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RSRH -“A rav must paskin shailos, and so must understand the economic, psychological, political, and other issues that his congregants are dealing with and which relate to reaching a good psak. A rav must be able to lead his kehilla, not just give a drasha on chumash on shabbos morning and a daf yomi during the week. Practical, real world work requires practical, real-world knowledge, and if you want to do it right, you learn from the experts and get yourself certified to be sure you really understand the things you claim to know.”
All the Rabonim I know or at least most, get whatever they need to Pasken or do other things without going to college. Is college the only place to acquire knowledge? For example -A Rov is asked to intervene with Sholom Bayis. He tries, but is unsuccessful. Most Rabbonim I know, at that point, will refer to professional help -like a marriage counselor with a degree. And a lot of times they are successful, even without referrals! So again, what does a Rabbi need a college degree for??!?!?
“therefore if people nowadays just ask women to go on a date with them, both parties are more likely to sin.”
I can understand using this argument just to date at the parents house, but if you’re going “OUT”, what’s the difference if you arranged it or the Shadchan?
just an observer – I don’t know who hired a single girl, but the avg. type of Frum woman in America wouldn’t. Were the ones who hired you more the Mizrachi/MO type or were they Yeshivish, Chassidish, Yurshalmi type?
old man -“I think that a yoshon vadai enterprise should be supported.”
How much did these corporations pay you for this statement?
“This is nothing new. Much lighter issues like cholov stam, non-glatt meat and imperfect hadassim have morphed into full blown taboos”
Sorry -I’m not Makpid on Cholov Yisroel. My Minhag is to be Makpid on Glatt, but I heard 80 -90% what they call Glatt isn’t. So -Oh well.
Hadassim -I’ve never really seen bad ones, but maybe there are. Now Aravos I see e/o using those with Teiglach; I thought you were supposed to avoid those. I try to, at least.
hello99 – You can’t have it both ways. The Rema doesn’t hold of Rov – Noiegia Sfek Sfeka -YD 110 SK 4 at the end. The Shach #23 says “the Mechaber since Kavuah is a Chidush it’s worse than Taaruvos and when it gets mixed up after that we go AFTER ROV And it’s Mutter”. And the Rema says this is “Ossur because there isn’t a Sfek Sfeka”. What happenned to the Rov? You also see later on – #8 that on a Sofek Vaday Issur you don’t look at the Rov, except on sofek Sofek Issur. Why not?
I say because the Rema looks at the Din of Rov separate from the Din of Sfek Sfeka. So he won’t hold Rov is Matter, so similary he won’t hold Rov is Assuring like by Dogon. So what does he mention Rov for by Hilchos Chodosh? Answer – Not to Assur the pile, but to tell us if the Safek is a good Safek to be used in the Sfek Sfeka!
This is the way I’m learning.
“Additionally, imports are Sheim Echad, as the Chochmas Adam writes.”
Even so, you still have Dogon here from last year. That makes TWO Sfekos – 1. Is the Dogon you’re eating from this year or last (Could be Yoshon)? 2. Even if from this year maybe from imported (Also could be Yoshon)?
charliehall -“In the modern orthodox world, almost all rabbis have undergraduate degrees and many have masters degrees or doctorates, not as a “back up” but because it makes them better rabbis.”
This is one thing I never was able to understand about YU -How does college help you become a better Rabbi? Learning as much Torah possible -Yea, but not college courses.
We obviously have fundamental differences on what a Rabbi should look like!
Sam2 – The fact that they support Torah learning and they do other social services to Frum Jews negate the fact that the Medina is based on Kefira. There are even many Frum Jews in the Israeli gov. All this are side issues. The fact is that the Medina was created based on Kefira. This is the reason why the Gedolim held you can’t join their army. As far as I know this hasn’t changed even in our generation.
tro11 – “It’s kfira to join an army? What does that even mean?”
It means the Torah doesn’t allow you to join up!
am yisrael chai -“Motzee Shaim Ra and Loshon Hora are also bad, but they do not discount the notion that so is lying.”
You misinterpreted what I was saying. I should have been more clear. I mean – Lying for attention is Not as bad as Motzay Shem Ra and LH! And there is a lot more of this going on then people lying for attention.
collegegrad -“I don’t see whats wrong with it. Your marital status should not be a factor in the career you go into.”
There might not be anything wrong, but Frum women won’t hire a single girl to help them out.
Toi – Skip the “e” in argument.
No, my statement belongs in every aspect in life.
Example – you taught yourself how to pedal a bike with your hands and you use your legs to steer. You have been doing this for 10 years, so now if you teach others how to ride a bike, you are teaching them correctly? Of course not.
The proper way to ride a bike is to pedal with your feet and steer with your hands.
What your mistake is -what is called book knowledge. Book knowledge is the knowledge of how to do something right. You don’t necessarily have to acquire this from a book. S/o can show you how -like s/o can tell you the right way how to ride a bike!
So now, does my statement of -“life experience is only valuable when it’s based on book knowledge”, make more sense?
It’s not so bad to just lie for attention. What is much worse and lots of people do this is called Motzay Shem Ra. People love to talk about other people and most of the time it isn’t true. For example, s/o asked you about so and so for info regarding a Shidduch. You heard from his neighbor that he always talks to girls; but the neighbor in reality only saw him once talking to a girl and it was for a good reason, which the neighbor doesn’t know about. But what did the neighbor tell you -he always talks to girls. If you now go and spread it, you’re Oiver Motzay Shem Ra! We have to start focusing on important things in life and not the little things. Motzay Shem Ra and Loshon Hora are way too common!
mdd – The problem isn’t that e/o does like the Mishna of Asay Torasecha Kvah V’melactara Aray.
You’re confusing the issue. Kollel nowadays doesn’t include any work at all. A perfect example of the Mishna is the Chofetz Chaim
who owned a grocery store. They say he worked a tiny bit in the morning, just to get some money for that day, and then either his wife took over or he closed it and went to learn.
Chazal say Asarah Batlonim Beir. This doesn’t mean that you’re allowed to have ten guys doing nothing all day. This means that the city is only required to support ten people whom are learning all day and not doing any work! Is this what your average Kollel looks like, not in some way out of town place?
Which type a midwife do you want to be? A Doula type or the Nursing type? The doula type who works in the community helping women give birth would, probably not use a single girl. But if it’s the nursing type, you get a job either in a hospital or in a midwife practice (sometimes part of a physician practice), your marriage status shouldn’t make a difference!
Old man – Your opinion?
The way I understand it, is not that e/o will know every single Aveira that you did, but that Aveirahs and Mitzvos elevate or lower the Neshoma’s level. So a person with many Aveiros, will be on a very low level, which will be apparent for e/o to see. I think this is consistant with the Arizal.
lesschumras – “What would you have done in 1942 when, if you were of draft age, had been drafted by the army?”
First of all, in 1942, the Medina wasn’t in existance. Maybe you’re talking about the US Army, as far as I know, there isn’t a problem with Kefira in the US Army. Second of all, I’m not the one who Paskened you can’t join the Israeli Army. So if a person, who isn’t in Yeshiva and can’t get a Ptur, (most try & do get exemtions), should ask a Shaila if joining the Israeli Army is Yahrog V’al Yavor or not!
Because if it would, then the Rema L’shitoso would have to hold Dogon is never Mutter even in a Sfek Sfeka. He argues with the Mechaber in YD 110. Also see this Schach says YD 110 #25 if something is a Dovor Ossur, a Rov is never Matter it.
“The Rosh is clearly referring to a situation where the wheat from each source was kept separate, but it was impossible to determine what that source was.”
Please copy and paste. Also just because the Rema gets his Heter from the Rosh, doesn’t mean he holds exactly like him.
As far as Shem Echad, please quote the whole words inside and copy and paste.
“It is all one single Safeik of this year or last.”
Not necessarily, you can say the imported wheat was from this year and planted 3 days before Pesach.
Mike – Like I posted above – “I think in your case -you should listen to your Rov. You seem to have a unique case.”
You need a Geder.
“But you should know, this isn’t the Halacha, a man can get married to a woman without having a Shaddchan inbetween!”
ItcheSrulik -“I have from reliable sources that it was not Rav Aharon Kotler, but his son Rav Shneur who instituted the kollel system lakewood uses today. Rav Aharon expected the yungerleit to be there for a shorter time. As far as I know, it was his chiddush.”
Noone ever posted this before including me:
As a former BMG guy, you’re correct. When I learnt in a Lakewood branch as a kid, the Rosh Hayeshiva, a Talmid of R’ Aharon said he held 5 -6 years in Kollel at the most. R’ Shneur started it because he couldn’t just tell guys to leave, he was too nice. The four that took over wanted to start getting rid of some of the older guys by not paying them. But Rav Schach Zt’l came along and said you can’t tell anyone to leave. So really this comes from EY, where they all (alot) learn forever in Kollel. And I think the reason in EY that they started with learning forever, was so they wouldn’t have to go to the army, which is Kefira (going to the army)!
Ferd – Thanks, you made me laugh.
hello99 -“As the Shach writes in rule #33 of Sfek Sfeikos, any Sakek that is more likely Assur than Muttar does not count.”
True, he does say this but I’m learning that none of the general rules of Sfek Sfeka apply by Chodosh. They ask what is the difference between Chodosh and Taaruvos, which is Ossur in a Sfek Sfeka? Because by Dogon, you don’t have to be eating Chodosh, while Taaruvos you definitely are eating Treif. It can’t be like you that as long as there is Vaday Chodosh, it is Ossur, which is determined by the Rov. Because simply if we looked at Dogon that you want to eat, it always has Chodosh (in the pile), even in the Sfek Sfeka of the Rema. So what will you tell me -go after the Rov. But the Schach says YD 110 #25 if something is a Dovor Ossur, a Rov is never Matter it. So therefore if Chodosh has the same Dinim of regular Sfek Sfeka, it would never be Mutter because it’s almost impossible to say that there isn’t Chodosh in the pile.
So my Sfek Sfeka is you don’t look at the pile, you look at what you are eating. Is this from this year or from last year? Last year would be Yoshon, so you could be eating only Yoshon. Second safek -if from this year, maybe it’s from imported which is most likely Yoshon. If the Rov would tell you, for example on the Safek of is it before Pesach or after – that it’s mostly after, then this becomes an invalid Safek.
lolface -“hahaha health you may have missed my point. my point was, who cares if you believe it?”
And you missed my point. Yiddishkeit doesn’t need all these “miracles” to prove that it’s true. This is a Goyishe concept. I know the Xtians have all these “Miracles” that Yoshke performed. This is one of their basis that their religion is right. They need these false foundations to build on.
lolface – While you make a lot of interesting points, the Jewish blogs are driven by different rules than the regular net. We on Frum websites try to hold the posters to the standards on the Torah. So differences such as anonymity (Hashem knows who you are), or I’m just ranting (ranting you can be Oiver many Issurim, like Kaas, LH, etc…) aren’t excuses!
Shtieger -“health; what reccommendations are you refering to?”
I’ll copy and paste, since you missed it:
“How about getting him the help he needs by suggesting he should go for some professional help? Do yourself a favor, stop Redding him Shidduchim and stop Bashmutzing him.”
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Please don’t go off topic.
lolface -“he is a BIG skeptic and hates all things mystical,”
Sorry, I’m a bigger skeptic. In my mind, it was his Neshoma talking to him, not the dead person. He was alone -he saw a yid who looked like his Zaida and sat down. He probably nodded off for a few and had this dream. He might not even realize it was a dream. But the resemblance to his Zaida triggered his Neshoma to wake up. The reason I think, it was a dream is because if it was the Nifter, why would 1. he have contact with his Zaida? Remember the Neshoma has not gone up to Shomayim at this point. 2. Why give Mussar on just Tiffilin and Kaddish -What about all the Mitzvos?
I find this ironic. When the editor wants to bring out something bad, he can. Just recently, s/o posted a story and I wrote disgusting and not only was my comment deleted, but the topic was closed!
brotherofurs – Well maybe if you didn’t have anyone to shmooze with -you’d go to sleep on time!
Shtieger – I hope you take my recommendations seriously.
Sam – Correct. If he had a Minhag handed down -Ben Achar Ben, I wouldn’t say it was a Minhag Shtus. But the way he was talking (obviously I can’t be 100% sure) it sounds like he is a BT and I don’t think he has any Mesorah for Minhagim.
hello99 -“The Rosh assumes a sfek sfeika, but today the majority of spring wheat is chodosh and does not count as a safek.”
Since we now have a new topic on Cholov Yisroel, I figured I’d bring up this topic again.
I already have my fingers in my ears -before you start screaming.
I got a chance to look up a few things before this post.
I want to say -what is the reason you need Rov? The Rov over here tells us whether you can use the Safek or not. So since the Rov of the 5 types of Dogon from this year is Chodosh, the Safek from this year isn’t considered a Safek. But the Safek of this year or last is.
But in America, there is another Sfek Sfeka. One is – is it from last year or this year. Even from this year, maybe it’s from imported Dogon, which can be Yoshon. I can’t say Rov because it comes from a lot of places, but most likely it is Yoshon.
aries -“As far as I am concerned book knowledge without common sense is worthless.”
Mostly true.
“I have had enough experience being the patient in the hospital to tell the newbies with no experience and those with experience.”
But like I said those with experience – that has to be based on knowledge. You have experience in the hospital, do you think now you can practice medicine? Experience is only valuable based on book knowledge!
MichaelC – The only Minhag it can be is a Minhag Shtus -unless you can bring a proof from a Sefer!
agittayid – But book knowledge can be valuable without experience, but life experience can’t be valuable without book knowledge!
shlishi – Exactly, but the ones with the most distance outdoors, without obstructions, will still have the most distance with obstructions in the way.
Aries – I’ll give one example to prove you’re wrong. A person has been putting on Tiffilin on his forehead for the last twenty years. He has only life experience, but s/o who is just 13 learned that Tiffilin goes on top of your head. He has no life experience -only book knowledge.
I’ll repeat -“life experience is only valuable when it’s based on book knowledge”. I could bring lots of examples in every facet of life, but there wouldn’t be place or time to post it all. In the world of medicine, we call practioners incompetent when they only have medical experience without the proper book knowledge!
BuzBuz – Yea, that’s the name Nextel.
shlishi -They now have a new non-license system called EXTRS.
I went onto the Walmart site and the longest distance GMRS radio is a Uniden for 36 miles. Don’t forget -outdoor use only. The comments say less than a mile if in a building.
I think Chazal say you should marry your niece. Why? Because you were both raised the same way. You and your sister. And then she raised her kid the same way.
its_me – They have a new thing out there (last couple of years) called Family radios. The FCC has upped the distance -like to around 10 miles. No license required. They are fairly inexpensive and can be purchased online. Unless absolutely needed UHF and VHF radios are a fortune. Licenses are required. If you need further than the max allowed by FFR’s, use your cell phone.
I know companies whom do have UHF/VHF systems and instead of adding money for upgrades, they use that cellular company that offers separate walkie- talkie lines on their service. I forget the name, but you can Google it.
ilovetheholyland -“national is never NOT having a “going outta bus” sale”
Reread my post. I wasn’t talking about National. I said -Furniture source!
Aries – life experience is only valuable when it’s based on book knowledge. When it’s not, you can basically only do harm!
MichaelC – I think in your case -you should listen to your Rov. You seem to have a unique case. But you should know, this isn’t the Halacha, a man can get married to a woman without having a Shaddchan inbetween!
Shtieger -“I’m honestly impressed!! your great for defending someone whome you don’t know. what Ahavas yisroel!!”
Thank you and your sarcasm is duly noted.
“I never said that I go around telling everyone about him, I only talk about him, using his name when it’s for letoeles reasons and when my husband and I set him up. which has been on a NUMBER of different occasions!!!It’s also very frustrating setting him up, and knowing that it’s not going to work ’cause he’s just too much of an immature nerd to commit. I definitely admire my husband’s patience with him!!”
I admire your Tzidkus. You set him up and then you Bad Mouth him. With friends like you, who needs enemies?
How about getting him the help he needs by suggesting he should go for some professional help? Do yourself a favor, stop Redding him Shidduchim and stop Bashmutzing him. If you haven’t realized Rosh Hashona is around the corner. Btw, therapy is good for married people also!
Shtieger -“I feel more sorry for your (future) wife, who has an abusive husband who shoots insults without thinking!!”
I actually think before I post. I’m glad you love your husband, but why do you hate most men? I wasn’t the one shooting insults -maybe you should re-read your posts. Eg. – “poshut a lowlife”, “real nerd that needs to grow up”. These I’m sorry to say are insults. I might not know whom the guy is, but you do. I was just defending him.
I don’t know how old you are, but I have a lot of insight into people. You learn a lot about people when you’re exposed to life and death, like I’ve been (in the medical field).
I’ll tell you another thing, going around telling e/o about this guy is possibly destroying any chance this guy has to get married. I’m pretty sure you’ve told many people your opinion about him.
I don’t blame my ex so much for my divorce, as much as her friends. Her friends could NOT stop talking about me. E/O uses the excuse Toeles, but in reality this excuse is almost never applicable. See Sefer Chofetz Chaim on Yafeh Shtika!
This post isn’t against all women. There are plenty whom guard their tongue. And I’yh, one day I hope to get remarried!
bein_hasdorim -“Shhh..Tiger”
Calling her tiger, reminds me of a song -“She’s a man-eater…”
Shtieger -“Popa bar abba;- I heard from a reliable source that he told one of his buddies that he is afraid to commit…”
I’m appalled at your way of thinking. Did you ever hear of being Dan L’caf Zecus? He told his friend that he’s afraid to commit. Let’s say he really did say this. So because he said this you went on a whole tirade not only on him, but on all males in general. Isn’t it possible that he had a very different reason(s) why he has dumped girls he went out with, but doesn’t want to publicize this, so he made up a story about commitment. I feel bad for you that you can’t look at people of the opposite gender in a positive light. And I feel even worse for the unlucky guy who marries you!
PBA – This is one of those times I agree with you and then some.
And the fact that after she got engaged he had second thoughts, is perfectly normal. This doesn’t make him an evil monster!
YDU -“I read that it is a Genetic Abnormality that the body produces a copious amount of Copper. I think the Liver becomes Toxic from the body producing too much Copper.”
It is a genetic disorder, but the body doesn’t produce any copper, like you said.
Breakdown of copper in the liver can’t occur because of the problem with the enzyme that breaks it down. Like most problems this is due to a malfunction in the gene that tells how to produce this protein.
As far as Bipolar in WD, it wouldn’t actually be the Bipolar disease, in most cases, but I can definitely see s/o diagnosing Bipolar when it’s really WD. Bipolar is s/o who has both mania and depression. That’s why they used to call it Manic-depressive disease. These two symptoms are one of the many in WD.
From Emedicine:
“Psychiatric signs –
Hyperkinetic behavior
Irritability or anger
Emotional lability
Psychosis
Mania
Difficulty concentrating
Abnormal behavior
Personality changes
Depression
Schizophrenia”
Besides what I mentioned above, I saw a sale being advertised for National (a furniture place). They are a block north of the other place – on the north -bound side. The other is on the south- bound side. Their address is 6601 Rt.9 N, Howell, NJ.