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We use K9 with pretty strict settings (I do whitelist certain sites) and I accidentally-on-purpose forgot the password so whenever I need to allow something I have to go open up my junk email and find the temporary one, which is a hock. Also I have an adblocker. I consider it to be a pretty good filter for a woman, especially since I don’t have a smartphone and don’t have too many hours available in the day to get sidetracked online. My husband doesn’t know the password to the computer and I need to sign him in whenever he wants to use it, so he only uses it when I’m home (though if he really needs something during the day, he can go to the public library and use the very public computers there, which is a fine filter as well).
I think it’s crazy for a man to have unfiltered internet access. Not that you’re a bad person but why set yourself up like that? It’s an easy geder to make.tho storms and winds may come, i will bend but never break
Sparkly. I take offense for chumash, navi, and halacha that you mentioned in the same sentence as secular subjects. You can love learning all of them but I sure hope you love kodesh more.
Ronald: As a college student, learning secular subjects, I can tell you that I find some of it interesting and some of it incredibly boring. I’m only learning this subject to get the degree and get a job; even though I fill up the essays with fluff that I’m passionate and energetic (and I definitely am interested in the field), the truth is that it’s a sideshow to my true love. No matter what, a Torah-true Jew should love learning Torah above all other kinds of wisdom. You are correct: secular knowledge has no inherent value; if there are no applications, and no superior moral source for the wisdom, then why spend precious time absorbing fleeting thoughts of “great philosophers” who might be total creeps when you’ve got something as precious and beautiful and completely pure and true as the Torah?
In direct response to what you wrote, I am personally interested in how things work, and I make a point to know at least some of the science behind most household technology. Science can be fascinating. The only thing that has no point is learning for the sake of learning when there is no tangible goal.
Okay, I’m a frum girl just starting graduate college and I’m not desperate to get married, either. I really want to, of course–it is something I constantly daven for–but I know I’m not quite ready. Please don’t call yourself desperate! (that sounds really bad!) When Hashem decides that the time has come, you and your bashert will find each other, no matter which side of the ocean you are on or what you are in the middle of doing. With emunah, decisions like these are easy: What does Hashem want me to do right now? Think about which decision you will appreciate or regret in the future. What path in life will make you a better person?
Just because your grade level already went to EY doesn’t mean you can’t benefit a lot from going now. You can try for being a tutor or madricha, or go just to learn. There are so many programs for so many ranges and backgrounds. And don’t worry about “what will people/shadchanim think” because you are doing what is RIGHT for you and your avodas Hashem and anyway, a solid eved Hashem should be impressed by your dedication to growth even if you’re not a starry-eyed fresh-from-bais-yaakov. And like others mentioned, you can date in EY.
Hatzlacha!
lior: nobody said that. me included. i’m sure they are following the torah.
wait. who’s rushing? what exactly is the issue being discussed?
i was under the impression that our brothers are doing fine wherever they are, and we don’t need to worry about them until mashiach. although it would be nice to meet them. sam, are you sure about them being lost forever? didn’t rav something like maybe a tanna, go over the sambatyon one shabbos because he needed to contact them and it was a case of pikuach nefesh? i don’t remember the specifics of the story but i am pretty sure they are still there. although imagine it–they don’t know anything about chanuka or purim or any of our past couple thousand years of history. and we don’t know about theirs.
maybe i should rein in my overactive imagination and just leave it as teiku π
those who know don’t say…
why would we need to know something like that anyway? either way (if a rav has rh”k or not) we still need to listen to a rav and have emunas chachamim.
littleeema: there is nothing shocking or heretical about this. there are probably hundreds of stories about people dying to atone for the klal, and kedoshim and martyrs and judgement and olam haba and all of that.
There are plenty of things all over tanach and torah sheb’al peh that can make you think or wonder, and we don’t avoid them or put them in cheirem. we recognize possibilities, leave a good deal of things for teiku, and don’t worry about slippery slopes as long as our yesodos and hashkafos are up to par and our heads are on straight…which may be a rare occurrence these days
i only make them small with a light pencil on essays. and i didn’t put any on my sat essay, i think. but definitely in texts and emails–they’re very handy when you want to point out that something is funny, or that you just made a joke, and you don’t trust the reader to come to that conclusion on his own.
that said, i agree they are not very polished looking, but at least they are cheerful looking. there aren’t enough smileys in the world today
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oooooh this is my absolutest favoritest book ever. i’m getting all warm and fuzzy just thinking about it. brotherofurs, thanks for bringing it up π π π
my other favorites are deep blue and the morning star by meir uri gottesman, and the gordian knot by yair weinstock, and pyramid base by eli shekter (hope i got everyone’s names right)
i can’t stand sad endings. i always like the happy type, but not cheesy-mushy happy type, just thoughtful-hopeful happy type.
if you get what i mean.
coffee, writersoul was emphasizing the b’chol yom she’yavo part (according to my understanding of the pshat ;).
hayom–im b’kolo tishma’u: it will come this very second if we will only listen to the voice of Hashem. -not sure who said it but remember it from high school
my personal philosophy is that since it is a mitzva to live in EY, every moment you spend there you are constantly accumulating mitzvos. these merits will protect you wherever you go. therefore, it is in fact the safest place to live.
and even if someone would c’v die–1)it was going to happen at that moment anyway, like the previously-referenced gates of lud situation and 2)it’s the best place to do it, no? (sorry i’m being so morbid :))
(that was a smiley with a double chin. paa, for the record, i just adore smileys. i use them all over the place, even in essays π
after reading about it on ywn, i visited (and donated a little) the gofundme page which is raising money for the search. all i can say is mi k’amcha yisrael– they have raised tens of thousands of dollars through a few hundred people in a matter of hours!
may we hear besuros tovos very soon
i like chicago a lot. it has the advantages of being a huge city (shopping, education, food, etc) but also the advantages of being oot (friendly and close knit) there are so many shuls and schools, you are sure to find one that is your “type”
and it’s a pretty nice looking place too- there are actually trees and parks and the lake (lake michigan)is gorgeous- i’ll plead the fifth on the chicago river π
and just for the record, i don’t live there. i used to though
i don’t think learning torah could possibly be bad unless you are forced to do it. as a female, i do occasionally look up things in the gemara, mishnayos, and plenty other sfarim, but only if i find them quoted in a different spot (ishei hatanach, mikra’os gedolos, sefer halacha, etc) and want to investigate further/clarify. i do sometimes get distracted and read the next gemara too, but i don’t think it’s the end of the world. i also have a fairly decent grasp of aramaic so it’s easier for me.
and speaking of bais yaakovs- when i was in high school we learned photocopied or written out gemaras left and right. usually it was shayach to whatever we were learning…
k9 is very nice but very easy to get around, and even without having to get around anything, there is plenty harmful stuff accessible
all of the journeys or MMM songs.
also i’m not sure if people know it- the “destiny” tape (yes, like a cassette. from a different century) has a great song called colored candles…
“eight days a year he’d light another candle every night, it lingered in his memory still…”
great song with powerful message.
about death- try gesher hachaim?
i think it is in english. i have heard good things about it though b”H have never had cause to read it myself
wow goq how many people do you have inside you? are you schizophrenic? jk π
but yeah i think you need to talk to her honestly. i can imagine that her taanos are not coming from nowhere, and she seems very sensible by the way she is trying to compromise. before you get all hurt and break off the whole thing, try to view things from her perspective- “ad shetagia limkomo”. which, by the way, is good advice for life imho.
lots of big deals come from small misunderstandings…
if you want a book on middos, there are many options.
1. read mesilas yesharim, orchos tzadikim, etc
2. read the gaavatanic- bad midos pirates series by r’ chait. you may laugh, but believe me it is DEEP.
3. listen to the marvelous midos machine π
ani maamins and har sinai don’t need much explanation in my opinion. but i’m sure you can consult meforshim on maamad har sinai.
happiness- try r’ zelig pliskin’s books. “gateway to happiness” i think.
hatzlacha
the fact is that israel also supplies gaza with fuel, electricity, etc. that’s humanitarian aid imho.
[but they have a lose-lose: the anti israel ppl don’t think they deserve any praise for that, and the pro israel ppl think it’s ridiculous to supply the enemy (or at least i think so)]
b’kitzur the world has some foolish inhabitants.
halacha hi b’yadu’a…
if they cannot be civil, how can they be civilians?
and it IS their choice. if they did not support hamas they would not have elected the hamas govt–and even those that didn’t vote for them should just skedaddle out of the place and somewhere safer, like israel.
(just theoretically speaking. i wouldn’t want them actually in our country)
along the lines of “shabbosim” and other such swahili
look, i’m trying not to be petty, but…
please, i beg of you… change it from “zechusim” to “zechuyos”
it’s one of my major pet peeves
thank you
there was the one in titus’s head
i have found rashi to have a good sense of humor.
okay.
1. always always remember that Hashem loves you very very much, more than you can ever imagine, no matter what you do or what He does (or seems to do). bishvili nivra ha’olam–you are worth the world. Proof of His trust in you is that you woke up this morning. He obviously has some faith in you and believes you can accomplish your mission in this world if He kept you here for another day. in modeh ani, “raba emunasecha” is talking about Hashem’s faith in you to do your job.
2. having said that, i can sympathize with you on the friend issue. what i can tell you worked for me was to work on my self-esteem and realize that i can give to others too. friendship is not a one-way street. try to reach out to others who need friends and you may be surprised at what you can change.
3. hatzlacha. we’re all cheering for you π
okay. (cough, cough.) so i looked at the gemara in kesuvos 17. and guess what? it says we don’t pasken that way. go read it yourself.
so basically it is assur for a man to look at the kallah.
honest. go look it up.
ujew–yup!good job everyone!
want another one?
a place in chumash where there are 5 consecutive words all starting with an alef.
postsemgirl–yup you got it!
one more left…
later in sefer bereishis.
(hint: a girl said this)
yup π any others?
hint: the other two are in sefer bereishis
but while we’re talking about jewish trivia, who knows where in chumash there are 5 words in a row with 2 letters each? (3 different pesukim)
the gra knew this when he was 3 years old.
chesed v’emes nifgashu, tzedek v’shalom nashaku.
somewhere in tehilim.
also something about doresh shalom v’dover emes bilvavo (but i might have made that up)
and you should learn to use a concordantzia (or however you spell it in english–silly language)
notasheep–the five expressions are v’hotzaisi, v’hitzalti, v’ga’alti, v’lakachti, v’haivaisi
jewishfeminist–
just to clarify, it was not ceasar. it was macbeth.
go chazer your shakespeare π
my rebbe told us a pretty good rule of thumb: it is a mitzvah to get drunk on purim if you know how to get drunk l’sheim shamayim.
if getting drunk will cause one to be oveir on other mitzvos (ie, bentching: chiyuv d’oraysa. kibud horim: chiyuv d’oraysa. ona’a: chiyuv d’oraysa. you get my drift…) then you cannot get drunk. you can still fulfill the mitzvah by sleeping but you won’t be oveir on countless other mitzvos through it.
v’hameivin, yavin
just wanted to say a nice line i read today that some of you might find interesting. it is from the gur aryeh* on the words “ezer k’negdo”–
“ki ha’isha shehi chashuva ush’kula k’mo ha’ish…ki ha’ish meivi v’ha’isha misakenes lo…”
hope i put in the right nekudos π
basically we are equal but have different jobs. it’s really pretty simple
* a pretty chashuv source. this is the maharal who is saying this