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WTP – are these recommendations really recent? I never heard of these before! Certainly not the blankets. Thanks for the info.
Are most people you know makpid on this?
What if the Tallis were tied around the outside of the crib and the baby is a new-born infant who can’t possible grab it? Would you still consider that dangerous?
Thank you so much ZD for your post which both clarified an important point and gave me the impetus to point out something I’ve been wanting to point out.
ZD: “In general words do change meanings over the years and sometime the same words could mean 2 different things to 2 different people”
At least. Most of these labels have a lot more than 2 meanings, which is one of the main problems with labels (that’s a whole speech that I don’t have time for now – LF is saying, “thank you” But basically, they tend to lead to Sinas Chinam, mainly due to the fact that they have more than one meaning).
That is why there isn’t necessarily one right way to define any of the terms, and most of the definitions being used can probably technically be considered correct (as well as incorrect).
However, there usually is one (or maybe two) definition that is better to use than others. For example, there are reasons why I use the definition of Chareidi that I use. However, it would take a long time to explain why. Maybe I will do so some other time.
Suffice it to say that the best definition is the one that leads to the most Ahavas Yisrael and Emes. And that is the primary basis by which I choose my definitions.
IITIF – +1.
According to most opinions, it is not assur for women to learn Gemara. If anything is assur, it’s for a man to teach her.
And of course, one must always consider his/her reasons for doing anything.
Catch Yourself – maskim
Lakewhut – I think that was how the term started, but the Chareidim took back the term and turned it into a positive. So today it is not true anymore.
And I think the meaning of the term has shifted over the years which might explain why so many of the posters don’t get the way I am defining the term. Since most of them live in the US or at least haven’t lived in EY as long as I have, they are behind the times in this issue.
Joseph,btw, when LB said that she’s in awe of DY I think she must have been referring to the fact that he knew what you were going to say.
Joseph, you’re the one who is claiming that it is absolutely assur so you are the one who needs proof. Your post was not any kind of proof. Proof would mean something like a teshuva from Rav Moshe Feinstein zatsal saying that it is absolutely assur for any Jew to ever be a judge.
And I don’t even think that’s proof because there could be different opinions. The fact is that there is no way for you to prove it, because you don’t know enough to be able to make such a blanket statement. This is something that only a poseik can answer, and you have no business poskening that this lady is doing something assur.
JA – lol, literally. I hope I didn’t wake up my mother. But that was FUNNY!
sorry, LF, I couldn’t loq for that one.
Litvos, I agree with Hashem is Reading. There is nothing wrong with eating any food that is kosher (as long as it’s not stolen and it’s not a fast day or a time when you are not allowed to eat). I don’t think there is anyone who says there is a problem with eating Chinese food.
WTP’s point had to do with materialism. That is really a separate topic. Personally, I don’t associate with materialistic people, so I don’t associate food with materialism. And I have no interest in sushi.
Maybe this is a dumb question, but why are the strings a problem? Are we afraid the baby will get strangled c”v, l”a? Are the strings on a Tallis long enough for that to be a realistic issue?
Compared to other objects that we allow/don’t allow near our babies, is it logical and consistent to consider a Tallis dangerous? (these are not rhetorical questions. I really am seriously asking. I don’t have any babies or tallises, so this is not a topic I’m so up on. Maybe the answers to these questions are obvious to most people, but they aren’t to me).
HaLeivi, I was wondering the same thing. Thanks for asking for me.
LF: “You’re not my daughter (yet)”
also trying to figure out what that means – the (yet) part. You can’t become someone’s father…. unless you have a son my age…..
I’m just wondering why covering a baby with a Tallis is any more dangerous than covering him with a blanket?
I have heard that on the day of a boy’s upsherin, some hold that he is not allowed to see any women who are untzniusly dressed, so they put a tallis over him when he is outside. They also hold that he can’t touch any females besides his mother (and maybe other relatives as well). I found this out when my friend’s son had his upsherin. She had promised me that I could cut a lock, but it turned out that I wasn’t allowed to.
Maybe that is where this idea came from.
Esrog
Tu b’Shvat
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chasuna
I thought you just said you don’t have internet? Or do you mean, “ideas for not using internet”?
“so I dont usually eat Shalosh Seudos (Dont tell me its a Mitzvah, Its no Mitzvah to get violently ill”
I’m not a Poseik, but that sounds reasonable to me. I think this would qualify as a case where you can be yotzei with Divrei Torah (b’dieved, one can be somech on Divrei Torah for Shalosh Seudos).
You really can’t eat anything at all for 4 or 5 hours? That must be so hard! In terms of Shalosh Seudos, is it possible to end the Day Seudah earlier, or is that impossible?
Or you can do what a friend of mine used to do in the winter – her husband went to Vasikin and then they had breakfast with Kiddush and Hamotzi, so lunch was technically Shalushudos. But I don’t know if Vasikin is an option for you. Even if not, is it possible for you to make kiddush and hamotzi when you come home from Shul, then bentch, and then go for a walk and come home and wash again?
I’m not trying to tell you what to do – maybe you thought of these options already. I was just thinking of ideas since you brought up the issue. But maybe none of these is a reasonable option for you.
“P.S. No, you’re twisting your thumb the wrong way”
How did you realize…
And how do you know I’m not your daughter? Maybe your daughter has internet access and you don’t know about it (or she goes to Lakewood and uses their underground method of accessing the CR w/o internet).
Anyhow, thanks for the Gemara lesson. Just don’t tell Joseph…
That would make for a really limited diet! Especially since I don’t eat herring.
It seems to me that this thread is L”H since it is about a real person who was actually named and posters are saying that she is doing something assur.
Even if you want to say that it’s l’toeles, that would only be the case if the people involved in the discussion (or at least those saying that what she is doing is wrong) were reliable Poskim who could posken this (or at least reliable sources of passing on piskei halacha). Since we don’t know who they are, they are not reliable as far as we are concerned (even if they may be in real life).
And even if they were, I’m not sure it’s okay, since: 1. There may be other opinions, and 2. It’s unlikely anyone here needs this information, and if it’s nogeiah l’maaseh, they should ask their own sheilah (not in the CR).
“Some of that was learned the hard way..”
sounds like you might have some interesting stories to share …
Rebshidduch: 1. Is this a regular thing?
2. Does he talk to you at all?
3. Where is holding Yiddishkeit-wise? Especially in terms of Tznius-issues?
4. Where are you and your friend holding?
5. Are you or your friend uncomfortable with the situation?
6. Does he have another option?
You don’t have to answer the questions to me – those are just the questions that you might want to address for yourself. If the situation bothers you, I think you should ask a Rav. Personally, I think it’s something that needs to be asked to Rav. I certainly don’t feel like I can answer it. (other than saying that if you are going to give him a ride, I think you should drive and he should sit in the back, imho. I think giving him the car keys sounds too friendly).
Hashem is reading – I’m really sorry if it sounded like I was criticizing you. I didn’t mean it that way at all.
When I said that you should get rid of internet before you get married, I didn’t mean now necessarily. I meant “before” literally. Like right before you get married, so you won’t have it in your “bayis neeman b’Yisrael”.
Also, I didn’t mean it as a criticism – I had no idea if you had internet or not, and I wasn’t trying to imply that I think you do or that it’s bad that you do. I was just answering the question about how to protect your kids from internet. Since I think that is the best way to protect one’s kids from the internet.
But in case I owe you a bracha (and even if I don’t): I give you a bracha that Hashem should have you meet and recognize your zivug hagun soon and you should be zoche to build an internet-free, Torah-true Bayis neeman b’Yisrael soon!
Hashem is reading – did you just realize now that I’m a girl??
btw, I’ve been trying to figure out for a while if you’re a girl or a guy, but I didn’t want to ask.
I original was leaning towards “guy”, but when you wrote the post on the thread about the intellectual girl on a date, I figured you were probably a girl.
When you first bumped it, I wasn’t sure – I actually thought that you were probably a guy. But based on the post you wrote about why you bumped it, I figured you were probably a girl, but I stilll wasn’t sure until now.
lol (literally, with apologies to LF). kay, when I have time b”n – now that I’ve piqued everyone’s curiousity.
Litvos – yes, I would eat (and have eaten) kosher Chinese food. As far as I know there is no problem with it. Why should it be any different than American food? Actually, it’s probably better, since there it is highly unlikely that I will start to identify as a Chinese person (how do you say that – “China lady”?) if I eat Chinese food, whereas eating American food can go along with identifying as an American.
Not that I have ever heard that there is a problem with eating American food; I am just pointing out that eating Chinese food is not a problem.
There’s an old joke that goes something like this:
A Chinese guy and a Jewish guy are arguing about whose nation is older. The Chinese guy claims that his nation has been around for two thousand years. The Jew says, “Well, we’ve been around for 3 thousand years”. The Chinese guy says, “That’s impossible! What did you guys eat for 1 thousand years?”
It’s not very funny, but it fits the topic of conversation (one of them at least).
b”n, I’ll try to tell the story later when I have time. It’s a long story.
Don’t worry – there’s no l”h. It was in the US, and the policeman was a goy , and he didn’t do anything wrong.
“Now let’s see if anyone’s onto the heading.. (if I have to spell it out)”
Looks like you’ll have to spell it out
That would be Olam hazeh, then:
“All the world’s a stage, and we are but poor actors.” (not sure if I got that quote exactly right)
Meno – maskim (I know you don’t like plussing…)
“Rav Schecter and Rav Lichtenstein ZT’L fit in that category, but they are not Charedi and nobody considered them Charedi”
That’s not true about Rav Schachter. His daughter was very offended once when someone implied that he is not Chareidi.
If it has to be one way or the other, personally, I think that if it’s her car, she should drive.
1. It would be weird for her to give him the car keys and tell him to drive, and since in most of the Yeshivish world, it’s mekubal for women to drive, the issue here (as I see it) is about whether or not it’s okay in the first place for either to give a ride to the other, but I don’t think it matters who the one driving is.
I don’t know if it’s a problem or not for either one to be giving a ride to the other, but if there’s an issue, I would think that would be it.
2. Safety-wise, it makes more sense for the girl to be the one driving.
3. By giving him the keys, she is making the whole thing into more of an issue, and I think that’s worse.
Either way, the non-driver should sit in the back.
If you think it’s really an issue, ask your LOR. This is just my humble uneducated opinion.
Litvos – lol, those were amongst the nicest posts anyone has ever written about me.
+ 1 googol.
DY +1
ps: the tally is now 0 (-1 + +1 = 0)
Litvos – + 1 googol (now that I know how to spell it – thanks Randomex).
I’m waiting for LF’s haskama…… 🙂
I never got a speeding ticket. But a policeman once pointed a gun at me and threatened me for going through a red light. That’s a long story – maybe I’ll tell it later if I have time and if anyone is interested.
I think it’s supposed to be a good website actually. And I think it is a very good idea to be careful about having nurses – I just think that you hae to make sure that is really something you are holding by and you are not taking on too much too fast.
Although, I’m not even sure what is meant by a nurse – a babysitter? a live-in? a wet-nurse (do they exist today?)? a nurse in the hospital?
“I didn’t know that.” didn’t know what?
“Just felt weird outing the person in the CR who said it”
What do you mean? It came from someone in the CR? I thought you just said (or clearly implied) it came from the GuardYourEyes.
I’m lost.
Randomex -thanks. I was actually quite proud of myself that I even knew the word 🙂
Now, I know how to spell it too.
LF – is it really wrong, or was that just a joke? If so, can you please enlighten me? It’s a useful quote to know in life…
Definitely – how did it take you so long to figure that out?
Litvos – thanks! Personally, I don’t think that the fact that something originated in facebook makes it treif anyhow. But in my case, it certainly doesn’t have that association.