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  • in reply to: What does it take to be a ben torah? #704147
    jay11691
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    R’ Moshe Feinstein defines “Ben Torah” in a Teshuvah. He says that nowadays anyone who works cannot be called a ben torah. Sounds harsh, but that is what he writes. Unequivocally.

    Perhaps we feel insulted by this idea because many of us were taught that being a good erlicheh baalabus is something to be ashamed of.

    I don’t rmember the Teshuvah # offhand, but check Yad Moshe. You will find it.

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701690
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    Just to be Modeh al Haemes- I looked into the inyan a little more, and perhaps I was misrepresenting some of the Rishonim. The Ramban actually says clearly in his Hakdomoh to Iov that what happens to a person, bein ltov bein lrah, is all part of Hashem’s plan. However, it seems that the idea of Hashgochoh Pratis is one step beyond this: an extra shmira/direction from Hashem. It is still not clear to me exactly who receives this “extra” & exactly what that means: after all everything is planned by Hashem. I would love to know any Mekoros somebody can mention (not opinions) very shortly & succintly (without taking over the discussion)…….

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701685
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    I think you are are right….. This discussion is hijacking the thread….. Hatzlocho Rabah…

    in reply to: Why do some wives (newlyweds) act like Mashgichim to their husbands? #701943
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    I did not mean to imply that the Bais Yaakov’s follow TIDE. Believe me, we are on the same page in that regard…..

    I merely I find it interesting that there remains a tiny remnant of Hirschian thought in the movement…. Perhaps this explains the almost crisp attitude & semi-professionalism one finds in the movement. Very different from the men’s yeshiva world. Just a theory….

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701680
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    Incorrect. The Rambam specifically says that ANY hashgochoh pratis we receive is directly correlated to our madreigah.

    I am sure you are not the first person to notice the Gemorah in Chullin 7b; if you feel it contradicts the Rishonim I would encourage you to research any relevant sources that deal with it and report back. I should point out that not every Aggadatah gemorah is considered definitive by the Rishonim. Perhaps that is a place to start. Hatzlochoh.

    in reply to: Rav Nachman Of Breslov – The Heavy Weight Of Apikursos #700379
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    Many Rishonim believe the Mtzvah of “Viyudaas es Hashem” means to inquire beyond Emunah Peshuta. Chovos Halevovos is a good example.

    in reply to: Kli Yakar – Don't Join The "Frummies" In Gehinom #700368
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    It seems to me that there are two issues here: Firstly, the Kli Yakar’s point that Hashem wants us to enjoy the world unless our abstinence is Lishma. Secondly, the issue of the Machmir’s possible bad middosas the genrating force in his/her’s decision to be machmir.

    in reply to: Why do some wives (newlyweds) act like Mashgichim to their husbands? #701942
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    For example, anyone at all familiar with R’ Hirsch’s writings will recognize immediately that Chani Juravel’s writings are heavily inspired by him. It is hard to imagine a Hirschian attaining such prominence in the men’s Yeshiva world…..

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701678
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    Good question. The Rishonim explain that there is Hashgochoh Klalus.

    Hashem allows nature to take it’s course, with Hashgocho/intervention usually being limited to the overall general Klal/world.

    By the way, of course Hashem is the generative force behind all forces of the world, is therefore the ultimate provider of everything, and is the “manhig” behind our world. Poseach es yadechah….

    in reply to: Why do some wives (newlyweds) act like Mashgichim to their husbands? #701940
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    True. Notice that I carefully wrote,” a Torah-driven Hirschian derech.” (Not to imply that R’ Hirsch wasn’t Torah-driven).

    My point was that the Bais Yaakov movement was founded and nurtured by people trained in the Hirschian way. Sarah Schenirer herself was inspired by R’ Hirsch originally, and a buki in all R’ Hirsch’s writings. The people she brought in to run the movement were Hirschians. There are echoes even today…..

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701676
    jay11691
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    Exactly my point. Well said.

    in reply to: Why do some wives (newlyweds) act like Mashgichim to their husbands? #701938
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    Funny topic. I think that women have a sensitive sense of smell. They know whether their husband is actually accomplishing anything, or if he is going through the motions. That’s even assuming he is not sitting around shmoozing half of seder, where it’s poshut that she will smell him out……

    A theory: at it’s core, the divide between the Bais Yaakov system & the Lakewood system is that between a Torah-driven Hirschian derech and the Torah-only Eastern European derech.

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701673
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    This type of attitude reminds me of the Shlah’s comment on the way most people daven on Rosh Hashana: ……like dogs barking for food.

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701672
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    HaLeivi’s comment is confused. What is the difference between being cared for on a personal basis, which you admit the Rishonim say only Tzaddikim are Zoiche to, and the posters here who seem to think that when every average yid finds a parking spot that it is Hashgochoh Pratis?

    Again, it is fine to rely on the Kabbalists, but know that you are doing so, and know that this type of outlook is not an ikar.

    Additionally, even according to the Kabbalists, it is irrational to think that we can understand what is good vs bad. R’ Moshe Feinstein points out in a Teshuvah that the idea that complete bitachon will guarantee you food is wrong. Perhaps Hashem wants you to starve. Perhaps that is the good…..

    in reply to: Segulos #1050830
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    The way people approach segulos reminds me of the Shlah’s comment on how most people daven on Rosh Hashana: like dogs barking for food…. Vihameiven Yaven.

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701669
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    You are wrong. The Rishonim that I quoted, in those specific spots, are not referring to animals at all. Please take a look at the Ramban. It is extremely clear.

    Additionally, the Rambam says quite clearly that ANY level of Hashgochoh Pratis is dependent on your Madreigah.

    If you want to rely on the Kabbalists that is fine. But don’t make the mistake of assuming that this idea is central to Yiddishkeit.

    in reply to: Davening is a burden? #701003
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    To be clear, once you truly feel your existence & are happy with it, reliance on movies etc. for happiness should fall away. The struggle is not a direct struggle not to watch movies/TV etc. You are bound to lose that battle. The struggle is indirect. Feel alive, feel reality, make peace with yourself. Maintain this struggle, and you will be a truly religious happy person your whole life.

    in reply to: Davening is a burden? #701002
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    My two cents: Appreciating davening does not happen in a vacuum. Way, way before that is self-understanding and being in touch with true reality. Our busy secular world makes it very difficult to even understand and realize we exist & the nature of that existence. Try closing your eyes and concentrating on your sense of self. Who am I? What am I? Who is this person called ______? What is being alive?

    You do not need the answers, you just have to get in touch with the nature of being before you can daven at all & enjoy it.

    Once you reach a point where you are happy with your mere existence, & not reliant on distractions, then you can daven. Your davening will be a heightened existence. This will make sense & change your life if you try it.

    in reply to: Spontaneous date? #700511
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    TzefatView wrote: “Imagine if she would go out with 2 guys who have the same Rav? The conversation would be identical.”

    That is one of the best, funniest, and sadly truthful comments I have seen on this forum.

    in reply to: Going higher — a poem #700355
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    I’m impressed that you didn’t feel the need to twist the words around to make a rhyme…

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701666
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    I believe you would be hard pressed to find a Rishon that holds the popular view of today.

    The Ramban in Devarim yud aleph, posuk yud gimmel says quite clearly that only tzaddikim, or in some cases reshaim, have direct hashgochoh protus. There is nothing unclear about the Ramban’s opinion.

    The Radak in Nach iterates a similar concept, I believe, many times. Any decent familiarity with the Radak will substantiate this.

    The Rambam in Moreh Nevuchim says that a person’s level of hashgochoh protis is directly correlated to his madreigah.

    The Ralbag in Milchemes Hashem agrees with the Rambam on this point.

    in reply to: Need to lose weight for shiduchim #982234
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    Eat less. It works well.

    in reply to: What does this mean, its a quote from the Kotzker. #699379
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    It is a mistake to say the Kotzker had “Vertlach”…. You must familiarize yourself with his overall views before interpreting his thoughts…..

    in reply to: Discrimination Against Baalei Teshuva #1035485
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    R’ Shimon Schwab says in “Collected Speeches” that the correct term for people who have returned to Yiddishkeit is not Baalei Teshuvah, but “Tzaddikim”……..

    in reply to: Should Girls Learn to Drive? #699465
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    I quickly browsed the topic title and was intrigued by it: I thought it said, “Should girls learn to divorce before they get married?”……..

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701657
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    That certainly does not negate the many Rishonim who believe otherwise…..

    in reply to: Hashem talks to you every day, how to see Hashgacha pratis #701655
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    It seems that the popular view is that Hashem directly involves himself in all aspects of our lives and that everything is decided through “Hasgacha Protis”.

    I do not intend to directly criticize the originator of this post, because again that seems to be the populist take, however the truth is that this view is only one of many among the Rishonim, and certainly not as simplistic as we would like to think.

    Im’h let us all be zoicha to siyatta dishmaya in the important nisyonas and decisions in our lives.

    in reply to: Is the CR bittul Torah? #699336
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    The idea that halachically one must always learn unless faced with an emergency is a daas yuchid. The Ran paskens so, however, Ridvaz in Tshuvos chelek gimmel, #416, points out that virtually all Rishonim disagree. Rashi, Rosh, Ritva, Rashba, Rabbeinu Yonah, Sefer Hayirayim, all paskin that you are mekayim the Cheyuv of learning with Krias Shma Shacharis V’Arvis. Anything more is a reshus and a mitzvah b’alma. This is according to Stama D’gmarah in Brochus 35b.

    Also, see the Ohr Samaich in Hilchos T”t. I paraphrase: “….. How could Hashem establish a choiv of Talmud Torah for everyone (we are all different)? Therefore, the Chachamim explained the true nature of this cheyiv (Talmud Torah) as follows: Krias Shma Shacharis V’arvis is a fulfillment of the passuk of Vhigesa Boi Yoimam V’layla……. & I am not satisfied with th Ran’s explanation……….”

    Of course, there is always the inyan of learning Torah, but again, that is a crucial inyan but not a cheyiv.

    in reply to: What does this mean, its a quote from the Kotzker. #699375
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    I believe WorldSaver is pretty on the money: to understand a Kotzker saying completely you have to enter and understand his life view. This cannot be accomplished by randomly quoting one or two of his more famous sayings (which how most Yeshiva bochurim know of him). You have to delve deeper and truly investigate his approach.

    Just quoting a pithy saying of his and feeling satisfied is, in a sense, “walking in the middle of the road”.

    in reply to: Hashkofos & Apikorsos #699705
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    The word “Apikoros” is completely misused by most people. Basically, they imply that if you don’t believe in the Yeshivish hashkofos you are an apikoros. However, those who take this position fail to realize that many many great Gedolim did not have the same Hashkafos as R’ Aharon Kotler Zt”l.

    Although not directly related, it may be useful to quote R’ Shimon Schwab Zt”l :

    ” While we do not insist that only “Torah Giants” come forth from our great yeshivos, we are certainly not anxious to put up with any “Torah dwarfs” either. By this we mean the overly inflated semi-scholar, whose knowledge of Neviim and Kesuvim is nil and whose acquaintance with Shisha Sidrei Mishna is pitiful. These individuals are only vaguely familiar with halachah and aggadah, and their encounter with hashkafah literature is confined to two or three books. Sadly enough, some of these people become self-styled experts on daas Torah today” – Selected Essays, page 144

    in reply to: Minhag Hamakom #699327
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    People use the term “minhag hamakom” very loosely, and by loosely I mean incorrectly. R’ Moshe Feinstein wrote a tshuva dealing with the question of clothing as minhag: Should I be wearing a long Kappotah or a white shirt/black pants because it is Minhag Hamokom or because my father had this minhag? R’Moshe says that the responsibility to adhere to halachic minhag is very precisely defined. Just because your Zaidie & everyone of his friends did something doesn’t make it a minhag. “Minhag” happens when a cities Halachic authorities approve a specific practice for a Halachic reason.

    It seems doubtful that your bungalow colony (a) has a Halachic Authority, (b) has a Halachic Authority who approved a specific minhag for a specific Halachic reason. So follow your own minhag; unless it is in a public forum where occasionally you may have “al tifrash” which is also not a simple Halacha and not always applicable……

    in reply to: Does a BTL help?? #700293
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    I used my BTS (Bachelors of Talmudic Studies) from BMG (i.e. Lakewood) to apply to Graduate Architecture programs. I was accepted to about half- including some that are pretty well regarded.

    The degree itself is neither positive nor negative when applying to a program that has no previous familiarity with it (as in my case). Instead, the admittance department will look closely for other clues that show your potential for success. So be sure to make sure the rest of your application package is highly professional and impressive (GRE scores, personal essay, letters of recommendation etc.).

    However, where previously accepted BTL/BTS students have left a negative impression on the school (this may be true in the law or business programs), you will definitely have to work harder to convince the school to accept you. Here, a very impressive LSAT or GMAT score may help.

    Incidentally, some previous comments have debated your writing skills. An important point to remember is that even without obvious grammatical errors, writing may still have Yeshivish characteristics. These are implicit in the sentence structure and the expression of ideas and are hard to pinpoint- especially in a limited forum such as this. Needless to say, your writing suffers from this flaw. A good way to begin the education process may be taking a Writing 101 class at your local college.

    Best of Luck

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