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Make aliyah, so at most you would only have to worry about it if Rosh Hashana comes out on Thursday/Friday.
“They kept saying, why can we not understand THEIR point of view. To which I replied, WHY can YOU not understand OUR point of view the same way you want us to understand and accept YOURS? It NEVER works that way. The non-frum always expect the frum to make the adjustment.”
This is a very harsh statement, and it’s a gross generalization. I know plenty of frum people with non-frum family, and they get along quite well. My own in-laws, who are not frum, keep extra sets of kosher dishes in their basement cabinets for when we would visit. They never watched TV [publicly] when we stayed for Shabbat, nor did they travel anywhere or use the phone. *They* made the adjustments, and we managed quite well.
2morecents, I would suggest you read the following:
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Risk/cellphones
“They operate with radiation. there are numerous studies that prove that just carrying a cell phone in your pants pocket will decrease a mans sperm count by 28%.”
This is just not true. Iit’s only for men who carry their phone in their pants pocket and use a hands free device, or perhaps for those who text and hit the send button while the phone is in their lap. In other words, this is only if the phone is actually on and in use. I’ve looked at the studies, and the researchers all say that further work must be done to see if the conclusions are valid.
You should be asking this to your Rav, not to anonymous strangers on the internet.
I used to work for a hospital, and the rule was no beards, shaving every day, etc. I went to my boss (who was not Jewish) and explained about sefira. He told me I didn’t have to shave, and if anyone gave me a problem I should tell them to see him. During the three years I was there, I never had to shave during sefira, the three weeks, or chol hamoed.
“With cellphones, more children will end up needing some special ed services.”
This has to go into the top 10 most ridiculous things I’ve heard in the CR. There is absolutely no basis whatsoever for this assertion.
HIE, the problem is not with cell phones; the problem is with some of the people that use them. They forget that there is a button on the cell phone marked OFF. The cell phone does not take over peoples’ lives; people allow it to take over their lives. I have no problem turning mine off, or not answering the phone if it rings at a time when I can’t talk. Once people learn to turn them off once in a while, the problem is solved.
The heilege Admor of Shaputnik, Moreinu v’Rabeinu HaGaon Shloimile Rosenbaum, of Tzfas, shlita, has commented on this issue in his sefer “Chalav u’Dvash.” He writes that one should be makpid NOT to cover the indoor table with a tablecloth, as one who is serving fleishig meals might, chv”sh, put a fleishig pot or plate on a milchig tablecloth that might be on the table in error.
The Shaptzniker, shlita, also mentions that we are noheig to serve fleishigs on Yontof, and refers to those who serve milchigs, r”l, as people who obviously do not follow the derech of their ancestors.
WellInformedYid, excuse my ignorance, but why 2 round trip tickets? Don’t they come in Ellul and leave in the summer?
Something I’ll always remember from years ago. I was spending Shabbat at Ner Israel in Baltimore, and we came upon Rav Ruderman zt”l walking with one of his talmidim. The Rosh Yeshiva was not wearing a jacket or hat, and he actually apologized to us for seeing him that way. He told us he had not been feeling well.
My daughter spent Yom Kippur at the midrasha where she’s learning, and she told me afterwards that it was the best Yom Kippur davening she ever had!
BP Totty quotes his Rav: “Is it ok to bathe? It should at least be the subject of a question. His bigger concern is, once heterim get made, there is no telling how / where it will be applied (or mis-applied) down the road.”
I’m not trying to be caustic, but has he said the same thing about chumrot?
The rav of our yishuv paskened years ago that it’s muttar to take a hot shower on yom tov, as long as one is careful when drying the hair.
I traveled Turkish Air last winter and got an excellent price.
“We use kosher gummy bear fish and cut off the heads. It’s a sure winner with the kids, too.”
Hey – we do the same thing!
NYPD volunteers do not carry weapons; kal v’chomer, a volunteer group who are not officially trained should also not carry weapons.
Anything with chocolate or peanut butter.
Haifagirl: “Show of hands: How many people who CURRENTLY live in Eretz Yisroel and regularly travel on buses would prefer wi-fi on intercity buses?”
I would.
There is a bus line running between Kfar Saba/Ra’anana and Tel Aviv that has wi-fi. I think the company is called Metropolin, or something like that.
All the Egged and Afikim buses from my yishuv are armored.
I believe by law that buses running in Yehuda and the Shomron must be armored. Before spreading that rumor, I would double check with Egged. All the buses here in the Shomron are armored.
Please explain what the driver has to do with wifi. I don’t understand the question.
2morecents:
“They should make sure there are ample payphones available throughout.”
Payphones cost money. Where is this money coming from? Are you advocating taking money from schools that can be put to better uses, and instead put in phones?
“It seems to me that other than people involved in medicine or emergency types of professions, the entire concept of needing a phone with them 24 hours a day wherever they go is crazy.”
I want my kids to be reachable while they are out of the house, and I want to be reachable to them. They have to travel to school through some dangerous areas. If they travel to the city, I want to be able to reach them, and vice versa. If they have a question about finding a place to eat or they need to know when the next bus home is, they need to reach me. Of course, cv”s if there is an emergency, both sides need to be reachable.
“The fact that no matter where you are or what your doing you can be interrupted by a phone call in your pants pocket seems quite odd to me.”
You don’t have to be interrupted. You can turn the phone off (especially in shule!), or not answer the call. I certainly don’t answer every call, especially when I am busy. The phone does not dictate my life.
FWIW, I agree with you about families getting tzedaka should not have cell phones.
2morecents, I’m curious. You say there is a problem. What is your solution? What do you think should happen?
Mazal tov!
The first thing you do is apply for unemployment.
My kids all got cell phones when we made aliyah.
I’m not sure why 2morecents makes the assertion that “The idea of having even a plain Jane talk / text only phone is downright dangerous in and of itself. The internet capabilities (which is inevitable) is just the icing on the cake that can further do harm.”
My kids are teenagers. They do not pay the cell phone bills, my wife does. How will they suddenly manage to get internet capability on their phones without us seeing it on the bill? It doesn’t just show up on a phone one day by magic!
We’ve been here three years, and none of them have “quickly figured out how to get their hands on a phone with all the magic.” The only way they can do that is if they magically started paying the bills on their own.
I learned to control my blood pressure.
Helpful says: “cell phones you preach to trust them with but being up and about at 1 AM you agree you cannot trust them with…”
If I can trust my kids at 9 a.m., I can trust them at 3 p.m. or 8 p.m. or 3 a.m. Either you trust your kids or you don’t. I know my kids, I know their friends, and I know every name on their phones.
I did it as a teenager, many years ago, at the University of Maryland. It was just getting started back then. Yes, it does work.
The Wolf wrote:
“At one point, after Eeees and I had been dating for a few months, we were talking on the phone and she asked me what color her eyes were. I had no idea, so I guessed.
I guessed wrong. 🙂
She still married me anyway. :)”
It’s funny you should mention that. I came into NY to go out with a girl, and I stayed with my cousin and my aunt and uncle. (They lived across the street from each other.) I knew when I spoke to them the morning after the date they would ask me what color the girl’s eyes were, so I specifically made sure to look. They were impressed that I knew the color; I eventually married the girl!
Oomis1105, you write so well! You are 100% correct. Chumra is not halacha!
The problem is not with chumrot themselves. The problem is that people either decide that chumrot are stam halacha (which they are NOT), or that anyone who is not holding by chumrot are not doing things properly. Unfortunately, people seem to have lost knowing the difference between chumrot and normative halacha.
Aries2756 – AMEN!
I started my kids off by bringing them to Shabbat afternoon mincha. It’s a short davening, and they got to see the sefer Torah. Then they graduated to coming with me on Friday nights. I davened (in the winter) at a nearby Chabad shule. While the shule took a break between Mincha and Kabbalat Shabbat to learn Tanya, I did parsha and alef-bet with the kids. My wife brought them on Shabbat morning after Musaf; when I saw they could handle longer periods, they came with me to shule for the entire davening. I loved having them with me, and they sat quietly with a few books they brought with them.
To this day, my kids (who are now older teenagers) remember “Abba’s Rules”:
1. Abba leaves on time for shule. If you want to go, you have to be ready to leave with Abba.
2. In shule, you either sit next to Abba or are in a group. There is no other choice.
I like a quiet shule. I find any talking in shule disturbing, and cell phone ringing is even worse. I have been known to move my seat to get away from noise; shushing doesn’t help, as it just adds to the noise.
I don’t understand the point of this thread. Are you trying to convince everyone that shaitels are assur? For those who follow rebbeim that say it’s OK to wear shaitels, let them wear. For those who follow rebbeim who say it’s not OK, let them wear something else. Follow your own rav.
Telegrok gets the award for quote of the day. I was in hysterics when I read that!
The limit on El Al is two suitcases. BTW, if you join their frequent flyer club (called Matmid) you can get some extra weight added to your allowance. I don’t remember how much.
Isn’t Silver Spring more expensive than Baltimore, as far as living expenses go?
Baltimore is nice, Israel is much better.
“And, interesting enough, there are some portions of our community where ONLY a sheitel is accepted. Lubavitch comes to mind.”
I find this interesting because our community Chabad rabbi and his family live across the street. His wife always wears a sheitle to shule, yes, but I have seen her shopping and out in the community and there were times she was wearing a snood. Maybe it’s different because this is E”Y. And of course, being male, I would never ask her why.
Went to two excellent shiurim which made the time go faster. One was at night, after Eicha, and the other was after early mincha. During the time I was home I went through some of the Tisha b’Av materials we have. The day went by pretty fast (no pun intended). We also had ice cream after the fast, which has been our post Yom Kippur/Tisha b’Av minhag for many years now.
“however lets not forget that we have 613 mitzvos and we must keep those with all of their Halachos”
Let’s also not forget that someone may keep all 613 mitzvot and the accompanying halachot in a different manner than you. That does not make it wrong, as long as it’s within the framework of halacha.
Helpful, our local Moetza Datit put out a sheet about various dinim for the 9 days, erev Tisha b’Av. Tisha B’av, and the day after. It mentions that minhag Yerushalayim is to wear tallit and tfillin during shacharit on Tisha b’Av. I do remember seeing this when I was at the Kotel a few years ago on Tisha b’Av morning.
If I remember (and there are any left in shule) I will bring it home tomorrow and list the source quoted.
Years ago, I asked this question to the Rav of the shule where I grew up. His answer: “When the Rebbetzin makes pizza, I wash first and eat a slice of bread.”
Derech HaMelech – if you use wine or grape juice, be careful that it’s not kedushat sh’veet. If it is,, you can’t put the candle out in the puddle (and you shouldn’t have a puddle).
We have cases of grape juice that my wife got on sale, and it’s all kedushat sh’veet. We don’t put the candle out in it, except for last Shabbat – during the nine days we use beer.
The minhag I grew up with – and continue – is to use beer for the 9 days. I’m assuming the OP is about the 9 days, although he didn’t say.
Several years ago, I had a heart attack in the middle of the summer. I was on disability until the end of the summer, when I went back to work. We sent in our checks to pay for school, and a few weeks later we got a phone call that said they weren’t needed. I asked why, and was told our tuition for the year was paid by anonymous donors.
I was never able to find out who they were, although I had a good idea as to who some of them were. It’s something I will never forget.
B”H, I’ve worked and worked and gotten myself up to a category 1, for the most part.
I also see people come in late – even after the minyan has started Shmoneh Esray. I often wonder (to myself) how late a person can come in and still be considered as davening with the minyan. Is there a point where a person is so late that it’s not davening with a minyan? (During the week I usually daven at the last minyan on the yishuv, so suggesting that people go to a later minyan won’t work here.)
I don’t know the answer to your question . . . but this is a question you should ask a Rav (one who knows you and that you trust), not strangers on a board who may or may not give you the correct answer. (No offense intended to those in the Coffee Room!) Hatzlacha with your journey, and Shabbat Shalom!
I can’t tell if y’all are serious about the bouncers or not. I sincerely hope not; I’m hoping this is a joke that’s gone over my head.
No offense to BP Totty, but is there something wrong with wearing a polo shirt or a baseball cap? There were many places where I used to live in America where I would wear a baseball cap over my keepah for safety reasons. Does wearing a polo shirt or baseball cap open up problems for shidduchim?