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  • in reply to: Is it Mutar to celebrate Thanksgiving?!?!?!?!?!?! #1630029

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    CTL,
    Why would we want to doubt that DY was looking for turkey at your supermarket?
    Are we presuming to know where DY shops?
    Or is above supermarket so exclusive that it’s beyond imagining any CR member (aside from you) shops there?
    Or is it possible you want to entirely dismiss the possibility that Family DY eats turkey?
    Confused.

    in reply to: I miss my mom. #1595648

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    That’s so hard Lightb.
    Nothing and nobody can take the place of a mother.
    Hope your Yom Tov is full of joy wherever you are!

    in reply to: Light Bulb Jokes #1580830

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    Worth coming to visit for this thread!
    Thanks All!

    in reply to: Hi. Everyone. Do you guys remember me? #1556287

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    Hi alwaysrunswithscissorsfast!
    Nice of you to stop by.
    Of course I haven’t forgotten you!
    How are you?
    Remember me?

    in reply to: Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue – Discuss #1547694

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    In Publicity Stunt, Orthodox Rabbi Takes Job at LGBT Synagogue

    Why would anyone want to discuss?
    Only fools pay attention to publicity stunts.
    At their peril, I might add.

    in reply to: What does it say if the Umos haolom like our music? #1547685

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    Our own music can be very beautiful to the extent that others may appreciate it.
    This doesn’t necessarily have to have negative connotations.
    I knew a survivor from a town in Eastern Europe who told me about neighbors with a large family who had exceptional voices. On Friday nights “umos haolam” (as OP refers to them) could be seen standing beneath the windows of that home listening to the zemiros.

    in reply to: Is there any food better than an excellent potato kugel? #1524000

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    Changed my mind (see above).
    Cheesecake.

    in reply to: Chilul Hashem #1497957

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    Thank you Syag, you are so kind!
    We’re not such a big family. Would be great if we could feast together this Pesach!
    I can smell the roasting lamb already…

    in reply to: Chilul Hashem #1497947

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    The CR is a contentious place
    Where you may get insulted to your face
    We debate Minhagim and Halachos
    From mesora we find in our own mishpachos
    Eli Y tries to stop the blaming
    To get us past insults and shaming
    Is his name a pseudonym
    For one whose name is changed at every whim?
    Or is he trying to end our churban
    So we can finally eat the Pesach Korban?

    in reply to: Where it says that there is a jiyub to put on Tfillin every day? #1497856

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    I have seen the eight letter of the aleph bais spelled “ch”, “kh” and just plain “h” (h is a slightly better fit for the Sephardi pronunciation).
    From which country is a person who writes it with a “j”? Mexico?

    in reply to: Is there any food better than an excellent potato kugel? #1496241

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    No.

    in reply to: Making a Barocho on a Blossoming Tree in Nissan #1494941

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    Lightbrite, the blessing is made when you see the blossoms. A tree with fruit or after the fruit is harvested doesn’t fit the bill. It’s questionable if the closed flower buds are good, better if you can see the petals of an open blossom.
    I have no idea how the blossom of the coconut palm looks. Maybe they’re too high up to notice? All fruits start with a blossom but some are small and insignificant, and some are showy. Some flowering trees that are covered with blossoms in the spring don’t bear edible fruit. The Bracha must be made on the flowers of a tree that bears fruit, like apple, cherry, peach, plum, quince, citrus.
    If you’re in the Northern hemisphere I’m sure your search will produce results soon. Let us know what you found!
    By the way, this Bracha is made only once a year, every spring, preferably Nisan if that works where you are.

    in reply to: Making a Barocho on a Blossoming Tree in Nissan #1494236

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    The question is: Are we told to make the bracha in Nisan because that’s when the trees (generally) blossom, or is there a particular preference or obligation to make the bracha only in Nisan?
    In most of the Northeastern US fruit trees blossom in Nisan. Even in an “early” year (like this year) by the last few days of Nisan it should have warmed up enough for the earliest blossoms to unfurl.
    The question comes up in Eretz Israel where there are fruit bearing trees like almonds that bloom before Nisan, and in colder climates (or cold springs) where nothing blooms until Iyar.
    Do you make the bracha early (Shvat, Adar) if you see a fruit tree blooming or is there a reason to wait until Nisan?
    Did you miss your chance to make the bracha if Nisan ends and no blossoms opened yet, or can you make the bracha in Iyar?
    What about the Southern Hemisphere where the seasons are all mixed up? (Hint: there are all kinds of shaylos that come up there, and there are different paths in Halacha followed in different places, Argentina, South Africa, Australia, etc according to the poskim who determined Halacha in each place.)
    I’m not going to offer any answers. If I tell you all what my understanding is I just know the complaints will appear like blossoms on a plum tree in Nisan.

    in reply to: Eating Gebroks on Pesach #1492044

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    Back again.
    Apologies to the person whose post is now directly under the one from Neville that I was responding to.
    The post that made me so uncomfortable seems to have disappeared. (deleted by mods? the poster himself?)
    I don’t wish to comment on any other posts here.
    Wishing all of you a wonderful Pesach!

    in reply to: Eating Gebroks on Pesach #1492017

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    NevilleCB:

    Thank you for explaining!
    Far be it from me to suggest being mevatel an established minhag.
    Minhag CR or not though, some statements here, such as the one directly under yours from someone whose screen name would like to indicate that he’s far more learned than is obviously apparent, do not sit well with me. At all.

    in reply to: Eating Gebroks on Pesach #1491886

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    Why are we debating the validity of our own and other people’s Minhagim?
    “Who are we to place our heads between giant mountains lest our skulls be crushed?”
    Those are not my own words and the original connection is not to Minhagei Pesach but I feel they belong here.
    Wishing all a beautiful Yom Tov!

    (For anyone curious, those whose minhag it is not to eat Mazah shruya and eat it on Achron shel Pesach, do cook their kneidlach on Erev Shabbos / Shvi’i shel Pesach as it comes out this year -of course provided they made an Eruv Tavshilin. This statement, as noted, was for those who are curious, not for those who need to know lema’aseh what to do, in which case my words hold no authority.)

    in reply to: Proposal spectacles #1476653

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    I was totally sure this thread was going to be about a new type of shmiras einayim device to be used when proposing.
    Pity nobody thought of that yet.
    It’s a great idea! If anyone is interested in reaching out to a manufacturer in the Far East I’ll be happy to cheer for them on biztank or shark tank or wherever young entrepreneurs go these days.
    It should be a smashing success as every few month the freezer opens up a whole new crowd of eager customers. Just hang up a few kol korei’s insisting you can’t propose without these and the rest will be history before you can pull the petals off a dozen roses.

    in reply to: PANDAS #1460458

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    WinnieTP, I’m surprised I’m back here. I avoid posting on threads where I have nothing sensible to offer and I know very little about PANDAS. I’m not a pediatrician and my medical expertise consists solely of attending to the needs to a few children who were entrusted into my care.
    I’m back because I was skimming and noticed this –
    You are “quite offended” that Health called you a hypochondriac.
    “Quite” ?!?
    I for one am deeply offended. Appalled in fact.
    Are the Mods out to lunch? Or simply unable to keep up with all the long copy and paste’s?
    Why a person who has never offered any valid credentials is allowed to advise others on serious medical matters is beyond me. When that person begins insulting other posters I think it’s time for the Mods to step in.
    I hope you’re successful in treating your child, WinnieTP. May HKBH send you the right shaliach and a Refuah Shleima!

    in reply to: PANDAS #1457890

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    Wishing your son Refuah Shleima!
    I hope your situation improves quickly!
    I’m sorry WinnieTP I have no personal experience and I’m not a doctor so I have no advice to offer.
    I do know people have had good results after being treated by the md in BP that you are probably in contact with.
    (I’m not in favor of Health’s advice. I know you’re in contact with educated experienced professionals so I don’t want to bother you with my opinions which are based more on anecdotal evidence. I have wondered in the past if Health has ever shared what his/her credentials are. )

    in reply to: How Long ??? #1422601

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    Refuah Shleima!

    in reply to: wine spilling everywhere #1421573

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    Thank you, iacisrmma.
    Appreciate, even if it’s a bit late.

    in reply to: Where can Antartican Jews escape if there is an emergency? #1419196

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    Akuperma, you are correct, but they sure do look cute don’t they?

    in reply to: Rabbi Aharon Lopiansky on Modern Othodox/Dati vs. Chareidi #1419193

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    Zdad, I have to admit that I can’t be sure what Rav Lopiansky’s motivation was in writing the article, nor can you. My feeling was that his goal was not to embark on a witch hunt, and also not to be mekarev rechokim. The article was not written to persuade lost souls to rejoin B’nei Torah in Avodas Hashem. It appears that the article was meant to define chareidi practice of Yiddishkeit and the role of a Yeshiva education in this practice. And in this, at least to me, it seems he succeeded.

    in reply to: The Five Thousand Dollar Dress #1404033

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    Lilmod, I’m sorry I seemed to imply that being married was a prerequisite for answering my question.
    I actually Loved your comment!
    Looks like a marriage license is not an indicator of superior brain function, good writing skills, or a great sense of humor. You showed me!….

    in reply to: A letter to the OU #1403538

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    So I think you’re telling me, Zdad, that I shouldn’t be so sure of my value to the corporations because the activists are a large influential group as well.
    You may be right. In a confrontation between the two groups I’m not sure either which side will be more powerful.
    There has to be a point though where the OU, or any purported orthodox organization, stands up for clear non-negotiable Torah commandments. Otherwise what exactly does orthodox mean?

    in reply to: A letter to the OU #1403192

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    I’m not sure you’re right zdad.
    Those companies want my business. It’s not always politics over principles but it is just about always bottom line over principles. The kosher consumer (who as I’m sure you know is not just the stereotypical guy in the black hat shuckling next to you at shachris) is of value to these large corporations. It’s always nice to try for negotiations and arbitration. At some point you just say No.

    in reply to: A letter to the OU #1402592

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    Nobody wants to admit falling numbers?
    Organizational professionals only interested in preserving their jobs?
    The above may very well be true. What we’re saying is politics over principles, correct? That’s fine with me- I’m not on the board so I don’t get to decide.
    Until I realize this is the organization certifying many of the products in my pantry. Probably most of your pantries as well. Even many of the “better” hashgachos use raw materials (spices, starches and the like) in their products that are OU certified.
    Very disturbing.

    in reply to: The Five Thousand Dollar Dress #1402434

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    Sorry to have missed it- I see you asked me a question, Joseph.
    I would not want my husband to offer me a bribe for complying with a request. When my husband has an issue with something I do (sleeve length has never been a problem, but other things I do have on occasion made him unhappy) then I prefer that he tell me what I’m doing that he finds unpleasant, what the reason is, and what I can do to change so he’ll feel more comfortable.
    I do enjoy receiving gifts (significant and other) from my husband, but not as an incentive to have me change my behavior. We’re building a home here, not running a circus.

    in reply to: The Five Thousand Dollar Dress #1402431

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    Thanks for asking your wife, Joseph.
    And thanks for answering my question, Syag.

    in reply to: Natural-Hair Sheitels Are Assur #1402430

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    I see. So apparently the gentlemen hear discussing vital issues such as sheitels consider this part of their learning, like learning halacha. I wonder if any of them are putting out shu”t sefarim. I’ll look for them in my local Judaica store.

    in reply to: The Five Thousand Dollar Dress #1402414

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    Correct me if I’m wrong Joseph, but I think you are a man.
    If you’re blessed with a wife, maybe you’d like to ask her.

    in reply to: Natural-Hair Sheitels Are Assur #1402395

    golfer
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    Fascinated by a 5 page thread largely populated by men, discussing the woman’s obligation of kissui rosh.
    Syag, perhaps you’d care to open a thread about the inyan of bittul zman?

    in reply to: The Five Thousand Dollar Dress #1402389

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    “Look my dear Chanaleh, I want to make a deal with you. If you’ll take this dress that you have, and sew on a little more cloth on the sleeves, or make the neckline a little higher, I’m going to buy you a diamond ring.”

    I would be very offended if dh spoke to me that way.
    Am I the only married woman who feels that way?
    Syag, are you around? anybody?
    I do seem to remember something about a husband having an obligation to be very niz’har in the kavod of his wife. The quoted doesn’t seem to follow that advice.

    in reply to: Dessert Lies #1400351

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    Apple crumble?


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    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, Mr & Mrs CTL.

    Is it possible there is still a copy of a kesubah?
    I would use the name that’s on the kesubah.
    In the absence of a kesubah, is there anyone who can remember one of the husbands of the nifteres giving her name for a mi shebeirach in shul?

    in reply to: New York city brown garbage cans #1386965

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    Food scraps?
    In garbage cans?
    That will be emptied once a week, maybe, if they have no reason to cancel pick up such as DeWitt Clinton’s birthday (nidche), in which case they’ll come back next Wednesday, or to be more precise on the next Wednesday (or Friday) when the moon is in its first quarter, for a total of at least 2.3 collections in any 6 month period (if it’s not a leap year, in which case 2.1)?
    In one word-
    Rats.

    in reply to: Apple Throwing Tisch……………………I don’t get it #1382578

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    True, CT, you kept the tone courteous.
    If you’re still interested, and you make further inquiries outside CR, and you get some info that sheds light on these apples, please come back here and share.
    Meanwhile we hunker down, take out the down quilts, and get ready for the snowball throwing that comes next on the calendar. (- never heard of a snowball throwing rebbe, but you never know what esoteric concepts can be hiding inside those individually shaped and frozen pristine white flakes…)

    in reply to: Apple Throwing Tisch……………………I don’t get it #1381737

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    Jos, to answer your final question first, you may not criticize or disparage, but whether you may express discomfort- I suppose that would depend on the source of your discomfort and how valid you feel it is, vis a vis the validity and discernible mekoros of the minhag in question (in your case chavitas arava).
    I’m not going to elaborate on my discomfort here to avoid saying anything that might be misconstrued as critical or disparaging.
    V’dai lechakima…

    in reply to: Are their chickens in Humash? #1381520

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    No

    in reply to: Apple Throwing Tisch……………………I don’t get it #1381515

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    Zdad, shrayim are different.
    The food that the Rebbe eats from on Shabbos Kodesh attains a level of holiness, and the Rebbe, often with his hand and not a keili, distributes small portions of his leftovers or “shrayim” to his Chassidim. Most if not all Chassidish Rebbes have a “tish” Friday night where they speak, sing, and give shrayim.
    The apple throwing Minhag is not as prevalent and the apples are not shrayim.

    in reply to: Apple Throwing Tisch……………………I don’t get it #1381307

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    Non-misnaged here, CTL.
    The apple throwing I’ve seen left me feeling very uncomfortable.
    I never got an explanation that made me feel better.
    I deal with it now by averting my eyes and never watching those videos.

    in reply to: Changing your mind #1380863

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    I have changed my mind based on real life discussions with people, but I’m too stubborn, and too wary of strangers on the internet, to change my mind based on a yeshivaworld discussion.

    in reply to: Using Baby name Sivan help #1379943

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    Skyz, asking your rabbi is a great idea.
    You can’t believe everything (or most of) the information you find on the internet.
    A case in point:
    – the erroneous information you received on “a baby website”.
    If you accept that the Bible refers to Torah, Nevi’im and Kesuvim, or Tana”ch, then this is incorrect. (There are other books that non-Jews refer to as bible but those books are of no interest or concern when naming a baby with a holy Neshama.)
    The word Sivan appears in Megillas Esther referring to a month in the calendar.
    There is no connection between Sivan and bush or thorn.
    (I’m trying to guess what word beginning with an S they might have confused with Sivan. Maybe “sneh”?)

    in reply to: Using Baby name Sivan help #1379755

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    Sivan is a pretty girl’s name referring to a month in late spring. I guess that would make it similar to the name June. And just like we don’t name our kids November or March, we don’t name them Elul or Tishrei, though Nissan is a commonly accepted boys’ name. You better speak to your Rav, as some are not comfortable with using newfangled modern innovative names that have no Mesorah, and Sivan is not a name that’s been around for long. Many feel that the name has an effect on the neshama of the person so you want to be sure you’re making a good choice.

    in reply to: Crendenza! #1379743

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    Mr CTL,

    A silver filled credenza
    Is a sign of affluenza
    But a chesterfield is for one whose birth
    Occurred when dinosaurs roamed the earth

    in reply to: Is decorating the succah the mans job or women’s? #1378291

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    Job?
    Decorating the sukkah is the honor and privilege of the man, the woman, and the children.
    (Which is why I’m not posting much.)

    in reply to: Why don’t shadchanim get paid as much as psychologists? #1365362

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    Why don’t psychologists get paid as much as major league pitchers?

    in reply to: New Kol Koreh: most sheitel hair come from Indian temples of Avodah Zarah. #1365158

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    Meno, that’s amazing.
    When are you open for customers?
    Do I need a passport?
    Await reply.

    in reply to: Simanim on Rosh Hashana #1365262

    golfer
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    Yid18, I never heard of French speaking people eating bananas.
    Thanks for sharing.
    Bonne annee!

    in reply to: Are out of town communities less judgemental or is that just a mindset #1365130

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    Like a lot of people here, I’ve spent some time OOT and in NY (or wherever “in town” is).
    There are all kinds of OOT communities, and all kinds of communities in town.
    I’ve met some seriously not nice people all over- out of town, in town, and all around variations of the above, though most people I’ve met in all of the above are good kind people.
    I avoid making my own judgment about which people are judgmental, because I can’t ever really know what’s going on inside their heads or what judgments they’re making at any given moment.
    I think the only judgment we need to worry about this week (and if we’re going to be honest with ourselves, all the other weeks of the year too) is not the judgment of people, wherever they happen to live.

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