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Hegyoni Haggada by Rav Mirsky
anyone who has seen alcohol used correctly wouldn’t be so against it. The way I was taught my Rabbeim was to daven vasikin, take care of mishloach manos, then learn until mincha and after that get drunk. This is what I have done the past three years witha few of my friends and weve actually been complimented on our Divrei Torah that weve given while drunk, it is also the only time I drink all year (besides Pesach). If more people did it this way the mitzvah of getting drunk on Purim wouldn’t be questioned as much
There are different levels of Issurim, texting on Shabbos is a different issur than smoking and nobody is perfect not even someone who is a Ben Torah. It seems to me that your definition of Ben Torah is someone who never does an Aveira and never gives in to any Ta’aveh and learns or does Chessed all day. Just because someone has a certain issue doesn;t mean he can’t be a Ben Torah and I don;t think Smoknig is an issue that by itself prevents someone from being a Ben Torah.
Smoking is very addictive. I do not smoke but my Chavrusa does and he is trying to quit but it is not easy. He smokes much less than he used to though, and I would call him a Ben Torah. and Health- Smoking is not comparable to any of those cases, you clearly are very against smoking and I too am not a fan but it doesn’t mean that someone who does it is not a Ben Torah, especially those who are trying to quit. Like I said everyone has different Ta’avos and especially for those who have never been smokers how can we expect to understand how hard it must be to quit after they have started, even if they really want to quit.
Obviously I am not saying everyone who smokes is doing the right thing but I am still saying that just because someone smokes doesnt mean he can;t be a Ben Torah. You have to look at the whole person not just ONE aspect!
I think it is ridiculous to say someone who smokes Can not be A Ben Torah. That means if the guy listens to everything his Rebbeim tell him and he learns Shtark and he does Chessed and he is a Huge Ba’al Middos but his issue is that it is hard for him to stop smoking, he’s not a Ben Torah. Everyone has different Ta’avos, do not judge another person until you have been in his shoes. I think it is very possible and even likely that there are B’nei Torah who smoke.
I thought Rav moshe was Matir someone who Started before they knew it was dangerous, he said they did not have to quit.
I happen to be involved in one which is perfectly legal and one of the fastest growing companies in America. One of the leaders is a frum yid who is making enough money to support his family.
If you are in seminary you should have Rabbeim or teachers to talk to, don’t waste the rest of your year looking for help in the cofferoom otherwise you are just going to miss out on the time you have left. It is important to have plans for the future but it is also important to live in the moment, especially when that moment is once in a lifetime opportunity to spend the year in Israel.
I don’t think wars in Tanach are comparable to video games, we see by Yaakov aveinu before he fought Esav Rashi says that he was actually pained at the fact that he might have to hurt another person, showing that we would like to avoid violence at all costs but if someone is coming to kill us than we have no choice but to fight. However playing violent video games especially ones that try to make the blood and people look as real as possible doesnt seem like the best thing to do. Also I would be surprised if you could find a handful of people who even think about amalek when they are playing these video games.
I have a hard time believing that killing Nazis in a video game would even come close to being considered a the mitzvah of destroying amalek in general I think its better to stay away from violent games because everything you see has an effect on you and you become less sensitive to violence. But strategy games and sports games and the like would be ok as long as you are doing it in moderation and because you need a break. Also make sure you do not get into the game too much, for example by friend once threw something at someone because they accidentally blocked the screen which made him lose, the game is not real life and it is definitely not more important than a real person.
Look on the Jewel website and you’ll realize how impossible it is to win. there are 130 million total tickets and to win one a prize worth more than $5 is about 1 in 400,000, you might as well go buy a lottery ticket.
If you want to be really frum you can look at Rav Moshe who says Meikar Hadin we shouldnt really have ANY music nowadays except for at a real simcha like a wedding. obviously most people (including myself) do not follow that, however the point is you shouldnt stop people from listening to this type of music especially since its much better than actually listening to the real song.
It could be true that these items are all kosher but why take the chance? Especially when there is so much Kosher food nowadays to choose from, However if a person does want to take that chance then its up to them you can not be machmir for other people.
If you happen to be around Yerushalayim for Shabbos you should take them to see what goes on at Rav Machles’ house on Shabbos, It is an unbelievable Kiddush Hashem.
Daven
Just because something is Mutar doesnt mean you should do it, I bet if you asked the Rabbanim who do say its Mutar if they themselves would do it, I would guess that 90-100% of them would say no.
I agree with apushatayid, if someone else is acting improperly then the best way to fix it is to show them how to act properly maybe even bring them some water and food while they are standing and protesting. show them that we care and if they wanna protest thats fine but it doesnt take away from our mitzvah of v’ahavta lreacha kamocha.
Yaakov was 77 Rachel was 5, I think its still acceptable for a 77 year old to give a 5 year old a kiss