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Sparkly: I do not smoke. However, I have family members who do and while I do not believe they will stop I appreciate that “Health” has provided the sources for the gedolim named above so I can at least review it with them.
Health: Thank you….but as you know postings to the CR are moderated and cannot be seen until approved. I made my request BEFORE your post with the sources was approved.
Syag: I thought it might be your first einikel (kein yirbu) based on your posting.
The best way to quit smoking is never to start.
SMFG3: What R’ Moshe would have done is pure speculation even among gedolim.
Health: please provide the sources for those you listed who “ASSURED” smoking. I prefer to look them up with my Rav.
Syag Lchochma: Mazel Tov! If I may ask, how many of your children are married?
I too think smoking is wrong. But by this definition then anyone who…speed or pass a red light you are otd. If you use nivel peh you are otd. You eat ice cream, pizza, doughnut, cake you are otd.
Bowling?
As usual, Sparkly and Health are off the mark. While I agree that smoking is dangerous, bad for a person’s health, an addiction…it does not mean that someone is “OTD”.
lightbrite: Also, doesn’t Judaism emphasize love coming after marriage? It sounds like there is an assumption that young marriages result with someone marrying someone of whom one “doesnt really like” (Sparkly).
Not exactly. It’s not that we emphasize “love coming after marriage”. It’s that most people don’t really understand the concept of “love” until after they are married. What we think we mean by “falling in love” takes on a whole different meaning after one is married. I remember reading (either in Dr. Wikler’s book Bayis Ne’man Byisroel or Rabbi Kaplan’s book Made in Heaven) about a person saying that young people “think” they are in love. Ask couples who are married 50 years and they will tell you how they know they are in love.
Abba_S: Sephardim usually hold only the week that Tisha B’av is actually falls in (SHAVUA SHECHAL BO). Does Tisha B’av that coincides with Shabbos (as this year) negate SHAVUA SHECHAL BO or only when Tisha B’av itself is on Sunday (when Shabbos is CHES AV)?
leftbrooklyn: When the first day of Rosh Chodesh Iyar falls on Friday, even those who hold the first half of sefirah take a haircut and shave.Since that Shabbos is both Shabbos and Rosh Chodesh, one may take a haircut and shave due to “Tosefes Simcha”. Please see Mishna Berurah Sif Taf Tzadi Gimmel Sif Koton Hay. This reasoning does not apply for this Erev Shabbos.
I just spoke to someone who is a “professional tutor”. Yes, I was guessing. She said the range here in NYC is $75 – $100.
In the USA, each state has their own set of requirements. Outside the USA??
As for the Yeshiva Curriculum……….I am sure that there are Rabayim and Morahs who will tutor children privately. For how much? Don’t know but probably $80 -$100 an hour.
Joseph: Yes here in NY it is 14……………but only under the following conditions:
If either applicant is 14 or 15 years of age, such applicant(s) must present the written consent of both parents and a justice of the Supreme Court or a judge of the Family Court having jurisdiction over the town or city in which the application is made.
Moderator: I know but since it is an NY State web site:
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As to your rhetorical question: Yes I agree with your point but not the parallel example of Bar Mitzvah age. Especially since I have never heard of a Beis Din today forcing anyone of any age to get married.
Health: “If all else fails, then there is the option of divorce!?
I am sorry but if all else fails, then divorce is the only option.
Although you are also correct about the “throw away generation”.
YesOrNo: The word you are quoting did not originate in ???? ????? but is a passuk in Tehillim (Kapitel Lamed Daled Passuk Yud.). While you are correct in that it is not pronounced Yir-oo, it also cannot be Yi-roo ass the nekudah under the Yud is a Sheva and not a chirik.
There is no “normal” as it is not only dependent on the individual but the society they live in. What was the “average” age for marriage in the late 1800’s (especially in Europe) we would today in the United States be illegal age to marry in most states. I know a couple who have been married close to 50 years who were married when he was 20 and she was 19 based on the advice of R’ Moshe Feinstein.
Sparkly: I am following the discussion. That is why I asked why it has gone far from the original question. Again what does an eiruv have to do with giving a woman a ride?
R’ Shamshon Raphael Hirsch seems to indicate that the Mekoshesh happened right after the yidden were taught Hilchos Shabbath in Marah which is before Matan Torah. Moshe knew that he was to receive the death penalty just not which type.
He also explains that the question of Bnos Tzelaphchad was not about the general halachos of inheritance but of the special situation about going into Eretz Yisroel and the division of land based on who left Mitzrayim and what if that person had no sons. That specific question may not have been addressed.
Pesach Sheini is a good question since it was definitely after Matan Torah.
MA:
1.My father was in the bakery business so I do know what they have. It is the same analogy as the restaurant in Niagara Falls.
2. So you don’t have separate kitchens. Is it halacha to have separate sinks or just an eitza tova (good advice)?
3. Does this restaurant in Niagara Falls have separate kitchens? Or are you claiming that they only have one kitchen?
4. If two strangers can sit at the same table, one eating dairy and one eating meat, why can’t a restaurant have a “flimsy” mechitza as long as there is a mechitza?
Like most issues in the Coffee Room, the answers have nothing to do with the original question. What does an eiruv have to do with giving a woman a ride in your car? What does a woman drowning have to do with it?
Where are these yeshivos that you find this phenomenon?
And we all know what opinions are compared to!
MA: In almost every bakery in Brooklyn they have Pareve and Milchigs (Cheeese danishes, cheese cakes etc). Are you going to question every hashgacha about that? If the restaurant has separate kitchens, utensils, etc and the mashgiach/mashgichim have the proper controls why can’t you have both?
Huju: I am not sure how many people understand your reference.
MA: Do you have separate kitchens in your house?
There is a known story involving R’ Chaim Ozer. He was learning with a group of talmidim when someone came and asked R’ Chaim Ozer “Ken ich nemen a gerushah? (Can I take a divorced woman?). He thought for a minute or 2 and then answered “Mir Ken”. The man left and the talmidim yelled “Er iz a Kohen”! R’ Chaim Ozer answered, he was not asking if he can marry her. Based on his clothes I can tell he is a wagon driver and since he is a Kohen wanted to know if was able to give a ride on his wagon since she is a gerushah. The talmidim went out and saw the man loading the woman’s packages onto his wagon.
Really? Men don’t shout?
Restaurants or groceries?
B & T Auto Sales on 39th street Between 14th and 15th avenues. I have not used them to purchase a car; I do use them as they are also mechanics.
Health: You have some chutzpah to even say that I WAS TREATED WORSE THAN THE AVERAGE GOY. Unless you are over 50 years of age and know what the “frum world” did in the late 1970’s and early 1980’s PLEASE KEEP QUIET. IT WAS NORMAL to go out with your friends on Motzai Shabbos!
Moderator: (Yes I am using UPPPERCASE as I am shouting.)
Health: “free for all”?? These rules were in effect after we turned 18 which at the time was Legal age in NY even for drinking alcohol. Most of our friends thought of my parents as strict since we had a curfew. I guess my parents trusted their children; obviously you don’t.
Health: I am not sure what you mean by “loose”. I generally had college classes until 9:30 or 10:00 PM thereby giving me an hour to get home before the curfew.
1. Wine or Grape Juice for the Rov to make kiddush.
2. Lokshen Kugel
3.Mixing wine and shnapps is not a good idea
4.Our shul is too small for a Kiddush hall so the Rov says a Dvar Halacha
5. Ahl Hamichyah poster on the wall
Health: For one, neither my sisters nor I thought of my parents as “loose”. As a matter of fact most of our friends considered my parents strict as they were not subject to curfews.These curfews were still in effect while my sisters were engaged.
CTLAWYER: I somewhat agree with your approach but my parents had a different rule about curfew. During the week it was 11:00 PM; on Motzai Shabbos it was 1:00 AM. Curfew was allowed to be extended if we called by 10:59 PM or 12:59 AM. If we called at 11:01 PM or 1:01 AM we violated curfew and curfew was an hour earlier for the next two weeks.Yes it was the end of the 1970’s and early 1980’s but……..
My Nephew went there and it is neither modern or yeshivish. It is what we would call “middle of the road”.
I am not sure what you define as Central NJ but you may want to consider Rabbi Teitz Mesivta Academy in Elizabeth.
My father had a saying…..on the other side of the front door is a free country. On the inside of the door is a dictatorship.
That being said it depends on the child and the parents. One has to define overbearing and has to tell us whether you are the child or the parent.
There’s a famous story about a chasunah attended by both R’ Aharon Kotler ZATZAL and R’ Moshe Feinstein ZATZAL. R’ Aharon was called for Siddur Kiddushin, said I am honored to accept the kibbud and I am now mechabed the Poseik Hador R’ Moshe with Siddur Kiddushin and R’ Mosher was the Mesader Kiddushin.
Nechama Cohen of the Jewish Diabetes Association has a recipe in her cook book EnLItTEned Kosher Cooking.
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While being respectful of R’ Shachter’s opinion, Hamoin Am considers Krias Kesubah as the second most important and in a number of circles is read by the Rav of the shul where the Kallah’s family davens.
Sam2: I heard in the name of Rav Yitzchok Hutner ZATZAl that the chosson makes the marriage happen. Without his declaration of Harei At there is nothing to talk about.
The Shomer Shabbos Khilchisah (I think it is Perek Chaf Gimmel Siman Yud Zayin says a tricycle is muttar for a child but a bicycle is Assur). the sefer Tiltulei Shabbos quotes R’ Moshe Feinstein that it is assur due to Hotzoa as bicycles are ridden in Rshus Harabim.
Miamilawyer: the song being requested has the words “vshavti bveis HASHEM” which is different from the passuk you are quoting.
mw13:
One of the things taught to someone with a license to carry a concealed weapon is to announce it to the police if they are stopped for any reason.
I too take offense that shuls with brewed coffee are “uppity”. Just like I shop based on best prices for my own home, the shul buys coffee based on best prices. In my shul we have both brewed coffee and instant. We have a generous congregant who sponsors the brewed coffee. If for some reason he can’t supply the coffee we buy some cans. We make one pot of brewed coffee a day.
I find it hard to believe that the Rov of a community would ask a question in the “Coffee Room” and not to the Rosh Yeshiva who granted him SMICHA!
Camp Agudah Upper Ferndale Road, Ferndale – 10:55 PM
Camp Bnos Belz, Briggs Highway, Ellenville 8:30 PM
Fallsview Estates – Yossi Gleiberman 8:15 AM
Laurel Ledge, Laurel Avenue South Fallsburg, Rabbi Noach Oelbaum Sunday 9:00 AM
You may want to contact Harav Moshe Meir Weiss at redacted He may be giving his Daf Yomi shiur in the Catskills.