being married does not make me an expert on marriage, especially in areas where I lack experience. I did find it admirable that the opening poster was trying to repair an obviously problematic marriage, instead of, as has become so popular, disposing of the whole mess without even trying. By the time I got around to saying something to that effect, the thread was gone, closed, deleted, disappeared.
So that’s the Q – What makes one of the above posts interesting and worthy of comment, and the other unfavorable?
I await A.
dullrad, are you for real?
If so, my suggestion: get the Mods to put you in contact with apushatayid. The extra $5 he charges is well worth it. His bumper sticker is by far the BEST!!
Shehakol
hig-
Great poem!
Wise words? Not really…
This seems to be the dilemma of your generation.
Just make sure you’re doing what works to keep Your home, Your spouse, Your kids & Yourself content, calm, accomplishing & breathing.
Make sure you’re not chasing after some theoretical societal norm that doesn’t work in your own daled amos.
All you busy launderers-
How do you have time to post today?
Gotta run. The dryer buzzer just buzzed.
Again.
Welcome Goq, new Mod
Now we won’t need to wait long
You”ll post our posts fast
Wow dorafelder! You are one brave lady! You had the courage & good sense to say what needs to be said to singles- guys & girls, whatever age. The fact that you speak from experience makes it even more effective.
I wonder, months later, how many shidduchim have been made by that controversial group of people taking thousands of dollars in deposits to set up older girls. Anybody know if they are claiming success?
Putting you on the lecture circuit might be a lot more effective.
Interested?
And to HAPPY – wishing you much Hatzlacha!
It can’t hurt to take some advice from a nice lady like Dora; but know that ultimately it’s not in our hands & the yeshua can come unexpectedly any day. Hopefully soon!
RebRY, hechsherim are not my area of expertise, but i can help your wife out a little with baking. If she wants to make a rum cake & has no rum, she can substitute vodka, same amount as rum in the recipe, and a teaspoon (or a teaspoon and a half for stronger flavor) of good quality rum flavoring.
Those of us who have family members that survived the Holocaust have heard stories of people walking to their deaths, sure that they were about to greet Mashiach.
I agree with Sam2, we have to hope & wait, but it’s not up to us to predict when the Geulah will come. Certainly we have to avoid such discussions around children, who take things vey literally and can be disappointed (or Ch”v worse) when what they expected does not occur.
Pba, so i just found your post from 1 year ago.
LSHIC
Again!
RebRY- You wrote “my wife”!
You are a man?
Surprised to find you here, on sheitel thread.
Wisdom of the CR #7
Those off the Derech
Those attempting to stay on
All Hashem’s Children
Wisdom of the CR #6
Nine Days are coming
Do all your laundry Quickly
And use your towels
Wisdom of the CR #5
Correcting spelling
Grammar & punctuation
Makes MorahRach sad
Wisdom of the CR #4
Posters vie for prize
Who is posting most often?
Most influential?
Wisdom of the CR #3
Dating more than One
Makes many complications
Not good idea
Wisdom of the CR #2
Not commonly used
Serach Machla and Getzel
Are unusual names
Wisdom of the CR
Men! Hat to Minyan!
Must be a Borsalino
With a three inch brim
Thank you BaalSechel. That was truly written with sechel, and straightened out a faulty stream of crooked logic.
Sam2, democracy is not a Jewish concept.
Achrei Rabim LeHatos among a group of talmidei chachamim deciding Halaha or Din.
But the masses, the people, the “klal” are not always to be followed. They chose Shabtai Zvi!
I liked Haleivi’s idea.
Going out to buy a newspaper…
Mods did not delete
My humblest apologies
Misunderstanding
This is the first time
The mods deleted my post
Surprised! twas haiku
To CR:
Shidduchim laundry
Hair extensions and haiku
All in coffee room
To mods:
In the coffee room
Many posters sitting waiting
For mods to post posts
To moski:
Have a pleasant night
Hope you are not waiting up
To read more haiku
LSHIC (laughing so hard i’m crying), pba,
You should serialize this in Mishpacha!
Thanks pba!
That was the BEST story!
And did they all live happily ever after??
If, like getzel suggested, you can take the certificate to olam haemmes with you, do you think they can make one for the “wife-of-shas-completer” also? Lamma Nigarah?
Can’t say i know much about the topic at hand. (Lack of intelligence?)
But after reading, or trying to get through some of the posts, one thing becomes clear to me: Not convinced one way or the other about how intelligent your average lady is, but women DEFINITELY have 9 kavim of speech.
As opposed to, for instance, poppa bar abba & MCP (are you both men?) who can sum up the results of all their research in one concise sentence.
far east, What?? “If your frum lifestyle is not fulfilling then you shouldnt be doing it.” !!?? A Rabbi told you this?!
Not sure what you mean by frum, but if you are referring to Mitzvah observance- putting on tefillin, saying Shma, bentshing after you eat, honoring your parents, teaching your children Torah, the list goes on- 613 long to be precise- then you are 100% wrong.
You were put on this earth to serve your Creator; not to find fulfillment, find happiness, or find a good shidduch. Your Creator has provided you with a detailed guide of how exactly to serve him. You, being a fallible mortal, and not an angel with no yetzer harah, may encounter many difficulties on this path, and may find you have to work hard to accomplish your goal. You will ultimately be judged by the One who made the rules, so you don’t need to worry about what anyone else has to say about your progress or lack thereof. You were not put here to suffer, but you will receive your ultimate reward in the next World. If things seem rough around here that doesn’t excuse you from continuing to strive for perfection, even if you (like almost everybody else who ever tried) never reach it.
A private seder. With my own family.
Can’t either imagine not being in my own dining room at the seder, but if i had to, i’d want it to be as much like home as possible, but without having to clean up afterwards.
Definitely they’d have to make room for me and my kids (grand included) in the kitchen Erev Pesach, and lend me a vaccum cleaner for half an hour, and a nice place outdoors for the chametz burning, or we’d be wandering around lost & disoriented wondering what to do with ourselves.
At least 2 pools and spas and tennis courts & hang gliding & spelunking & sailing for chol hamoed. And a petting zoo with exotic baby animals for the little guys. And a golf course of course!
Just wanted to add, y316, i don’t think you had anything to do with bringing out negativity in anyone. Any more than you had anything to do with the 500 empty calories i chose to consume while reading your post. Some people just see negative wherever they look. Especially, i’ve noticed, when the discussion has anything to do with any aspect of our religion; from a man wearing a colored shirt (not really an aspect of our religion as in the Torah & Halacha, but in people’s minds, apparently very closely tied with Judaism) to a married woman wearing a wig (yes, really an aspect of our religion, at least as far a covering her hair goes. Now stick around & wait for people to get upset I said that).
So here’s another question: Does all this negativity turn our youngsters off the whole idea of being an observant Jew?
And is all this negativity a waste of our energies?
Or is it a good thing to burn off some energy so maybe i should stop complaining & join the fun?
Yes, thank you y316, very helpful!
I agree with Be Happy, find something to give you sipuk (with a Kooff), which is fulfillment or satisfaction. Find a job or volunteer at something that makes you feel accomplished.
If your teachers taught you that everything you’re studying is to get you into a better seminary or to get a better shidduch, please file that away in an old thread the CR had about erroneous information teachers pass on to their unsuspecting students, and then forget about it! It would seem from what Shlomo Hamelech wrote in Kohelet, that he was not satisfied with pursuing scientific knowledge just for the sake of knowledge, and found it futile and useless. The only productive thing we can do, he concludes, is put our efforts into fear of H-m, and keeping the Mitzvot.
Don’t worry about what seminary you get into. Find something to do that will keep you happy, and hopefully build you as a person. And that’s a good way to set yourself up for shidduchim too!
Yeshivish316- I was very interested in hearing your opinion on issues that you have personal experience with. Agreed, one personal experience does not equal a scientific study, but it can certainly shed some light on an issue. I posted some questions for you a lot of posts back, but i noticed you skipped right over them.
So here’s another question for you- maybe you”ll answer this one-
How do you feel about what the discussion you started, degenerated into?
Only on the CR could you have someone named Itche Srulik in an adafina dicussion.
If you want to be creative & carry the thought further, can you say (with apologies to Country Yossi) that the CR will make Mashiach come?
Tirtza- Check (mainly sephardic, at least the ones i know)
Machla- Check (mainly chassidic, at least the ones i know)
Serach- Check (yes, i know more than 1!)
Choglah??
Anyone out there ever hear of anyone with that name?
Ok, ilc, here’s my recipe. A bit cumbersome, not one of those “throw it all in a pot” recipes, but great success rate:
1) Saute 1 diced onion, 4-6 cloves garlic in 1 Tablsp oil, low flame, 10-20 minutes
2) Simmer 3/4 cup white rice in water with small pinch salt, 10-15 minutes. Strain, rinse with cold water
3) Simmer 1&1/4 cups brown rice as above, 25-30 minutes. Rinse, strain.
-Combine 1), 2), & 3), in crockpot
-Add 8 oz tomato sauce (I also put in 2-3 Tablsp ketchup, omit if you wish) and whatever meat or meat bones you like.
-Add your own spices, salt, bouillon cubes, seasonings, to your family’s taste.
-Cover with boiling water. Water should cover ingredients, but not go above them.
-Bring to a light simmer- in my crockpot i keep on high for a little while, then when contents simmering, switch to low; you”ll have to find the right settings on your own crockpot
-“purists” may dispense with tomato sauce all together and use only water
-Notice i do Not suggest which spices, but anything goes, from cumin to chili powder to turmeric to paprika to allspice (1/4 teasp of that is perfect to me)to whatever your family will enjoy
You might like 1/2 Tablesp brown sugar or honey. I do not.
According to my lor- put up at least 1 hour before zman, prefer more, so you are not going into Shabbat with raw meat/ food cooking. According to me- this is a great idea because it allows the last, essential step:
-Before candle lighting, have at least 2 family members taste & make suggestions re seasoning. Check if you need to add a bit of water.
(If family members suggest strange things like beer & coke, please inform them this is Not cholent, and your kitchen is not a dorm room.)
I used to have a neighbour who made a delicious Sephardic dish that involved chicken wings, dried apricots, ketchup, cinnamon, various mysterious ingredients & a crockpot. If anyone knows what I’m talking about, please post recipe.