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The little I know -“I have heard some proclaim that Rav Moshe Feinstein ZT”L was matir smoking. That is a complete fabrication. If questioned, I will provide proof otherwise.”
I’m totally against smoking. As a medical prof. -I’ve seen the devastating results of smoking.
I haven’t seen the Teshuva in awhile but the way I remember it is like this -It’s Ossur to start because of Gaiva, but you can continue, once addicted, because of Hakol Doshin Bo -so there is no problem of V’neshmartem.
Am I correct? This is what all the smokers rely on.
Even if he held Mutter, I hold nowadays he would say Ossur because at that time noone knew about second-hand smoke. How could it be Mutter because it’s next to impossible to smoke without someone – somewhere breathing it in? Even if there is a Heter to hurt yourself, how could there be a Heter to Mazik s/o else?!?!?
The Goq -“Or for that matter Health if you never get married.”
I’m not sure if it was you, but did you say you’re not married because you can’t have kids? I know of two people (males) who couldn’t have kids but got married anyway. One married a divorcee with kids. The other, I’m not sure of the story because he is just an acquaintance.
A person should Never Ever give up on getting married!
BTGuy -“May you continue to grow even bigger as a talmud chacham, and may you and those close to you have a healthy, happy, and long life of 120, and may you continue to do well and grow in your profession.”
Thanks.
“And may you have more patience with the rest of us.”
longarekel -“I second BT’s Bracha. Especially the last line.”
The only “patience” I want to have is this one -“patients”! 🙂
cshapiro -“because i dont need someone 6 hours a day 7 days a week i am finding it very difficult to find anyone who would want to come for 2 or so hours…i dont mind paying more but i dont need someone for 6 hours…”
I just got a brainstorm. Hire s/o for a whole day -pay for a whole day and only take her for two hours a day. I’ll take her for the other four hours during the day. Problem solved.
BTGuy -“Calm down.”
I am calm. Your posts to me -don’t upset me the least.
“Your loss of footing and back peddling is very transparent, so save the coverups.”
As far as I know -I haven’t covered anything up, nor have I lost my footing or done any back peddling.
“Sadly, your “points” are set ups for anger and hate.”
I see nothing in my posts that would cause even a guy on the edge to get angry & start hating me.
“I see tremendous flaws in a lot of what you say and thought you would not mind a two-way conversation, especially since you are very energized and happy to “correct” others.”
Of course you do -that’s why I posted what I did to you above. I have no problem having a two-way convo -if it goes like this -My opinion differs because of so & so; not when it goes -prove it you’re wrong.
“The bitterness and seeming vengeance is so far outside the scope of the conversation, that I wonder if you are not classified with some sort of temperament issue. I will go easier to not offend you if that is the case.
I will try to embrace that realize there may be a good
reason you are WAY more sensitive to getting criticism
than you are to giving it out.”
It’s time you start looking in the mirror. Did you ever hear of the saying -Kol Hapoisel B’momo Posel?
My response to posts are based on the post, not on the SN beside them!
I come here and post my opinions -if you want a reply you have to explain your opposition. I’m not going to respond to “prove it or who said so?”
yentingyenta -“she ended up using a vein abt 1” distal and medial to the AC. she ended up there cuz wanted to run fluids fast.
re the AC, i hear its used mostly in the ER cuz its quick and big but hosp policy by us is change it w/ in 24 hrs for a dif site. i dont like the AC cuz its iffy with positioning and flexion of the elbo”
This is what I was talking about. She could have first tried elsewhere because of this policy.
“at the end of the day, if they get it in one stick, does it really matter what they use? if the tech is more competent with one over the other, i say let them use what they want! make sense?”
Competence is Not defined if you get the blood on the first try. To be competent is to know what you’re doing. So you have to know – how to use all equipment, not just a butterfly. Do you think I got every eldery pt. on the first try? No, I haven’t, but I’m still competent. That’s why I say -I can tell incompetence if the first thing they pull out is the butterfly for a draw. There is a place for butterflies and for all equipment, but unless it will be a difficult stick -there is no reason to use one.
As far as all these incompetent personell having jobs -I don’t believe they should hire anyone or e/o just because they have some piece of paper with some sort of license or degree on it.
This is true whether they are volunteers or paid professionals.
No One Mourns The Wicked – “Interesting, that’s exactly what my therapist at the time told me. That’s exactly what it felt like. Something inside me died along with the relationship.”
And if this is the case in your situation can you imagine how much more it is when your child dies and/or you get divorced?
BTGuy -“Hi Health.
It is very misleading to make a statement that all medicines are natural. And it is exploitive to bend the term in this context just to prove a point.”
Mr. BT – Wrong guy. Next time you read a post -look at who wrote it.
Since you were Choshet B’keshayrim -you can give me a Brocha now.
abcd2 -I agree with you -that it’s not PC. But why must she be PC here? She isn’t posting on APP.
And another thing, a lot of my posts have been deleted because they weren’t PC. Why does YWN require PC -this site isn’t for the general public, even though anybody can come here?
We Americans are sadly losing (or lost) our freedom of speech -there are very few places in the media that still allow non-PC comments.
And yes, even racist, hateful speech is considered lawful under the Freedom of Speech article!
s2021 -“Health- Nah I think I really do cuz the 2 times I got blood drawn since then everyone in the office had to come and try to get the needle in good. They all kept poking through or something.”
S2021 -Naaah, I don’t think sooooo. I know you are not an infant and I don’t think you’re an old gal, but are you chronically ill?
If not, then those people are incompetent.
yentingyenta -“sorry health. disagree again.”
This ain’t no Chiddush when it comes to me.
“even after the tourniquet, and dangling my arm and having my arm slapped, it still takes a good tech to get it in one shot. my veins don’t pop out and can only be found if the tech is good with feeling for veins ONLY. no visible veins even at the AC area.”
Competence is being able to feel for veins; anybody can just see a vein if it’s visible -this doesn’t mean they are competent.
“i needed an IV recently and the nurse-who works peds-also had a hard time finding a vein to use”
In this case, it’s hard to judge because some practioners don’t want to start the IV in the AC -so she/he might have been fishing around awhile before they got it. She/he might know how to find a vein, but they were being particular for whatever reason.
“and BTW i prefer if the tech uses the butterfly. their hand is steadier going in.”
The reason that their hand is steadier is either they never learnt with a needle & vacutainer holder or they are incompetent with the needle & vacutainer holder.
BTGuy -“Hi Health.
Really?
Speaking of false and true. How did you determine “a lot” of divorced women dont want to remarry.”
Just a piece of advice -if you want to be able to get married -don’t always look for an argument or a fight. These are my opinions, just like e/o else here -they are stating their opinions. Do you know the difference between opinion & fact?
“Also, how did you determine “a lot” of older girls wont go out with divorced guys.
Specifically, how many do you know that drove you to conclude ‘a lot” versus, say “a few”?
Being that you are a person of science, I hope you have genuine data and did not call out someone’s view for being false based on a hunch, similar to what you would feel if you believe you picked the correct, winning lottery numbers.
How many is a lot, and how did you come to hear their opinions on the matter?”
Just for your info, my opinion is based on my own personal observations, not from any statistical analysis that I have done.
But, I think you know this, but for some reason you like to argue with me. You also know that e/o else’s opinion here is also not based on any statistics. So there is no right and wrong, just opinions!
And btw, when I post something that I consider as fact -I say so.
This is usually when I post something regarding (medical) science!
yankdownunder -“I asked this question before, but have not gotten an answer. Any Poster that went to Medical School how many Course hours in Diet and Nutrition did you study?”
Your question makes zero sense. A regular doctor should now study the same as Naturopaths? They aren’t becoming Naturopaths. A lot of medical books are now including chapters on Alternative medicine, but the students aren’t tested on these. They are there for those who want to know more. Just like most of medicine -you have to learn on your own.
And btw, conventional medicine has people who study diet & nutrition, just they don’t become medical doctors – they become nutritionists (RD’s).
longarekel -“Health: I am not in regular medicine or part of the greater scientific community, so I can’t be bemumo posel.”
Sure you can; anybody can be arrogant & ignorant!
“My point was that those who are, will often point out the superiority of conventional medicine, and not take kindly to those who promote alternative methods. You have helped prove that point.”
Yes, conventional medicine is superior and I don’t take kindly to those who only promote alternative medicine.
But that wasn’t your point above I’ll quote it:
“There is a concerted effort among ‘regular’ medical practitioners to stifle the growth of natural medicine, for obvious reasons.”
This point you never proved and as matter of fact -I hold of some alternative medicine.
Your posts are typical of most Health-Nuts – lots of double talk -no facts. Why is it that you Health-nuts can only follow alternative medicine and not conventional medicine? Why is it that you hate regular medicine & those that practice it?
longarekel -“Health: Thank you. Since you are trained in regular medicine, you have proven my point.”
And which point is that? How about reading the post before you reply?
And thank you for proving my point of -Kol Haposel B’momo Poisel!
s2021 -“Thats when I first discovered I have tiny veins.”
Yenta -“The person doing it pricked me tons till they found a vein. Ps I have small veins”
As a former vampire (Phlebotomist -I wear quite a few hats in medicine), that’s the line the incompetent techs use -“Oh, you have small veins.” Noone has poor veins unless they are elderly, babies and/or chronically ill.
Some are just too lazy to look for a good vein and some don’t know how to look. When I look at others who draw blood -the first thing I look for is what they grab for the draw -if they go for the butterfly, more often than not, they don’t know what they are doing!
longarekel -“dd: it is my experience that ‘regular’ medical doctors are always the ones bashing alternative medicine.”
This is where you discredit yourself.
“They think that they know everything there is to know about medicine. It is simply arrogance and ignorance typically found among the scientific community who think they know it all.”
And this is where -Kol Haposel B’momo Poisel!
“Alternative medicine has its merits and I think it is becoming more and more widespread.”
This I agree with, sometimes.
“There is a concerted effort among ‘regular’ medical practitioners to stifle the growth of natural medicine, for obvious reasons.”
This is another obvious lie.
I’m trained in regular medicine and I’m not against alternative medicine, some of the time.
People trained in medicine 20 -30 years ago were told back then not to believe in any alternative medicine, but this isn’t the case nowadays.
But what I’ve found is that people who only believe in alternative medicine (Health-nuts) are against regular medicine, no matter what. They will only use alternative medicine -sometimes endangering themselves or their family. And then when nothing they try works they come rushing to the hospital.
Sometimes they come too late and then they say -“You see regular medicine doesn’t work -it couldn’t save my family member!”
postal -“It seems divorced women have a poorer remarriage prospect than divorced guys.”
Basically your theory is that divorced women have a smaller pool than divorced men.
Well I think that your theory is false. A lot of divorced women don’t want to ever remarry or at least till their kids are grown.
A lot of older girls won’t go out with divorced guys, even though some will.
So either the pools are about equal or there are more divorced men than divorced women looking to remarry!
sushe -“How can a S”A not be literal??”
Look it up. One Pshat in the Gemorah explains it like this:
The case is not a woman who burns the supper and takes the burnt food for herself and makes the husband a new portion; nor is it – if she burns the supper and she takes the burnt meal for herself and also serves her husband a burnt meal; but the case is – she burns the supper -this she serves to her husband and she makes herself -only herself, a new portion. For acting like this -you can divorce her.
I’ll try again. How about making a gathering that discusses molestation?
sushe -“So if the Kehilla’s minhag hamokem was to have more than one wife, when they move from Morocco or Iran to Israel or the U.S., their minhag hamokem stays the same it always was, even if their new countries goyim do differently.”
Let me rephrase my post. If the couple moves from an arab country, then you’d be correct -he would not need permission to add another wife. If he gets married in England, US or Israel, then what I said above would apply, even if he is a Sefardi.
And btw, it just happens the Jews Minhag is what the Goyim do. In Iran the Goyim have more than one wife -so the Yidden do to, etc. in every country you look at.
“Also, what makes you opine that if she burns his food isn’t the halacha we pasken on (not considering the cherem, if we assume not everyone was mekabel the cherem)?”
You misunderstood. That Halacha is brought down in S’A for e/o.
Just that (Most?) Meforshim don’t learn that it means literally.
gabi -“But Sefardim don’t have that tool since they don’t need it (they can remarry without it)?”
Exactly -Sefardim don’t need a Heter Meah to remarry – if the wife refuses the Get.
News Flash -If people here would spend less time on the Net and more time learning S’A -they would also know there are times when Ashkenazim can get remarried without a Get or a Heter Meah!
avhaben -“So, can a Sephardi divorce his wife if she burns his dinner, as ikur halacha allows?”
This has nothing to do with Sefardim -the Gemorah says anyone.
And there are a few Pshotim what this means. I don’t think we Pasken acc. to the literal meaning.
sushe -“The only reason you still don’t hear about it too much today is because they don’t want to go to jail from the goyish (or in the case of Israel, the Zionist) authorities. They have no problem religiously having more than one wife.”
This is your mistake. I pretty sure the Gemorah Assurs marrying more than one wife in a place where it is not the Minhag HaMokom. So in the arab countries – the Sefardim can have more than one wife. In countries like England they can’t. The question would be in the US and Israel.
Israel, if you don’t hold of the Medina, so they would have the Din of the arab countries around them. If you hold of the Medina -then you can’t marry two wives because it’s not the Minhag. The US is a fairly new country, but it’s probably Assur here because they might be considered going after England’s Minhag.
Wolf -“(although I was, at one point, an EMT).”
We all were Empty at one point and then some of us filled up with knowledge.
cshapiro – Unless you want him telling you who you should be friends with -don’t do it to him. You can just have nothing to do with them. He can go to his friend whenever he wants, just you won’t go. You don’t have to have them over either.
Whatever you do to his friend – expect he will do to your friends.
Marriage is Not one spouse controling the other!
No One Mourns The Wicked -Your post reminds me of all these parents who coming running to the doc if a kid holds their breath or spoil their child- lest the kid holds their breath.
Wake up -you can’t die by holding your own breath. You might pass out, but then you start to breathe again. Don’t fall for this manipulation.
avhaben -“This argument is going nowhere. Those who believe the Torah commands us to hate this meshumedes rasha DF, will not be convinced by those who think an abuser is just as bad as her.”
Sorry, I don’t think molesters are just as bad -I think they are worse.
DF will not cause anyone to go OTD, unless they are going that way anyway.
A molester will cause many people to go OTD!
Also, a molester causes other Frum Jews to sin because some end up protecting them. People who protect molesters are probably Oiver – Lo Saamod & Messaya L’day Aveira!
YB123 -There are a lot of girls I want to marry -one in Balto. -some in NY, some in Lakewood. But alas, noone believes in shotgun weddings! E/o expects that the girl actually has a choice.
Be careful with stalking or harrassing -it’s more likely to end up married to some hairy man in prison than to the girl! :0
I think a lot of posters here are Am Haaratzim with a little Torah knowledge. We don’t know when a person is supposed to die -Hashem doesn’t tell us this info. So we assume that a person is supposed to live as long as Moshe Rabbeynu -that’s why we say Ad Meah V’essrim. This is called B’keetzo (Right time). Some people die Lo B’keetzo & we say this in the Nesaneh Tokef. We Daven for a Choileh that they should live till their B’keetzo.
For anybody, even medical professionals like me, to say an unconscious person is in pain is ludicrous & Rishous. These so-called medical professionals just want to pull the plug. Pain is a symptom, not a sign. Look it up in a dictionary, if you don’t know what it means.
IMHO, had he gotten decent medical care from the git go -he wouldn’t be where he is now.
We have to Daven for a Refuah & for the collapse of the Medina.
The latter not just because of the Medina’s Kefira, but because they set up socialized medicine. Socialized medicine creates an environment of bad medical care. We already see the decline even in this country as the liberals have put the gov. so much in control of medicine here! They control so much we are but a hairbreadth away from total socialized medicine!
Mods -Please ok my post above. Thanks.
800 Kilobear -“For the second, I don’t have an answer.”
Well I do. The first and foremost is to remove them away from children. If they are still a principal -then this hasn’t been done. After that we can discuss what else should be done.
The Frum community has thus far failed their children.
And standing on soap boxes screaming about internet doesn’t resolve you from stopping molesters. Lo Saamod Al Dam Reicha!
peacefull -“Who is a living existing shame to Hashem & his Torah, put aside our personal emotional pain.”
I’m not really sure what your point is because you aren’t so coherent. Yes s/o who is a molester is an existing shame to Hashem whether you believe it or not. To molest others is a constant Chilul Hashem since 10 Jews most probably know about it.
And your part about Daas Torah -I’m not quite sure what you mean, but are you the type that needs a Rabbi to tell you -you can’t eat that HAMburger?
800 Kilobear -“The big-time creeps like Mondrowitz, Kolko, Lebovits, Weingarten, Cyprys, Kramer, Lanner etc”
You do a diservice to the community by listing these guys. Because now people will think -“Oh it’s only a few.”
The reality is -it might even be an epidemic. You don’t know how many are still in Chinuch and are well protected!
I know at least two current Menhalim that have reliable accusations against them. One I know because a victim told me directly!
Frum Yidden are very much in denial about this.
De -nile is not just the name of a river in Egypt!
You have bloggers on this site that can’t even admit that these molesters have a Din of Reshayim and it’s a Mitzva to hate them!
MSS -“Are you suggesting that perhaps “she” is not a she?”
Here’s a great Purim line -Wake up and smell the coffee (Joe)!
😉
Zissy -“versus one who may be very bad, and there may be many consequenses he may face by all of us, but is still included in “amisechoh”, so there no heter to hate that person. period.”
So who falls into this category that you’re now describing? If you are talking about molesters -they aren’t in the category of Amesecha -so you can hate them.
Removing the homeless guy’s shoes & socks.
just me -“I know someone who worked with her during her divorce. She felt that her husband’s connections put her at a big disadvantage. She felt she was getting a bad deal. I don’t know how true that is, but I know I have heard of many women who becomes less religious during a difficult divorce. Many feel that rabbis favor the man. Possibly what happened here.”
Name one. They go off and then they get divorced. Hey, but why NOT blame the Rabbonim & the community for her going OTD?!
There is no such thing as personal responsibility anymore!
In my case -she (my -ex) was pushed off by her “Frum” friends.
I don’t understand why they are still pretending -why didn’t they go with her?
rosewood -“The former hassid is now a model, and he said that there is nothing wrong doing that within the jewish community. WHAT?!?! “
He probably means like the Frum models whom you see in the Jewish papers modeling wigs & dresses. He can’t possibly mean a Hollywood model.
800 Kilobear -There are other treatments like Actigall -takes upto two years and only works half the time. They can do lithrotripsy (ultrasound breaking up the stones) -this works about 35% of the time. Now they have Gastros that will go in there during endoscopy and zap them with either laser or US.
Who knows what the complications are? I wouldn’t recommend this.
The easiest way to treat this disease is with laparoscopic surgery. I viewed quite a few and it’s a real simple procedure with a very low rate of complications.
000646 -“I am B”H happily married to an awesome woman! I have friends who are divorced that were hurt by Batei Din and I have lost money to and been threatened by unscrupulous Dayanim.”
Don’t paint the whole system with one brush. There are good and bad in the Jewish system, not mostly bad.
“There is a Law that can be broken in secular court. Not so in a B”D. When you sign that Shtar Berurin you literally give the Dayanim the right to do whatever they want. They do not even have to explain their decision to anyone! It is crazy to expect-let alone demand-that people give anyone that right when it comes to anything of theirs,let alone children.”
You missed my point. It’s almost impossible to have a lower court ruling overturned in civil (appeals) court. So if you get a raw deal in B’D -the same can occur in civil court. One system is not more Just than the other! Focus on improving both systems, not just ranting.
ZK -“LOOK IT UP! PLEASE, LOOK IT UP, then correct me if I’m wrong.”
I did many times. There is no difference between Mummer L’teavon and Mumer L’hachas once the MLT does it a few times. So if you hold that there is a Mitzva to hate people like DF -the same Mitzva applies to molesters.
peacefull -“Interesting to hear that one who may be making a To’us you consider being a” Migaleh Ponim…”
If so, then with that you pronounced yourself as a Migaleh Ponim …”
Joseph -why come up with another SN to post to me? What’s wrong with Zeeskeit? And you came up with a good defense -“calling me the Megaleh Ponim”!
stuck -like the stones are Stuck in the pouch or tubes that go into the pouch?
As a medical professional I know of different options, but I see no reason to recommend them without a good reason. Why don’t you want to have the gallbladder removed laprascopically? It can be done as an outpatient in most cases. You need to have G.A. (knocked out), but that’s no big deal. Once it’s removed you usually don’t have any problems in life from this.
ZK -“And, as a personal favor, kindly refrain from calling me over & over such titles as “Megaleh Ponim..”
I will Not refrain until you are Choizer on your post. This Naarishkeit of some requirements doesn’t mean much. Once you do these requirements – the Mumer L’teavon has the exact same Din.
You won’t admit to this because you don’t hate “Frum Fakers”, even though the Torah requires it. You somehow think that you can manipulate me, like you manipulate others. You can’t; no matter how many times you try.
I will consider you to be a Megaleh Ponim until you admit you are required to hate “Frum Fakers” and molesters. And don’t forget to include in your post how you tried to manipulate people here – that molesters are still considered B’clal Amesecha!
000646 -“As an aside (and feel free to tell me it is non of my business) was there Children involved in your situation?”
I do have kids, but I don’t want to discuss my arrangements.
I’d like to ask you something -Is it safe to assume you are a divorced male and have kids? Can I also assume you’re not happy with your arrangments and you tried to appeal this to civil court and you lost due to binding arbitration? If yes, what makes you think you would have gotten a better deal in civil court?
Your point of that B’D is a “system with no oversight or recourse for those who are wronged,”, might be true; but it’s basically the same in civil court. It’s almost impossible to win on appeal even if you are wronged in the original court. I don’t know how much you know about law, esp. in the family arena, but for an appeal to be successful you need either the Judge broke some law or a change of circumstance. Barring these two reasons, even if you were given a raw deal, your case will Not be overturned, no matter how high you appeal it.
BTGuy -“Hi Health.
That is ridiculous.”
The only thing that is ridiculous is your opinions. Where do you come off as knowing more than professionals? What is your degree in?
“For starters, I have met people who go to Al-Anon and are so paranoid that even if they use shampoo with alcohol in it, they are concerned; and they are not even the alcoholic.”
I’m not interested in your Bubba Meissas regarding some psychotics that you know. This has nothing to do with the subject at hand.
“One “yes” could be a problem?”
Yes, it could be.
“From a sociological perspective, while the source, “The NYC Department of Health” sounds all impressive, the bozos up in that office should find questions more valid and reliable in determining an alcohol problem, rather than those ambiguous questions leading people to seek help/information to keep certain monies and jobs going for that department.”
They didn’t make it up. Sorry to burst your bubble and your diatribe against the NYC Health Dept. I just heard about it first from them -that’s why I quoted them.
“If someone answers “Yes” to those highly subjective, generalized questions, it is “HIGHLY” likely they have a problem?”
Yes, again.
“lol With those kinds of questions, I guess someone makes a commission on inquiries.”
Lol @ your opinions. The CAGE questionare is a highly respected screening tool in the psychological and medical world. There are others, but CAGE is a big one. It was first validated around 1974.
How does a college educated person become so ignorant?
If you’re in Denial that you’re an alcoholic because you answered “yes” to a few of the questions -then I understand.
hershi -“Suggestions on how to drink by the Pesach Seder would also be appreciated”
I’m in the medical field and I have the same problem on Pesach & Shabbos. It’s probably due to the additives in red wine. I don’t have the problem on Purim because I’m not drinking on an empty stomach & nor is it red wine.
On Shabbos, I just use grape juice.
On Pesach I either drink Concord Kal or I mix a 9% or 7% with grape juice. I usually do the latter because I can get a higher % of alcohol if I mix it myself. Depending how I’m feeling sometimes the first cup or other cups I drink without mixing in grape juice, but only with something like Matuk wine -never a higher %.
Road rage is just a form of anger. They have such a thing called anger-management programs. Get into one!
No One Mourns The Wicked- “Not many people understand the true difference between sympathy and empathy..”
In the medical field that’s one of the first things they teach you. You have to empathize with patients, not sympathize. Sympathy will actually cause burn-out much quicker!